Sooo are yall feeling this new Daquan ignorance?

I forgot where I heard this and Im not 100% sure its true so take it for what it is. Wale was born in DC but moved to Moco (the burbs essentially) and was raised there, then he moved to PG. I've personally never heard him rep Moco (). Before he got big he was pretty popular in the area and he would always partner up with Gogo bands (Gogo is a type of music originating and popular in the DMV)  which excited many people in the area because we all thought he would put us (and gogo) on the map.  Bascially he used gogo bands as a come up in DC. 

Edited by _ConcreteRose_ - Jul 09 2014 at 12:27pm

Meek mill sayin these rap hoes ain't loyal

This new black sh*t reminded me of my weekend.

I spent Sunday with my cousin. The cousin I wrote about here. http://forum.blackhairmedia.com/dumping-a-friend_topic354079_post10109733.html?KW=gun#10109733

This Brotha put police through a high speed chase because he got caught with them thangs in his car. He apparently was able to ditch it by the time the police caught him. But he's still facing some years. His baby momma asked certain fam members, including me, to help bail him out. I did. That was my podnah growing up. He has 2 daughters. I want him to have a little bit more time with them before he goes up the river.

So he came home Sunday and I spent time with him and some of my other cousins and their friends. I felt like I shook about 30 hands before I got a chance to sit down. The majority of the people there  are all about that life, even the women. That's fam. I grew up with a lot of them Brothas. But that didn't help it feel any less awkward when I settled in.

Almost every conversation eventually narrowed out to a conclusion that I'm different from them now. They asked what I'd been up to, I mentioned my work, and they were like 'oh yeah you went to college huh"

A few mins later my cousin mentioned how he had been shot a few years back and how when it was time to return the favor, they wasn't all indiscriminate like them "Chicago Brothas", shooting up the block. I tell my cousin (the one I was close to) that he has 2 daughters now and should be doing what he needs to do to make sure he'll be out with them.

He pretty much goes over his case and how he'll accept the first deal they give him but that he needs to go find that 'work' that he stashed during the chase so that he can make sure his 'jits' are straight. He also says something slick about wanting his kids to 'be like me' but I bypass that comment and address him going back to find the drugs. 

I'm like dude, I ain't bail you out so that you can go do something else stupid. His baby mama agrees but then throws out that if he gets some years she might have to start backing selling pills..She is a nurse btw, so I had no idea she was into that too.

(And since I wear glasses, I prolly looked like that too).

The convo moves to what we did on the 4th of July and one of my cousins says he went to the railroad track and shot his chopper. My father died recently so I got four of his guns, two pistols, a AR 15, and a mini 14 bullpup. I mention the guns I have and how I want to go to a gun range to learn how to shoot them.

The cousin that shot his guns on the 4th looked at me as if I had said some lame sh*t.

He was like "You don't need them guns, Random. Pass them over here to a real Brotha."

And then my cousin, the one I was close to, co-signs, adding "Yeah, college boys ain't got to whack nobody."

I realize a lot of that is in jest so I laughed with them, tried to roll with it, but there was something about that 'real nigguh" comment that threw me way off and had me like.



Usually something that trivial wouldn't bother me at all but for reasons I still don't quite get, I became pissed off, and for the rest of the time there I threw several passive aggressive 'you ain't shi't and 'I'm glad I ain't like you comments out there.

All over lowkey posturing for who is a real Brotha. 

Seems like the rest of my time there was hostile cordial, so I didn't stay too much longer.

When I got in the car to leave with my girl I went on a little tangent that came dangerously close to sounding like a new black rant. It was sort of embarrassing when I caught myself (or should I say when my girl pointed it out). I said a lot of sh*t in anger that would make Bill Cosby and Don Lemon proud.

Typing it all out, I still don't know what parts of my rant were true, what part was my own immaturity/insecurity, and what part was some respectability politics that I might grudgingly buy into. Guess I need to analyze my behavior, not just my reaction to the comment, but possibly how I came across when I went 'over there' to be with them after my cousin came home.

I feel like I go hard defending the 'Daquan's, doing my best not to separate myself from them as if I'm better, doing my best to understand where they are coming from, putting out the message that no young black men, whether they be Trayvon, Jordan Davis, Oscar Grant, a college kid with a 4.0, or a high school dropout collecting unemployment, deserves to be killed, stalked, or shown no respect by our law enforcement or justice system. I remember boo hoo crying during Fruitvale Station thinking about how much effort the media and white people put into painting young black men as thugs so that it justifies what happens to them unjustly, and thinking even IF a young black men is a thug, he still deserves all of the justice of any other citizen.

But past the tears of movies and blog posts, maybe I'm still on some new black sh*t unintentionally. I don't particularly care about coming across as corny because I am in a lot of respects, but I've never intended to ever come across as a sell out or holier than thou. But maybe that's how I'm looking these days.

Edited by Random Thoughts - Jul 09 2014 at 3:01pm

Big difference between not being able to relate to criminals and the 'New Black' term. When we say 'New Black' on BHM, we are referring to the quote that Pharrell Williams made on Oprah 's interview where he pretty much said that racism/iscrimination does not exist if Blacks choose and make a conscious effort to ignore it. That is all. Pls dont skew the interpretation of the term. If possible, pls refer to the Pharell thread that is on page 1-2 of TTT b4 making 'New Black' reference generalizations, thx.

Daquan does not = person in the hood doing dirt.


Edited by NJHairLuv - Jul 09 2014 at 2:43pm

I have read the whole thread and only one black man has expressed his disgust in the Daquan memes while all of the women are disgusted by the memes.
~duly noted~

*raises the black power fist in support to the one enlightened man a few pages back*