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Topic: I dont typically use the word hater, but
Posted By: beautiful-stranger
Subject: I dont typically use the word hater, but
Date Posted: May 02 2014 at 11:03am
*this is just a random rambling I thought in my head*

I lurk LSA, I find out the latest gossip, browse pictures, get hair styles, and sometimes even walk away with a bit of actual useful information.

BUT I watched the Taren Guy thread grow, at first I was like damn this woman is crazy but as I read through the thread I wondered how people could be so hateful ALL day championing someone's personal and professional life.

So I started to wonder, am I any better reading through these pages as if it were the best book I've ever read. Made me wonder, am I a hater too? So I started thinking back on conversations I have with my friends just wondering if I ever use that same kind of hateful language in my life and of course I have so I've decided to take a step in eliminating that kind of disgusting habit out of my life!

Have any of you gone through any self reflection lately that May have led you to change or eliminate a bad habit



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Posted By: danieb23
Date Posted: May 02 2014 at 11:13am
Thread link?

For research purposes, of course


Posted By: NJHairLuv
Date Posted: May 02 2014 at 11:14am
You are not a hater. You (we) are messy for watching the gossipy stories unfold. Dont worry, it is some primal flight or fight ish. That is why reality shows are so huge. Some psychoanalyst somewhere probably showed the media that peering into someone's life and seeing the good/bad/ugly either repels them or it draws them and causes them to release endorphins.LOL


Posted By: NJHairLuv
Date Posted: May 02 2014 at 11:17am
Originally posted by danieb23 danieb23 wrote:

Thread link?

For research purposes, of course

Go get your coffee, lunch, diet coke, Oprah Chai and a mid afternoon snack b/c that is one helluva thread! There is a thread here with all of the tea, receipts and lanks somewhere btwn pgs 2-4 b/c someone bumped it up yesterday.LOL


Posted By: blaquefoxx
Date Posted: May 02 2014 at 11:18am
happy friday yall and shabbat shalam 


Posted By: NJHairLuv
Date Posted: May 02 2014 at 11:30am
Originally posted by beautiful-stranger beautiful-stranger wrote:

So I started to wonder, am I any better reading through these pages as if it were the best book I've ever read. Made me wonder, am I a hater too? So I started thinking back on conversations I have with my friends just wondering if I ever use that same kind of hateful language in my life and of course I have so I've decided to take a step in eliminating that kind of disgusting habit out of my life!

Have any of you gone through any self reflection lately that May have led you to change or eliminate a bad habit


In person, Im constantly telling people to keep me out of the 'mess' and I cut them off when they gossip. I dont trust gossipy people. I only listen to gossip when it is something that I need to know like work related folks bout to get pink slips, or something in a gossip/warning format.

I think that it is an anxiety disorder when people have to spill every single bean all day and cant hold any info in confidence to anyone ever. Like what floodgate in your brain's cortex will not close?

Im more compassionate with people off line than I am when I read and post here about celeb gossip (think dwade gabby baby-break), youtube beef fiascos, reality shows (mimi flick and her daughter, LHH, BBW, Porsha mopping the floor with Kenya).

The reasoning is that the average person you encounter on the street probably doesnt even know that their ish has been revealed publicly versus the person that put their whole life on IG/Reality Tv/YouTube, then scramble when they dont get the reaction that they want.

BHM has taught me to be less judgemental, to behave less entitled and less privileged.
Reality shows have taught me not to repeat ish b/c you never know who is lurking around taking notes to rightfully quote you and to beat your azz like Brooke beat Jacqui on BBW and like how Evelyn jumped on the table barefoot to attack Jennifer when Jennifer distanced herself from her friend.

Live/Learn/Grow. I still remember how entertained I was on boring days when your ish would unfold with receipts, paypal claims, medical records, etc and I think that we all should learn to be very prudent in the 1 life that we live.Smile


Posted By: Journey94
Date Posted: May 02 2014 at 11:34am
Her life is tragic af, if anyone is hating on something like that their life really must be miserable. But anyway that has to be one ofthe greatest LSA threads of all time lol


Posted By: Ds2nice
Date Posted: May 02 2014 at 11:35am
Yes.  Sometimes being around people or being in a negative environment can effect my mood and my thoughts about certain people.
 
