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lol. yea , moms wasnt getting down like that.
she said she wasnt getting any and neither would I
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^^ mom wasn't playing. lol

But with the bowl of condoms, I a;ways wonder don't the parents have the urge to get nosy when they notice some missing. Someone told me her bowl stayed full but she just wanted them to be available. She said she actually counted them every week LOL and would breathe a sigh of relief if they were all still there, but didn't let them know  she did that.
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hell no her crazy ass wasn't.
that sounds like something my aunt would do
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Originally posted by PurpleHaze PurpleHaze wrote:


by  17, don't parents have the bowl of condoms sitting on a table in the hallway  for them to take?
no.
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Originally posted by jonesable jonesable wrote:

It's Parenting week on BHM

Will you be a rigid disciplinarian or a free like Will and Jada.
I'm sure there is middle ground though.

How would you handle scenarios like sex or clothing or friends.
i cracks a whip in my house. lol training starts at day one. i dont know how im gonna handle sex.. Angry@ you for bringing it up. i'll cross that when its time Cry they still think everyone is their friend. as for clothes. my kids get to wear what they want unless we're going somewhere important. yes so boots with shorts and swim tops are allowed if we're chilling at home. i dont mind..LOL they've even done colored hair. but they know that mess is all put aside when its time for school or going out to the store. if we're on vacation freestyle it, but for the most part they stick to one look. tshirt and jeans. so i dont have many complaints.Geek
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i already know i'll be a strict parent. but my rules are simple, do what i ask - get what you want. if you can follow that....everythings all good. 

clothing - i'll teach them early on about looking their best and being presentable. that is something i so glad my mother taught me. 

s3x - the only ppl getting it in....are me and my husband. but i will definitely have an honest talk with them about it throughout their youth....and a loonnnnggggger talk before they go off to college. 
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middle ground

school - rigid

responsibilities/respect - rigid

going out/having fun/extra-curricular activities - free within reason

clothes - stylish, yet polished. no booty shorts, cleavage, sagging - again, free within reason

sex - rigid - they will get the sex talk and there will be open discussions. if i see them going in the wrong direction, i will make them start baby sitting to see how much they DO NOT want a baby. I used to have to take care of my cousin's baby. I'm 22. Do not want (at least not right now).
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strict to a certain extent. as long as you do what you're supposed to do (being respectful, chores, school work, etc) then we should have no problems.
 
going out-limited but able to have fun
 
sex-rigid and age appropriate talks from elementary-high school
 
clothes-polished but able to express themselves as long as it isn't vulgar
 
discipline-spanking when necessary but not abuse.
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The difference between the two parenting styles leaves a great deal of middle ground, and I believe that my style with my children was somewhere in the middle...leaning toward strict in some aspects and leaning toward lenient in others.
 
We did let our children know that my husband and I are their parents, we are the authority in our household and that while we were raising them that we believe that our judgment is best. However, we didn't want to exercise our authority as parents through fear and we wanted our kids to know that they could come to us with anything.
 
Our parents were very austere disciplinarians and we both knew that their parenting wasn't something that we wanted to mimick.
 
I'd like to think that we did a good job.
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