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Petty LaBelle
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Posted: Feb 23 2014 at 5:53pm |
Nah, why give up sex on an ASSUMPTION of being raped? That's probably not even on the person mind and if it IS they would have to take it instead of it being easily given. How could you press charges? "I have sex with him bc I THOUGHT he was going to rape me." ..what?
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Marcelo22
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Posted: Feb 23 2014 at 5:57pm |
Petty LaBelle wrote:
Nah, why give up sex on an ASSUMPTION of being raped? That's probably not even on the person mind and if it IS they would have to take it instead of it being easily given. How could you press charges? "I have sex with him bc I THOUGHT he was going to rape me." ..what?
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U are becoming my favorite poster  Beautiful and intelligent, deadly combination
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coconess
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Posted: Feb 23 2014 at 6:00pm |
not rape
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Petty LaBelle
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Posted: Feb 23 2014 at 6:03pm |
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nitabug
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Posted: Feb 23 2014 at 6:03pm |
Petty LaBelle wrote:
<font face="Georgia, Times New Roman, Times, serif">Nah, why give up sex on an ASSUMPTION of being raped? That's probably not even on the person mind and if it IS they would have to take it instead of it being easily given. How could you press charges? "I have sex with him bc I THOUGHT he was going to rape me." ..what?
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most rape victims dont press charges no way.
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Petty LaBelle
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Posted: Feb 23 2014 at 6:09pm |
nitabug wrote:
Petty LaBelle wrote:
<font face="Georgia, Times New Roman, Times, serif">Nah, why give up sex on an ASSUMPTION of being raped? That's probably not even on the person mind and if it IS they would have to take it instead of it being easily given. How could you press charges? "I have sex with him bc I THOUGHT he was going to rape me." ..what?
| most rape victims dont press charges no way. | Truuuuuu. I still wouldn't give it up on an assumption though. you gon' have to fight for mine.
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nitabug
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Posted: Feb 23 2014 at 6:12pm |
some people would rather comply in hopes of staying alive or less hurt. depends on the person and situation.
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Princess Grace
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Posted: Feb 23 2014 at 6:42pm |
Manipulation comes in many forms.
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petiteone29
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Posted: Feb 23 2014 at 7:44pm |
I don't think some people understand what it feels like when you are in that situation. Sometimes you literally go into shock from fear and you just freeze up. The human mind is not prepared to deal with that type of trauma so everyone reacts in different ways. You might just think about surviving and comply because you don't know what type of physical harm this person can cause you and you aren't willing to find out. Most rapes aren't like the movies and SVU where the dude is waving a knife or throwing you all around the room. If you are trying to push a man off of you and he is holding your wrists or using his body weight against you then that is coercion. If a woman is really willing to have sex than there shouldn't be any resistance. Alot of women convince themselves that they willingly had sex with these guys because the reality that they were raped is harder to swallow and accept. So much comes with having to recover from such trauma. Denial helps some women to function until the PTSD hits, whether it be 1 month later or 10 years later and they have no choice but to deal with it. Saying "NO" isn't the only sign to a man that you don't want to have sex either. They know. They just like to act like they don't.
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smaison
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Posted: Feb 23 2014 at 7:55pm |
petiteone29 wrote:
I don't think some people understand what it feels like when you are in that situation. Sometimes you literally go into shock from fear and you just freeze up. The human mind is not prepared to deal with that type of trauma so everyone reacts in different ways. You might just think about surviving and comply because you don't know what type of physical harm this person can cause you and you aren't willing to find out. Most rapes aren't like the movies and SVU where the dude is waving a knife or throwing you all around the room. If you are trying to push a man off of you and he is holding your wrists or using his body weight against you then that is coercion. If a woman is really willing to have sex than there shouldn't be any resistance. Alot of women convince themselves that they willingly had sex with these guys because the reality that they were raped is harder to swallow and accept. So much comes with having to recover from such trauma. Denial helps some women to function until the PTSD hits, whether it be 1 month later or 10 years later and they have no choice but to deal with it. Saying "NO" isn't the only sign to a man that you don't want to have sex either. They know. They just like to act like they don't. |
yes, yes, yes...especially to the bolded.
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