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Topic: do you wanna get married?
Posted By: Josephuss
Subject: do you wanna get married?
Date Posted: May 09 2014 at 6:14pm
not to me of course, but for those who aren't, is the idea of marriage something you look forward to, or do you feel marriage is obsolete in this current society?



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Posted By: Lady ICE
Date Posted: May 09 2014 at 6:16pm
i'd like to someday


Posted By: HeyBeautiful18
Date Posted: May 09 2014 at 6:19pm
Maybe... eventually

I never want to go through a divorce. Or be stuck in a marriage where I don't love the person anymore.

I see that a lot so um... I'm not in a rush for any of that


Posted By: PurplePhase
Date Posted: May 09 2014 at 6:19pm
hmm...


Posted By: Marcelo22
Date Posted: May 09 2014 at 6:25pm
Highly unlikely. If I do I will be in my 40s.


Posted By: ms_wonderland
Date Posted: May 09 2014 at 6:25pm
I'm not sure...I see a lot of pluses and minuses.  


Posted By: OoDles O
Date Posted: May 09 2014 at 6:27pm
nah


Posted By: coconess
Date Posted: May 09 2014 at 6:30pm
of course 
i gotta get alimony and what not. 




Posted By: Josephuss
Date Posted: May 09 2014 at 6:32pm
Originally posted by coconess coconess wrote:

of course 
i gotta get alimony and what not. 


youre planning on getting married just to get divorced?


Posted By: Benni
Date Posted: May 09 2014 at 6:34pm
NO !!!


Posted By: coconess
Date Posted: May 09 2014 at 6:37pm
i wasnt fully serious Joey. 


to really answer.. 
it used to be something i kinda looked forward to and stuff.. now? its nothing that i need to do or care/think about as much…… unless its to get a lot of alimony or something…
lol but yes, i guess id like to get married some day. 



Posted By: OhMyCurlz
Date Posted: May 09 2014 at 6:55pm
After my parents TERRIBLE Ike/Tina-esque divorce, I have been completely turned off from marriage all together. In fact, I don't even like being in a relationship. Same d*ck, same face, every freaking day. For ever. After a while you're not even in love anymore...they are just there...and you don't feel like going through the process of dating again so you just try to make lemonade out of lemons. 


NOPE. 


Posted By: Meme0887
Date Posted: May 09 2014 at 7:00pm
It's not a goal, but I wouldn't mind.


Posted By: ModelessDiva
Date Posted: May 09 2014 at 7:01pm
mid to late 30's MAYBEEEEE

no im not excited about it...but im sure it will happenSleepy
im not a fan of commiting to one person forever...espsecially when you are young...who knows what you're missing out on...


Posted By: BBpants
Date Posted: May 09 2014 at 7:02pm
I want a husband...a side gf and a dog.


Posted By: Journey94
Date Posted: May 09 2014 at 7:03pm
It doesn't matter to me, I'm not against marriage but I also don't put it on a pedestal. It would be nice to get married though.


Posted By: HeyBeautiful18
Date Posted: May 09 2014 at 7:06pm
Originally posted by BBpants BBpants wrote:

I want a husband...a side gf and a dog.


you just bein greedy


Posted By: HeyBeautiful18
Date Posted: May 09 2014 at 7:06pm
Originally posted by OhMyCurlz OhMyCurlz wrote:

After my parents TERRIBLE Ike/Tina-esque divorce, I have been completely turned off from marriage all together. In fact, I don't even like being in a relationship. Same d*ck, same face, every freaking day. For ever. After a while you're not even in love anymore...they are just there...and you don't feel like going through the process of dating again so you just try to make lemonade out of lemons. 


NOPE. 


Yea.. see.. I'm good with all of that


Posted By: hauteshellbi
Date Posted: May 09 2014 at 7:12pm
Yep 3 times one in my 20's one in my late 30's and one in my 80's


Posted By: BBpants
Date Posted: May 09 2014 at 7:15pm
Originally posted by HeyBeautiful18 HeyBeautiful18 wrote:

Originally posted by BBpants BBpants wrote:

I want a husband...a side gf and a dog.


you just bein greedy


ok just a husband and a side gf then LOL no dog!


Posted By: nemesis1
Date Posted: May 09 2014 at 7:16pm
Growing up, I didn't care much for it. Now, part of me does but idk if I'll find the "right person" for me. I need that certainty, otherwise I'mma stay single.


Posted By: TOUSHA11
Date Posted: May 09 2014 at 7:17pm
I want to get married some day but to right man not just any man for the purpose of just being married. Yes I do look forward to it.I want somebody I can share my life with and have good and bad times with. I am not trying to be nobody girlfriend for the rest of my life.


Posted By: missunfoolish
Date Posted: May 09 2014 at 8:50pm
i never really cared about getting married bc i was brought up in a single parent home but now, i would love to be someones wife

theres def pros and cons

doing the paper on gay marriage, theres a lot of benefits married people get 
and 'married' people are supposed to live longer than single people

so yeah, finna get married LOL

but real talk, its a nice thought of being with someone for the rest of your life, and just have moments with

idk im being corny now. 


