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    Posted: Dec 12 2012 at 12:32pm
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Soooo. Yall may know I'm not the oldest poster. I'm 18 (turning 19 on the 20th). And I live in south beach about 700 miles away from my family in NC. I work a part time job and took a week off to go home for christmas and my birthday. I paid for the ticket myself which was 300$ using money from our halloween season at my job.   (I worked over 230 hrs in the month of october) I told my grandfather the days I was coming home and he agreed to pick me up from the airport.

That was october. Fast forward to the middle of november.

I decided to go christmas shopping early. So I called and asked my grandfather what he wanted for christmas. He replied "I'm not celebrating christmas this year". You see, last year christmas sucked. We used all our $$ to move me to miami for school. So we had no tree, decorations, nor presents. We scraped up 15$ for us to eat at dennys for christmas dinner. The thing that stuck with me was when I gave my granddad this card I made, he replied "thanks. I wish there was more for you". So that day I decided that christmas 2012 was NOT going to be like that. Therefore I worked my ARSE off to make it happen. I had saved a little money for a tree and presents. I thought he was going to be proud of me. So when he said he wasn't celebrating Christmas this year , I replied like "is it the money? Because I got it granddad. I'll pay! ". His response was "no. I've been reading the bible lately , and the more I read the more I realize that Christmas is a pagan holiday and shouldn't be celebrated."

I was like " ..... What?"

He said "yeah. I can't do it". I replied, "well can I at least have a tree or lights or SOMETHING?". He told me that he would "prefer not to". All I saw was years of traditions going down the drain.. We would buy the tree at the farmers market and get apple cider and the vendor would give me a free cowtail. And then we'd decorate the tree and listen to christmas music. And watch elf, or another christmas movie after. My grandparents divorced and my mom and dad aren't in the picture. So my grandfather is my legal guardian.

I was crushed.

I didn't know how to respond. I feel like he took everything from me. The only thing I had to look forward to. Why didn't he tell me before I booked my flight. ? When was he planning on telling me? I hate how ppl can change at random. I'm not ready for a change. I'm still trying to hold on to my last few family memories.

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Direct Link To This Post Posted: Dec 12 2012 at 12:34pm
Well he aint lying...
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Direct Link To This Post Posted: Dec 12 2012 at 12:34pm
Sorry this is happening to you. Do you have any aunts, uncles or friends you can spend the holiday with? 
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Direct Link To This Post Posted: Dec 12 2012 at 12:35pm
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Direct Link To This Post Posted: Dec 12 2012 at 12:35pm
You don't need a Christmas tree to enjoy the holiday with your Granpapi.

Go home and visit your fam.

Save your extra money for something else.

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Direct Link To This Post Posted: Dec 12 2012 at 12:37pm
Christmas is a pagan holiday.
Christians like to steal ideas.
You'll be alright. 
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Direct Link To This Post Posted: Dec 12 2012 at 12:37pm
sorry. Maybe you can go visit your grandpa anyway I'm sure he still misses you.
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Direct Link To This Post Posted: Dec 12 2012 at 12:37pm
Originally posted by Naturalchick30 Naturalchick30 wrote:

Well he aint lying...


The thing is. I don't believe in god or religion period. Why can't It be a celebration of fellowship ? Or the fact that I'm home after I missed his bday, easter, thanksgiving, ect because I'm working.
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Direct Link To This Post Posted: Dec 12 2012 at 12:37pm
That totally sucks.

But you should still go home and spend time with him and others. It may not be the traditional "christmas" you wanted...but you already have the ticket and you spending time with family members is priceless.

Try not to be too upset and just enjoy being home.
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Direct Link To This Post Posted: Dec 12 2012 at 12:38pm
That is a blow. I don't really like change inside my family unit either, but appreciate his feelings, his growth, and use the time to spend with the person who gave their last for your dreams. Make a new tradition, and show him how much you're willing to give up for him.Hug
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