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Originally posted by PurplePhase PurplePhase wrote:

Originally posted by GG GG wrote:


She has a good relationship with the kids?
She's head over heels lol
My friend calls dudes like this "Washed up has beens"


she gets along great with the 15 year old girl. The others are away at college so they don't see each other that often but they like her. Neighbor's mom was telling daughter that with  2 kids still in college and another one about to go, that's going to be expensive.

 


Tru but they seem like they want to make it work
Hope they stay married and have many happy years to come
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you seem very positive and sweet, gg...he's leaving a woman close to 40 who he's probably emotionally traumatized(ok, i'm being biased since im a woman) to trade her in for a new, younger 25 yr old with a sunny outlook.  you're the one with everything to lose.  he has nothing to lose.  
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Originally posted by ms_wonderland ms_wonderland wrote:

you seem very positive and sweet, gg...he's leaving a woman close to 40 who he's probably emotionally traumatized(ok, i'm being biased since im a woman) to trade her in for a new, younger 25 yr old with a sunny outlook.  you're the one with everything to lose.  he has nothing to lose.  


Thanks and you could be right since I only have his side of the story
They could've had a rough time
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Do you have a older family member you can talk to about men and love ? Please be careful with your heart and body. Many men will lie about the mother and kids relationship, to enjoy a young woman for a short time . You seem like a very nice young lady .

Sometimes what we call love is just a settling of old scores, or a seeking of forbidden pain, or a circuitous path to the kingdom of cruelty, or you may simply have confused lack of love with heroism while searching for rescue without knowing from what. I would ask more direct questions during your next date with the man .  I would want better for my daughter . Good luck .Smile


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Originally posted by GG GG wrote:

Originally posted by oh_so_moody oh_so_moody wrote:

Originally posted by GG GG wrote:

Originally posted by ms_wonderland ms_wonderland wrote:

Originally posted by GG GG wrote:

Originally posted by ms_wonderland ms_wonderland wrote:

how many kids does he have? 


4


you can do better than that.  don't do it.  imagine having children with him, can he really support you/your family emotionally and financially being stretched so thin?

and if he didn't marry her after 4 kids then...
or if it's more than one mom...
if they're divorced i know some decent money is being forked over every month.



He makes a lot
He only supports the children and no longer pays the exes bills
I think they're divorced


I thought u said they were already divorced?


It's a new relationship
I'm still gathering concrete details




Girl that is the first detail you should have gathered. You aren't sure if he is divorced ! Red Flag
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Girl that is the first detail you should have gathered. You aren't sure if he is divorced ! Red Flag


Lol I got his version of the details
They're not together
He mentioned he was going on a date and it got back to her
Oh well...

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ASk him to meet ex wife/bm and see how he reacts. That right there alone can tell you a lot. 


And anyways GG you do seem nice and I think that this dude has kind of lived his life. You are young and have so much living to do. Don't take on that burden. I have 5 bio kids and 1 stepkid and its a lot of work. I don't mind because they are me and my hubby's responsibilities. If I was a single person I damn sure wouldn't want to take on these responsibilities for someone else's kids.
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Your to young to be dealing with a man with that much drama especially if you don't have any kids.
Im dealing with a man that has sole custody of his he has one and so do I so I don't mind but Ive never dated a man with more children than me.
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If he just got divorced 6 months ago, I can see why the fam wouldn't watch his kids while he's on a date. They probably want the wife and him to get back together.
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