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Topic: You find out your fathers dirty secret and...
Posted By: TokyoRose
Subject: You find out your fathers dirty secret and...
Date Posted: Apr 06 2014 at 5:29am
I ripped this from another website I frequent.  What would you do if you were in this situation?  Honestly, I don't know what I'd do.  If he didn't bring it up, I'd just have to K.I.M., especially if I wasn't at home all the time.  On the other hand, it might be killing her that she knows about it and she wants to tell her dad she knows.

Quote Have you ever been in a situation that was so surreal you thought you were dreaming?  Yesterday, I went into the "everything" room in my house.  It's where me and my parents just sort of keep random things we don't want in our own rooms.  My father spends the most time there.  It's where he keeps his computer.  

Anyway, I went in there to do some spring cleaning of my things and I noticed something different.  In a clear draw, I noticed something pink.  I opened it and it was a pair of breast inserts for women who have had breasts removed from cancer.  There was all sorts of lingerie that definitely wasn't mine...but it wasn't my mom's either.  

There were two duffle bags sitting on the floor that I hadn't noticed before (I haven't been in that room for about a year, as I work a couple of states over and don't have the time to visit--my mother never goes into this room, she does not like clutter and that's what this room is full of).  I opened one up and it was full of wigs, dresses and high heel shoes and boots.  I realized these things belonged to my father.  

I normally don't care what people do with their lives, but this hit too close to home.  I told my mother, but she wasn't phased.  She laughed.  When my mother explained their marriage hasn't been great for almost 15 years and said she had always known he was a sexual deviant (into very graphic pornography), I became more upset at the situation.  I haven't been able to talk to my father since.  I broke down crying today over it.  Am I overreacting?  I just want to be done with him.



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Posted By: beautiful_hair
Date Posted: Apr 06 2014 at 5:47am
I wouldn't know what to do.  Knowing me, I would try to stay away as much as possible so I wouldn't have to be around my dad knowing his secret.  

Nevermind that.  I would bring it up to him lightly by asking him whose stuff that is in the room and see what he says.  His answer would determine what I would do, but I definitely wouldn't tell my mom.

Edited because I didn't read the part where she tells her mom and she isn't phased by it.  In that case, I would leave it alone.


Posted By: Samoneisthebest
Date Posted: Apr 06 2014 at 5:49am
TBH, I'd think it was awesome that my daddy is a drag queen.


Posted By: Faithfully2002
Date Posted: Apr 06 2014 at 5:56am
Wow... I don't know what I would do.


Posted By: tatee
Date Posted: Apr 06 2014 at 6:35am
yeah id stay out of it.  she already found out her mom wasnt phased and its her life and marriage.  she needs to just move on and place that knowledge back in the top shelf of the closet in her mind and lock the door.


Posted By: Printer_Ink
Date Posted: Apr 06 2014 at 6:41am
Well, the daughter says she hasn't been in that room in a year because she works 2 states over .. something like that?

This tells me she is an adult and lives on her own or with a husband etc .. so she is grown.

As an adult we all know our parents aren't perfect and have their own lives so I think this grown woman can either ask her father about it and risk an upset or she can ignore it like her mother has .. and get on with her own life.

Clearly her father is a crossdresser and has probably been hiding it all his life so he's not going to give it up .. because it's something he 'needs'. I think she should try to see his side and how he must have felt to have lived with this big secret all his life.

Maybe she can go online and research crossdressers to learn more about them and then maybe approach him .... but all that crying is making it all about 'her'. Maybe she was an only child that was spoiled and pampered but her 'being done with him' is an overreaction for goodness sakes! He is not a murderered or achild rapist. DUH! What ... she will cut her father COMPPLETELY out of her life over some makeup and heels? Silly. He is still her father.

Anyway, if I were her .. I would just pretend I don't know his secret and move on. Geesh, let her dad live his life the way he wants.


