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Originally posted by Wildfire Wildfire wrote:

Originally posted by jonesable jonesable wrote:

Who knew what would make her flip like that.
Say she was fired and that was the cause. Would we be blaming her boss too?


As her partner, he is partially responsible for her well-being. Her boss is a different matter.

 
 
No he's not. Where is that written? Partners are not in any way responsible for the other person's well being? You are in for a RUDE AWAKENING  if you believe this load of cr**.Shocked
 
Relationships can be painful when things do not turn out like you expect .. but that's life because nothing is perfect. The only way to avoid being hurt ... is to avoid a relationship .. but then you would have a lonely life which would also make an unstable person kill herself.
 
Bf and Gfs and husbands and wives break up every day. I think the divorce rate is 53%? You just have to have the mental stamina ... to pull yourself up, brush yourself off and get on with it.
 
Clearly this girl was missing such a foundation.
 
Now, why she would basically cause HER MOTHER to be a witness to her suicide is just .... cruel. Shocked
 
Selfish.


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What I really wish is that people stop thinking that having kids or a relationship will "fix" them.

Fix your fuking self first before seeking to add others to your life.

It won't work, and you'll just hurt other people in the process.

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Originally posted by EasterBell EasterBell wrote:

He can't be blamed for her being unstable.. It's not his fault that she took her own life.. He only guilty of being trifling. How she handled her heartbreak is on her, which, in this case, she was unable to handle it.. She probably had some more issues that contributed to her suicide as well.  he can't be held responsible for her happiness. Your happiness and self-worth should come from within.


IA w/ all of this, especially the bolded.

I think the worst thing she did was to be on the phone w/ her mom as she killed herself.  Her mom must be in agony
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She may have been unstable, but I have seen perfectly stable people become crazy over a failed relationship.  It might not be the "smartest" way to deal with things, but it happens.



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Originally posted by mizzsandra00 mizzsandra00 wrote:

No one in here is dumping on her........we just aren't blaming him.......you want to blame him for doing something that doesnt warrant suicide......something that in the world of relationships is actually quite normal......

TBH I think he tried to end things several times but stayed because she was unstable.......got tired of being obligated and very clearly ended things.......hell he left and came back to check on her afterwards.......


since you you seem to know what the inner workings of their relationship was, any possibility he was a callous cheating bastard? any possibility she simply just had more than she could take at that point?
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Post Options Post Options   Thanks (0) Thanks(0)   Quote Wildfire Quote  Post ReplyReply Direct Link To This Post Posted: Aug 21 2013 at 4:23pm
Originally posted by coconess coconess wrote:

Originally posted by Wildfire Wildfire wrote:



BHM is just odd...in one thread we say how serious depression is, and how much more is serious, and other threads, we dump on the the depressed who take their own lives. i dont get it


i noticed this.. it is odd... 

idk if im missing something but there are two suicide threads..

the only difference is that we know that she had an argument prior and relationship issues.. 
and we know nothing about what he was going through.. 

either way its two really sad people going through too much to handle.. but the responses are like so opposite. 
in this thread she is responsible for taking her life and its her fault and no one elses..
but in the other thread everyone was hypothesizing about how he was a poor victim and it coulda been family stress/hollywood stress that made him do it, etc..? 

ok i think i get it.. Confused



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Originally posted by BrownQtee BrownQtee wrote:

 
I don't agree. This situation had WAY more details available for scrutiny. People were jumping to conclusions in the other thread with absolutely no basis for their comments. No reason was given for his suicide..pure speculation. The same cannot be said here.


People are jumping to conclusion in here too, maybe not as extensively, but conclusions nonetheless...such as he was long suffering with her depression/mental instability, that he probably tried to break up with her nicely/repeatedly, and that she did it to spite him. None of us know any of this .

For all we know, what could have driven her to that point could have been a combination of all the things she was going through, with him, and in her life generally, as well as cheating or suspected cheating, and then him telling her he did not love her.

Its disingenuous to pretend what he said or may have done had absolutely no impact or bearing on her action.


Originally posted by princesshoneybee princesshoneybee wrote:

I was suicidal for a long time so I believe it was an accumulation of alot of things in her life. she probably had low self worth for her whole life and this just set her off.


thats all im saying. what he did/said and the role it most likely played in tipping he rover the edge cannot be meh'd aside , whatever the history was between them





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Originally posted by tatee tatee wrote:

sounds like she was trying to punish her mother.  dude didnt love her anymore so i dont know how broke up he suppose to be, thats just more sympathy he'll get from the next chick.



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The point we are making is if she was mentally stable when he said he didnt love her anymore she wouldnt have killed herself.....

The #1 thing to blame is her illness not a boyfriend that wanted to break up.......


And if you cant understand that we are speculating thats on you.....





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I wonder how many of you would feel the same if this was a man committing suicide because his girlfriend left him?


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