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Topic: I thought only people from Africa got HIV
Posted By: zsazsa
Subject: I thought only people from Africa got HIV
Date Posted: Mar 12 2014 at 8:41am
SIDE EYE SIDE EYE SIDE EYE. 



'I thought only people in Africa got HIV,' says mother-of-three who contracted the condition after summer romance 

  • Rachel Dilley, 48, says she had no idea she was at risk of the condition
  • This is because she had never known a white person to have HIV
  • When embarking on new relationship she didn't use protection
  • Says she was 'too old' to be at risk of pregnancy and hadn't considered HIV
  • A few months later suffered symptoms similar to a 'severe bout of flu'
  • Was eventually advised to have an HIV test - which came back positive 


http://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-2579087/I-thought-people-Africa-got-HIV-says-mother-three-contracted-condition-holiday-romance.html#comments" rel="nofollow -


A mother-of-three who had unprotected sex says she never dreamed she was at risk of HIV - because 'only African people could get it'.

Rachel Dilley, 48, developed the condition nearly a decade ago.

Appearing on ITV's This Morning to discuss her diagnosis, she said she hadn't realised at the time that 'white people had ever had it'.

She told amazed hosts Phillip Schofield and Holly Willoughby that the risks had genuinely never crossed her mind.


Naive: Rachel Dilley says she had no idea of the risks of getting HIV - because she thought only people in Africa got it
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Naive: Rachel Dilley says she had no idea of the risks of getting HIV - because she thought 'only people in Africa got it'


It was in 2004, just short of her 40th birthday, when she embarked on online dating, having split from her partner of 20 years and the father of her children the year before. 

She began dating a man called Simon* and said the pair seemed to click and get on well.

Over the course of the summer, their relationship progressed physically.

 

But because of her age, she says she knew she wouldn't get pregnant - so didn't think about protection. 

But she also hadn't given a second thought to HIV. 'I didn't know anything about it - I didn't know it was even possible to catch it,' she explained. 

Stunned: Ms Dilley told amazed This Morning hosts Phillip Schofield and Holly Willoughby that the risks had never crossed her mind - because she had never known a white person to get HIV
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Stunned: Ms Dilley told amazed This Morning hosts Phillip Schofield and Holly Willoughby that the risks had never crossed her mind - because she had never known a white person to get HIV


When quizzed by Philip Scofield about how sex education campaigns and messages had passed her by, she admitted they simply had. 

Within a few months, the relationship between Ms Dilley and Simon was over - and shortly afterwards she began to feel unwell.


'I had swollen glands, a sore throat, a temperature and couldn't eat properly,' she recalled. 

'It was like a really severe bout of the flu.'

After tests were inconclusive, it was suggested - to her surprise - she should take an HIV test. 

'I thought "why?",' she explained.


Unwell: Ms Dilley said that a few months after finishing a relationship, she felt like she had a severe bout of the flu - and was eventually urged to take an HIV test
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Unwell: Ms Dilley said that a few months after finishing a relationship, she felt like she had 'a severe bout of the flu' - and was eventually urged to take an HIV test


'I just didn't know anything about it - I just thought you got it in Africa. I didn't know a white person had ever got it.'

Her comments were described by Philip as 'extremely naive'.

She went on to explain that a week after taking the test, she received the devastating news that she was, indeed, HIV positive. 


'I felt like I was walking into a black hole - and my first words were "am I going to die"?  

'It sounds stupid now - as now I know that HIV is not a death sentence.

'My children, who were teenagers at the time, took the news well - as did my mother when she was alive.'


Surprise: This Morning host Philip Scofield said Ms Dilley had been extremely naive
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Surprise: This Morning host Philip Scofield said Ms Dilley had been 'extremely naive'


But she added not everyone has been fine about her diagnosis. 'A friend's daughter didn't want me near her baby. It did upset me at the time, but it just shows that, like me, she wasn't educated on it either.' 


Today, Ms Dilley takes two drugs in the morning and one in the evening and tries to keep her immune system strong. 


She also admitted she 'doesn't have much to do with men' - and said people of all ages need to be more aware of the risks of HIV. 


'I will not be defined by it [my illness] - people love me for who I am,' she added. 

For more information on HIV, click  http://www.tht.org.uk/" rel="nofollow - here . 

*Simon's name was changed on the show.







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Posted By: nitabug
Date Posted: Mar 12 2014 at 8:42am
niccas and science


Posted By: nekamarie83
Date Posted: Mar 12 2014 at 8:45am
Yeah… Nita already summed it up.

