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    Posted: Apr 28 2014 at 10:47pm
My homegirl is killing me now, lol. Would you give a relationship a second try with someone where your relationship was disrespectful on both sides due to immaturity (bc of their age) on one person's end and the person being fed up and giving them a taste of their own medicine on the other, if you both have seemed to grow past it (years have gone by) and leave the past dead and buried?
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They could meet casually for lunch and have a chat. A lot can come out from that, but I don't advise rushing into dating when their past is full of drama. Better to not even think about it.


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HELL no. Disrespect in a relationship is already a dealbreaker for me. I have to like you to be with you. Even if I no longer have romantic feelings for you, it doesn't mean I hate you and have to treat you like sh*t.

I understand people have temperaments and all but I'd advise working a temperament out before even attempting a relationship. And if both parties are willing to get disrespectful with each other like it's nothing, I would not recommend them trying again.

You have to respect someone to give your heart to them. If you can't even respect someone, why would you trust them to hold your heart with care?

OP, you, or whoever is in this situation is going to do whatever they want. But I definitely would not recommend seeing this person again with the express intention to try again.

At least if there's going to be a meeting, be a simple lunch, be simple friends. Time has passed so gauge each other's maturity levels and most importantly, take your time. I'd tread VERY carefully about even THINKING of taking things further and I recommend just trying friendship.
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Originally posted by ScorpioLuv ScorpioLuv wrote:

My homegirl is killing me now, lol. Would you give a relationship a second try with someone where your relationship was disrespectful on both sides due to immaturity (bc of their age) on one person's end and the person being fed up and giving them a taste of their own medicine on the other, if you both have seemed to grow past it (years have gone by) and leave the past dead and buried?


If it was disrespectful on both sides THEN .... what makes them think that it would not be disrespectful on both sides ... NOW.

That's a poor dynamic in a relationship and typically when you restart the relationship the same issues resurface .. and you fall back into the same dysfunctional relationship patterns.

Sometimes there is 'unfinished business' that you may not even be aware of until something goes wrong and ZAP .. you get to get him/her BACK for an incident that happened X time ago. See,never got over whatever - can get ugly.

I say NO.

Learn from your mistakes in that relationship and start fresh with someone else.

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Originally posted by Printer_Ink Printer_Ink wrote:

Originally posted by ScorpioLuv ScorpioLuv wrote:

My homegirl is killing me now, lol. Would you give a relationship a second try with someone where your relationship was disrespectful on both sides due to immaturity (bc of their age) on one person's end and the person being fed up and giving them a taste of their own medicine on the other, if you both have seemed to grow past it (years have gone by) and leave the past dead and buried?


If it was disrespectful on both sides THEN .... what makes them think that it would not be disrespectful on both sides ... NOW.

That's a poor dynamic in a relationship and typically when you restart the relationship the same issues resurface .. and you fall back into the same dysfunctional relationship patterns.

Sometimes there is 'unfinished business' that you may not even be aware of until something goes wrong and ZAP .. you get to get him/her BACK for an incident that happened X time ago. See,never got over whatever - can get ugly.

I say NO.

Learn from your mistakes in that relationship and start fresh with someone else.
Thank you. That's what I tried to say. I'm going to let her read that others said the same thing
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Noooooooooo don't do it. I feel as if it didn't work out the first time, it won't work out the 2nd time. 

Sometimes an EX is just that for a reason and you just have to keep it on a friendship level, no matter how tempting it may be.....
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Tell your friend to stop wasting good years and leave that dead relationship alone.
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