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Direct Link To This Post Posted: Sep 08 2013 at 5:14pm
Originally posted by Bored w/Out Me? Bored w/Out Me? wrote:

You don't really want any help, You like the control that he has over You. Everybody could give You advice up to page 22, You're still not goin
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I really don't know how to snap out of it. Idek what's going to happen if i leave
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Direct Link To This Post Posted: Sep 08 2013 at 5:17pm
Originally posted by foxyroy19 foxyroy19 wrote:


Get him in trouble?


When i was a teen i was molested i told my counselor by law she had to tell the police. He was arrested.
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Direct Link To This Post Posted: Sep 08 2013 at 5:23pm
 You were in this exact situation one year ago.  Nothing's changed except the kid is older.

 If you really want help you already know what to do besides post these threads detailing your misery.  Actions speak louder then posts...

Something just doesn't add up here.
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Direct Link To This Post Posted: Sep 08 2013 at 5:25pm
Ruby you know what to do snap out of it and GET IT DONE!!! You don't know what is going to happen until it gets done.

AND PLEASE DON'T BE LIKE THE PEOPLE WE SEE ON THE NEWS THAT ANNOUNCE TO THEIR PARTNERS WHAT THEY WILL DO BEFORE THEY DO IT.
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Direct Link To This Post Posted: Sep 08 2013 at 5:27pm
Extractions are when they come to get you physically and move you to a safe house.


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Direct Link To This Post Posted: Sep 08 2013 at 5:30pm
You aint ready for help. When you tired you will leave......better hope you get tired before he kills you......call me harsh.....but its the truth.....
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Direct Link To This Post Posted: Sep 08 2013 at 5:33pm
Originally posted by carolina cutie carolina cutie wrote:

Tell your counselor Ruby. Don't feel ashamed to tell them what is going on. He/she is trained to help with situations such as these. The counselor will try to help you and also try to help you get out of your abusive situation at your own speed.

You don't want to leave him because you love him but you know you need to leave. Look at how badly he treats you. You're asking for help because you know you deserve more.Heart
 
This is a perfect answer.
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Direct Link To This Post Posted: Sep 08 2013 at 5:34pm
You can talk to your counselor, confidentially
 
Laws vary by state, but I've never heard of a state where they must report domestic violence
 
Your counselor had to report the molestation because you were a minor.
 
Child abuse/neglect must be reported as well as elder/dependent adult abuse (dependent adult does not mean you depend on him financially. That terms refers to someone disabled/mentally retarded etc).
 
The other exception that I know of where they have to report is the "imminent danger" rule.
So, for example if he calls you when you're in the counselor's office and says when you get home he's going to shoot you, and you start to leave... then they can report
 
If it makes you feel better, look up "Therapist duty to report (insert state you live in)"
 
Don't look at the ones for medical doctors, as theirs are diff.
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Direct Link To This Post Posted: Sep 08 2013 at 5:40pm
Originally posted by Diane (35) Diane (35) wrote:

Extractions are when they come to get you physically and move you to a safe house.




This might be the only way. I've never heard of this though. And in my old pms i only have info for another city. I really want to lash out on one of the posts i just read but i know its only because im miserable. Every time i try to say ok just do it, i can't! It just feels impossible to cut off my feelings and walk away. I feel like he's all i have left
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Direct Link To This Post Posted: Sep 08 2013 at 5:48pm
is your child in this home?
it seems like the two of you are so trapped in dysfunction no one is concerned about the well being of the child. 
i could never imagine myself in your shoes but i wish you can put your feelings and his feelings aside for a while and consider what you are exposing your child to. 
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