hating your hair right now is okay.. we have to start somewhere in our journey.
If it's not "acting the way we expect it to" well, it makes a person pretty damn angry.
calling it nappy right now? is okay too.. that's how you feel. nothing wrong with that.
i used those same words before starting my hair journey - and then some.
It took me a couple of years before i stopped fighting it, and learned to work with it. If you're at the beginning of your hair journey like i was? THIS BOARD is a good place to start.
On another famous black hair forum (LHCF)? i had to be "politically correct
" while venting.
for my frustration? i had over 15 pages of being flamed off of LHCF for using "certain words/phrases" that pissed some members off - to this day..
One of them came over to this board about 3-4 years later - STILL pissed off when she saw me posting - and tried to let me have it - AGAIN. now how dumb/vindictive is that?
over time, you will embrace and nurture it into growing.. it doesn't really matter what color your husband is, what matters is he cares enough to TRY to give suggestions.
At this point, hun, you don't have to start a post.. you'll have to start researching. There's a lot of material right here at your fingertips. Find the thread, and take in all of the information.. You'll do just fine.