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You don't identify as female or male. You either are or you aren't. You can enjoy the aspects of being female ie painted nails, dresses, and heels, but you are no more female than I am white. You are who you are. People teach their children to be proud of themselve or their colors or talents everyday, this has no difference to me. "Female standards" are social and have to be taught. No one comes out thinking they were born to wear a dress, because it's just not part of your psyche as a child, someone or something has to condition them toward that conclusion.
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Originally posted by P31chick P31chick wrote:

I wasnt aware that a two year old can comprehend the differences between genders to full capacity.  I know plenty of moms who have stories about their little boys wanting to wear their heels or play with a purse or dolls and they say that for most it is just a phase.  Most of these little boys grow up to be very much masculine and have no feminine traits.  So as parents when we see these phases can they be altered by how much we tolerate at these times.  Like if a baby says I am not a good boy I'm a good girl....do we just say Oh okay yes you are.  Or do we correct them? 

I know a transgendered person born a boy and now identifies as a woman.  However her parents saw this phase and embraced it because they felt it was just a phase, however it just never stopped. Do you think parenting has a role in these matters?


 
This. When I was a toddler, I know I was NOT unsnapping my onesies for them to look like dresses. And at two years old he asked when his "genitalia" would be changed? I'm not buying all that sh*t. I think there is a fine line between encouraging, and supporting.
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Originally posted by BrownQtee BrownQtee wrote:

Originally posted by P31chick P31chick wrote:

I wasnt aware that a two year old can comprehend the differences between genders to full capacity.  I know plenty of moms who have stories about their little boys wanting to wear their heels or play with a purse or dolls and they say that for most it is just a phase.  Most of these little boys grow up to be very much masculine and have no feminine traits.  So as parents when we see these phases can they be altered by how much we tolerate at these times.  Like if a baby says I am not a good boy I'm a good girl....do we just say Oh okay yes you are.  Or do we correct them? 

I know a transgendered person born a boy and now identifies as a woman.  However her parents saw this phase and embraced it because they felt it was just a phase, however it just never stopped. Do you think parenting has a role in these matters?


 
This. When I was a toddler, I know I was NOT unsnapping my onesies for them to look like dresses. And at two years old he asked when his "genitalia" would be changed? I'm not buying all that sh*t. I think there is a fine line between encouraging, and supporting.
 
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i would ask for a paternity test tbh
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Originally posted by EPITOME EPITOME wrote:

Originally posted by noneyons noneyons wrote:

If a child said they feel white on the inside and wants to bleach their skin, wear blonde wigs and blue contacts, would yall be okay with that?

before someone asks how the two relate, the hypothetical is no different than the OP. Both about children struggling with their identity. 

how does one "feel white?"
what they're walking around feeling privileged?
When I got out of my speeding ticket years ago at night in a hick southern town, I felt lily white. I looked back on the event like 'this is the privilege I've been missing out on? Wow!'ShockedLOL
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Not in my house. 
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This thread is tragic
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Originally posted by BBpants BBpants wrote:

This thread is tragic
 
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It's cool
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Originally posted by femmemichelle femmemichelle wrote:

Lmao if my kids tried that mess



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My stomach hurts from laughing. CryCry
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