| Gkisses wrote:|
| Allure. wrote:|
I never understood why gays/lesbians dress up like the opposite sex and wear it in public. I understand a man may be sexually attracted to another man, but that doesn't mean he has to dress up as a woman to act on it.
Being gay, in my opinion, is a sexual preference, not a life style. What he likes to do in his bedroom should stay there and shouldn't be flaunted to the rest of the world. That's like saying if a person likes S&M in the bedroom, it would be perfectly fine and normal if they wore leather bustiers, thongs, spike heels, whips, chains....etc...in public. No, that should all stay in the bedroom, because it's a sexual preference...not a lifestyle.
When men start dressing and acting like women just because they like penis, or women dress like men because they like vagina... that's when I start believing they have a mental problem and should seek counseling because there could be bigger issues going on.
Not every gay or lesbian person dress this way but regardless they dress that way for the same reasons you dress how you dress. It is apart of their identity. There are gay and lesbians who identity their gender as fem,masculine or andro just as that same identity exist within heteros and beyond. Clothing is nothing more than fabric and cloth that we attempt assign gender to. In various cultures around the world there are articles of clothing that many here would consider fem but are a sign of strength and masculinity in others. In the same way some people feel no woman should ever be caught in pants. Are you mentally disturbed because you know whats comfortable to you?To assign a mental disorder to someone just because they want to wear a style that society thinks they shouldnt wear is ignorant imo.
Sexual identity and sexuality is complex and isnt as simple as people wish to believe it is. Being in the GLBT community is different than that of a str8 persons but that doesnt mean there are no similarities. Many times people call it a lifestyle because they feel it is a choice however the culture that exist within the GBLT is different but shares many similarities to any other. People need realize that not all gay (wo)men act,dress like (wo)men or want to be (wo)men and that not all transgender ppl are homosexual. Folks just dont like it because it makes them uncomfortable.
I understand your point. Maybe I didn't word my first post correctly since it was just a quick rant that I typed out randomly.
I was referring to the confused men/women who actually believe they were born in the wrong body, or born as the wrong gender. Live their life as the opposite gender, and take drastic measures to "become" the opposite gender. It goes way beyond gender based clothes, fashion, style...etc. Their desire to be the opposite sex is so strong and severe that they're willing to butcher themselves in order to resemble their targeted identity. Saying things like "Even as a little boy, I always felt like a girl..." is all in their head.
I still stand by my belief that they're mentally ill with a gender identity disorder when they say they were born in the wrong body. A man who undergoes gender reassignment surgery, is and will always be a man, regardless of what he did to his exterior. No amount of surgery or pills will ever make them female. I didn't say this to offend anyone who feels a certain way about how I feel about this topic. I just broadcasted my thoughts on it.
That said, I don't think people are mentally unstable for being sexually attracted to the opposite sex though. Being gay or lesbian is their sexual preference, and that's fine. People like a lot of different things in the bedroom. Also, I don't think they're mentally unstable for just wearing whatever they feel like wearing either. They know they're men, but happen to like pink pants and penis. So what?! That's what they like. But, fashion trends or whatever, have nothing to do with the point I made.
Edited by Allure. - May 04 2013 at 11:19am