Honestly? Umm people have been telling me I was 'pretty' my whole life. First my mother .. but I just thought she said that because she loved me. Hee hee! But then I got older and etc .. so for many years now - people describe me as 'beautiful'.
I am not saying that to brag .. I am saying that because I think if you are not given signals that you are pretty or whatever your whole life .. then that has got to set you up for another perception of who you are.
It's hard for me to live in their shoes and to know how they feel. Sometimes they will take this hard and become bitter and hateful so then ... people are gonna think they are unattractive both inside AND outside and blow them off.
Some folks take the high road though. Those are the ones that do the best they can with what God gave them. So, they get their hair together, their skin cleared up, their teeth straighten, wear decent clothes (not expensive) they just make sure are dressed decently and are freash and clean.
Yes, they develop themselves on the inside so they start to feel good about themselves and their accomplishments so then exude happiness, and beauty and yes .. they become attractive people that can pull a nice guy and have nice friends etc. People may not describe her as a beauty ... but they will describe her as attractive and will want to hang out with her.
Now, then there are girls that are very beautiful on the outside so .. they get a lot of attention. The problem is they relied too heavily on their looks and never developed anything on the INSIDE so they are arrogant and selfish etc .. and they MAY get a guy for a while .. but after a while he has to leave because he gets tired of how shallow she is. And this kind of girl has no girlfriends because even though she is beautiful .. she is jealous of anyone that not as beautiful ... but seems happier and has more going on for herself. So really, she has poor self esteem.
Then there are girls that are just somewhere in the middle.
I think .. in the end no matter how you look .. you have to develop yourself on the INSIDE if you want things to really show through on the outside.
(btw: Not to be shallow but ... if you don't like your lips or ears or nose or butt or breasts ... I don't see the point in going through life feeling bad about youself. Go and have surgery to have it corrected for goodness sakes. I am not saying go out do what Lil Kim or MJ did .. no, but if your nose is bothering you .. why not change it? I think a PROBLEM in the AA is that if you get something changed then everyone will be judging you because they think you want to be White. Hey, you can retain the shape of your nose - keep it ethnic .. and just have made smaller. When White people have too thin lips ... they get them fixed and made bigger and their White friends do not dog them and say they just to be Black. :(
Folks have gotta let up on PS guilt and AA people have got to have the backbone to change something and not be intimidated by what everyone else says.)
Edited by Printer_Ink - Apr 13 2013 at 7:58am