Posted By: sexyandfamous
Date Posted: May 09 2014 at 10:25pm
I was never one to care about marriage.
I only dream of getting married when I am in a relationship and in love. Twice I wished to be married.
But now that I am single, I give no fvcks about marriage and I am considering simply becoming a foster parent instead of bothering with having my own kids.


Posted By: demilee27
Date Posted: May 09 2014 at 10:28pm
Yup!!


Posted By: lanae
Date Posted: May 09 2014 at 11:00pm
Yes bc I want a child. And if my partner drops dead, I want security.   I dont want a wedding tho. If I do have one it will be small with no bridesmaids


Posted By: ModelessDiva
Date Posted: May 09 2014 at 11:05pm
Originally posted by missunfoolish missunfoolish wrote:

i never really cared about getting married bc i was brought up in a single parent home but now, i would love to be someones wife


interesting


Posted By: thewonderfulwa
Date Posted: May 09 2014 at 11:16pm
Yes I do but If I don't I will not die or feel unworthy but I want to find the right man to deal with all my quirks and still look at me with love his eyes and can stay faithful is that asking to much???


Posted By: OoDles O
Date Posted: May 09 2014 at 11:29pm
To be honest...
if I saw kids in my future... I'd probably be more interested in Marriage.


Posted By: iliveforbhm
Date Posted: May 10 2014 at 1:40am
Originally posted by BBpants BBpants wrote:

I want a husband...a side gf and a dog.


No side girlfriend and a dig will be cool


And yes I do want to be married and live the House of cards marriage


Posted By: Az~Maverick
Date Posted: May 10 2014 at 2:39am
Originally posted by iliveforbhm iliveforbhm wrote:

Originally posted by BBpants BBpants wrote:

I want a husband...a side gf and a dog.


No side girlfriend and a dig will be cool


And yes I do want to be married and live the House of cards marriage


So....you wouldn't mind if your wife had a boy toy and then another male to join in for a threesome?

Interesting.


Posted By: coconess
Date Posted: May 10 2014 at 7:49am
if my husband is white hes gonna have to be okay with me having a baby daddy on the side at some point. 
ijs 


Posted By: Kocoa
Date Posted: May 10 2014 at 8:35am
I've always wanted to get married and have kids. I grew up in a 2 parent home and from memory it was nice looking at how my parents worked together and set up great moments for me, my sibs and the grandkids. I mean, not everything was perf or anything like that (yeah it was not like we couldn't hear them arguing from time to time w/ the door closed LOL) but it was what it was and lasted some 30 odd yrs. The thing I learned watching them was that nothing great comes easy - it took a lot of work. I can't help but admire that.


Posted By: JoliePoufiasse
Date Posted: May 10 2014 at 8:37am
Been there, done that. I don't see the point anymore (unless the dude is loaded :)
I won't be having kids at this point. I do want to find love again though. It would be nice to grow old with someone. I just have no use for the official papers.


Posted By: keepgrowing
Date Posted: May 10 2014 at 8:51am
Originally posted by Az~Maverick Az~Maverick wrote:

Originally posted by iliveforbhm iliveforbhm wrote:

Originally posted by BBpants BBpants wrote:

I want a husband...a side gf and a dog.


No side girlfriend and a dig will be cool


And yes I do want to be married and live the House of cards marriage


So....you wouldn't mind if your wife had a boy toy and then another male to join in for a threesome?

Interesting.

*puts house of cards on my list of shows to watch*


Posted By: rell85
Date Posted: May 10 2014 at 1:49pm
Nope


Posted By: iliveforbhm
Date Posted: May 10 2014 at 2:02pm
Originally posted by Az~Maverick Az~Maverick wrote:

Originally posted by iliveforbhm iliveforbhm wrote:

Originally posted by BBpants BBpants wrote:

I want a husband...a side gf and a dog.


No side girlfriend and a dog will be cool


And yes I do want to be married and live the House of cards marriage


So....you wouldn't mind if your wife had a boy toy and then another male to join in for a threesome?

Interesting.

Let me be clear no side nothing, just their great teamwork and logical analytical thinking is so beautiful and refreshing. 


Posted By: BBpants
Date Posted: May 10 2014 at 2:18pm
Originally posted by iliveforbhm iliveforbhm wrote:

Originally posted by BBpants BBpants wrote:

I want a husband...a side gf and a dog.


No side girlfriend and a dig will be cool


And yes I do want to be married and live the House of cards marriage


Stern Smile


Posted By: iliveforbhm
Date Posted: May 10 2014 at 2:32pm
Originally posted by BBpants BBpants wrote:

Originally posted by iliveforbhm iliveforbhm wrote:

Originally posted by BBpants BBpants wrote:

I want a husband...a side gf and a dog.


