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Topic: Asking your SO for money...
Posted By: FarrahTheLibra
Subject: Asking your SO for money...
Date Posted: May 13 2014 at 10:51am
Should/ do you ask?

or 

Should he volunteer?



Replies:
Posted By: Ds2nice
Date Posted: May 13 2014 at 10:54am
I had never asked before because I wasn't in a position to ask.  However, but I really don't see an issue with asking. 


Posted By: Lady ICE
Date Posted: May 13 2014 at 10:57am
both has happened in my relationships. 


Posted By: herwoman
Date Posted: May 13 2014 at 10:58am
If he's unaware of your situation he would most likely be upset that you didn't ask him.


Posted By: afrokock
Date Posted: May 13 2014 at 10:59am
Define s.o..

Cozi know some of you may think a dude of two weeks is an s.o


Posted By: EPITOME
Date Posted: May 13 2014 at 11:09am
....i just take his card


Posted By: Princess Grace
Date Posted: May 13 2014 at 11:10am
Is it so you won't be sitting in the dark or a bag from the Gucci summer collection???

Either scenario I would ask but I don;t have good sense so I dont know if you should listen to me.


Posted By: Bribby
Date Posted: May 13 2014 at 11:11am
Did yall see what happened on Love & Hip Hop last night with Erica and her boo?


Posted By: Benni
Date Posted: May 13 2014 at 11:14am
I never have.

Personally, I don't like asking anybody for anything.

Prideful . I know, but that's just me.


Posted By: ThoughtCouture
Date Posted: May 13 2014 at 11:15am
Originally posted by EPITOME EPITOME wrote:

....i just take his the card


Posted By: Beauty620
Date Posted: May 13 2014 at 11:16am
Originally posted by Bribby Bribby wrote:

Did yall see what happened on Love & Hip Hop last night with Erica and her boo?

Yaaaaaaaaas and I was like ...............hold up...........wait a minute.............HE DID WAAAAAT!?! ShockedShockedShockedShocked
I would kick him to the curb to quick, and he had the nerve to say cocky as ever "put that on his tab". LIKE WHOA....Erica smarter than that I hope. 

But I would ask if needed, and sometimes I would hope he notices and offers when in need. 
Works both ways.


Posted By: ThoughtCouture
Date Posted: May 13 2014 at 11:17am
Originally posted by afrokock afrokock wrote:

Define s.o..

Cozi know some of you may think a dude of two weeks is an s.o
 
Dead


Posted By: Gkisses
Date Posted: May 13 2014 at 11:23am
Ive not asked anyone i was dating for cash or vise versa. In marriage id think the money would be pooled together so unless its a big purchase not sure why one would need to ask.


I dont do loans or give money for bills to SO's so i dont expect it in return.


Posted By: MsBMW
Date Posted: May 13 2014 at 11:25am
This all day everyday..I will let him know that I will be deducting money from his account..

Originally posted by EPITOME EPITOME wrote:

....i just take his card


Posted By: Princess Grace
Date Posted: May 13 2014 at 11:26am
Originally posted by SamoneLenior SamoneLenior wrote:


pooling all the money Ermm

LOLLOLLOL


Posted By: herwoman
Date Posted: May 13 2014 at 11:27am
One of the reasons that I'm with you is because you take good care of me so I don't see the problem.


Posted By: PurplePhase
Date Posted: May 13 2014 at 11:30am
yes
yes


Posted By: herwoman
Date Posted: May 13 2014 at 11:33am
Originally posted by SamoneLenior SamoneLenior wrote:


I can't see myself having to be like honey I'm getting xyz so look out for that purchase or vice versa

my husband isn't bad with money but I just can't see us having to let each other know when we make certain purchases

we poll some money for other reasons, but after we save and pay our bills that money right there is mine to do what I want with it

dare you to check me or question me

I'm a tad more submissive than this lol sometimes I need to be checked about my purchases.


Posted By: Gkisses
Date Posted: May 13 2014 at 11:36am
If we putting our money togther and u make a $500+ purchase I wanna know what it is.But as I said Im not putting my money with no ones outside of a formal union.