Smh @ that ignant ass woman.

Guess she learned today, huh?


Posted By: Midna
Date Posted: Mar 12 2014 at 8:46am
Whoosh! There it went! All my sympathy. Out the window. Burning in hell.

Dumb bitch.


Posted By: sugabanana
Date Posted: Mar 12 2014 at 8:48am
Shes a fool.


Posted By: afrokock
Date Posted: Mar 12 2014 at 8:48am
Is her partner black?


Posted By: afrokock
Date Posted: Mar 12 2014 at 8:51am
Must be whit cos

1. Changed his name

2. No mention of his race

3. No picture


Posted By: GoodGirlGoneGr8
Date Posted: Mar 12 2014 at 8:54am
That's riiiightttt, HIV is a black disease. I guess she thought yt's could only contract rabies and parvo...

What a f*cking idiot.


Posted By: iliveforbhm
Date Posted: Mar 12 2014 at 8:55am
Her partner probably white and someone who passes the disease too other unexpecting white women who think they have no chances of ever catching the disease.


Posted By: Cocoa
Date Posted: Mar 12 2014 at 8:55am
meh...


Posted By: ThoughtCouture
Date Posted: Mar 12 2014 at 8:59am
she looks touched...Sleepy


Posted By: NuAttitude
Date Posted: Mar 12 2014 at 9:10am
WTF does she mean "she thought ONLY AFRICAN people get it" She didn't know a White person can get it.....what kind of racist sh*t is that?!Angry.....What rock did she crawl out from? 


Posted By: iliveforbhm
Date Posted: Mar 12 2014 at 9:14am

Race Empathy Gap. She doesn't feel the pain of other races and their struggles. Meh.



Posted By: tatee
Date Posted: Mar 12 2014 at 9:18am
i dont believe her.  its just easier to say you were naive.


Posted By: liesnalibis
Date Posted: Mar 12 2014 at 9:19am
Do y'all have more of a problem with her statement or the behavior behind it? Because people risk their health like this everyday thinking it can't happen to them. But BHM is full of hypocrites so.


Posted By: tatee
Date Posted: Mar 12 2014 at 9:20am
Originally posted by liesnalibis liesnalibis wrote:

Do y'all have more of a problem with her statement or the behavior behind it? Because people risk their health like this everyday thinking it can't happen to them. But BHM is full of hypocrites so.


you forever calling somebody a hypocriteLOL


Posted By: afrokock
Date Posted: Mar 12 2014 at 9:22am
You sound confused star

Thinking it can't happen to you =/= only black people get it

Furthermore risky behaviour=/= ignorance



Posted By: liesnalibis
Date Posted: Mar 12 2014 at 9:22am
LoL I'm saying though. Having unprotected sex because you don't possibly think your boo could have it is the same thing...but I guess because her misconceptions were based on very real statistics people are getting mad. She's no dumber than anyone in here who's ever gone raw.


Posted By: ThoughtCouture
Date Posted: Mar 12 2014 at 9:25am

well there is wreckless behavior and then there is ridiculous statements used to justify wreckless behavior.

i'm not sure if her behavior was wreckless or not because i stopped giving a f*ck after i read her ridiculous statement and saw her cromagnon lookin face...


Posted By: ThoughtCouture
Date Posted: Mar 12 2014 at 9:27am
oh and i don't think having unprotected sex is in and of itself wreckless...but carry on...


Posted By: mizzsandra00
Date Posted: Mar 12 2014 at 9:48am
Originally posted by ThoughtCouture ThoughtCouture wrote:

well there is wreckless behavior and then there is ridiculous statements used to justify wreckless behavior.

i'm not sure if her behavior was wreckless or not because i stopped giving a f*ck after i read her ridiculous statement and saw her cromagnon lookin face...




Posted By: mizzsandra00
Date Posted: Mar 12 2014 at 9:51am
Funny thing is....old folks raw dog more than young folks.....


Posted By: Diane (35)
Date Posted: Mar 12 2014 at 9:56am
Originally posted by GoodGirlGoneGr8 GoodGirlGoneGr8 wrote:

That's riiiightttt, HIV is a black disease. I guess she thought yt's could only contract rabies and parvo...

What a f*cking idiot.

CryCryCryCryCryCryCryCryCryCryCryCryLOLLOLLOLLOLLOLLOLLOLLOLLOL not ParvoV! *death is coming for me soon* please ensure that they put on my good curly wig, no curried goat/oxtail is served at my funeral, cheerful colours please, and the only music at the repast/"dead yard" is Vybz Kartel before 2009 TIA


Posted By: ThoughtCouture
Date Posted: Mar 12 2014 at 9:59am
LOL


Posted By: mizzsandra00
Date Posted: Mar 12 2014 at 9:59am
LMAO @ Diana....


