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I plan on mentoring/helping, when I get to the top. I think u do need to vet who to help and who not to bc a lot of people Will take urn kindness for weakness. Then they're others like myself who are grateful for the insight and guidance
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Posted: Jan 28 2013 at 6:53pm |
Absolutely.
I haven't read the whole thread b/c I'm tired but when I have time to volunteer, I always make it my mission to uplift young black girls. when I shop I'm like always recruiting young black women with great customer service skills to enter into my field. I give them my contact info and do everything in my power to put them on.
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Posted: Jan 28 2013 at 7:30pm |
I don't know how to feel about this topic. I put in a good word for a woman for the same job I do (cardiology nurse). I told her all about the job and stressed the fact that it is very high stress and we work our butts off. We had worked for the same hospital in the past but on different shifts plus a mutual friend asked me to help her. She got hired and then after just three weeks, never came back. I was beyond embarrassed. I have worked very hard to get where I am and it is more than embarrassing when someone does something like that, it's a slap in the face. Like *&$# your favor.
On the other hand, I believe in sharing information. My husband and I had poor credit simply because we were never taught money management and didn't understand the effects certain things have on your credit. We worked really hard to turn it around and have and we know other black couples who are so appreciative of simple things we've been able to share with them that make a huge difference.
I will always share information, but I will never lend money. I will always pray for someone in need or who asks me to, but I will not put myself or my family out to "help" someone.
During our hardest times, all most of our black friends and family did was talk about us, throw some "I told you sos" in there and give us bad advice. I'm not sure if it's a black thing but I do think we struggle with congratulating, encouraging and truly being happy for one another.
I think as a race we have to fight for so much it's almost natural to feel jealously towards others who are getting it. It's really sad.
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Posted: Jan 28 2013 at 7:32pm |
I have been trying to help other black folks since I was in college. I tried to help my own family and not ONE of them was willing to take it. They were too damn busy telling my parents how "uppity" I was because I was getting a college education. I wasn't going to fill out the applications for them, but I had been trying to tell them how they could go to college for free. Now, it's like fukk 'em.
I now help those who WANT to be helped. I volunteered at the Human Rights Commission, and when I go back to the US every once in a while, I will still drop in to see what's happening. I still check up on organizations that help black folks. I do whatever I can. I help other black folks here in Japan with day to day and even legal advice (as it pertains to employment matters here).
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Posted: Jan 28 2013 at 7:38pm |
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I wasn't going to fill out the applications for them |
LOL I filled out someone's application, re-wrote their essay, wrote letters that they needed to get transcripts, recommendations, etc and when they were accepted, and enrolled, they did not say thanks. Then 2 weeks b4 their 2 year educational program ended, this person and they momma called me at 10 o'clock at night begging me to write a withdrawl letter from the program b/c they decided to drop out b/c of a tiff with one of the instructors  #imsleepBYE
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Posted: Jan 28 2013 at 7:43pm |
TokyoRose wrote:
I have been trying to help other black folks since I
was in college. I tried to help my own family and not ONE of them was
willing to take it. They were too damn busy telling my parents how
"uppity" I was because I was getting a college education. I wasn't
going to fill out the applications for them, but I had been trying to
tell them how they could go to college for free. Now, it's like fukk
'em.
I now help those who WANT to be helped. I volunteered at the Human
Rights Commission, and when I go back to the US every once in a while, I
will still drop in to see what's happening. I still check up on
organizations that help black folks. I do whatever I can. I help other
black folks here in Japan with day to day and even legal advice (as it
pertains to employment matters here). |
TOKYO I'd love to chat with you as a long term goal for my company is to set up a regional headquarter in Tokyo! :) And for sure, I'll be appreciative of any advice you give me. ^_^
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Limalady
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Posted: Jan 28 2013 at 7:46pm |
TokyoRose wrote:
I have been trying to help other black folks since I was in college. I tried to help my own family and not ONE of them was willing to take it. They were too damn busy telling my parents how "uppity" I was because I was getting a college education. I wasn't going to fill out the applications for them, but I had been trying to tell them how they could go to college for free. Now, it's like fukk 'em. I now help those who WANT to be helped. I volunteered at the Human Rights Commission, and when I go back to the US every once in a while, I will still drop in to see what's happening. I still check up on organizations that help black folks. I do whatever I can. I help other black folks here in Japan with day to day and even legal advice (as it pertains to employment matters here). |
Well Tokyo, if you know any regulatory/compliance positions in human rights or development anywhere in the world, hook a sister up. 
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Posted: Jan 28 2013 at 7:49pm |
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More blacks should hire and mentor blacks when they are in a position to. I made a thread years back about when I had a black female boss she hired mostly whites as opposed to the Jewish and Filipino boss before her who hired mostly Jews and Filipinos respectively. It is sad that other than my family members my mentors thus far have been white. I wish I had a black woman to talk to about career specific things but I do not.
I am not exactly where I want to be but I make it my business to give advice and help to other black folks when I can.
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Posted: Jan 28 2013 at 7:50pm |
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y'all better reach back and drag someone with you!
I find that sometimes people want a different kind of help than what I can offer. Eg, I am happy to look over someones resume and polish it... but rather they want me to right the whole damn thing... if you're not able to put in effort, why should I?
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