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    Posted: May 19 2014 at 4:32pm
If this isn't the most satisfying outcome to a story I've read in a long time, lmfaooooooo. NO pity for that dude! He deleted it after the clowning became too much. LOLLOLLOLLOLLOLLOL

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Dudes Demand for an Open Relationship Backfires Spectacularly

Happy Monday! Let's all celebrate the new week with a little sweet justice, in the form of a tale of woe plucked from Reddit: An anonymous dude is very upset that, after he maneuvered his "big girl" girlfriend into an open relationship so he could score with mad babes, she's getting loads more dates than him.

Poor baby.

The post originally appeared in the site's Relationships subreddit and has since been deleted, but lives on at the Redditlog archive. You see, this fella had a problem, which is that he really liked his "sweet, attentive, caring and supportive" girlfriend of two years, but his eyes had started to wander. He was feeling "disconnected from her and the relationship." So he created an account at sexed-up social network Fetlife (just to look at the pictures, honest!) and discovered lots of "hotter women" willing to chat with him.

Voila, a solution: Demand she admit to an open relationship, since "physically my desires were completely elsewhere," or they break up:

I spoke to her about this and, well, it broke her heart at the time. She was sobbing on me the whole night of me talking to her about it, saying she wanted to be monogamous and she didn't like the thought of an open relationship at all. She asked for a couple of weeks to think about it, which happened, but when we spoke about it again she told me she still didn't want to do it. I had to tell her at this point it was this or break up as I didn't feel fulfilled. At this, she said okay, she would try the open relationship.

Flames. Flames, on the side of my face.

But there's a twist! You see, OP's girlfriend decided to sign up for a Fetlife account, too. And suddenly, men are lining up:

There are men crawling all over her, her profile, her pictures she's put up. I know for a fact that she's been on a heck of a lot of dates, both with people from the website and off it, and I also know she's been intimate with many of them too (I keep seeing comments on her pictures saying vulgar things like 'God I miss my mouth around those beautiful breasts' etc from other men who I know she has been on dates with..)

Meanwhile, Mr. Rational has been on one date and has not hooked up with anyone. BUT WAIT, THERE'S MORE:

Just this past Friday night I go out to the late night shop, and on the main road I find my girlfriend standing outside a pub with a guy, holding hands and making out. He was at least 6'4, muscles everywhere you look, arms covered in tattoos (which I know my girlfriend likes). I feel like sh*t. My girlfriend sees me, immediately breaks away from him and comes over smiling all over her face. She hugs me, kisses me, then the guy comes and introduces himself. It was awkward as fuck honestly, but my girlfriend didn't seem to notice at all.

Afterward, as the girlfriend makes a trip to the ladies' room, the tatted-up giant tells the miserable little churl, "Mate, you're a better guy than I am. If I had a lady like that I wouldn't let anyone else touch her. Lucky for me you guys have this open thing going on." And numb-nuts still doesn't get it:

I'm going to be honest and say I have no idea why a guy like that is interested in my girlfriend and not out with a hot girl. I had no idea my girlfriend would get this much attention and it makes me feel like sh*t. I now realise if it's not this guy, it's going to be another with his hands all over my girlfriend.

It seems pretty clear he's basically using this woman, whom he does not appreciate physically, for hugs and smiles over breakfast. He wanted to have his cake and fuck it, too. And now that he's fallen flat on his face, he's mystified! He cannot even conceive that someone might want the whole package, enjoying her company and desiring her physically.

You'd think this would occasion some soul-searching and perhaps enlightenment. NOPE. Angry at the "unfair" turn this open relationship has taken (he really uses the term unfair! as though functional open relationships were about scorecards!), this very frustrated dude now wants advice on how to "close" the relationship again.

God willing, in the week since this originally appeared on Reddit, his girlfriend has dropped her ungrateful toad of a boyfriend like a hot rock and has just called in sick to spend the day boinking the guy with the tattoos.

The post is a beautiful little flower growing on a massive sh*t heap of entitlement. In fact, it's such a pitch-perfect story of one man's comeuppance that I can't help but wonder whether it isn't a lively bit of fiction dropped into a corner of the Internet primed to have kittens over it. But even if it's fake, it's still a thing of beauty, a lovely little Aesop's fable.

The masterpiece in full:

Ok. This is long but I have a lot to get off my chest.

How we met: We met about 2.5 years ago on OkCupid. She lived close, we met up and got on well. After a few months we decided to get together. We were not open at this point. The relationship was great emotionally. She was sweet, attentive, caring and supportive. We also had a lot in common and had fun together, which is what I lacked in previous relationships so I was keen to keep this one and still am.