Posted By: ThoughtCouture
Date Posted: Mar 12 2014 at 10:01am
i had to actually look that shyt up!!!!  whew!!!!!!!!!!!!!


Posted By: Diane (35)
Date Posted: Mar 12 2014 at 10:04am
Originally posted by mizzsandra00 mizzsandra00 wrote:

Originally posted by ThoughtCouture ThoughtCouture wrote:

well there is wreckless behavior and then there is ridiculous statements used to justify wreckless behavior.

i'm not sure if her behavior was wreckless or not because i stopped giving a f*ck after i read her ridiculous statement and saw her cromagnon lookin face...



TC killeth me again!!! Cro-magnon whyyyyyyyyyy. All you needed to do was types CaCs and I'd Burst into flames


Posted By: Derri
Date Posted: Mar 12 2014 at 10:13am
Well now she knows just who can get HIV.



Posted By: NuAttitude
Date Posted: Mar 12 2014 at 10:17am
Originally posted by ThoughtCouture ThoughtCouture wrote:

well there is wreckless behavior and then there is ridiculous statements used to justify wreckless behavior.

i'm not sure if her behavior was wreckless or not because i stopped giving a f*ck after i read her ridiculous statement and saw her cromagnon lookin face...
 
LOLLOL Not Neanderthal but Cromagnon.  You are too funny!!


Posted By: ModelessDiva
Date Posted: Mar 12 2014 at 10:22am
I don't believe people can be this stupid to believe diseases are limited to only a specific race.

She probably knew in the back of her mind that she could get it but thought "it won't happen to me" like a lot of people do

Sad she had to learn the hard way.


Posted By: AmiliaCabral
Date Posted: Mar 12 2014 at 11:34am

Idiota



Posted By: naturesgift
Date Posted: Mar 12 2014 at 11:38am
assh*le! why would she come on tv and say that? unreal....


Posted By: Katrenia
Date Posted: Mar 12 2014 at 11:39am
So she believed only Black People contracted HIV???
Guess she proved herself wrong.
I have no sympathy for her dumb ass.


Posted By: sexyandfamous
Date Posted: Mar 12 2014 at 12:36pm
I guess when you are a racist your whole life, you learn the hard way that your race is not superior.
No sympathy. I hope she learns to be a kind person now.


Posted By: StylingArabella
Date Posted: Mar 12 2014 at 1:07pm
Okay...is it 1984 or 2014?


Posted By: keepgrowing
Date Posted: Mar 12 2014 at 1:16pm
So this is stupid but the whole only Africans get HIV isn't? Confused

'I felt like I was walking into a black hole - and my first words were "am I going to die"?  

'It sounds stupid now - as now I know that HIV is not a death sentence.




Posted By: Tbaby
Date Posted: Mar 12 2014 at 1:35pm
Originally posted by ModelessDiva ModelessDiva wrote:

I don't believe people can be this stupid to believe diseases are limited to only a specific race.

She probably knew in the back of her mind that she could get it but thought "it won't happen to me" like a lot of people do

Sad she had to learn the hard way.


But that's what racism is all about...believing that the color of your skin determines personaility, health benefits and intelligence...etc.  Its based on ignorance, not fact.






Posted By: ms_wonderland
Date Posted: Mar 12 2014 at 2:21pm
I've heard black Americans say the same thing, about it being an African thing.  My cousins Liberian bf lost his mother to aids when he was small.  In spite of that he thinks only "f@gs" get it and basically hiv is the immaculate conception of gay sex...if two negative guys have anal then hiv forms...it's terrible that ppl are so misinformed.


Posted By: HunnyB
Date Posted: Mar 12 2014 at 3:22pm
Wow....this heffa is stupid....No your T-cells know that struggle..


Posted By: mizzsandra00
Date Posted: Mar 12 2014 at 3:25pm
Originally posted by StylingArabella StylingArabella wrote:

Okay...is it 1984 or 2014?

I had to go back and read again when she actually  got hiv....I was like bish you just caught this shyt really?

LOL


Posted By: Az~Maverick
Date Posted: Mar 12 2014 at 3:31pm
I can't with this ignorance.....stupid bish


Posted By: Wildfire
Date Posted: Mar 12 2014 at 3:40pm
Welp...proof that ignorance can literally kill you.








