Tightly coiled hair, flat noses and very flat lips are the most hated attributes on this planet for no fuking reason.
I see little kids, male & female being treated badly (verbally) because after being on the playground playing or playing freely in the park or pool, their hair rolls up like this (see photos below). NO ONE EVER STANDS UP ANDSAYS, damm, it is the nature of our beautiful hair for the coils to become more tightly coiled when we perspire on the scalp, of course the little's child's hair will pill up into teeny tiny coils. Nooo, people say 'why didnt your daddy get your hair cut? Where is your brush? No one taught you to brush your hair? What kind of mother doesnt brush & brush her child's hair? When a child with a more smooth curl pattern is in the same playground and their hair coils up, its 'oohh he/she has some curly hair! Little heart breaker!
). THENNN the same negative logic unfolds when the child grows to adulthood - they dont realize that the nature of their hair is to coil up tightly with some people having hair without high sheen.
I thank the ancestors that I was born in the 1970s in a pro-black, pan-African, enlightened environment where 4c was nothing to lecture about and the most that a person would say about a 'nappy' afro was , "You were blessed with a head full of hair!
" which is very different from the current culture of those naturals that hate nappy that are piling balms & butters onto the hair then twisting and untwisting the hair obsessively not just for style, but also for fear that someone is going to realize just how 'nappy' their hair really is.
I love my hair. I love my Momma & Daddy's nappy hair and I will love my future little babies nappy hair. I really dont discuss natural hair in person much or watch the youtube vids much b/c they tend to veer into an awkward direction of people bashing their own hair as being dry and unmanageable and then raving about a more sleek coily curl. I lose respect when I see that happen. It is sad and I cant relate.