I wish I could start a topic. Hi all. I want to share my thoughts on my hair right now. Right now I am done with my natural hair. I have been totally natural for about a year and a half. I really thought as it got longer it would become easier to deal with. Instead it tangles and gets knots all the time. I just found two small dreads in the back of my head that I didn't even know were there. I had to cut them off.
I HATE my hair so much. It is thick and unruly and has no curl definition. It is nappy. If I want it to lay down at all I have to absolutely goop hair gel into my hair which feels like I am wearing a helmet and also takes a long time to dry. It also seems to dry my hair out while stuff like eco styler isn't as strong and stays wet.
Oh and by the way, my hair is ALWAYS dry. It is like hay. I have tried everything to add moisture and softness. Nothing works. Whats worse is that products often do not absorb very well into my hair so it just sits on top and just looks like I didn't rinse my hair properly.
My hair doesn't look much longer than it did a year ago even though I know it's grown. It's frustrating because there is a woman at work who is Caucasian. We started work around the same time. She had hair that was shorter than mine. She began growing it out at that time we started working together. I have watched her hair progress over the past few weeks and her hair seems to be getting longer than mine and theoretically my hair should be as long as or longer than hers.
I do almost nothing to my hair. I use a tangle tamer to untangle it, but I don't have all day to sit around and do my hair and constantly be in it twisting it and trying different styles. Basically I put it in a pony tail or a bun. Still, even though I try not to mess with it too much in order to prevent breakage, I see hair all over my bathroom - tiny little naps all over the place.
Finally, my husband, who is white, told me today he thinks I would be taken more seriously in my career if I bought a wig. I am trying to get ahead at work. He said my hair makes me look like I can't afford to get my hair done. He said this in the nicest way possible but he still said it.
That's it. I'm so done. I hate my hair. To be honest my hair was happiest when it was getting pressed but forget going out into the rain or swimming. I am so frustrated. Thanks for listening.