No side girlfriend and a dig will be cool


And yes I do want to be married and live the House of cards marriage


Stern Smile

What's that face for? I need some words.... Sleepy


Posted By: BBpants
Date Posted: May 10 2014 at 2:36pm
Stern Smile don't try to change my words


Posted By: iliveforbhm
Date Posted: May 10 2014 at 2:37pm
Originally posted by BBpants BBpants wrote:

Stern Smile don't try to change my words

Fine have the side girl LOL


Posted By: leftywefty
Date Posted: May 10 2014 at 2:59pm
yes, and I am. 
My parents have been married for almost 30 yrs….grandparents 50 yrs..it's all I know. 
Not everyone likes the title of marriage, but I believe most people ultimately want a partner whom they can rely on for love, support, and companionship. That structure is also very important for the social and emotional development of children. Kids need to see loving relationships….whether thats a long term boy/girlfriend, a lesbian/gay couple, or a hetero married couple…



Posted By: jonesable
Date Posted: May 10 2014 at 2:59pm
Yes


Posted By: PurplePhase
Date Posted: May 10 2014 at 4:36pm
Originally posted by OoDles O OoDles O wrote:

To be honest...
if I saw kids in my future... I'd probably be more interested in Marriage.


we got married in spite of this LOL


Posted By: ModelessDiva
Date Posted: May 10 2014 at 5:08pm
Originally posted by leftywefty leftywefty wrote:

yes, and I am. 
My parents have been married for almost 30 yrs….grandparents 50 yrs..it's all I know. 
Not everyone likes the title of marriage, but I believe most people ultimately want a partner whom they can rely on for love, support, and companionship. That structure is also very important for the social and emotional development of children. Kids need to see loving relationships….whether thats a long term boy/girlfriend, a lesbian/gay couple, or a hetero married couple…


true


Posted By: ModelessDiva
Date Posted: May 10 2014 at 5:12pm
Originally posted by OoDles O OoDles O wrote:

To be honest...
if I saw kids in my future... I'd probably be more interested in Marriage.

this is me

i dont believe in raising kids outside of a marriage...




Posted By: afrokock
Date Posted: May 10 2014 at 5:31pm
funny different women have made me want kids whilst others have left me with no desires to sire kids



Posted By: PurplePhase
Date Posted: May 10 2014 at 5:38pm
Originally posted by afrokock afrokock wrote:

funny different women have made me want kids whilst others have left me with no desires to sire kids



bhm extremes/all out of left field interpretation:  what are you saying, that my husband doesn't love me because he doesn't want to have kids with me?

LOL


Posted By: niecy
Date Posted: May 10 2014 at 6:31pm
The idea of marriage is something I am beginning to look forward to less and less mostly out of fear of divorce. I'm not in a rush to get married like I used to be because I realized I only wanted it because of the wedding.


Posted By: Junior Jr
Date Posted: May 10 2014 at 6:40pm
Originally posted by leftywefty leftywefty wrote:

yes, and I am. 
My parents have been married for almost 30 yrs….grandparents 50 yrs..it's all I know. 

pretty much this.

never even thought of not getting married

jr.


Posted By: afrokock
Date Posted: May 10 2014 at 6:42pm
^^ im waiting for my invite vato

Originally posted by PurplePhase PurplePhase wrote:

Originally posted by afrokock afrokock wrote:

funny different women have made me want kids whilst others have left me with no desires to sire kids



bhm extremes/all out of left field interpretation:  what are you saying, that my husband doesn't love me because he doesn't want to have kids with me?

LOL
some women are cool, and all that but would be unfit moms, so no desire to have kids with them

we'd run till the wheels fell off the ride though

and most likely wouldnt be marriage in thatscenario


Posted By: Junior Jr
Date Posted: May 10 2014 at 6:43pm
i got you, my nig!

jr.


Posted By: Mixer
Date Posted: May 10 2014 at 6:47pm
You got engaged, Jr.?


Posted By: PurplePhase
Date Posted: May 10 2014 at 6:48pm
Originally posted by afrokock afrokock wrote:

   some women are cool, and all that but would be unfit moms, so no desire to have kids with them

we'd run till the wheels fell off the ride though

and most likely wouldnt be marriage in thatscenario


you know I was playing Afro. I didn't even slightly take it that way.LOL


Posted By: afrokock
Date Posted: May 10 2014 at 6:49pm




Posted By: afrokock
Date Posted: May 10 2014 at 6:50pm
Originally posted by Mixer Mixer wrote:

You got engaged, Jr.?


Posted By: Jess
Date Posted: May 10 2014 at 6:50pm
I want to get married.  However, I don't want to have children or get married to my current.


Posted By: Mixer
Date Posted: May 10 2014 at 6:52pm
I have no idea what's going on here.


Posted By: Junior Jr
Date Posted: May 10 2014 at 7:00pm
Originally posted by Mixer Mixer wrote:

You got engaged, Jr.?

lol, nah

jr.


Posted By: EPITOME
Date Posted: May 10 2014 at 8:05pm
....interesting....





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