| JoliePoufiasse wrote:|
| Printer_Ink wrote:|
Ummm but it is a sort of 'stupidity' to be 40 something ... and be sooo fixated on 'getting a man'.
Something is missing with her on the inside.
A lot of women (even in real life) gushhhhh over their men ... like they hit the lottery and they think if you are not the same ... you are not in a happy relationship.
And then it all goes south .. and I am thinking 'why don't you keep your business to yourself' and 'having a guy is not everything anyway'.
He was a con man .. but I think she let these things like 'no proof of work' slip by because she wanted him .. (anyone) at any cost.
No telling how many red flags she ignored.
I am sorry for Sherri - there's not a mean bone in her body but something ain't right if something so OBVIOUS about him slipped her attention.
So you can't select the wrong man past 40 and get your heart broken??? That is only reserved for the young and if you make a mistake past a certain age, you are to be publicly flogged??? I agree that she was way too fixated on getting married at all costs. But we don't know what went down between closed doors, so the red flags might not have been as obvious as you assume them to be. Or they might have been. No one knows. At the end of the day, he's an asshole and a poor excuse for a man.
Oh yes ... you can be a young fool as well as an old fool. :)
We've all been fools for men hee hee! .. but it's when you get MARRIED to a con artist that it goes to far if you are an old fool.
She has the maturity to know that once you get MARRIED you have to join your finances etc and you have to have an ongoing conversation and be IN HIS financial business .. before you get married.
It's when you are a young fool (like 25) that you don't understand that finances is the number 1 cause of divorce.
That's why I said if she was willing to overlook his finances KNOWING she got stuck paying alimony the first go around too?
Ummm see this would be too much - because she has had enough life experience so to overlook this kindof stuff is a reflection of what's happening on the inside.
Again ... she is SUPER Religious so I am sure she 'prayed on it'.
(To me, that is crap though. Praying is only appropriate when you don't have any control. So if you are on a plane and the pilot says strap in, put your head between your legs and BRACE for a hard landing - THAT would be the time to pray. If you receive a call that your child has been hit by a car .. then all the way to the hospital is the time for you to pray.
But if you have a DECEPTIVE, LYING man on your hands ... praying is not gonna help. If there is a God .. he gives us all 'common sense'so that we can manage a lot of stuff ourselves.)
I digress. :)
ur finances ... th