| jonesable wrote:|
my boo is awesome with money.he helped me start a savings and he has a background in finances.his bills and the rest are fine. His student loans are paid already and has no debt..i have to give h credit for tht.he would be an awesome provider
As I said, it's not necessarily about the money (though that can't be ignored).
It's the fact that if y'all were married you would be supporting a grown ass man plus 5 dependents.
Every time he's making a payment on bro's cell bill, that's $x that's not going into y'alls savings or whatever.
I'm not saying let family starve or anything like that. But I am saying that the ish ain't right and it won't be good for your marriage. Especially if the brother keeps having more babies he can't afford and not trying to improve his own situation.
What happens when y'all have kids and now your husband wants to do things for them but has to foot the bill for EVERYONE? It's just not sustainable.