Posted By: Princess Grace
Date Posted: May 13 2014 at 11:38am
Im with you Samone, Im not about to explain about what I did with MY money, you better go have several seats over there>>>>>>>>>>

It has never been a issue with me so I have no idea. Grace is asking , with no shame! If he knows you are going through something and he doesnt offer my side eye will be activated. 


Posted By: sugabanana
Date Posted: May 13 2014 at 11:38am
Umm Mr. Suga your card will be used for a few purchases. No need to ask. Plus I do laundry and money is always in the pockets.


Posted By: PurplePhase
Date Posted: May 13 2014 at 11:39am
if you have to ask he's slipping
(that's a quote)


Posted By: Gkisses
Date Posted: May 13 2014 at 11:46am
If youre married and going through something financially isnt that a couple issue tho so im not sure how the other wouldn't know unless things are being hidden.

If yall not married then one needs to do better when it comes to getting their money in order, but this is why i don't play house when it comes to money.



Posted By: EPITOME
Date Posted: May 13 2014 at 11:51am
Originally posted by herwoman herwoman wrote:

Originally posted by SamoneLenior SamoneLenior wrote:


I can't see myself having to be like honey I'm getting xyz so look out for that purchase or vice versa

my husband isn't bad with money but I just can't see us having to let each other know when we make certain purchases

we poll some money for other reasons, but after we save and pay our bills that money right there is mine to do what I want with it

dare you to check me or question me

I'm a tad more submissive than this lol sometimes I need to be checked about my purchases.

LOL  I do too & it's all combined anyway....but  I am sure he'll be side eyeing these shoe purchases.

*yawn*

I needed them for spring/summerStern Smile Am I to wear the same shoes? boys just don't get itSleepy


Posted By: PurplePhase
Date Posted: May 13 2014 at 11:52am
Originally posted by afrokock afrokock wrote:

Define s.o..

Cozi know some of you may think a dude of two weeks is an s.o


two weeks?
should be married to him by then.


Posted By: PurplePhase
Date Posted: May 13 2014 at 11:55am
Originally posted by Bribby Bribby wrote:

Did yall see what happened on Love & Hip Hop last night with Erica and her boo?


no, what happened?


Posted By: jonesable
Date Posted: May 13 2014 at 11:55am
Never put much thought into this.

Either tell him to leave his card with me or tell him to put a certain amount in my account. Why would he ask why?

Even with friends or family members I don't even ask why.
That's tacky.

Or if it's a service I need just tell him like my car needs new tires go do that for me.


It's not a formal proposal.




Posted By: PurplePhase
Date Posted: May 13 2014 at 11:55am
Originally posted by Gkisses Gkisses wrote:


I dont do loans or give money for bills to SO's so i dont expect it in return.


I know couples who do loans.

marrieds.


Posted By: FarrahTheLibra
Date Posted: May 13 2014 at 12:00pm
A couple things to add:

-It's a new relationship

-I NEED the money; I know he has it

-Just don't want him to think I'm a gold digger Dead


Posted By: lexis83
Date Posted: May 13 2014 at 12:03pm
What if you're married and your partner takes money to cover his bill leaving u hard up, would u expect him to pay pack? Example, he withdraws money to cover his car payment leaving $100 in your account knowing very well u have bills coming up too?


Posted By: Gkisses
Date Posted: May 13 2014 at 12:03pm
Originally posted by PurplePhase PurplePhase wrote:

Originally posted by Gkisses Gkisses wrote:


I dont do loans or give money for bills to SO's so i dont expect it in return.


I know couples who do loans.

marrieds.



I dont understand this..lol this is why id only get with someone who is financially responsible. Loaning your wife/husband money seems oxymoronic.


Posted By: ThoughtCouture
Date Posted: May 13 2014 at 12:08pm
Originally posted by FarrahTheLibra FarrahTheLibra wrote:

A couple things to add:

-It's a new relationship

-I NEED the money; I know he has it

-Just don't want him to think I'm a gold digger Dead
 
 
oh.  does he know that you NEED the money?????????????????????????????????????


