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    Posted: Jan 28 2013 at 4:15pm
Or should their presence/example enough to motivate black people?
 
A "friend" and I were just having this conversation on the phone. To what extent should black people with means and access to power be helping others?
 
This friend says that she has tried to help other black people come up but all they do is embarrass her or stab her in the back when they have an opportunity. At this point, she will offer "lite" mentorships and that is all. She says that as much as she has tried, black people don't know how to "receive" help.
 
If you're on the pathway to success, does it matter to you if you have black people guiding you along your way?
 
 
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i do agree you need to thoroughly vet who you offer help and mentorship
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i generally side eye people who claim that they don't want to help blacks because they have been stabbed in the back embarrassed by ect.  as if yt folks are so effing loyal and on point.
 
anyway, of course, i feel i should help others who look like me...been where i've been...ect ect ect
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Originally posted by ThoughtCouture ThoughtCouture wrote:

i generally side eye people who claim that they don't want to help blacks because they have been stabbed in the back embarrassed by ect.  as if yt folks are so effing loyal and on point.
 
anyway, of course, i feel i should help others who look like me...been where i've been...ect ect ect

i didn't take it to mean she was helping the whites. and i mean vet regardless of race.

where i want to go---there aren't that many blacks. a black partner at my old firm has supported an organization i work with immensely and is so nice and supportive and tell me in hushed tones about what it's like to be a black partner in a legal environment. 

i have found whites who have been helpful to me.


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It would be nice if they helped other black folks but it seems like quite a few who become successful either look down on black folks or act like they want nothing to do with them.

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I wish we as a whole could lift one another up. Other races stick together like glue, mexicans and asians especially; they will not let one of their own fall ( ususally.)I just don't understand how there are 1000's more Latin and Asian owned business in america than black. 
My bff BIL came here from el salvador in 2007( illegally) he did not speak a word of english. He now speaks english fluently, owns a home and a business. You know how he did this? He stationed himself in a sanctuary city and got help from his own people. And now employs other immigrants trying to get ahead.
 
 
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I think it's very important and it's how I measure my own success.
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Originally posted by EPITOME EPITOME wrote:


i didn't take it to mean she was helping the whites.

where i want to go---there aren't that many blacks. a black partner at my old firm has supported an organization i work with immensely and is so nice and supportive and tell me in hushed tones about what it's like to be a black partner in a legal environment t
 
oh ok...maybe i was reading what bb was saying about her my lipz twisted waiting for the bs...lol
 
oh and believe me i know what it is like to be the "only"  not alot of black engineers and especially black women.   i din't even really have a mentor until i started working...she was business.  it can be difficult for sure...
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ironically, I just posted this pix elsewhere




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I think that just being an example can sometimes be powerful enough to encourage change.

But, I also think it's the responsibility of those who are successful in the community to help others as much as they possibly can. I think the Asian community is a good example of how those who become successful reach back and around to help others in their community reach and exceed their success.

Unfortunately, blacks need a lot of help with just the absolute basics (how to care for yourself, parenting, getting through k-12 successfully) and those things are the hardest to help with because when it comes from someone who's "made it", black people tend to perceive that as the helper looking down on them.
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