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I was the depressed person in the relationship.
it didn't end well but it wasn't his fault. wasn't his place to "fix me." I had to get better on my own.
he felt like he could help me get better, and he couldn't. he began to feel resentful and eventually, he began to feel like i didn't want to get better and wasn't trying hard enough, which made me feel worse.
we are barely friends now. it's unfortunate, but we have both moved on to better things.
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missunfoolish
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Posted: Dec 03 2012 at 6:37pm |
 Ladybird0724 wrote:
I was the depressed person in the relationship.
it didn't end well but it wasn't his fault. wasn't his place to "fix me." I had to get better on my own.
he felt like he could help me get better, and he couldn't. he began to feel resentful and eventually, he began to feel like i didn't want to get better and wasn't trying hard enough, which made me feel worse.
we are barely friends now. it's unfortunate, but we have both moved on to better things.
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how are you now? kinda sounds like me
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Ladybird0724
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Posted: Dec 03 2012 at 6:53pm |
missunfoolish wrote:
Ladybird0724 wrote:
I was the depressed person in the relationship.
it didn't end well but it wasn't his fault. wasn't his place to "fix me." I had to get better on my own.
he felt like he could help me get better, and he couldn't. he began to feel resentful and eventually, he began to feel like i didn't want to get better and wasn't trying hard enough, which made me feel worse.
we are barely friends now. it's unfortunate, but we have both moved on to better things.
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how are you now?
kinda sounds like me
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right now, I'm better. it has never really went away though. It probably doesn't help that I don't care to go to therapy b/c of negative experiences with it and finding a good therapist that is also a black woman (important to me) has been difficult. how are you right now?
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Posted: Dec 03 2012 at 7:06pm |
lady, where do you live?
also, i just wanna say that even though i looked for black therapists/psychiatrists in my area (there actually aren't any) my most helpful therapists were a white woman and a white man
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Posted: Dec 03 2012 at 7:15pm |
SoutherNtellect wrote:
lady, where do you live?
also, i just wanna say that even though i looked for black therapists/psychiatrists in my area (there actually aren't any) my most helpful therapists were a white woman and a white man |
i live in MI...there are black therapists in my area but the ones I have been to I did not like at all. that's really interesting...did you feel uncomfortable at first talking to them?
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Posted: Dec 03 2012 at 7:24pm |
Ladybird0724 wrote:
missunfoolish wrote:
Ladybird0724 wrote:
I was the depressed person in the relationship.
it didn't end well but it wasn't his fault. wasn't his place to "fix me." I had to get better on my own.
he felt like he could help me get better, and he couldn't. he began to feel resentful and eventually, he began to feel like i didn't want to get better and wasn't trying hard enough, which made me feel worse.
we are barely friends now. it's unfortunate, but we have both moved on to better things.
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how are you now?
kinda sounds like me
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right now, I'm better. it has never really went away though. It probably doesn't help that I don't care to go to therapy b/c of negative experiences with it and finding a good therapist that is also a black woman (important to me) has been difficult.
how are you right now?
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yea same, its ok. its still there but i deal with it i never been the one to open up to my feelings cause ppl rly dont care id have better luck talking to a wall but something that helps me a lil, fortunately is music hiphop heals my soul mannn. but it can only do so much.
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SoutherNtellect
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Posted: Dec 03 2012 at 7:25pm |
I met them when I was so down and depressed that I didn't care who I talked to. I just needed to blurt it all out and hope someone could save me. So far, to my surprise, the issues I have don't know a color. The only time a racial issue has come up, is when she asked about my hair 
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Posted: Dec 03 2012 at 9:29pm |
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Good people are finding help for this...sounds draining.
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Posted: Dec 04 2012 at 12:14am |
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I've dated emotional men, but I've never dated anyone clinically diagnosed as depressed.
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Posted: Dec 04 2012 at 4:07am |
Yes,and it wasn't something that I'd do again...He was truly unstable.... 
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