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Topic: what would u do if your son displayed feminine...
Posted By: mizzsandra00
Subject: what would u do if your son displayed feminine...
Date Posted: Jul 25 2014 at 6:58pm
Let him be himself.....these young boy gay prostitutes are at an all time high.....



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Posted By: Josephuss
Date Posted: Jul 25 2014 at 6:59pm
mannerisms at like a young age? would you promote them or try to suppress them? question seems strange but I remember seeing a boy dancing like beyonce and most were wondering who allowed such a thing. well atleast I was. anyway do you try to enforce more male behavior or let him play with your nail polish if he wants?


Posted By: mizzsandra00
Date Posted: Jul 25 2014 at 7:01pm
Originally posted by Josephuss Josephuss wrote:

Originally posted by mizzsandra00 mizzsandra00 wrote:

Let him be himself.....these young boy gay prostitutes are at an all time high.....
but thats a bad thing

What that he's gay? No its not....tis life....


Posted By: Josephuss
Date Posted: Jul 25 2014 at 7:02pm
Originally posted by mizzsandra00 mizzsandra00 wrote:

Let him be himself.....these young boy gay prostitutes are at an all time high.....
but thats a bad thing


Posted By: phattrabbit
Date Posted: Jul 25 2014 at 7:03pm
I was so scared to have a boy bc I didnt want to have to deal with that. Not even the fact him being gay or watever but the teasing from the other boys and being called a sissy or beaten up. I dont think I could handle it. Thank God I had a girl.


Posted By: Josephuss
Date Posted: Jul 25 2014 at 7:05pm
Originally posted by mizzsandra00 mizzsandra00 wrote:

Originally posted by Josephuss Josephuss wrote:

Originally posted by mizzsandra00 mizzsandra00 wrote:

Let him be himself.....these young boy gay prostitutes are at an all time high.....
but thats a bad thing


What that he's gay? No its not....tis life....
he might not end up gay if certain tendencies are squashed


Posted By: Josephuss
Date Posted: Jul 25 2014 at 7:06pm
......


Posted By: ModelessDiva
Date Posted: Jul 25 2014 at 7:06pm

I'm just mad you said femineine tbh


Posted By: ms_wonderland
Date Posted: Jul 25 2014 at 7:08pm
Originally posted by Josephuss Josephuss wrote:

Originally posted by mizzsandra00 mizzsandra00 wrote:

Originally posted by Josephuss Josephuss wrote:

Originally posted by mizzsandra00 mizzsandra00 wrote:

Let him be himself.....these young boy gay prostitutes are at an all time high.....
but thats a bad thing


What that he's gay? No its not....tis life....
he might not end up gay if certain tendencies are squashed

Ook sharing the drivel you're learning at church now.


Posted By: Meme0887
Date Posted: Jul 25 2014 at 7:09pm
Stern Smile Smh...


Posted By: Josephuss
Date Posted: Jul 25 2014 at 7:10pm
Originally posted by ModelessDiva ModelessDiva wrote:


I'm just mad you said femineine tbh
I spelled it right at first but it looked odd, so I made it even odder


Posted By: bunzaveli
Date Posted: Jul 25 2014 at 7:10pm
Originally posted by ms_wonderland ms_wonderland wrote:

Originally posted by Josephuss Josephuss wrote:

Originally posted by mizzsandra00 mizzsandra00 wrote:

Originally posted by Josephuss Josephuss wrote:

Originally posted by mizzsandra00 mizzsandra00 wrote:

Let him be himself.....these young boy gay prostitutes are at an all time high.....
but thats a bad thing


What that he's gay? No its not....tis life....
he might not end up gay if certain tendencies are squashed

Ook sharing the drivel you're learning at church now.


Posted By: callmeDEva
Date Posted: Jul 25 2014 at 7:10pm
let him be himself. it's going to be only natural his dad and I push gender-norms. like sports, male clothes. etc.

but if we notice he opposes those things, we're going to let him do his thing. i've learned that the support from a young gay/lesbian's parents makes world of a difference.

i know one thing though, if my son is gay. he's going to be fierce. mama will make sure of that.


Posted By: mizzsandra00
Date Posted: Jul 25 2014 at 7:10pm
You cannot suppress the love of dick.....


