How did I miss this thread?
I think OP is right to an extent. I think the media perpetuates the idea that long, flowing hair is the ideal for all women, which is why Kim Kardashian and many black women invest so much time and money into weaves.
I do believe that women in general aspire to resemble whatever it is that they believe their ideal man finds attractive.
Its kind of a convoluted topic because its not always just that simple. However, I do agree that for some it is a complex rooted in Eurocentric ideals.