Posted By: EPITOME
Date Posted: May 13 2014 at 12:09pm
Originally posted by SamoneLenior SamoneLenior wrote:


I have seen the loan thing when it comes to cars

one spouse may buy the car cash and the other pays them back, no interest



I have never understood borrowing money from your spouse. like why aren't "we" buying a car? but you know different marriages for different folks.


Posted By: PurplePhase
Date Posted: May 13 2014 at 12:10pm
Originally posted by SamoneLenior SamoneLenior wrote:


I have seen the loan thing when it comes to cars

one spouse may buy the car cash and the other pays them back, no interest




you're talking large lump sum loans? (that's still odd to me)

I'm talking about $20 til I get my check next week /Angie stone


Posted By: ThoughtCouture
Date Posted: May 13 2014 at 12:10pm
Originally posted by EPITOME EPITOME wrote:

Originally posted by SamoneLenior SamoneLenior wrote:


I have seen the loan thing when it comes to cars

one spouse may buy the car cash and the other pays them back, no interest



I have never understood borrowing money from your spouse. like why aren't "we" buying a car? but you know different marriages for different folks.
 
yes this would never work for me.  if its like that...you stay over there sir.  and i'll stay over here.  we can meet in the middle when i wanna f*ck...


Posted By: PurplePhase
Date Posted: May 13 2014 at 12:10pm
Originally posted by ThoughtCouture ThoughtCouture wrote:



yes this would never work for me.  if its like that...you stay over there sir.  and i'll stay over here.  we can meet in the middle when i wanna f*ck...


I love  it when you say this.
LOL


Posted By: Gkisses
Date Posted: May 13 2014 at 12:11pm
Yall keep bills seperate when married?...lol this seems ti make things more complicated. Sounding more like a live in fwb.

Personally I'd go to my parents before I went to someone I was dating if i were in desperate need of cash.


Posted By: ThoughtCouture
Date Posted: May 13 2014 at 12:11pm
Originally posted by PurplePhase PurplePhase wrote:

Originally posted by SamoneLenior SamoneLenior wrote:


I have seen the loan thing when it comes to cars

one spouse may buy the car cash and the other pays them back, no interest




you're talking large lump sum loans? (that's still odd to me)

I'm talking about $20 til I get my check next week /Angie stone
 
lmaooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo  no no and no.  wtf.  $20????  they need to go kill themselves....


Posted By: ThoughtCouture
Date Posted: May 13 2014 at 12:13pm
Originally posted by PurplePhase PurplePhase wrote:



I love  it when you say this.
LOL
 
 
LOL  i'm so seeeerous tho...LOL


Posted By: PurplePhase
Date Posted: May 13 2014 at 12:13pm
lol. That was just an example. But it's not $40K .

why is my spouse loaning me $40K to buy a car anyway? lol


Posted By: Gkisses
Date Posted: May 13 2014 at 12:15pm
Originally posted by FarrahTheLibra FarrahTheLibra wrote:

A couple things to add:

-It's a new relationship

-I NEED the money; I know he has it

-Just don't want him to think I'm a gold digger Dead



How new is the relationship and about how much you need? Is it for something ya need or something ya want?


Posted By: Printer_Ink
Date Posted: May 13 2014 at 12:15pm
Originally posted by FarrahTheLibra FarrahTheLibra wrote:

Should/ do you ask?

or 

Should he volunteer?


Look ... if he is THAT signifigant .. yáll would be MARRIED so then you don't have to go begging nor does he have to 'offer'. Duh!

Otherwise... it'a veiled form of prostitution. Don't bring MONEY into a non-married relationship.

(I get so sick of these weak woman taking money from men ....)


Posted By: coconess
Date Posted: May 13 2014 at 12:17pm
i dont like to ask people for things unless its like close fam  

but i havent really had SOs..




