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Besides speaking i can't talk to people i don't feel a connection with it just seems like im being fake.
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Originally posted by rell85 rell85 wrote:

Besides speaking i can't talk to people i don't feel a connection with it just seems like im being fake.
I feel sort of the same way even though I dont really have convos. the way people talk in general seem kinda disingenuous to me all together though.
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Originally posted by Josephuss Josephuss wrote:

Originally posted by rell85 rell85 wrote:

Besides speaking i can't talk to people i don't feel a connection with it just seems like im being fake.
I feel sort of the same way even though I dont really have convos. the way people talk in general seem kinda disingenuous to me all together though.
Small talk kills me inside. When I meet new people I try never to do small talk. I usually start talking about myself and whatever happened to me and then they can chime in if they want, but if not then I'm already coming up with an escape plan to get out of that convo, because I aint got no time for awkward situations
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Originally posted by noneyons noneyons wrote:


the "problem" with some introverts is that we have a tendency to over think and over analyze everything including ourselves and our thoughts. we second guess ourselves and even second guess our best qualities that only we know exist in our heads lol. 

so taking on an alter ego personality to me doesn't mean exhibiting traits that are completely opposite of who you are. instead, i think we should hone all those awesome qualities that sometimes only we know about, wrap them up in a pretty little bow (give him/her a nameLOL) and put them on display when we find ourselves in situations that call for us to get outside our heads. 

i don't know if that makes sense  


I do that a lot, I analyze too much, it is really bad, I waste time on that.

Have you tried an alter-ego? And if so, who did you emulate?
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i don't necessarily emulate anyone per say. but i do take inspiration from people. some celebrities. like tyra banks and kerry washington for example lol. 

i love how they are such beautiful women but at the same time seem to be so comfortable in their skin while at the same time allowing others to shine just the same. 

when i'm in my head and think i should smother my light, i think about people like them who embrace all that they are. i think they had positive reinforcements to get them to where they are. i didn't really so they inspire me. 
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Originally posted by coconess coconess wrote:

i want you to realize that your chair dont mean shiiit. 

youre still smart, youre still cool, you have a lot to offer besides your legs… and fck anyone who says or feels different. 

you dont have to have the best social skills.. youre amazing enough to be choosy with who you choose to socialize/be talkative with.. 

tell yourself you are great everyday.. something about you..

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Some may consider me a introvert, I see it as being picky about who I talk to. 
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I don't want to be another person

I like the way I am

I agree I over analyze but honestly outside of dealing with people, it really isn't the worse quality to have

I can make myself appear more outgoing when I want or need to and that is something I learned with age

I do it mostly for work or around certain family members

other family members I am completely my self around and trust so nothing feels forced

I get being more social is needed but I refuse to act like enjoying my own company more than others sometimes and not needing to be the center of attention is something I need to change
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Samone, it isn't about being another person. I don't want to be anyone else either but it is really hard for me to be around a group of people. Like, a classroom, I just can't bother to participate in the chatting going on. I like people, I love talking, but I just can't jump in. So if I emulate someone or model some celebrity who is very extrovert, then I won't look awkward.

One time I tried to do something out of character and it was just weird, even people who didn't know me noticed. So maybe playing Sasha Fierce (lol) or just modeling some enthusiastic person, I won't be awkward when I play extrovert for a bit.
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well I get what you are saying if your are trying find your comfort zone but I think it is okay if you are the quieter one in the bunch

people love talking about themselves and being validated

act like you are interested and like what are saying is worth listening to (I mean that is if you you don't actually find them interesting)

we get stuck in our own heads and are fine there but since the majority are constantly looking to connect it's important to acknowledge that and feign a connection every once in awhile

I feel like you can still be you even as you are trying to appear a bit more social than you usually are



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