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    Posted: Dec 05 2012 at 10:50am
What steps have you taken to love yourself? What advice would you give to others?

I'ma name a few and come back later to list some more if anyone's interested in this thread. If it fades into oblivion, oh well.


-Refrain from judging other people's physical appearances. Judgement makes you insecure because we then tend to become more self conscious of our own flaws.

-Try to compliment at least one person every day (preferably a black woman if you are a black woman, a black man if you are a black man).

-Recognize your own weaknesses in others and give them the same pass you'd expect people to give you for your personality shortcomings.

-Treat others the way you want to be treated

-Take care of your physical appearance with regular grooming etc. When you look good (to you), you feel good.

I'll add more later...
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- I try to not to be so judgemental.(this is very hard for me)
 
-I compliment myself everyday.
 
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I think what helps me build my self esteem is by exceeding my expectations and mastering my skills and hobbies. I also think it's really important to not think you are better than others because of superficial things etc.
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I try to have a postive outlook on everything I do,
 
and instead of worrying about every possible negative outcome, I have to breath and remind myself that even if the situation turns out to be bad I will still be alive to tommorrow
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Take yourself on dates
Eat right/exercise
set daily goals
smile
dance to music when your alone
twerk Stern Smile <---- i've never known anyone to be sad while twerking. true story
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Originally posted by eanaj5<br />twerk <img src=smileys/smiley22.gif border=0 alt=Stern Smile title=Stern Smile /> <---- i've never known anyone to be sad while twerking. true story<br /><br /><br />[/QUOTE eanaj5
twerk Stern <---- i've never known anyone to be sad while twerking. true story


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I just died


I just died
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Originally posted by Harmonii Harmonii wrote:

Originally posted by eanaj5<BR>twerk <img src=smileys/smiley22.gif border=0 alt=Stern Smile title=Stern Smile /> <---- i've never known anyone to be sad while twerking. true story<BR><BR><BR></td></tr></table> <BR><BR><img src=smileys/smiley36.gif border=0 align=middle /> <img src=smileys/smiley36.gif border=0 align=middle /> I just died [/QUOTE eanaj5
twerk Stern <---- i've never known anyone to be sad while twerking. true story




I just died [/QUOTE wrote:

 
YASSSSS I flatlined...that is a valid point though.  That made my day. LMAO
 
YASSSSS I flatlined...that is a valid point though.  That made my day. LMAO
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Now I will add my advice:
 
Try not to compare myself and my life to others (I struggle with this one)
Be grateful and content with what you have
write down all of your accomplishments
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Look at it this way - if you meet someone that is a thnking intellent person, well educated, business minded and doing well for herself .. then you admore her. So .. you hold her in 'esteem'.
 
Well if you are building and developing yourselif, your work, your education, your language etc ( you don't have to brag about it or let folks know) .. then YOU are the person held in esteem by yourself. So .. this is self-esteem.
 
This would be the OPPOSITE of trying find rich man to give you 'things', relying  on having 'a man' to validate you, getting knocked up by several baby daddys, staying with a guy that cheats and later belittles you, getting in physical fights with men and women, dressing like a tramp .. and anything along these lines. This stuff screams 'I am so desparate that I am willing do anything for atttention'. These woman have low self-esteem.


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becky
whaaaa Confused

carry on Clap


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