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BeatriceBean 
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 Posted: Dec 05 2012 at 3:27pm |
Don't take things personally, and don't internalize other people's problems (with you or otherwise). There are a lot of hurt people in the world, whether they show it or not, and being treated poorly isn't indicative of your worth.
And to that, stand up for yourself, and when the time comes, stand up for others. If you sit back and take abuse then you'll begin to think that you deserve it.
Edited by BeatriceBean - Dec 05 2012 at 4:15pm
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honeyb87
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Joined: Sep 10 2006
Location: Hotlanta
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Points: 41998
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Posted: Dec 05 2012 at 3:28pm |
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Build up on my talents
Improve my looks without obsessing over it
Stop trying to please everyone/ stop giving a fck
Being happy with what I already have
Being more comfortable with my weirdness and only accepting people who accept me
Strengthening my spirituality and connection with God
Learning new skills/trades
Going out by myself
Cutting people out of my life that are toxic or don't communicate with me anymore...
Acknowledge my accomplishments in case the "I am a loser" thought comes into my head
Exercise/detoxing regularly
Embrace people/situations/locations/ideas/items that entice my imagination.
Busy work (house cleaning, organizing papers, etc.)
Don't take criticism and negativity too seriously
...Just doing what makes ME happy.
Edited by honeyb87 - Dec 05 2012 at 3:28pm
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noneyons
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Points: 87160
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Posted: Dec 05 2012 at 4:11pm |
 to all you ladies!!!
I'ma add more when my mind is clear
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noneyons
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Posted: Dec 05 2012 at 4:16pm |
To elaborate on my initial post, some people might wonder why I put so much emphasis on how we treat one another.
Crazy as it may sound, this has been tried and true in my life. The way we treat other people is a refection of what we think of ourselves and it seems to have some miraculous ricochet effect to uplift others even when I'm feeling down.
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noneyons
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Posted: Dec 05 2012 at 4:22pm |
get to know yourself. tweak your imperfections and own who you are. every single last molecule of your beautiful self. No one can take away what you are.
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noneyons
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Posted: Dec 05 2012 at 4:37pm |
while its fresh in my mind, we have to CHOOSE happiness and be certain that happiness is really what we want.
No one would ever admit that they want to be unhappy but some of us are deceiving ourselves because, really, just like an addict is addicted to drugs, we're addicted to the drama, addicted to being miserable. When that's all we know, it becomes like our safe haven and we really enjoy waddling in it.
This has actually been proven scientifically.
I'll post a cute video about it later.
eta: drama is fun in small doses. just don't overdose on it 
Edited by noneyons - Dec 05 2012 at 4:39pm
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zsazsa
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Posted: Dec 05 2012 at 4:42pm |
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noneyons
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Posted: Dec 05 2012 at 5:33pm |
Don't allow yourself to be validated by anyone else. When you give someone else the power to boost you up, they also have the power to take it away. Take it all with a grain of salt and validate yourself.
Here's the video. I posted it in another thread a long time ago. Kinda long but its cute imo
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kkscottdale
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Posted: Dec 05 2012 at 5:50pm |
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I'm really vain( I'm a leo so...), however I'm realizing that being into your looks means that you're confident in them at all. It's the opposite. I'm trying to find a balance because I'm really subconscious of my flaws and I've been told it's in my head. It's a struggle. So I'm cruising in this thread and I agree with trying to not judge people. I realize that although I don't say what I'm thinking, I'm still internalizing the judgement, so that will have to stop. I also am trying to not taking everything personal( it really can make your life miserable). I just tell myself, "It's not all about you." But I also don't think it's all about the other person either. I just take the situation matter of fact and look at it objectively. I also have to tell my emotions to STOP. Because they really can cloud your judgement.
I used to have really poor self esteem( lord, my ratchet past). But it's gotten much better with age, but I know its a daily process.
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honeyb87
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Location: Hotlanta
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Posted: Dec 05 2012 at 6:01pm |
 kkscottdale wrote:
I'm really vain( I'm a leo so...), however I'm realizing that being into your looks means that you're confident in them at all. It's the opposite. I'm trying to find a balance because I'm really subconscious of my flaws and I've been told it's in my head. It's a struggle. So I'm cruising in this thread and I agree with trying to not judge people. I realize that although I don't say what I'm thinking, I'm still internalizing the judgement, so that will have to stop. I also am trying to not taking everything personal( it really can make your life miserable). I just tell myself, "It's not all about you." But I also don't think it's all about the other person either. I just take the situation matter of fact and look at it objectively. I also have to tell my emotions to STOP. Because they really can cloud your judgement.
I used to have really poor self esteem( lord, my ratchet past). But it's gotten much better with age, but I know its a daily process.
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OMG this!!! (and I'm a libra...we are just as vain) 
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