Posted By: PurplePhase
Date Posted: May 13 2014 at 12:17pm
Originally posted by SamoneLenior SamoneLenior wrote:


lol I don't know

if they have it I'm guessing they should just spend it and be done with it

but like I said maybe the other wanted to say in the end they bought it on their own


no more on their own once married LOL


Posted By: EPITOME
Date Posted: May 13 2014 at 12:17pm
Originally posted by FarrahTheLibra FarrahTheLibra wrote:

A couple things to add:

-It's a new relationship

-I NEED the money; I know he has it

-Just don't want him to think I'm a gold digger Dead


how new? like 6 months new? or like 6 weeks new? I mean you don't ask, you don't get. So see what happens.  His reaction could also tell you a lot about him.


Posted By: Printer_Ink
Date Posted: May 13 2014 at 12:18pm
Originally posted by FarrahTheLibra FarrahTheLibra wrote:

A couple things to add:

-It's a new relationship

-I NEED the money; I know he has it

-Just don't want him to think I'm a gold digger Dead


If it's a new relationship and he's a decent guy .. he will think you are trying use him and he will dump you. If he's not so nice, he will try to CONTROL you with his money. In that case RUN!

Stop taking from men ... ask your family for help.


Posted By: ThoughtCouture
Date Posted: May 13 2014 at 12:18pm
Originally posted by SamoneLenior SamoneLenior wrote:


when I was a younger I always wanted to pay half/pay my own way
 
i did too.  that was pre college...my view quickly changed tho...


Posted By: PurplePhase
Date Posted: May 13 2014 at 12:29pm
Originally posted by ThoughtCouture ThoughtCouture wrote:

Originally posted by SamoneLenior SamoneLenior wrote:


when I was a younger I always wanted to pay half/pay my own way
 
i did too.  that was pre college...my view quickly changed tho...


I don't think I've ever felt that way.

I did used to have some silly notion that a ring wasn't important. I never wanted to get married but always said if I did  marry, I wouldn't  care about a ring. I was around 15. Funny story, my niece recently said the same thing about not wanting a ring when she gets married (18 yr old). I just LOL'ed \and told her I used to say the same thing as I showed her my finger LOL

eta: I don't think a ring is important to the marriage but it's important to me to have a pretty one.



Posted By: goodm3
Date Posted: May 13 2014 at 12:34pm
As a single person...the only person you should ask for money is your parents....

Freshman year in undergrad...i took quick notice to people who used the phrase "you got me?"..and stayed away from them.... 

if you have to ask your SO for money you need not to be dating.... 
Dating is not church....you do need to have yourself together before you enter


Posted By: ThoughtCouture
Date Posted: May 13 2014 at 12:37pm
yeah purp...my granny tried to warn me...but i was like no mam...imma pay my OWN way.  which is funny/ironic now looking back because even in hs my bf (ex hubby) was giving me bus fare and paying for my lunch every damn day lmaoooooo....but still in my head i would be like but one day imma make my OWN money!!!!  anyway i quickly found out just how overrated that shyt is...


Posted By: PurplePhase
Date Posted: May 13 2014 at 12:38pm
Originally posted by ThoughtCouture ThoughtCouture wrote:

yeah purp...my granny tried to warn me...but i was like no mam...imma pay my OWN way.  which is funny/ironic now looking back because even in hs my bf (ex hubby) was giving me bus fare and paying for my lunch every damn day lmaoooooo....but still in my head i would be like but one day imma make my OWN money!!!!  anyway i quickly found out just how overrated that shyt is...


LOLLOLCry
LOL


Posted By: ThoughtCouture
Date Posted: May 13 2014 at 12:38pm
Originally posted by PurplePhase PurplePhase wrote:


eta: I don't think a ring is important to the marriage but it's important to me to have a pretty one.

 
yep.  i'll take a fabulous ring and skip the marriage....lmaooooo


Posted By: Gkisses
Date Posted: May 13 2014 at 1:00pm
Ive always wanted to be in a power couple whenvit came to marriage. Not really pulling my own weight but giving my spouse the assurance that we were both in it together completely. Watching my folks evolve from young newlyweds to an older married couple taught me a lot.