Posted By: Josephuss
Date Posted: Jul 25 2014 at 7:13pm
Originally posted by ms_wonderland ms_wonderland wrote:

Originally posted by Josephuss Josephuss wrote:

Originally posted by mizzsandra00 mizzsandra00 wrote:

Originally posted by Josephuss Josephuss wrote:

Originally posted by mizzsandra00 mizzsandra00 wrote:

Let him be himself.....these young boy gay prostitutes are at an all time high.....
but thats a bad thing


What that he's gay? No its not....tis life....
he might not end up gay if certain tendencies are squashed


Ook sharing the drivel you're learning at church now.
they dont go into detail about homosexuality at the kingdom hall. some behavior though is due to family circumstance that could be corrected with no harm


Posted By: ms_wonderland
Date Posted: Jul 25 2014 at 7:14pm
mhm..so he can grow up as a nice church going family man that hires gay prostitutes on the side.


Posted By: mizzsandra00
Date Posted: Jul 25 2014 at 7:15pm
Originally posted by ms_wonderland ms_wonderland wrote:

mhm..so he can grow up as a nice church going family man that hires gay prostitutes on the side.





Posted By: Random Thoughts
Date Posted: Jul 25 2014 at 7:16pm
Originally posted by phattrabbit phattrabbit wrote:

I was so scared to have a boy bc I didnt want to have to deal with that. Not even the fact him being gay or watever but the teasing from the other boys and being called a sissy or beaten up. I dont think I could handle it. Thank God I had a girl.


Girls don't get teased?


Posted By: Josephuss
Date Posted: Jul 25 2014 at 7:17pm
Originally posted by mizzsandra00 mizzsandra00 wrote:

You cannot suppress the love of bleep.....
but what if hes mimmicing female behavior for non sexual reason. some wanna prove thier so open they promote ideas that the child doesnt fully have until those ideas manifest.


Posted By: Josephuss
Date Posted: Jul 25 2014 at 7:20pm
Originally posted by ms_wonderland ms_wonderland wrote:

mhm..so he can grow up as a nice church going family man that hires gay prostitutes on the side.
see you assume not stoping certain behavior results in those types of situations while you allowing that behavior might promote and be the cause of it


Posted By: ms_wonderland
Date Posted: Jul 25 2014 at 7:27pm
Originally posted by Josephuss Josephuss wrote:

Originally posted by ms_wonderland ms_wonderland wrote:

mhm..so he can grow up as a nice church going family man that hires gay prostitutes on the side.
see you assume not stoping certain behavior results in those types of situations while you allowing that behavior might promote and be the cause of it

I think the situation I'm talking about is the result of pressure from family and society to conform.  Everyone is different.  There are feminine acting straight men and masculine acting straight women.  




Posted By: coconess
Date Posted: Jul 25 2014 at 7:48pm
i think theres a difference between 'squashing' things you see in a young boy.. and really trying to change them. 

i know my little (male) cousin used to cry all the time when he was a young boy.. and he was just real soft acting from being around like nothing but females.. but then his dad started being around him more and the women too start teaching him not to cry all the time. He really like never cried after that and hes different. not necessarily like he was meant to be gay and they changed him.. but they just nipped some things in the bud. 
he just turned 17 today.. Cry they grow so fast. 
hes def not gay he was just taught to be stronger 


Posted By: ms_wonderland
Date Posted: Jul 25 2014 at 7:57pm
there's nothing wrong with that...girl children should be molded in the same way, seems more like discipline and helping them mature as they grow.  Those are life skills.


Posted By: coconess
Date Posted: Jul 25 2014 at 8:03pm
yes i agree. 
i dont think that was trying to 'change' him or anything.. just shaping.  
i wont let my son turn into a lil mixer acting ass male. nope… i wont fail him. 


now if he wants to dress like a girl and i see that thats what he really really wants… thats different. 


although.. with my cousin it was really on some, 'boys dont cry all the time' type stuff… and i dont know if i agree with that completely cus he really busted his head open on a table one day and refused to cry…. 
they had to be like, 'you can cry… its okay…' and he was pretty young. 

theres a line and levels to that sht. 


Posted By: ms_wonderland
Date Posted: Jul 25 2014 at 8:07pm
Lmao...yes, if I had a weasley ass son like that I would be disappointed in myself.

If my son is gay I hope he's super confident and successful...ppl always think the worst but if you're a good parent they can still be whatever profession, have a happy life, and all that.  




