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My mom used to pull "the other kids dont like you cuz you pretty and light skinned" all the time
 
I yelled at my teacher when I was like 6 or 7 that she was just mad bc she was dark and ugly
 
and that's crazy bc she's lighter than my moms
 
I had to stop my sister from telling her daughter that, the other kids don't like her cuz she got a rotten attitude and so did I
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I say it is learned, either actively or passively taught. 
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I definitely remember having the black vs. brown vs. light conversations in kindergartenPinch

I got teased by other children and even grown ups for my complexion. Try growing up in a family full of color-struck negroes who swore up and down they descended from Geronimo and nemSleepy
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It is not just family. It is also the people who are around your children and other kids. My niece is an only child and she has done this. Her mom is dark, but her mom hangs around ignorant heauxs and their ratchet kids. She also is in daycare.

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Skin tone and which was "better" or "worse" was never discussed in my family. It wasn't basis for any arguments in school either. May be it's a regional thing. Never witnessed the ls/ds drama until I was in my 30's.

If chics disliked or resented me because of my skin tone when I was younger, I wasn't aware of it.

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IMO ijs media influences a child's view on skin color as well. Books, magazines, billboards, commercials, tv shows, cartoons, movies, etc. We adults can pick up on the biases when it comes to Black skin/hair but I think kids are probably picking them up unconsciously.
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I will never forget the day my little five year old cousin came over and she started crying to my aunt asking her why she couldn't be light skinned with "good hair" like everyone else in the family. She was so upset and she said it's not fair because the teachers liked the light skinned girls better, would play in their hair and tell them how pretty they were and would treat her badly. I remember us all tearing up with her. People can be so disgusting...

I think sometimes people feed into the light vs dark without even paying attention. Especially when it comes to praising features in some but not others. Kids pick these things up easily.


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at 2 and 4 my kids were talking about skin color with each other.  when i asked about the details my thing 1 says. I was tellin thing 2 that we have different skin. she says I'm brown, thing 2 is white, and mommy youre really dark brown. Ermm (cause i didnt know that)

i asked if that was problem she said no. we just all have different colors. it was later explained to me that kids see in color. thats the most i've ever heard kids say.

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I never grew up with this directly in my family but I think my aunt may have instilled some of this in her children. Her oldest used to be light skin and then got dark. Now whenever she posts photos of her own child she is always talking about how pretty and light and mixed she is. I just don't get it.
 
One of my best friends in hs used to try to pull that sh*t and would be offended when guys would approach me instead of her at times.
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Originally posted by blaquefoxx blaquefoxx wrote:

I definitely remember having the black vs. brown vs. light conversations in kindergartenPinch

I got teased by other children and even grown ups for my complexion. Try growing up in a family full of color-struck negroes who swore up and down they descended from Geronimo and nemSleepy

I went thru the same thing with my cousins and sadly my mother (may she rest in peace)... My mother use to tell her 1st niece she was the prettiest because she was light and her favorite niece...imagine you have three dark skin daughters and you telling her that in our face we was just looking likeOuch what about us??Cry
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