Becoming open: Around 6-7 months ago give or take, I found myself feeling disconnected from her and the relationship. I was looking at other women quite a bit, and couldn't seem to stop even though I DID feel guilty. I ended up singing up to a sex-themed website (fetlife.com). This is NOT a dating website, I wasn't planning to cheat when I signed up, it's more a social network and I was mainly interested in looking at pictures posted there.

When I was on this website it was like I found what I thought I was missing. Loads of hot girls, who seemed happy to interact with me, mainly. I started commenting on pictures and girls started talking, flirting with me. I knew things were getting inappropriate for the relationship but I couldn't stop. I really wanted to hook up and date again, and experience these other women.

Not meaning offense to my girlfriend, but she's a big girl (had been since I dated her though so I didn't feel it was my place to say anything) and while I enjoyed her body, I can't deny that the draw of all the hotter women on the website who were seemingly interested in me was too much and I was feeling more and more disconnected from my relationship with this gaping hole in my needs not being met. I still loved my girlfriend and she fulfilled me emotionally, but physically my desires were completely elsewhere. Eventually I realised that the best thing for me to do would be to open up the relationship or break up with my girlfriend.

I spoke to her about this and, well, it broke her heart at the time. She was sobbing on me the whole night of me talking to her about it, saying she wanted to be monogamous and she didn't like the thought of an open relationship at all. She asked for a couple of weeks to think about it, which happened, but when we spoke about it again she told me she still didn't want to do it. I had to tell her at this point it was this or break up as I didn't feel fulfilled. At this, she said okay, she would try the open relationship.

So, in short, she agreed to the open relationship even though she hated the idea as she didn't want to break up. She wanted to know how an open relationship worked so I set down a few ground rules and boundaries which we both agreed to. Mainly things like.. sleep with whoever you want whenever you want, but always with protection. Casual dating is allowed as long as the person you're dating knows the situation (since it's hard to sleep with someone without a date first). Our relationship shouldn't suffer and we still need to be there for each other. etc.

My Problem. Less than two months later from this, she's signed up on FetLife too and now 100% enjoying herself. There are men crawling all over her, her profile, her pictures she's put up. I know for a fact that she's been on a heck of a lot of dates, both with people from the website and off it, and I also know she's been intimate with many of them too (I keep seeing comments on her pictures saying vulgar things like 'God I miss my mouth around those beautiful breasts' etc from other men who I know she has been on dates with..)

Me, on the other hand? I've not hooked up with anyone, and only had one date. All the women who seemed to be interested in me turned out to only want to flirt online and only wanted attention, and when I brought up meeting up with any of them I got rejected. The only women who wanted to at all meet me or go out with me I wasn't attracted to. I went out with one local girl from Fetlife just to give it a chance, because my own girlfriend had found so many dates/hookups, but I just couldn't bring myself to be attracted and nothing happened. I havn't been able to find anyone else who wants to sleep with me off the website either. Me and my girlfriend still date and sleep together of course, but besides that I'm completely dry. I don't think this is at all fair on me considering how many dates she's been on and I imagine how many guys she's *&%^$#@Eed.

It got worse recently. Just this past Friday night I go out to the late night shop, and on the main road I find my girlfriend standing outside a pub with a guy, holding hands and making out. He was at least 6'4, muscles everywhere you look, arms covered in tattoos (which I know my girlfriend likes). I feel like sh*t. My girlfriend sees me, immediately breaks away from him and comes over smiling all over her face. She hugs me, kisses me, then the guy comes and introduces himself. It was awkward as honestly, but my girlfriend didn't seem to notice at all. After stupid chitchat I tell them I need to get going, at which my girlfriend tells me she loves me, kisses me and that she will text me the next day as she wanted a date with me the next night. She then says she's going to go into the pub to visit the bathroom, and asked her "date" to wait outside for her and then after they'll "get going" (back to her place I assume..).

So I start to walk away as she goes into the pub to the bathroom, and I hear the guy say "Hey" behind me. I swear he had the biggest sh*t eating grin all over his face. He said to me "Mate, you're a better guy than I am. If I had a lady like that I wouldn't let anyone else touch her. Lucky for me you guys have this open thing going on". He said it like he was pretending to be friendly, but obviously it was a dig because he could tell I wasn't happy right then. I just nodded and walked off.

