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Originally posted by Bored w/Out Me? Bored w/Out Me? wrote:

Kids too good to walk or catch the bus these days...smh.

My little sisters don't take the bus and they aren't really allowed to walk anywhere.  Too many psychos.


Modeless what do you do when the person follows up their text in person and says "hey did you get my text?" That's just awkward--bc then you have to do the whole---oh nooo---I didn't...and now the iphone [I don't have one] but I know it tells you when someone reads your message. 

If you say no, the person probably will know they can't always ask you for a ride or whatever.

But again--learning to be comfortable saying "No" is not something women are taught imo.
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Post Options Post Options   Thanks (2) Thanks(2)   Quote ModelessDiva Quote  Post ReplyReply Direct Link To This Post Posted: Jun 29 2014 at 5:43pm

honestly OP I would just call her back and tell her that is way too far to drive..which it is...

No way would i drive 4 hours for a pool party...maybe if it were something important or a emergency....not a party



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Post Options Post Options   Thanks (2) Thanks(2)   Quote ModelessDiva Quote  Post ReplyReply Direct Link To This Post Posted: Jun 29 2014 at 5:48pm
she was wrong for asking you that...actually sounds almost manipulative...she probably knew you wouldnt say no...

4 hours?

i refuse to believe there was no other way...no friends carpooling to this party...no family friends who could drive her...taxi? bus? summmn???

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I feel like...aren't these the same people who let your brother rip and run and won't take any of your advice about it?

Like either they want you involved in your siblings' lives as their pseudo-parent figure or they don't.

I do a lot of stuff for family but they also aren't completely inconsiderate and ridiculous with their requests.
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Why would you be uncomfortable being straight up with your family?

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Originally posted by jonesable jonesable wrote:

Why would you be uncomfortable being straight up with your family?


true...i only have issues with outsiders not family...
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Never feel bad for not wanting to do something you are asked to do

The question you have to ask yourself,' is it worth the sacrifice'.?

Sometimes it is ok to inconvenience ourselves a little to make someone we love and value happy.

You just have to decide how you will choose to do that

Ultimately it is your decision and you should not feel bad either way.
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You have to earn to say no ... but how old is your sister ? Does your mom have to work or is she sick ?
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Post Options Post Options   Thanks (0) Thanks(0)   Quote Lite Brite Quote  Post ReplyReply Direct Link To This Post Posted: Jun 29 2014 at 6:59pm
SN, but isn't trop the one who never returns to her threads to give us more info/updates?
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Post Options Post Options   Thanks (1) Thanks(1)   Quote Benni Quote  Post ReplyReply Direct Link To This Post Posted: Jun 29 2014 at 7:17pm
I would not be excited about doing it, but I will.

If I really wanted to go someplace as a young person, and have an older sibling accompany me was the only way I will be allowed to go, I would want them to do it for me.

Mom does not trust anyone else to accompany your sister.
Can't really blame her for that.
Too much crap going on in the world today.



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