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Posted: Nov 25 2013 at 12:37pm

Nice guys lose each and every time. Don't waste his time.

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Posted: Nov 25 2013 at 5:47pm

NSA_agent wrote:

Settling does not work

If you value looks more than all the other things he brings to the table, don't waste each others time.

Umm I don’t think it’s so much about ‘looks’ as it is chemistry. That’s rather individual.

I remember when Heidi Klum talked about the first time she saw Seal … and her heart just flipped out. Well, another woman might see Seal and think (shrugs) he’s just a big African guy.. with a lot of scars on his face.

Chemistry is the thing you want in a relationship .. not ‘a nice guy’ that looks good on paper. That’s my point and I really don’t see how that can grow on a person - at least it's never worked that way for me in terms of a real long term relationship.

I think marriage is hard enough ... you have to have something solid to hold on to .. or it will get old too fast.

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Posted: Nov 25 2013 at 6:28pm

That's probably what I should have said in the beginning...I do think there's much chemistry between us. And his looks aren't helping. He looks like Anthony Anderson

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Posted: Nov 25 2013 at 6:28pm

Ugh I didn't know it would come out so big but you get the point LOL

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Posted: Nov 25 2013 at 8:45pm

Nah....I gotta feel a little attraction. If you aint feeling anything at all, move on. Don't waste ya cooch on ugly penis.

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Posted: Nov 26 2013 at 7:24am

If you are not attracted to him, don't even waste his time.. Looks are not everything, but they sure do help.. Don't settle because you would probably end up leaving him for someone you find attractive physically and emotionally.. If the chemistry ain't there then don't force it..

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Posted: Nov 26 2013 at 10:15am

Oh .. okay, I see what you mean OP. Actually, I don't find this guy bad looking but I would not wanna go boom boom with him either. He looks average to not so good looking...

For me .. when I first see a guy ...

- I can already tell if I find him attractive enough sleep with.

- When I meet him, speak with him and have eye to eye contact .. that's when I can tell if we have chemistry. This is based on the way he speaks, the light in his eyes, that pheromone thing etc

- The first time we kiss ... the pheromone thing really kicks in - then
I know we've got something special.

- If his perrsonality values etc.. fall in line with mine ... then we have chance.

This has nothing to do with race etc ..it is something you cannot quantify. But when you feel it .. you know it.

Now .. if he looked like Tyson. BOOM! But for sure if I met Tyson in person .. we would not have any chemistry because we would be too different on the inside.

Edited by Printer_Ink - Nov 26 2013 at 10:41am

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Posted: Nov 26 2013 at 10:19pm

I dated a guy that looked similar to Anthony...he was soo sweet but I wasn't physically attracted to him at all.. if he could wear a brown paper bag over his head 247 that would be perfect..

Lol I'm jus playin....I have to find something attractive physically.. or it won't work... but that's just me.

Tyson is too fine lol...I don't date guys that are prettier than me lol...but hey he might be a cool dude.

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Posted: Nov 27 2013 at 9:34pm

If you're not attracted to him say goodbye. Don't waste your time or his. I've never plet myself entertain this kind of situation. If I don't find you attractive, I'm not going to stay with you until I get used to your face. i either think you look good or I don't and that's that. If I don't, you're not getting further than friend mode.

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Posted: Nov 28 2013 at 12:28am

settle...why would you do that??