| BeanieBabiesMommy wrote:|
| Printer_Ink wrote:|
| BeanieBabiesMommy wrote:|
| iliveforbhm wrote:|
Glad I don't got kids.
I pitty you, children are a blessing.
Children can be a blessing or they can be a tremendous burden.
Especially when there is no husband in the home to suport the mother emotionally and finanially and to help make parental decisions, take responsibilty, pay the bills, NURTURE and SPEND TIME with the child so that he grows up feeling good about himself so that he can get a decent education and succeed in life. The list goes on and on.
I think in this situation ... this poor child has come into this world WANTING a great deal of the stuff mentioned above ... that he will never get.
The poor child has been cheated out of the best chance in life. This is really unfair to the child and selfish of the mother to be so short-sighted.
I don't think there's a problem dating men with children. Everyome has a past What? You should never date a man because you have THIS child? Now how mucg sense does that make?
It's about the people. If the man has childen but is in no way caught up in the ex's life... there will not be a problem with him having children.
If the man has children but still has an intimate relationship with this woman .. that means he is UNAVAILABLE for anything other than a bootycall with you. DUH! So your child was born out of a booty call situation. Geesh!
"Opinions are like assholes, so, who gives a sh*t." - Fab
Basically youre saying every adult who is not prepared for children shouldnt have sex at all (which will never happen) and for every baby that is made should also be killed.
(which thank god not every mother kills her baby)
you probably had a couple of abortions or on birth control
because I know if youre sexually active you didnt use a condom every time.
Oh so finally, you catching on!
'Basically youre saying every adult who is not prepared for children shouldnt have sex at all (which will never happen) and for every baby that is made should also be killed.[/DIV
If you are NOT PREPARED to have childen ... you should not be having sex. DUH! Babies come from sex - they don't come from the stork! Sounds like you were raised by wolves if somehow THAT piece of common sense eluded your upbringing! God I get soooo sick of hear about yet another black woman getting knocked up by some dude .. ANY dude seems like.
Let me break it down for you since clearly your parents didn't care enough to spend 5 minutes to tell you .. what the whole rest of the world knows. :O
- Having sex is not like drinking a glass of water. You are not entitled to have sex whenever you feel like it. You are supposed to not have sex until you reach the age where you are mature enough to understand the consequences of having sex. Such as, not being taken advantaged of by some smnooth talker that just wants to USE you, being considered cheap and easy by the guy and his buddies and anyone else, catching an STDs which can cripple your life or at worse -take your life and have have to stop your education and oh yes, having a BABY ... so you get trapped in a below standard lifestyle because you never gave yourself the chance to build anything for yourself.
- if you DO decide to have sex ... you are supposed to have 'responsible' sex, meaning you are on birth control and/or use a condom to avoid diseases. There are many forms of Birth control btw - some if which do not involved drugs such as the IUD or 'The Rhythm Method' which is completely natural and has been use since the 1920's. But most of the Birth Control methods involving drugs today are harmless ... women like to pretend the drugs will harm them as an excuse to be irresponbile and ... take their chances. GHETTO.
- If your birth control fails yes, have an abortion .... but not in the 6th month when it's too late but the minute you miss your period. You are supposed to be mature enough to monitor your period if you are having sex. So then the fetus is the size of a pea and that's it.
And no, I had boyfriends and sex too (though I never had casual sex) and I never got pregnant so I've never had an abortion. I would hate to have an abortion so ....to avoid pregnancy so I was using an IUD or the pill or something. Today they have morning after pill in case you have 'surprise sex' so there really is no excuse. During the times when I was not with a guy .. I gave my body a break from Birth Control pills etc.
Yes, I know other women that used their head and avoided an surprised pregnancy until they got an education and got married. That way they could give their child the best of everything and not have to be struggling and doing without a father in the home, securely, love, money etc.
If sounds like you mother, sisters whatever .. just slepted with random men and got knocked up so .. now you think this is a normal way to live.
Raised by wolves I tell ya! I just feel sorry for you child who will miss out on a normal childhood.
Hey, YOU were the one that started this thread on this rediculous low life situation you put yourself into so yes, now you are stuck hearing peoples opinions .. like my opinion.
And ... I am not the only one that is shaking their head over your situation.
Moral of the story: Learn how to keep your knees together if you cannot learn how to take some form of birth control. Duh!
Edited by Printer_Ink - Jan 22 2014 at 3:07pm