Posted By: Wildfire
Date Posted: Mar 12 2014 at 3:44pm
Originally posted by sexyandfamous sexyandfamous wrote:

I guess when you are a racist your whole life, you learn the hard way that your race is not superior.
No sympathy. I hope she learns to be a kind person now.


i like how the host says she was"naive"
...thats a synonym for racist now


Posted By: Wildfire
Date Posted: Mar 12 2014 at 3:45pm
Originally posted by ms_wonderland ms_wonderland wrote:

I've heard black Americans say the same thing, about it being an African thing.  My cousins Liberian bf lost his mother to aids when he was small.  In spite of that he thinks only "f@gs" get it and basically hiv is the immaculate conception of gay sex...if two negative guys have anal then hiv forms...it's terrible that ppl are so misinformed.

There is plenty of information out there. Anyone who thinks like this is a f*cking idiot. Not misinformed


Posted By: PurplePhase
Date Posted: Mar 12 2014 at 3:45pm
I didn't read fully because when I saw that she was 48, I had to stop to go get me a fresh cup of blood to drink LOL. because it must be working.

I'm a vampire'

eta:   agree w/ TC


Posted By: mizzsandra00
Date Posted: Mar 12 2014 at 3:48pm
Purp....purp....purp

LOLLOLLOLLOLLOLLOLLOLLOLLOLCry


Posted By: PurplePhase
Date Posted: Mar 12 2014 at 3:51pm
 My friends always say I'm a vamp lol. Just the other day I posted pix for my birthday month, and someone commented "how many innocents has she feasted on ...?' lol
*slurps*


Posted By: mizzsandra00
Date Posted: Mar 12 2014 at 3:53pm
My god mommy swears my mom sleeps in a coffin.....lmao


Posted By: PurplePhase
Date Posted: Mar 12 2014 at 3:56pm
lol. You taking notes of her beauty secrets?


Posted By: mizzsandra00
Date Posted: Mar 12 2014 at 4:00pm
Her regimen is serious.....Im talking wheatgrass ice cube, gluten free everything....and let not even talk about the skin care routine.....I see all this is in my head Im like "I rather age like a sun bathing white woman"......Im lying tho....I don't wanna age like that....Im praying my genes save me.


Posted By: PurplePhase
Date Posted: Mar 12 2014 at 4:05pm
lol. Who was the poster that said 'aging like a reckless white woman?' that cracked me up.


Posted By: ThoughtCouture
Date Posted: Mar 12 2014 at 5:34pm
Originally posted by PurplePhase PurplePhase wrote:

I didn't read fully because when I saw that she was 48, I had to stop to go get me a fresh cup of blood to drink LOL. because it must be working.

I'm a vampire'

eta:   agree w/ TC
 
LMAO!!!!!!!!!!!


Posted By: PurplePhase
Date Posted: Mar 12 2014 at 5:40pm
Beer LOL
@TC


Posted By: Ladycoils
Date Posted: Mar 12 2014 at 5:41pm
She is beyond stupid..


Posted By: Diane (35)
Date Posted: Mar 12 2014 at 5:58pm
Originally posted by PurplePhase PurplePhase wrote:

I didn't read fully because when I saw that she was 48, I had to stop to go get me a fresh cup of blood to drink LOL. because it must be working.

I'm a vampire'

eta:   agree w/ TC

*cremate me this time* make sure my dogs are well taken care offfffffffffffffffffffffffffffffffffffffffffff


Posted By: ThoughtCouture
Date Posted: Mar 12 2014 at 6:00pm
LOL


Posted By: afrokock
Date Posted: Mar 12 2014 at 6:30pm


Posted By: missdeeluxe
Date Posted: Mar 12 2014 at 6:48pm
Confused


Posted By: *Belle*Femme*
Date Posted: Mar 12 2014 at 6:49pm
Originally posted by nekamarie83 nekamarie83 wrote:

Yeah… Nita already summed it up.

Smh @ that ignant ass woman.

Guess she learned today, huh?
I'm sorry but....................... this made me chuckle.


Posted By: ModelessDiva
Date Posted: Mar 12 2014 at 6:49pm
Originally posted by Tbaby Tbaby wrote:

Originally posted by ModelessDiva ModelessDiva wrote:

I don't believe people can be this stupid to believe diseases are limited to only a specific race.

She probably knew in the back of her mind that she could get it but thought "it won't happen to me" like a lot of people do

Sad she had to learn the hard way.