I had realized a couple of months ago I had a dislike for a certain group of people (i'm not going to mention the group/type).  I had realized the reason for this dislike was because a particular friend generally puts this group of people on a very high pedestal.  I had found his attitude for glorifying a group of people to be very stupid but then I started to dislike these people all because of this friend's beliefs.
 
I had to take a step back and reevaluate the reason for my dislike and realized it was also very stupid.  But now I have a dislike for this friend. Ouch 
 
I now have to train myself to get rid of this negative energy.  I also have to understand that everyone is entitled to their belief and learn to find peace with things that I can't control.


Posted By: Journey94
Date Posted: May 02 2014 at 11:39am
Originally posted by NJHairLuv NJHairLuv wrote:

Originally posted by beautiful-stranger beautiful-stranger wrote:

So I started to wonder, am I any better reading through these pages as if it were the best book I've ever read. Made me wonder, am I a hater too? So I started thinking back on conversations I have with my friends just wondering if I ever use that same kind of hateful language in my life and of course I have so I've decided to take a step in eliminating that kind of disgusting habit out of my life!

Have any of you gone through any self reflection lately that May have led you to change or eliminate a bad habit


In person, Im constantly telling people to keep me out of the 'mess' and I cut them off when they gossip. I dont trust gossipy people. Smile


People know not to gossip to me, keep that crap to yourself or go talk to somebody else. I don't even want to know about anybody else's mess. I shut down when somebody starts gossiping like I don't hear it. People on a public platform are different, they tell their own business & in my mind I have the right to be messy and talk about them on forums lmao


Posted By: beautiful-stranger
Date Posted: May 02 2014 at 11:41am
You guys are so right! Also talking badly about people does nothing but keep your mind in a state of negativity! 


Posted By: beautiful-stranger
Date Posted: May 02 2014 at 11:44am
Would you guys consider talking about a situation in which you personally were wronged/venting about someone you live with/venting about a co-worker in the same pool of gossipy/hater negativity?


Posted By: NJHairLuv
Date Posted: May 02 2014 at 11:48am
Originally posted by beautiful-stranger beautiful-stranger wrote:

Would you guys consider talking about a situation in which you personally were wronged/venting about someone you live with/venting about a co-worker in the same pool of gossipy/hater negativity?

No.
Sharing your life experience is healthy. Bashing someone over something that doesnt impact your 3 F's is not.


Posted By: rell85
Date Posted: May 02 2014 at 2:02pm
I like YouTube but I could care less about their personal lives I don't like gossiping either it's pointless.


Posted By: Gkisses
Date Posted: May 02 2014 at 2:06pm
1 star thread

0.00000000001% haterd energy excreted


Posted By: Cream1970
Date Posted: May 03 2014 at 1:19am
For me, the words "hating/hater" implies jealousy.
The people that usually toss that word the most, usually have the least going for them.
I'm not sure of the true definition, but from my observation, it's a popular word for the type of people that live a lifestyle that's chocked full of self destructive actions and thoughts, that have this unrealistic view that they will not be held accountable or judged for their rather common displays of ignorance and stupidity.

They're usually in a situation that folks with common sense would have no desire to be in. Lol


Posted By: Benni
Date Posted: May 03 2014 at 1:49am
Not familiar with the site, but reading what someone puts out on the Internet is not wrong. Like you said, you sometimes come away with useful info.    
Responding with hurtful/negative comments is hateful, we must consider how we would feel reading hateful/negative comments directed at ourselves.
Talking about things among your friends maliciously is not the best, but is still considered 'kitchen table talk', as long as it does not get back to the person you're speaking about . Another thing to consider is, how you feel after making these comments.
We all have just a little bit of that within us, some can keep it under control, others cannot, or chose not to care who they hurt.

My two cents


Posted By: liesnalibis
Date Posted: May 03 2014 at 3:10am
Ain't nobody hating on that lost hoodrat.


Posted By: f8dagrate
Date Posted: May 03 2014 at 3:23am
Originally posted by liesnalibis liesnalibis wrote:

Ain't nobody hating on that lost hoodrat.

I actually think people are thoughLOL, not the majority but people are. 


Posted By: zolloh
Date Posted: May 03 2014 at 10:28am
I am a connoisseur of information .....ok im a gossip, not coz i give a fck abt people but coz i have a curious mind.i always need to know and my memory stores random useless sh*t that doesnt help me.

The main thing that annoys me: dont judge me that im a mongering gossip but when you wanna catch some juicy tea you come to me



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