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I know it hurts but I know we are strangers but why did you stay after the advice given to you before from the members here. I was with a guy like this for 9 years. I had my own place but he refused to fully move in with me. He used my car but refused to make a life with me. I was young and stupid just like you (no offense). Dude was cheating and I found out about it on the ass end of things and when things broke off it hurt like hell... not because I was losing him but because I let him strip me of my dignity.  Please don't be like me. In 9 years my ex never asked me to marry him. This guy hasn't done the same with you either and wants you to move out like you are nothing to him. He doesn't care about you, get this through your head now and I promise the road ahead won't be so bad.

You are allowing this man to strip you of your dignity in telling you to move out after being with him for 10 years. Keep your dignity at the very least. move out in silence. don't tell him just leave when hes not around and NEVER speak to him again! Change your number and never loo back. You have a college degree and if you are not finding work in your area, please consider leaving the area and relocating where jobs are more lucrative. Apply for jobs out of state. You have to go where the money is... not where you are comfortable if you want to live a good life. In the meantime, rent a room from someone. You probably won't qualify for housing on your current salary. There is also subsidzed housing for people in your situation.
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Originally posted by qheenkitty qheenkitty wrote:

I know it hurts but I know we are strangers but why did you stay after the advice given to you before from the members here. I was with a guy like this for 9 years. I had my own place but he refused to fully move in with me. He used my car but refused to make a life with me. I was young and stupid just like you (no offense). Dude was cheating and I found out about it on the ass end of things and when things broke off it hurt like hell... not because I was losing him but because I let him strip me of my dignity.  Please don't be like me. In 9 years my ex never asked me to marry him. This guy hasn't done the same with you either and wants you to move out like you are nothing to him. He doesn't care about you, get this through your head now and I promise the road ahead won't be so bad.

You are allowing this man to strip you of your dignity in telling you to move out after being with him for 10 years. Keep your dignity at the very least. move out in silence. don't tell him just leave when hes not around and NEVER speak to him again! Change your number and never loo back. You have a college degree and if you are not finding work in your area, please consider leaving the area and relocating where jobs are more lucrative. Apply for jobs out of state. You have to go where the money is... not where you are comfortable if you want to live a good life. In the meantime, rent a room from someone. You probably won't qualify for housing on your current salary. There is also subsidzed housing for people in your situation.


I was trying to see if things would get any better. Also I was trying to save some more money before I finally make my exit. He sent me a text message a few days ago saying that he will be looking for a new job and does not mind relocating. He also texted me saying that the sex is "ehh" and that he is losing interest and some time away from me would be good. I feel like once I do move out  things probably wouldn't last. This all just really hurts because when I first met him when I was 16 I thought he would be the one and we would ride off into the sunset. But now I definitely know otherwise. He also says that he does not want to move in with me because "what if we get jobs in different areas?" My own mom told me, "if you move out, break up with him, don't let him use you to fucc."

On another note, he isn't the most horrible person in the world but he has his flaws just like anyone else. I feel like he in more into his career than me. It's just going to be hard to move on. I just very used to him and while living with him and his family I have gotten so much done. Going from living with him to living on my own will be one of the biggest changes I have ever made in my life and will take a lot of getting used to.
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did you move out already? i don't know what you are waiting for to do so. he's a saint; anyone else would have already thrown your stuff on the street while you were at work. i think you will only wake up when he shows up with another girl at the house saying that he is tired of you.
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Originally posted by sexyandfamous sexyandfamous wrote:

did you move out already? i don't know what you are waiting for to do so. he's a saint; anyone else would have already thrown your stuff on the street while you were at work. i think you will only wake up when he shows up with another girl at the house saying that he is tired of you.


No I have not moved yet. I now plan on doing so as soon as I can. The main thing that keeps me at the house is the fact I have not found full time work. I don't want to move out and then not be able to afford it. On another note he just said that if I got a higher paying job then we could get a place together. It's like one minute he wants me to move out another minute he wants me to find a job so we can get a place together it's like make up your mind. At this point I feel like we are still together just because.
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yeah, don't buy it, because he has been wanting you to get out of his life for a while, even told you that sex with you sucks, so don't continue to build dreams in your head with him. it is over already, you guys just haven't been over physically because you are finding reasons to stay there longer.
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Originally posted by sexyandfamous sexyandfamous wrote:

yeah, don't buy it, because he has been wanting you to get out of his life for a while, even told you that sex with you sucks, so don't continue to build dreams in your head with him. it is over already, you guys just haven't been over physically because you are finding reasons to stay there longer.

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Originally posted by sexyandfamous sexyandfamous wrote:

yeah, don't buy it, because he has been wanting you to get out of his life for a while, even told you that sex with you sucks, so don't continue to build dreams in your head with him. it is over already, you guys just haven't been over physically because you are finding reasons to stay there longer.


I was trying to find ways to salvage the relationship, but I can't force someone to be with me. At this point whatever happens, happens. But I must admit that living on my own scares me.
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Wasting all my young snatched years with my sh*tty baby daddy scared me into leaving. It's not that bad when u finally smell the air of ur own place. That first night in ur own bed, u might cry, but it might not just be from sadness. Initially, you'll feel pain and anxiety, and all the inevitable emotions and epiphanies you've been putting off will come find u and make u deal, but eventually (and quickly) happiness from ur accomplishment will set in.

It is scary, but necessary. Be strong.
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