But that's what racism is all about...believing that the color of your skin determines personaility, health benefits and intelligence...etc.  Its based on ignorance, not fact.





i understand but still...

I doubt every racist white person alive believes their lack of melanin will stop them from catching HIV......

She racist and she special.




Posted By: HowardAlumAKA
Date Posted: Mar 12 2014 at 7:51pm


Posted By: Lilaca
Date Posted: Mar 12 2014 at 8:07pm


Posted By: Miss SDY
Date Posted: Mar 12 2014 at 8:50pm
So what in her mind brought her to the conclusion that white people were immune to HIV? The year she caught it was 2004. It was more than enough information about HIV published to where she had no excuse to have that mentality. I was barely 20 and was getting yearly HIV and STD testing by then.

So I refuse to believe that whole grown woman who popped out babies had no knowledge that HIV does not have a color or name to it. It's an equal opportunity virus.

And when was this filmed? How can she be 40 in 2004 but only 48 now? Not that it matters bc either way, I don't give a damn about her, her ignorance, the fact that she has HIV, or the fact that she looks like she's half way to 60.

Good luck with that ma'am! That awkward moment when being a racist goes terribly wrong. *shrugs*


Posted By: smaison
Date Posted: Mar 12 2014 at 9:50pm
so damn dumb. 


Posted By: ModelessDiva
Date Posted: Mar 12 2014 at 9:58pm
LOL


Posted By: marumaruyobi
Date Posted: Mar 13 2014 at 1:34am
LOL


Posted By: indiecat
Date Posted: Mar 13 2014 at 2:10am
What a dummy


Posted By: Midna
Date Posted: Mar 13 2014 at 4:29am
Originally posted by Diane (35) Diane (35) wrote:

Originally posted by GoodGirlGoneGr8 GoodGirlGoneGr8 wrote:

That's riiiightttt, HIV is a black disease. I guess she thought yt's could only contract rabies and parvo...

What a f*cking idiot.

CryCryCryCryCryCryCryCryCryCryCryCryLOLLOLLOLLOLLOLLOLLOLLOLLOL not ParvoV! *death is coming for me soon* please ensure that they put on my good curly wig, no curried goat/oxtail is served at my funeral, cheerful colours please, and the only music at the repast/"dead yard" is Vybz Kartel before 2009 TIA


I had to look that up! THE SHADE!!! LOLLOLLOLLOLLOLLOL


Posted By: JamCaygirl
Date Posted: Mar 16 2014 at 9:50pm

The terrible legacy of one mother's search for mid-life love: Newly single at 39, Rachel went online dating. What happened next will terrify every woman tempted to do the same

  • Rachel Dilley looked online for love after her 20-year relationship crumbled
  • Mum-of-three was surprised to find no shortage of men replying to her
  • Instantly hit it off with charmer Simon, a builder with two children
  • After 3 weeks she found out he was cheating on her
  • She tested positive for HIV - which she thought only affected people in Africa

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Survivor: Rachel Dilley, 39, from Hertfordshire
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Survivor: Rachel Dilley, 39, from Hertfordshire

Emotionally bruised after the collapse of her 20-year relationship, Rachel Dilley hoped internet dating would provide romance, a boost to her confidence and, with luck, lasting love.

Just short of 40 and with three teenage children, she thought no one would be interested in her dating profile, which made clear that after two decades of monogamy she was looking for serious commitment, rather than a casual, no-strings relationship.

So she was surprised to find no shortage of men responding. The first date was a crushing disappointment but she hit it off instantly with the second man she met.

A builder in the same age bracket as her, Simon was charismatic and attractive. On their first restaurant date, he showered her with compliments. They liked the same kind of food and music, and he made her laugh and feel desirable again.

Attentive and easy company, he told Rachel he had two children from a previous relationship and — having fallen for him hook, line and sinker — it didn’t cross her mind to quiz him about his sexual history. Fear of causing offence prevented her from even broaching the subject.

Swept up in a whirlwind love affair, it seemed unthinkable to suggest they both undergo tests for sexually transmitted diseases before embarking on a physical relationship — but that’s exactly what she’d do if she could turn back time.

 

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Within three weeks they were lovers and were soon talking about moving in together. She introduced Simon to her children, and was thrilled when they liked him as much as she did. But then, after just three months, it was all over.

Why? She was devastated to find a letter in his flat from another woman, suggesting he was also sleeping with someone else. It was a cruel blow to Rachel’s self-esteem. But the legacy of this ill-fated romance was to prove much more shattering than just a broken heart.