But enough bout that Op comeback and answer these lingering questions


Posted By: FarrahTheLibra
Date Posted: May 13 2014 at 1:01pm
Originally posted by ThoughtCouture ThoughtCouture wrote:

Originally posted by FarrahTheLibra FarrahTheLibra wrote:

A couple things to add:

-It's a new relationship

-I NEED the money; I know he has it

-Just don't want him to think I'm a gold digger Dead
 
 
oh.  does he know that you NEED the money?????????????????????????????????????

I haven't said it in those exact words. I hate to complain. I've tried (subtly) hinting at it.


Posted By: EPITOME
Date Posted: May 13 2014 at 1:02pm
do you want to pay him back or naaah?


Posted By: PurplePhase
Date Posted: May 13 2014 at 1:03pm
Originally posted by FarrahTheLibra FarrahTheLibra wrote:

 

I haven't said it in those exact words. I hate to complain. I've tried (subtly) hinting at it.


I would not do this.
 


Posted By: FarrahTheLibra
Date Posted: May 13 2014 at 1:06pm
Originally posted by EPITOME EPITOME wrote:

do you want to pay him back or naaah?

The latter. I don't have the resources right now. 

Originally posted by PurplePhase PurplePhase wrote:

Originally posted by FarrahTheLibra FarrahTheLibra wrote:

 

I haven't said it in those exact words. I hate to complain. I've tried (subtly) hinting at it.


I would not do this.
 

Why?


Posted By: nebhnebh
Date Posted: May 13 2014 at 1:08pm
I have been fortunate I guess, they always give.


Posted By: Gkisses
Date Posted: May 13 2014 at 1:08pm
Originally posted by SamoneLenior SamoneLenior wrote:



meh

I don't think you can't be a "power couple" if can't hold your own

hold your own can be different things, not only money



OP if knows you are struggling with something he should offer without being asked

at least offer you suggestions on how you can get the money



We are agreeing


Posted By: PurplePhase
Date Posted: May 13 2014 at 1:10pm
Farra, I just don't like hinting around with things lol. I'd be direct.


Posted By: Gkisses
Date Posted: May 13 2014 at 1:10pm
Originally posted by Gkisses Gkisses wrote:

Originally posted by FarrahTheLibra FarrahTheLibra wrote:

A couple things to add:

-It's a new relationship

-I NEED the money; I know he has it

-Just don't want him to think I'm a gold digger Dead



How new is the relationship and about how much you need? Is it for something ya need or something ya want?



.....


Posted By: ModelessDiva
Date Posted: May 13 2014 at 1:11pm
Originally posted by afrokock afrokock wrote:

Define s.o..

Cozi know some of you may think a dude of two weeks is an s.o

LOL


Posted By: jonesable
Date Posted: May 13 2014 at 1:12pm
I dont think its always a money management issue.
If he has it and wants to pay for it whats the problem?
 
I think it matters how long you've been together though.
But when you're together and its comfortable who cares...
 
Plus some men like helping their women out financially doesnt matter if the women NEEDS it.


Posted By: kerysdream7
Date Posted: May 13 2014 at 1:14pm
Originally posted by jonesable jonesable wrote:

I dont think its always a money management issue.
If he has it and wants to pay for it whats the problem?
 

I think it matters how long you've been together though.

But when you're together and its comfortable who cares...

 

Plus some men like helping their women out financially doesnt matter if the women NEEDS it.

This


Posted By: PurplePhase
Date Posted: May 13 2014 at 1:16pm
can she just WANT it though?


Posted By: EPITOME
Date Posted: May 13 2014 at 1:19pm
..is that called trickin' on girls?

not every guy does it so readily. some only do it with someone they are seriously dating. some do it from day 1. the day one men---are into buying affection to a degree.


Posted By: PurplePhase
Date Posted: May 13 2014 at 1:21pm
Originally posted by EPITOME EPITOME wrote:

..is that called trickin' on girls?

not every guy does it so readily. some only do it with someone they are seriously dating. some do it from day 1. the day one men---are into buying affection to a degree.


or they don't view money that way.


