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Tha fugggg!!! my momma doesn't even let me make 2 trips to the grocery store because of gas lol (in my own damn car) but yea a pool party isn't important at all
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Originally posted by Gkisses Gkisses wrote:

Originally posted by ModelessDiva ModelessDiva wrote:

Originally posted by tatee tatee wrote:

stop saying yes to things when you really mean no.


this is easier said than done...Cry





Sorta but not really....people see this way of life as being nice when really its being a pushover. people will only treat you the way you allow them to

uh...i hope nobody thinks this is considered being nice...this is def an issue

it is hard for me to say no..so if i dont wanna do it i either ignore them and hope they get the hint...

or give them an alternative option "you know the bus runs today" "taxis arent that expensive"
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@ you know the bus runs today...man if that a quote from my father..during my teens
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Originally posted by ModelessDiva ModelessDiva wrote:

Originally posted by Gkisses Gkisses wrote:

Originally posted by ModelessDiva ModelessDiva wrote:

Originally posted by tatee tatee wrote:

stop saying yes to things when you really mean no.


this is easier said than done...Cry





Sorta but not really....people see this way of life as being nice when really its being a pushover. people will only treat you the way you allow them to

uh...i hope nobody thinks this is considered being nice...this is def an issue

it is hard for me to say no..so if i dont wanna do it i either ignore them and hope they get the hint...

or give them an alternative option "you know the bus runs today" "taxis arent that expensive"


that's actually ruder than just saying no imo and why be passive aggressive? just say naaahhh

but honestly, the ability to say no with no compunction is something i eased into as i got older.  

but OP i do things that are inconvenient to me for my family all the time. /shrugs/ it ain't no big deal to me...like if you can't inconvenience family every once in awhile, who can you inconvenience. my parents inconvenience themselves for me all the time.



Edited by EPITOME - Jun 29 2014 at 5:29pm
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lol not face to face... only ignoring if you sent a text or something impersonal...

but ioncurr if they think its rude....its rude for you to be asking me ignant ish in the first place...

honestly if i asked someone a question and they ignored me it will actually make me reflect and wonder about what i just askedLOL

flat out saying no sounds a lot more rude to me...especially if i know you could have done it

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^^^ I agree 200% with epi. Saying NO when you don't want to do something makes you look assertive. Ignoring them makes you look rude. 

Driving 2 hours for a pool party uh nah. Maybe your mom wants you to come home that weekend and using that as an excuse.
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Communication is a lost art
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Originally posted by Gkisses Gkisses wrote:

Originally posted by rell85 rell85 wrote:

Maybe your mom don't let her ride with other ppl...you could have been more open though.


But she would allow her to be alone with these ppl at a pool party?..lol


Some parents don't let thier kids ride with teens cuz they might feel they're not a safe driver...it has nothing to do with the party it about how she get there.
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Kids too good to walk or catch the bus these days...smh.
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What if you stay at the pool party? Maybe you will see lots of hot guysWink
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