To her horror, she later discovered she had contracted HIV — a disease, she is ashamed to admit, she had always thought affected only people in Africa.
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Rachel with daughter Charlene in 2013
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Desmond Dilley aged 26
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'When I told my children, they were devastated' recalls Rachel. Pictured: (left picture) Daughter Charlene and mum Rachel on the right, (right picture) son Desmond in 2012

‘I can’t believe how little I knew about HIV and Aids. I thought it was something that happened to other people, not ordinary mums like myself,’ says Rachel, who lives in Harpenden, Hertfordshire.

‘I was completely ignorant. All I could remember was seeing a documentary about Aids victims in Africa and thinking it was a disease, such as malaria, which only happened somewhere else.’

Rachel, now 48, was diagnosed HIV positive after going to her GP following the break-up of her romance nine years ago, complaining of swollen glands, a sore throat, temperature, feverish chills and a small ulcer on her body.

DID YOU KNOW?

The average HIV-positive person taking medication can expect to live well into their 70s

‘The GP asked if I’d been abroad, because my symptoms were similar to malaria, but I hadn’t. When it was suggested I have an HIV test I agreed in the same way a teetotaller might agree to a police breath-test, convinced it would be negative.’

Two weeks later, Rachel was shocked to be told she was HIV positive. ‘My first words were: “Am I going to die?” I thought it was a death sentence,’ recalls Rachel, whose sons are now aged 30 and 28 and whose daughter is 26.

‘I knew nothing about HIV or Aids and everything I read on the internet terrified me. When I told my children, they were devastated. My daughter was so affected she couldn’t speak and my younger son said: “Are you going to die?” I couldn’t have felt more ashamed because I had no one to blame but myself.’

Today, if you were to walk past Rachel you would never even think to ask yourself if she was HIV positive. Well-groomed with an immaculate blonde bob, slim figure and warm smile, she looks like a healthy, attractive middle-aged woman.

Rachel Dilley with her ex-partner Devon and son Desmond, aged 13, in 1998. She says: some people still think you can catch HIV by sharing cups or towels. A friend had a new baby and when I asked to go round to see him I was told: "No kissing."
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Rachel Dilley with her ex-partner Devon and son Desmond, aged 13, in 1998. She says: 'some people still think you can catch HIV by sharing cups or towels. A friend had a new baby and when I asked to go round to see him I was told: "No kissing."'

With the advances in anti-viral medication, Rachel can expect to live a long and normal life. But with the stigma that still surrounds HIV, she wants other women who recklessly put romance before their own health to take heed of her story.

‘If you have cancer, people feel compassion for you, but with HIV you encounter prejudice and ignorance, she says. ‘Because it is contracted through sexual contact or blood, people assume you either sleep around or are a drug user who sticks shared needles in your arm.

‘Women, especially those who find themselves single again in middle age after a long-term relationship, think they are immune. But they need to know you can contract HIV from one single encounter with one man.

‘Many assume only young people are at risk from STIs, or that HIV is only a problem in the gay community.’

Rachel is now a trustee of The Crescent, a charity offering help and support to people with HIV. More than 100,000 are living with HIV in the UK, according to the latest statistics, of whom 22 per cent are thought to be undiagnosed and unaware.

In 2012, there were 6,390 new HIV diagnoses and despite huge advances in drug therapy, 490 people died from Aids-related illnesses.

Since appearing on ITVs This Morning last week, when Rachel confessed she once thought HIV affected only people in Africa, she has been called extremely naive, stupid and dumb.
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Since appearing on ITV's This Morning last week, when Rachel confessed she once thought HIV affected only people in Africa, she has been called 'extremely naive', 'stupid' and 'dumb'.

Heterosexual infections accounted for 45 per cent of new diagnoses in 2012, compared to 51 per cent among gay men. One in four people accessing HIV care in 2012 was aged 50 or over and of those seeking late diagnosis, 57 per cent were heterosexual women.

Since appearing on ITV’s This Morning last week, when Rachel confessed she once thought HIV affected only people in Africa, she has been called ‘extremely naive’, ‘stupid’ and ‘dumb’.

How, people asked, could Rachel have missed the major public awareness campaign in 1987 with its Grim Reaper TV ads? How could the death of rock star Freddie Mercury due to Aids not have registered with her, or HIV storylines in TV soaps?

Rachel pleads guilty as charged. But if by speaking out now she makes one woman stop and think before sleeping with a new partner without protection then she will be happy.