Posted By: EPITOME
Date Posted: May 13 2014 at 1:23pm
Originally posted by PurplePhase PurplePhase wrote:

Originally posted by EPITOME EPITOME wrote:

..is that called trickin' on girls?

not every guy does it so readily. some only do it with someone they are seriously dating. some do it from day 1. the day one men---are into buying affection to a degree.


or they don't view money that way.

yes that too......some people view money like wi-fi--meant to be shared


Posted By: kerysdream7
Date Posted: May 13 2014 at 1:23pm
Originally posted by SamoneLenior SamoneLenior wrote:


pooling all the money Ermm

This reminds me of that Martin episode where Martin & Gina pool their money


Posted By: Gkisses
Date Posted: May 13 2014 at 1:23pm
money will always be a factor and no one likes to feel as tho someones taking advantage of them.

OPs reluctance in asking makes me think they havent been dating long enough to ask for it and/or its a large amount.

Just because someone has the money to give doesn't mean side eyes should be activated if they choose not to give their money to you..call em selfish but cant call em broke.


Posted By: el_bandido
Date Posted: May 13 2014 at 1:43pm
my moneys your money ..except when theres a shoe release you come second on those days 


Posted By: Beauty620
Date Posted: May 13 2014 at 1:48pm
Originally posted by FarrahTheLibra FarrahTheLibra wrote:

Originally posted by ThoughtCouture ThoughtCouture wrote:

Originally posted by FarrahTheLibra FarrahTheLibra wrote:

A couple things to add:

-It's a new relationship

-I NEED the money; I know he has it

-Just don't want him to think I'm a gold digger Dead
 
 
oh.  does he know that you NEED the money?????????????????????????????????????

I haven't said it in those exact words. I hate to complain. I've tried (subtly) hinting at it.

Just ask....a closed mouth won't get fed. If you two are dating, married, together period just ask him. Your either going to get a yes or a no...then you'll know what to do from that point forward. Get it another way, then don't depend or ask him for anything else. I believe that your s.o should always be there to help you out no matter what.

My opinion.


Posted By: ThoughtCouture
Date Posted: May 13 2014 at 1:53pm
Originally posted by FarrahTheLibra FarrahTheLibra wrote:

Originally posted by ThoughtCouture ThoughtCouture wrote:

Originally posted by FarrahTheLibra FarrahTheLibra wrote:

A couple things to add:

-It's a new relationship

-I NEED the money; I know he has it

-Just don't want him to think I'm a gold digger Dead
 
 
oh.  does he know that you NEED the money?????????????????????????????????????

I haven't said it in those exact words. I hate to complain. I've tried (subtly) hinting at it.
 
huh?  does he ask you how your day went?  just tell him what is going on.  that's not complaining.


Posted By: ThoughtCouture
Date Posted: May 13 2014 at 1:55pm
Originally posted by PurplePhase PurplePhase wrote:

can she just WANT it though?
 
yes.  if he doesn't WANT to give it.  then they may have a prollemmm....lol


Posted By: ThoughtCouture
Date Posted: May 13 2014 at 1:56pm
Originally posted by el_bandido el_bandido wrote:

my moneys your money ..except when theres a shoe release you come second on those days 
 
HeartLOL


Posted By: FarrahTheLibra
Date Posted: May 13 2014 at 1:56pm
Originally posted by PurplePhase PurplePhase wrote:

Farra, I just don't like hinting around with things lol. I'd be direct.

THIS. I need to work on that.


Posted By: PurplePhase
Date Posted: May 13 2014 at 1:57pm
Originally posted by ThoughtCouture ThoughtCouture wrote:

 
huh?  does he ask you how your day went?  just tell him what is going on.  that's not complaining.

Thumbs Up
exactly.


