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My cousin's father always talks down to her. She is 28  years old and he constantly spreads negative things about her to people. He never gives her compliments about anything or highlights any of her accomplishments AT ALL. The funny thing is that he compliments everyone else around her. For example he always comments negatively on her weight, but would compliment another person with the same weight.  He is so called generous to everyone else such as his neices and nephews, but every thing he does or gives to his children he is always throwing it in their faces and spreading it to everyone else about how much he does for his children when he was never a suportive father growing up. In fact her mother had to take them for child support.  I am just curious to hear of reasons why a father would treat their first child like that.
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He is an asshole? Some people as just asses.
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Is he her real (biological) father?  Ex:  Mom and dad were together.  Mom got cheated and got pregnant. Dad forgave mom and signed birth certificate as if daughter was his biological but deep inside he has some resentment towards the situation.  He helped raise her as his daughter but displays negative behavior towards her because he knows that she's by another man.  

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Also, some men get mad at their "baby's mommy" and displace the anger on their kids.  Several things come to me:  1)  He didn't want the baby and mom had her anyway.  He mad mom put him on child support so he mad.   2)  He's just plain trifling as a man.   He was never taught how to be a decent father by his own father. 
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she is 29 years old is always running her name through the mud to EVERYONEEEEEEEEE.

He even sides with the entire family when they try to run her down.  she a decent girl. has a good job, no children, no drug problem.....but whenever there is a bad spell oh boy he slanders her name.  If he has to give her $20 everyone knows about it.


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It has to hurt when your father is not even in your own court and constantly hurting your peace of mind.  For the sake of her sanity, sometimes you have to cut people out your life.  Yes, this includes your father. (I did and am better for it).
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what was the last straw that made you decide to do it?
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Originally posted by tropicalstorm tropicalstorm wrote:

My cousin's father always talks down to her. She is 28  years old and he constantly spreads negative things about her to people. He never gives her compliments about anything or highlights any of her accomplishments AT ALL. The funny thing is that he compliments everyone else around her. For example he always comments negatively on her weight, but would compliment another person with the same weight.  He is so called generous to everyone else such as his neices and nephews, but every thing he does or gives to his children he is always throwing it in their faces and spreading it to everyone else about how much he does for his children when he was never a suportive father growing up. In fact her mother had to take them for child support.  I am just curious to hear of reasons why a father would treat their first child like that.
 
It's already been said .. he is displacing his anger toward someone else (like the mother) on to her. ConfusedOr yes, it could be that he does not believe she is his bio child because of something the mother did etc. It's something though because that behaviour is not natural. Either way .. he is taking it all out on her.
 
If it means anything .. the fact that she has a job and is doing well for herself in life indicates that his attempts to destroy her mentally have failed. (You know a lot of people that are dogged out by their father become depressed and self destructive etc.)
 
I hope she has the sense to stay away - just cut him out of her life -  because something is wrong with him ... and I wouldn't count on that changing at his age. Shocked
 
I have had to cut out family members too because they were crazy and I don't regret it one bit. Everytime I hear about some number they have pulled on someone ... I just shake my head and think how glad I am that I am done with them. Clap
 
No ... just stay away.


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