Mother-of-three Rachel with two of her children when they were younger, in 1989. Rachel is now a happy grandmother and is no longer looking for love
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Mother-of-three Rachel with two of her children when they were younger, in 1989. Rachel is now a happy grandmother and is no longer looking for love

‘Yes, I was naive and stupid,’ she says. When I was diagnosed I thought I was the only woman to have contracted HIV in this way. I felt isolated and frightened, but since then I’ve met many women like me who never thought they might be at risk.’

Everything in Rachel’s immaculate flat points to a woman who yearns for love, from the purple drapes and matching cushions to the heart-shaped knick-knacks. She is hardly alone in that respect, nor in suspending her better judgement in pursuit of love.

Rachel is the daughter of devout Christians, and her late father Clifford — who worked in a leather tanning workshop — belonged to the Salvation Army. Sex was never talked about at home and Rachel says she was so naive she had no idea you could fall pregnant by having sex, until she did, accidentally, at the age of 17.

Deserted by her teenage sweetheart, by the time the first Aids Awareness campaign hit our TV screens, she was in a long-term relationship with her partner of 20 years, a mechanic, with whom she had two more children.

Sex was never talked about at home and Rachel says she was so naive she had no idea you could fall pregnant by having sex, until she did, accidentally, at the age of 17. Pictured, Rachel aged 18, in 1985
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Sex was never talked about at home and Rachel says she was so naive she had no idea you could fall pregnant by having sex, until she did, accidentally, at the age of 17. Pictured, Rachel aged 18, in 1985

‘I was a full-time mum and so busy with the children, I wasn’t even aware of HIV. I didn’t really know what it was or that it was connected to Aids,’ says Rachel, who believes it’s time for a new Government awareness campaign.

Rachel and her long-term partner never used condoms. By the time he left her, she was still protected from pregnancy by a contraceptive implant and she admits she and her new boyfriend never discussed STIs.

‘It’s hard to believe how trusting I was, but I assumed that, like me, he’d just come out of a long-term relationship. It felt safe and I didn’t even think about the risks,’ says Rachel.

‘But after I was diagnosed with HIV I realised just how little I knew about him and how much I had taken at face value. When I went round to his flat to tell him I was HIV positive, I found he’d moved and his mobile phone didn’t work any more.

‘I’m not even sure if the name he gave me was real. Then one day I happened to see him in town and rushed over to let him know about my diagnosis. I couldn’t bear the thought of him passing it on to someone else if he didn’t know he was HIV positive.

‘He told me his new girlfriend was pregnant and he couldn’t have HIV because it would have shown up on her blood tests. It seemed to me he just didn’t want to know.’

Just as Rachel was ignorant about HIV, so she was about the stigma still attached to the disease. She told everyone about her diagnosis and was often left feeling hurt by the reaction and what she perceived to be rejection.

‘Once I was invited to a friend’s party and I was telling this woman I was HIV positive. We were getting on really well and she seemed very sympathetic,’ says Rachel. ‘But afterwards my friend called me up and said: “Rachel, you know I love you and I don’t care that you have HIV, but my friend has told me she doesn’t want you to come round again in case you give the virus to her children.”

These days Rachel, now a grandmother of three, no longer chases romantic love and says she is happy being single.
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These days Rachel, now a grandmother of three, no longer chases romantic love and says she is happy being single.

‘Some people still think you can catch HIV by sharing cups or towels, or from toilet seats. Another time, a friend had a new baby and when I asked to go round to see him I was told: “No kissing.”

Everyone else was kissing the baby, but I wasn’t allowed to. Some doctors and dentists still won’t accept patients if they are HIV positive.’

These days Rachel, now a grandmother of three, no longer chases romantic love and says she is happy being single. She feels no anger towards the man she believes gave her HIV and takes full responsibility for her own actions.

Raising awareness, giving talks to university students and supporting others has given her the self-esteem she so desperately craved when she embarked on internet dating, thinking it could be found in the arms of a man she barely knew.

‘I used to be very shy and withdrawn, but through my charity work I’ve discovered a different side to myself — one that I’m proud of.

‘People can call me stupid, naive or dumb — and perhaps I was back then — but when I look in the mirror now I like what I see and the person I have become. If it can happen to me it can happen to anyone.’





Posted By: Diane (35)
Date Posted: Mar 16 2014 at 10:11pm
OMG the ex partner was a Rent a Dread! MERCYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY. with a name like devon no denying he is Jamaican. LMBAO @ one of her boys being named "desmond"

So Devon is the father of the three kids her high school sweetheart?