Posted By: ThoughtCouture
Date Posted: May 13 2014 at 1:58pm
Originally posted by PurplePhase PurplePhase wrote:

Originally posted by EPITOME EPITOME wrote:

..is that called trickin' on girls?

not every guy does it so readily. some only do it with someone they are seriously dating. some do it from day 1. the day one men---are into buying affection to a degree.


or they don't view money that way.
 
this is how i am.  even when i was broke...i didn't even really realize how broke i was...LOL 


Posted By: ThoughtCouture
Date Posted: May 13 2014 at 2:01pm
Originally posted by PurplePhase PurplePhase wrote:

Originally posted by ThoughtCouture ThoughtCouture wrote:

 
huh?  does he ask you how your day went?  just tell him what is going on.  that's not complaining.

Thumbs Up
exactly.
 
plus i wouldn't advise keeping financial problems a secret from ones for real for real S.O....


Posted By: Majesty02
Date Posted: May 13 2014 at 2:01pm

If we're seriously dating or in a relationship and I ask him for money he better give it to me especially if he has it to spare. The only way I would ever ask is if I've already exhausted all of my other options (family members) If he can't come through for me when I need it the most what's the purpose of having him in my life???

And I've never been the type of simple minded female to go around asking men for superficial things like clothes, shoes, or handbags. If I ask for money it's for a serious reason (ex: bills, or important expenses)



Posted By: BBpants
Date Posted: May 13 2014 at 2:02pm
I will never ask a guy for money. I'll go my parents before I think about doing that and I only give money once then you're on your own lol (unless we're married then it's take what you want cuz I really trust you not to take advantage of me)



Posted By: PurplePhase
Date Posted: May 13 2014 at 2:04pm
Originally posted by ThoughtCouture ThoughtCouture wrote:

 
 
plus i wouldn't advise keeping financial problems a secret from ones for real for real S.O....


agree. this is never a good policy.


Posted By: afrokock
Date Posted: May 13 2014 at 2:04pm
Originally posted by sugabanana sugabanana wrote:

Umm Mr. Suga your card will be used for a few purchases. No need to ask. Plus I do laundry and money is always in the pockets.


you'd never find anything in mine ..

i hardly carry change


Posted By: SimplyPut
Date Posted: May 13 2014 at 2:04pm
If you don't want to tell or at least hint at the length of your relationship, the amount, or severity of the request, then it's kinda hard for us to tell you whether or not this brother needs to be side-eyed. If you're looking for $2,000 for the Jay Z and Beyoncé concert and y'all just got together last week, then you need to have a seat.


Posted By: PurplePhase
Date Posted: May 13 2014 at 2:06pm
Originally posted by lexis83 lexis83 wrote:

What if you're married and your partner takes money to cover his bill leaving u hard up, would u expect him to pay pack? Example, he withdraws money to cover his car payment leaving $100 in your account knowing very well u have bills coming up too?


do you mean if the couple isn't sharing money and bills?


Posted By: PurplePhase
Date Posted: May 13 2014 at 2:07pm
Originally posted by afrokock afrokock wrote:

Originally posted by sugabanana sugabanana wrote:

Umm Mr. Suga your card will be used for a few purchases. No need to ask. Plus I do laundry and money is always in the pockets.


you'd never find anything in mine ..

i hard carry change


I was thinking nobody carries cash anymore lol


Posted By: ThoughtCouture
Date Posted: May 13 2014 at 2:07pm
Originally posted by afrokock afrokock wrote:

Originally posted by sugabanana sugabanana wrote:

Umm Mr. Suga your card will be used for a few purchases. No need to ask. Plus I do laundry and money is always in the pockets.


you'd never find anything in mine ..

i hard carry change
 
ain't nobody checking for coins...lmaoooooo....i kid i kidEmbarrassed


Posted By: PurplePhase
Date Posted: May 13 2014 at 2:08pm
it could be a serious relat. after 2 weeks though lol


Posted By: ThoughtCouture
Date Posted: May 13 2014 at 2:08pm
Originally posted by SimplyPut SimplyPut wrote:

If you're looking for $2,000 for the Jay Z and Beyoncé concert and y'all just got together last week, then you need to have a seat.
 