My girlfriend rang me Saturday afternoon and I told her what happened and what the guy said, but she swears that he was just being complimentary/polite to me and that he's from FetLife, and knows all about our relationship and my own profile on there which is why he was chatting to me. I told her that I still thought his comment was inappropriate and that I didn't want her dating this guy again, to which she said 'Okay' but she obviously wasn't happy about it. I didn't ask if they had hooked up, because I could already tell they had with how she was all over him. I told her I didn't feel like I wanted to hangout that night. She hasn't contacted me since then.

I feel like utter sh*t. I'm going to be honest and say I have no idea why a guy like that is interested in my girlfriend and not out with a hot girl. I had no idea my girlfriend would get this much attention and it makes me feel like sh*t. I now realise if it's not this guy, it's going to be another with his hands all over my girlfriend. She has guys all over her, most likely just using her, but most of them more attractive than me and god knows what else............ and I only manage to get one date with someone I wasn't even attracted to. I still feel unfulfilled.

I'm on her FetLife profile now while writing this and I have to look at this sh*t every day, and her relishing in it without ANY thought to my lack of dates. Not once has she asked me about my dates or who I've met off FetLife, and it's obvious my profile is barren of any interaction compared to hers.

I can't really fault the relationship I have with my girlfriend if I'm honest. She's still her sweet, supportive self and she does make time for me, but I feel this open relationship has gotten really unfair now.

So that's it. I don't want to break up with her but I want it to stop, and to close the relationship again. But because it was my idea to open it, and we went through that difficulty before she started enjoying it, I don't know how to bring it up or what I say when I do. I just know it's got to stop now and this can't be healthy for either of us.

tl;dr: Asked my girlfriend for an open relationship so we could both date and sleep with other people. My girlfriend has been on way too many dates and I'm sure she's hooked up with a good few too. I havn't. Feel the open relationship has gotten way too unfair towards me and I want to close it, but because it was my idea I don't know how to bring it up to her. Need advice on how to do this and close the relationship again. LOLLOLLOLLOLLOLLOLLOL


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Edited by Midna - May 19 2014 at 4:46pm
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Lol.....be careful what you ask for.
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midna that is too dang long

We need a summary and pictures
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Post Options Post Options   Thanks (12) Thanks(12)   Quote Midna Quote  Post ReplyReply Direct Link To This Post Posted: May 19 2014 at 4:41pm
This dude had the nerve to say it isn't going "fair" for him because she's getting more action than him, LMAO

Man, where is my cup?
http://37.media.tumblr.com/16b965d3d3c1efa035253bf8ad651d35/tumblr_mttzznC2jF1qk9v7io1_500.jpg
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Post Options Post Options   Thanks (0) Thanks(0)   Quote Midna Quote  Post ReplyReply Direct Link To This Post Posted: May 19 2014 at 4:42pm
Originally posted by rickysrose rickysrose wrote:

midna that is too dang long

We need a summary and pictures



IT IS WORTH IT, LOL LOL


Edit: Italicized the quotes so it's easier to read and discern. Tongue


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as 1sexytina1 says..."i can give away more p*ssy than you could ever get"...


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Originally posted by rickysrose rickysrose wrote:

midna that is too dang long

We need a summary and pictures


It's there.

Originally posted by Midna Midna wrote:

If this isn't the most satisfying outcome to a story I've read in a long time, lmfaooooooo. NO pity for that dude! He deleted it after the clowning became too much. LOLLOLLOLLOLLOLLOL

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tl;dr: Asked my girlfriend for an open relationship so we could both date and sleep with other people. My girlfriend has been on way too many dates and I'm sure she's hooked up with a good few too. I havn't. Feel the open relationship has gotten way too unfair towards me and I want to close it, but because it was my idea I don't know how to bring it up to her. Need advice on how to do this and close the relationship again. LOLLOLLOLLOLLOLLOLLOL


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I personally don't believe the story. But maybe that's just my skepticism.
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Originally posted by Midna Midna wrote:

This dude had the nerve to say it isn't going "fair" for him because she's getting more action than him, LMAO

Man, where is my cup?
http://37.media.tumblr.com/16b965d3d3c1efa035253bf8ad651d35/tumblr_mttzznC2jF1qk9v7io1_500.jpg
 
LOLLOL  The dude has a lot of nerve to cry over her getting more action than he is.   He better go kick some rocks.
 
Btw, I want that cup!  I'm going to look for it online now.
 
 
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Post Options Post Options   Thanks (5) Thanks(5)   Quote afrokock Quote  Post ReplyReply Direct Link To This Post Posted: May 19 2014 at 4:56pm
you dont ask for an open relationship with a closed black book

or without a steady stream of culo


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