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Originally posted by petiteone29 petiteone29 wrote:

I don't think some people understand what it feels like when you are in that situation. Sometimes you literally go into shock from fear and you just freeze up. The human mind is not prepared to deal with that type of trauma so everyone reacts in different ways. You might just think about surviving and comply because you don't know what type of physical harm this person can cause you and you aren't willing to find out. Most rapes aren't like the movies and SVU where the dude is waving a knife or throwing you all around the room. If you are trying to push a man off of you and he is holding your wrists or using his body weight against you then that is coercion. If a woman is really willing to have sex than there shouldn't be any resistance. Alot of women convince themselves that they willingly had sex with these guys because the reality that they were raped is harder to swallow and accept. So much comes with having to recover from such trauma. Denial helps some women to function until the PTSD hits, whether it be 1 month later or 10 years later and they have no choice but to deal with it. Saying  "NO" isn't the only sign to a man that you don't want to have sex either. They know. They just like to act like they don't.


yes, yes, yes...especially to the bolded. 
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People always say what the would do in certain situations.....til they land in those situations.

Petit already said it thoClap


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Exactly. Stress and fear is powerful.
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ok were there non verbal cues that it wasn't wanted.
 
there is no info on the op to say its rape.
 
I'm sensitive to rape and sexual assualt sit. But this needsmore info to conclude rape man
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There is enough info that it could go either way.
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OMG!!! This is Date RAPE! I didnt read the whole thing but NO means NO!
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It depends on what said/implied/done to make you feel that fear but if "enough" (and I'm not using that term bc I don't understand your fear or bc I'm downplaying it) was said/done to make you feel that way, it most certainly would be considered a form of rape.  If you feel like your autonomy/choices are removed that can meet the threshold.  Very different from the SYG or cases where the girl was shot asking for help as sexual relations are an inherently intimate act where a woman would typically be unable to remove herself if confronted by an aggressor. 

I hope you're ok girl.
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Originally posted by smaison smaison wrote:

Originally posted by petiteone29 petiteone29 wrote:

I don't think some people understand what it feels like when you are in that situation. Sometimes you literally go into shock from fear and you just freeze up. The human mind is not prepared to deal with that type of trauma so everyone reacts in different ways. You might just think about surviving and comply because you don't know what type of physical harm this person can cause you and you aren't willing to find out. Most rapes aren't like the movies and SVU where the dude is waving a knife or throwing you all around the room. If you are trying to push a man off of you and he is holding your wrists or using his body weight against you then that is coercion. If a woman is really willing to have sex than there shouldn't be any resistance. Alot of women convince themselves that they willingly had sex with these guys because the reality that they were raped is harder to swallow and accept. So much comes with having to recover from such trauma. Denial helps some women to function until the PTSD hits, whether it be 1 month later or 10 years later and they have no choice but to deal with it. Saying  "NO" isn't the only sign to a man that you don't want to have sex either. They know. They just like to act like they don't.



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What if the dude puts the condom on when you already told him no so you decide to do just it? That kinda fits the situation.

Edited by liesnalibis - Feb 23 2014 at 10:15pm
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I knew someone was gonna say they are different.
I know that .

The whole point is fear doesn't really mean something is going on.
I thought he may have raped me leaves a lot of wiggle room.
Like was something done or implied to prompt that fear or...

Edited by jonesable - Feb 23 2014 at 10:23pm
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