 
DeadLOLLOLLOLLOLLOL


Posted By: ThoughtCouture
Date Posted: May 13 2014 at 2:11pm
Originally posted by PurplePhase PurplePhase wrote:

Originally posted by lexis83 lexis83 wrote:

What if you're married and your partner takes money to cover his bill leaving u hard up, would u expect him to pay pack? Example, he withdraws money to cover his car payment leaving $100 in your account knowing very well u have bills coming up too?


do you mean if the couple isn't sharing money and bills?
 
i don't understand either.  lexis are  you saying that there isn't enough between the 2 of them to cover all the bills?  someone is spending more than they should on non bill related items?


Posted By: Ming
Date Posted: May 13 2014 at 2:15pm
Husband spending our money on his things...leaving me ashy? Nope

Having to ask for money if he knows im in need? Nope

Having to ask for money in general? Nope

Asking just to ask? Never done it lol


Posted By: EPITOME
Date Posted: May 13 2014 at 2:19pm
Originally posted by PurplePhase PurplePhase wrote:

Originally posted by lexis83 lexis83 wrote:

What if you're married and your partner takes money to cover his bill leaving u hard up, would u expect him to pay pack? Example, he withdraws money to cover his car payment leaving $100 in your account knowing very well u have bills coming up too?


do you mean if the couple isn't sharing money and bills?

i don't even understand this scenario.



Posted By: Gkisses
Date Posted: May 13 2014 at 2:19pm
Originally posted by PurplePhase PurplePhase wrote:

it could be a serious relat. after 2 weeks though lol



U trying to get yourself kicked out the elevator with that kind of crazy talk.


Posted By: PurplePhase
Date Posted: May 13 2014 at 2:21pm
Originally posted by Gkisses Gkisses wrote:

Originally posted by PurplePhase PurplePhase wrote:

it could be a serious relat. after 2 weeks though lol



U trying to get yourself kicked out the elevator with that kind of crazy talk.


lol
I just heard it happens.


Posted By: afrokock
Date Posted: May 13 2014 at 2:22pm
Originally posted by ThoughtCouture ThoughtCouture wrote:

Originally posted by afrokock afrokock wrote:

Originally posted by sugabanana sugabanana wrote:

Umm Mr. Suga your card will be used for a few purchases. No need to ask. Plus I do laundry and money is always in the pockets.


you'd never find anything in mine ..

i hard carry change

 
ain't nobody checking for coins...lmaoooooo....i kid i kidEmbarrassed
lol

guuuuuuurl, my wallet doesnt even have a coin pocket!!



Posted By: PurplePhase
Date Posted: May 13 2014 at 2:27pm
LOL


Posted By: ThoughtCouture
Date Posted: May 13 2014 at 2:29pm
LOL


Posted By: EPITOME
Date Posted: May 13 2014 at 2:35pm
Originally posted by afrokock afrokock wrote:

Originally posted by ThoughtCouture ThoughtCouture wrote:

Originally posted by afrokock afrokock wrote:

Originally posted by sugabanana sugabanana wrote:

Umm Mr. Suga your card will be used for a few purchases. No need to ask. Plus I do laundry and money is always in the pockets.


you'd never find anything in mine ..

i hard carry change

 
ain't nobody checking for coins...lmaoooooo....i kid i kidEmbarrassed
lol

guuuuuuurl, my wallet doesnt even have a coin pocket!!



which is why I said I take the card if need beLOL


Posted By: PurplePhase
Date Posted: May 13 2014 at 2:38pm
afro, do you carry a money clip?


Posted By: Miss B
Date Posted: May 13 2014 at 2:49pm
I really can't think of a scenario where I'd ask my guy for money. The most I've asked him to do is use his card to hold something cuz I wasn't there, but I paid for it. He was never charged anything.

He has offered and I do know that he'll do anything he can for me, which I love. But based on my personal principles, if I need money for money for something that I or my parents (in emergencies) do not have, I apparently don't need it. I have yet to come across a scenario where this isn't true.

My SO is old-fashioned anyway. He'd probably rather beg on a street corner singin 80s love songs with a change cup tambourine than ask me for money.



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