Posted By: eanaj5
Date Posted: Jul 25 2014 at 8:09pm
Originally posted by coconess coconess wrote:

yes i agree. 
i dont think that was trying to 'change' him or anything.. just shaping.  
i wont let my son turn into a lil mixer acting ass male. nope… i wont fail him. 


now if he wants to dress like a girl and i see that thats what he really really wants… thats different. 


although.. with my cousin it was really on some, 'boys dont cry all the time' type stuff… and i dont know if i agree with that completely cus he really busted his head open on a table one day and refused to cry…. 
they had to be like, 'you can cry… its okay…' and he was pretty young. 

theres a line and levels to that sht. 




Posted By: BBpants
Date Posted: Jul 25 2014 at 8:13pm
I get upset when some people say that they will beat the gay out of their son..I hope they never have children. EVER.


Posted By: rell85
Date Posted: Jul 25 2014 at 8:15pm
Just sad one can't be accepted for being different.


Posted By: OhMyCurlz
Date Posted: Jul 25 2014 at 8:50pm
LOL....@ the assumption being effeminate = gay or is a 'sign' of gayness

You do know there are a lot of gay men who are extremely "masculine" right? 




Posted By: jonesable
Date Posted: Jul 25 2014 at 9:32pm
I'm really not ready to have kids bc I'm not ready to deal with the headache of a gay son/bad deviant son/transexual son/ fast son/mentally disturbed son ...etc.

I'm just not ready for the headache that comes with kids in general
I don't know what I'd do.

I'd love him for sure.
Beyond that I don't know


Posted By: Lady ICE
Date Posted: Jul 25 2014 at 9:35pm
man forget his feelings. no boys will be dancing like beyonce in my house. i'll put my foot to his back. my daughter too. yall aint shakin nothing up in here.Angry

but on the flip sideGeek


little boys copy what they see. my son used to copy his sister..and she took advantage of it(inviting him to tea partys and such)LOL they usually grow out of it. i know he sure did. hes a manly little boy nowLOL


Posted By: Lite Brite
Date Posted: Jul 25 2014 at 9:44pm
Originally posted by mizzsandra00 mizzsandra00 wrote:

You cannot suppress the love of dick.....


This. I don't believe in the idea that you can un-gay a kid

However, if i felt like he picked up feminine ways by hanging with too many girls, and not because it's in his soul, I would figure some type of way to un-do THAT without teasing him; maybe have him spend more time around guys etc

My (gay) friend always tells me how his parents used to tell him to stop skipping around, and to unfold his armsCry LOL..they never told him why.. but he knew


Posted By: Lite Brite
Date Posted: Jul 25 2014 at 9:46pm
Originally posted by coconess coconess wrote:

yes i agree. 

i wont let my son turn into a lil mixer acting ass male. nope… i wont fail him. 



LOLOLOL


Posted By: hauteshellbi
Date Posted: Jul 25 2014 at 9:48pm
My male cousin had 2 brothers and a rough neck jamaican mom and he was sacheing out the womb...hes gay, we all knew but he stayed in the closet (rip)


Posted By: afrokock
Date Posted: Jul 25 2014 at 11:08pm
Originally posted by Josephuss Josephuss wrote:

Originally posted by mizzsandra00 mizzsandra00 wrote:

Originally posted by Josephuss Josephuss wrote:

Originally posted by mizzsandra00 mizzsandra00 wrote:

Let him be himself.....these young boy gay prostitutes are at an all time high.....
but thats a bad thing


What that he's gay? No its not....tis life....
he might not end up gay if certain tendencies are squashed


what in the indoctrinated religious hell??


Posted By: Josephuss
Date Posted: Jul 25 2014 at 11:13pm
really this wasnt necessarily about being gay, I was thinking about encouraging, or discouraging certain behavior picked up from being in female dominated households.


Posted By: fckwitmeuknoigotit
Date Posted: Jul 25 2014 at 11:18pm
sing it with me: it aint nothing to cut my kid off





Posted By: afrokock
Date Posted: Jul 25 2014 at 11:26pm
joey??

you being serious or facetious right now?


certain behaviours like what??


Posted By: Josephuss
Date Posted: Jul 25 2014 at 11:36pm
Originally posted by afrokock afrokock wrote:

joey??

you being serious or facetious right now?


certain behaviours like what??
well children mimic adult behavior, and without male presence a boy might pick up more things from his mother beyond whats normal like speaking in a certain way, or even dancing. like those twerking toddler boys you had in your av before. not singular moments like a boy putting on his mom's heels for a minute as a joke, but reoccuring events that become part of the personality.


