| SweetNovember* wrote:|
They are afraid to stray from this and aren't aware or won't admit why.
| nekamarie83 wrote:|
for them, it's not that deep and they go with what they know how to maintain.
this i can definitely
agree with. while i can't say they're all afraid (obviously), i can speak for me.
for me, i was afraid of the reaction. no one likes to feel or be told they're unattractive and in my life, personal and media, nappy was a 4 letter word. why? no idea. since i was a kid i LOVED afros, but that's not what we did. black was beautiful. nappy, not so much.
eventually, i figured f*ck it. why am i even doing this? i'm tired of the perms; it's my head and i will do what i want. if no one else, i will still love me and think i'm beautiful. my family/ex weren't particularly supportive, but they realized i wasn't going back. they've grown over time and find my hair to be a genuinely beautiful extension of me. they say it "makes sense" and, oddly, they don't really remember me with relaxed hair.
the end. sha la la laaaaaaa