Posted By: nitabug
Date Posted: Apr 06 2014 at 6:42am
she needs to get over herself and stop snitching


Posted By: newdiva1
Date Posted: Apr 06 2014 at 6:45am
hmmm...i'd like to think my father was still my father.  mom knows about it and has been knowing for what?  the last 15 years?  and apparently she married the man knowing he was a "sexual deviant".  *shrugs* if my father is still being a father to me that's his business.  Would I look at him the same?  I can't call it but I wouldn't necessarily cut off my relationship with him because of it.  If it was bothering me that much and I can't look him in the eye n'sh*t i'm sure he'd notice. And i'm sure mom would tell him that I found his Queen stash. Honestly...i'd be a bit curious too tho.  What is your make up game lookin' like? 


Posted By: Sang Froid
Date Posted: Apr 06 2014 at 7:25am
She nosey as hell. 


Posted By: Princess Grace
Date Posted: Apr 06 2014 at 7:38am
As long as she didnt find any pics of children or any evidence that he is the long lost Zodiak Killer she should get over it. So her dad is into some kink, that has nothing to do with his role as a father or how he treats her.


Posted By: mangachan
Date Posted: Apr 06 2014 at 8:14am
At the end of the day it's your dad...you just have to deal with it as much as it sucks.  I would lose respect for him though.


Posted By: kerysdream7
Date Posted: Apr 06 2014 at 8:19am
I wouldn't do anything. If her mother isn't phased why is she? Some people are way too worried about other peoples business.


Posted By: NJHairLuv
Date Posted: Apr 06 2014 at 8:31am
Its not my problem. I love him unconditionally no matter what.


Posted By: zolloh
Date Posted: Apr 06 2014 at 8:42am
Its kinda late for her to learn her daddy aint perfect,most of us know that by 5yrs old...she needs to get over it,his identity is more than a father,he is other things as well


Posted By: bunzaveli
Date Posted: Apr 06 2014 at 8:51am
Originally posted by NJHairLuv NJHairLuv wrote:

Its not my problem. I love him unconditionally no matter what.


truth.com

Originally posted by TokyoRose TokyoRose wrote:

I ripped this from another website I frequent.  What would you do if you were in this situation?  Honestly, I don't know what I'd do.  If he didn't bring it up, I'd just have to K.I.M., especially if I wasn't at home all the time.  On the other hand, it might be killing her that she knows about it and she wants to tell her dad she knows.

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I normally don't care what people do with their lives, but this hit too close to home.  I told my mother, but she wasn't phased.  She laughed.  When my mother explained their marriage hasn't been great for almost 15 years and said she had always known he was a sexual deviant (into very graphic pornography), I became more upset at the situation.  I haven't been able to talk to my father since.  I broke down crying today over it.  Am I overreacting?  I just want to be done with him.


really ?


Posted By: iliveforbhm
Date Posted: Apr 06 2014 at 8:55am
I would laugh and go on about my business.


Posted By: Lilaca
Date Posted: Apr 06 2014 at 9:04am
oh well without him you wouldn't be here...could be worse


Posted By: afrokock
Date Posted: Apr 06 2014 at 11:42am
I was gonna say mom knows

She probably has the strap on in her room


Posted By: lanae
Date Posted: Apr 06 2014 at 11:58am
Id blackmail him into paying for my wedding


Jk. Id act as if nothing happened. Id be too embarrassed for him to confront him about it


Posted By: Gkisses
Date Posted: Apr 06 2014 at 12:25pm
Just because its a secret to her doesn't mean its one to her mom. Moms might be into some. Femdom freaky ish...ya neva know.


Posted By: liesnalibis
Date Posted: Apr 06 2014 at 12:29pm
It would be disturbing, but you get over stuff like that eventually and realize it's not your concern.


Posted By: slayfresh
Date Posted: Apr 06 2014 at 12:30pm
This sounds like the pilot of a new show I watched on Amazon. Personally I would never mention it and keep his secret. None of my damn business.


Posted By: Ladybird0724
Date Posted: Apr 06 2014 at 12:52pm
as long as he's not hurting anyone. 

if it bothers her so much, then she should talk to her father about it. 

but she just needs to let it go. it's his life. 