Posted By: afrokock
Date Posted: Jul 26 2014 at 4:39am
i had twerking toddler boys??



so wait lemme understand this correctly..

you are saying that boys growing up in a home where there is a strong female presence will result in effeminate men??







Posted By: afrokock
Date Posted: Jul 26 2014 at 4:43am
Originally posted by ms_wonderland ms_wonderland wrote:

Originally posted by Josephuss Josephuss wrote:

Originally posted by mizzsandra00 mizzsandra00 wrote:

Originally posted by Josephuss Josephuss wrote:

Originally posted by mizzsandra00 mizzsandra00 wrote:

Let him be himself.....these young boy gay prostitutes are at an all time high.....
but thats a bad thing


What that he's gay? No its not....tis life....
he might not end up gay if certain tendencies are squashed


Ook sharing the drivel you're learning at church now.
yup!!!



Posted By: afrokock
Date Posted: Jul 26 2014 at 4:45am
and maybe more men need to be raised by women as household leads, it may lead to the eradication of hyper-masculinity and emotionally vacant young boys and men



Posted By: afrokock
Date Posted: Jul 26 2014 at 1:00pm
"
most people I know who've grown up with predominantly female relatives turn out to be extremely respectful towards women as adults and really cherish them"


this trueeeeeee!!!


Posted By: blaquefoxx
Date Posted: Jul 26 2014 at 1:19pm
Originally posted by afrokock afrokock wrote:

and maybe more men need to be raised by women household leads, it lead to the eradication of hyper-masculinity and emotionally vacant young boys and men

I think that's part of the problem...but that's none of my business tho *sips tea*




Posted By: jonesable
Date Posted: Jul 26 2014 at 1:34pm
More?

Come again ?


Posted By: JasmineE02
Date Posted: Jul 26 2014 at 1:38pm
Disapprove


Posted By: afrokock
Date Posted: Jul 26 2014 at 1:39pm
Originally posted by blaquefoxx blaquefoxx wrote:

Originally posted by afrokock afrokock wrote:

and maybe more men need to be raised by women household leads, it lead to the eradication of hyper-masculinity and emotionally vacant young boys and men


I think that's part of the problem...but that's none of my business tho *sips tea*


lol




go expound!!


Posted By: carolina cutie
Date Posted: Jul 26 2014 at 1:40pm
I'm just here for the discussion.Evil Smile


Posted By: afrokock
Date Posted: Jul 26 2014 at 1:44pm
i wonder if blaque is saying the lack of of a male household lead results in boys not behaving and misinterpreting that manhood = hypermasculinity

i just want to clarify that a woman led household =/= an absent male father figure

which is what can be inferred from joey's statement's. (but im going to read his ridiculous op again)

and ftr joey, homosexuality is not learned bruv


Posted By: carolina cutie
Date Posted: Jul 26 2014 at 1:46pm
Originally posted by afrokock afrokock wrote:

i wonder if blaque is saying the lack of of a male household lead results in boys not behaving and misinterpreting that manhood = hypermasculinity

i just want to clarify that a woman led household =/= an absent male father figure

which is what can be inferred from joey's statement's. (but im going to read his ridiculous op again)

and ftr joey, homosexuality is not learned bruv
Exactly. It's a lifestyle choice.Stern Smile


LOL




Posted By: JasmineE02
Date Posted: Jul 26 2014 at 1:48pm


Posted By: afrokock
Date Posted: Jul 26 2014 at 1:56pm
why is cc tryna [provoke me??





Posted By: Im_oh_so_hott
Date Posted: Jul 26 2014 at 2:02pm
I wouldn't do anything. My daughter loves race cars, soccer (which she rightly calls football) and super heroes (not the ones in skirt). She also "likes" the little boy who shares her table at school and another little boy who we see at the bus stop sometime.


Posted By: Wildfire
Date Posted: Jul 26 2014 at 2:04pm
I would certainly not "promote" them. I would rather my son not act like a girl, therefore I'd raise him as  a boy. So no, i would not be buying tutus and tiaras for him. He can do what he wishes when he gets older



Posted By: carolina cutie
Date Posted: Jul 26 2014 at 2:07pm
Originally posted by afrokock afrokock wrote:

why is cc tryna [provoke me??



LOL


Imma tell all my future clients that being gay is a lifestyle just like me living a green lifestyle or a vegetarian lifestyle.Approve


Posted By: thewonderfulwa
Date Posted: Jul 26 2014 at 2:10pm
I don't care theyre are other things to worry about when you are raising a male child.



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