Thanks for reposting with pics


Posted By: briany
Date Posted: Mar 16 2014 at 10:13pm
No Devon his the father of 2 of her children her 1st was an accident since she didn't know you can get pregnant by having sex?!


Posted By: ModelessDiva
Date Posted: Mar 16 2014 at 11:18pm


All I could remember was seeing a documentary about Aids victims in Africa and thinking it was a disease, such as malaria, which only happened somewhere else.’








Posted By: f8dagrate
Date Posted: Mar 16 2014 at 11:28pm
Meh, sounds like a statement I heard from somebody. "Girl, HIV isn't real, do you know anybody dying of it in a nursing home?"

MeConfused


Posted By: ModelessDiva
Date Posted: Mar 16 2014 at 11:34pm
DeadDead

i refuse^^^


Posted By: bunzaveli
Date Posted: Mar 16 2014 at 11:40pm
Originally posted by JamCaygirl JamCaygirl wrote:

These days Rachel, now a grandmother of three, no longer chases romantic love and says she is happy being single.
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These days Rachel, now a grandmother of three, no longer chases romantic love and says she is happy being single.




Posted By: bunzaveli
Date Posted: Mar 16 2014 at 11:46pm
she's 39, looks 65 and a grandmother of 3 ? when did her kids start having kids ?


Posted By: Sang Froid
Date Posted: Mar 16 2014 at 11:50pm
Well....its true that nobody dies of AIDS.


Posted By: Wildfire
Date Posted: Mar 17 2014 at 9:06am
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Posted By: Wildfire
Date Posted: Mar 17 2014 at 9:29am
she looked ok at 14 though



Sex was never talked about at home and Rachel says she was so naive she had no idea you could fall pregnant by having sex, until she did, accidentally, at the age of 17. Pictured, Rachel aged 18, in 1985


Posted By: femmemuscleisback
Date Posted: Mar 17 2014 at 9:49am
strange..

HIV was disease started by white scientists.  Most of it is documented in a book by Alice Walker.  The Temple of my Familiar.  There was sworn documentation stating that the scientist had sent african workers out in the jungle to look for a certain ape species that carried that virus.

The scientist then inoculated certain african tribes, telling them that it was a medicine to "help their immune systems."  when in all actuality, they were trying to kill them off.  These same scientists actually thought this virus they were injecting black men/women/children would ONLY affect the black race - not whites. Thus, she wasn't the only one that was told that information.  The creators of this epidemic - who were "degreed" "educated" individuals believed it themselves.

A WHITE gay male airline steward contracted that disease  in africa, which means he took it up the as**- and brought it back here to the U.S. in the early 1970's.

When the disease started taking the lives of rich white gay males - then heterosexual whites - THAT's when it became an "epidemic"..

Whites were the originators of this disease, so why wouldn't they also be the carriers as well?

Also read documentation of this in the book: Medical Apartheid..






Posted By: ThoughtCouture
Date Posted: Mar 17 2014 at 10:04am
Originally posted by JamCaygirl JamCaygirl wrote:

Today, if you were to walk past Rachel you would never even think to ask yourself if she was HIV positive. Well-groomed with an immaculate blonde bob, slim figure and warm smile, she looks like a healthy, attractive middle-aged woman.

Rachel Dilley with her ex-partner Devon and son Desmond, aged 13, in 1998. She says: some people still think you can catch HIV by sharing cups or towels. A friend had a new baby and when I asked to go round to see him I was told: "No kissing."

 
Stern Smile


Posted By: Wildfire
Date Posted: Mar 17 2014 at 10:06am

Today, if you were to walk past Rachel you would never even think to ask yourself if she was HIV positive. Well-groomed with an immaculate blonde bob, slim figure and warm smile, she looks like a healthy, attractive middle-aged woman.



where?Ouch




and 39 is middle aged now?


Posted By: Wildfire
Date Posted: Mar 17 2014 at 10:08am
we all know whites brought all kindsa nasty stds to the americas etc....



Posted By: Wildfire
Date Posted: Mar 17 2014 at 11:24am
Originally posted by femmemuscleisback femmemuscleisback wrote:

and they only told a half truth.

when asked about the origin of HIV/Aids it was stated that it came from a "certain ape in Africa".. 


f*ckers...i can never, ever trust these people. Demons.


Posted By: femmemuscleisback
Date Posted: Mar 17 2014 at 11:24am
and they only told a half truth.

when asked about the origin of HIV/Aids it was stated that it came from a "certain ape in Africa"..


Posted By: briany
Date Posted: Mar 17 2014 at 12:21pm
Current pic of her is at 48.



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