Posted By: TokyoRose
Date Posted: Apr 06 2014 at 1:42pm
From what I understood from the post and what was explained later in the thread, it looks like the crossdressing thing was a recent thing and the mom doesn't care, as long as there aren't any additional people involved.  Even still, it just seems like a strange family situation.  TBH, I really don't think she was being nosy.  She if they all had things in this room, it's not like he was going to great lengths to hide it, either.  I am sure her mom knows something about what he does, too, and just doesn't care.  No one is perfect, but man.  I mean, it could always be worse.  He could be a drug user or an alcoholic.  


Posted By: india100
Date Posted: Apr 06 2014 at 1:45pm
I would inform my father i know and cry . I would continue to love him , but he can't attend family function in his fantasy wear .


Posted By: Random Thoughts
Date Posted: Apr 06 2014 at 1:45pm
I wouldn't care.


Posted By: GoodGirlGoneGr8
Date Posted: Apr 06 2014 at 1:50pm
He's not hurting anyone, right?

If not, I would tell my father I know and that it was okay for him to discuss it anytime he wanted to. #nojudgementzone

I'd also tell him that if he doesn't initiate convo about it, I'd never bring it up again.


Posted By: nala52808
Date Posted: Apr 06 2014 at 1:52pm
I would disown my father. My father was always a guy who acts extra masculine and stresses that men should never cry and blah blah blah, so If I found out he was a drag queen that would make him an extreme hypocrite, and I really dont hang out with douchebag hypocrites even if they are family. And I also dont like the image of men in bras and panties, so imma have to let him go


Posted By: bunzaveli
Date Posted: Apr 06 2014 at 1:54pm
Originally posted by afrokock afrokock wrote:

I was gonna say mom knows

She probably has the strap on in her room


mom probably turned him out




Posted By: rell85
Date Posted: Apr 06 2014 at 1:58pm
it could just be a fetish


Posted By: creole booty
Date Posted: Apr 06 2014 at 3:39pm
I would tell my dad jokingly that I know. Like hey dad, I know u saw that last rupauls drag race. Or hey dad, bss hair is not the business, FYI.

We'd have to laugh about it. That's too weird not to laugh about. That's like finding fart PICS or something.


This is after laughin uncontrollably after the moment of realizing its my dads. I think my eyes would b swollen from crying from laughing. I would b on my back laughing. Weak from laughter. Like, REALLY? This guy raised me? El oh el. That would explain so much.


Posted By: DiorShowGirl
Date Posted: Apr 06 2014 at 3:58pm
Originally posted by newdiva1 newdiva1 wrote:

hmmm...i'd like to think my father was still my father.  mom knows about it and has been knowing for what?  the last 15 years?  and apparently she married the man knowing he was a "sexual deviant".  *shrugs* if my father is still being a father to me that's his business.  Would I look at him the same?  I can't call it but I wouldn't necessarily cut off my relationship with him because of it.  If it was bothering me that much and I can't look him in the eye n'sh*t i'm sure he'd notice. And i'm sure mom would tell him that I found his Queen stash. Honestly...i'd be a bit curious too tho.  What is your make up game lookin' like? 



OH HOLY SWEETBEJESUS....LOL


Posted By: AshBash89
Date Posted: Apr 06 2014 at 4:07pm
I'd probably tease him a bit but I definitely wouldn't care.


Posted By: PurplePhase
Date Posted: Apr 06 2014 at 4:25pm
my dad?

oh, I'd love it!


Posted By: TokyoRose
Date Posted: Apr 06 2014 at 4:46pm
Oh, just wow.  Yeah, apparently there is a lot more to the story than what I first posted.  It seems the cross-dressing is only the tip of the iceberg.  Her dad has some serious psychological issues.  I think joking with the guy would make it a lot worse.  After a few pages, I just had to stop reading.  


Posted By: QueenBee
Date Posted: Apr 06 2014 at 4:47pm
If my mom knew and want passed neither would I. There would be no way in hell I'd confront my dad on the issue. It's his secret that I'd allow him to keep.



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