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Topic: how to stop contact with someone
Posted By: smaison
Subject: how to stop contact with someone
Date Posted: Mar 10 2014 at 3:11pm
say you went on 3 dates with a person and you realize that you do not like them. do you:

a) call them up and tell them you don't want to see them anymore or 
b) do you just stop contacting them, answering phone calls, text, etc. 
is there a c? 



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Posted By: PurplePhase
Date Posted: Mar 10 2014 at 3:14pm
b?


Posted By: AmiliaCabral
Date Posted: Mar 10 2014 at 3:15pm

If you share the same group of friends or he might be useful to your network, let him down easily.

 
If he's persistent, let him know on the real.
 
If you don't share any contacts, he doesn't know where you live and you just can't stand him, stop answering his calls and texts.
 
If he knows where you live or work and you think it might be bad, tell him something to soften the blow and get a good baseball bat.


Posted By: Gkisses
Date Posted: Mar 10 2014 at 3:16pm
Its rarely ever taken more than 1 date at most two... depending on the creep factor i say its not working and move on... however more often than not the non connection is obvious by both parties so no follow is needed.


Posted By: Meme0887
Date Posted: Mar 10 2014 at 3:17pm
Uh I'll be nice and do A

If it was somebody I just met...B

I did that all the time when I couldn't say no to somebody asking for my number


Posted By: smaison
Date Posted: Mar 10 2014 at 3:23pm
Originally posted by PurplePhase PurplePhase wrote:

b?

LOL


Posted By: smaison
Date Posted: Mar 10 2014 at 3:24pm
Originally posted by AmiliaCabral AmiliaCabral wrote:

If you share the same group of friends or he might be useful to your network, let him down easily.

 
If he's persistent, let him know on the real.
 
If you don't share any contacts, he doesn't know where you live and you just can't stand him, stop answering his calls and texts.
 
If he knows where you live or work and you think it might be bad, tell him something to soften the blow and get a good baseball bat.

LOL....i have a gun. 


Posted By: PurplePhase
Date Posted: Mar 10 2014 at 3:24pm
this isn't a hypothetical?


Posted By: AmiliaCabral
Date Posted: Mar 10 2014 at 3:25pm
Originally posted by smaison smaison wrote:

Originally posted by AmiliaCabral AmiliaCabral wrote:

If you share the same group of friends or he might be useful to your network, let him down easily.

 
If he's persistent, let him know on the real.
 
If you don't share any contacts, he doesn't know where you live and you just can't stand him, stop answering his calls and texts.
 
If he knows where you live or work and you think it might be bad, tell him something to soften the blow and get a good baseball bat.

LOL....i have a gun. 
 
then girl bye this question is irrelevant...you can handle him however you want LOL
 
jp 


Posted By: PurplePhase
Date Posted: Mar 10 2014 at 3:25pm
sm, don't listen to me. I was married by the 3rd date.

but rather than notify others, I just changed all my #s lol. They probably think I died or something.


Posted By: afrokock
Date Posted: Mar 10 2014 at 3:29pm
how would you feel if you were feeling someone?

how would you wanna be handled?



Posted By: smaison
Date Posted: Mar 10 2014 at 3:35pm
Originally posted by PurplePhase PurplePhase wrote:

this isn't a hypothetical?


somewhat. 


Posted By: PurplePhase
Date Posted: Mar 10 2014 at 3:36pm
^^I thanked it lol
(do as I say, not as I do)

@afro


Posted By: smaison
Date Posted: Mar 10 2014 at 3:36pm
Originally posted by PurplePhase PurplePhase wrote:

sm, don't listen to me. I was married by the 3rd date.

but rather than notify others, I just changed all my #s lol. They probably think I died or something.


lol...i think i remember you saying that before...too much of a hassle. 


Posted By: PurplePhase
Date Posted: Mar 10 2014 at 3:37pm
it depends though. If I have to still sit across from them at alumni meetings, then I don't just do 'b' lol


Posted By: PurplePhase
Date Posted: Mar 10 2014 at 3:38pm
Originally posted by smaison smaison wrote:

Originally posted by PurplePhase PurplePhase wrote:

sm, don't listen to me. I was married by the 3rd date.

but rather than notify others, I just changed all my #s lol. They probably think I died or something.


lol...i think i remember you saying that before...too much of a hassle. 


yeah it is now. Back in the old(en) days it wasn't that bad. And I was new to area so only had # for few months anyway.



Posted By: smaison
Date Posted: Mar 10 2014 at 3:44pm
Originally posted by afrokock afrokock wrote:

how would you feel if you were feeling someone?

how would you wanna be handled?



yeah, i guess. 

but err one time i was hanging out with this dude for about a month and i called him to tell him that i was no longer interested and that we should stop seeing each other and he begged for me to give him another chance. it was awkward so i said okOuch. torture afterwards. i eventually stopped answering his calls and text. i did end up running into him at an event a couple weeks later and he was there and came up to me...it was awkward. then his friend started texting me and asking me if i was going to come to other events. wth? 


Posted By: melikey
Date Posted: Mar 10 2014 at 3:46pm
I tried A first but usually had to resort to B.

I've been b'd before  It's not all that devastating when it's that new.


Posted By: afrokock
Date Posted: Mar 10 2014 at 3:47pm
nah just be polite and stick to your guns

most guys will gentlemanly bow out

im sure the type of guys you deal with would.

was it just a lack of spark?



Posted By: AmiliaCabral
Date Posted: Mar 10 2014 at 3:49pm

do what the playas do

 
get a 7-eleven burner phone for people you're not serious about, and when you get serious, tell them you got a new number and give them your real number
 
if you ever want to dismiss someone, just stop answering their calls. if you see them out in person, just say you lost all the contacts on that phone...but don't give them your new number
 
only if its that serious though


Posted By: bindy
Date Posted: Mar 10 2014 at 3:51pm
If he persists just write him a sensitive note....

 "Dear Baby. Welcome to Dumpsville. Population: You."


Posted By: miana79
Date Posted: Mar 10 2014 at 3:52pm
B


Posted By: smaison
Date Posted: Mar 10 2014 at 4:03pm
Originally posted by afrokock afrokock wrote:

nah just be polite and stick to your guns

most guys will gentlemanly bow out

im sure the type of guys you deal with would.

was it just a lack of spark?


 
for the most part yes.



Posted By: noneyons
Date Posted: Mar 10 2014 at 4:08pm
tell him you're pregnant and your baby daddy is off his meds again. lol

ion know. i've never been good at that stuff.


Posted By: goodm3
Date Posted: Mar 10 2014 at 4:27pm
just block his number and his friends...

i NEVER change my number, just block theirs...and block from all other social media sites. Although, I never "friend"anyone i'm dating. 


Posted By: PurplePhase
Date Posted: Mar 10 2014 at 4:32pm
Originally posted by noneyons noneyons wrote:

tell him you're pregnant and your baby daddy is off his meds again. lol

ion know. i've never been good at that stuff.


LOL

(thought you were going to end with this at first LOL)


Posted By: noneyons
Date Posted: Mar 10 2014 at 4:38pm
that would suffice too. would run half the niccas away just the sameLOL


Posted By: Princess Grace
Date Posted: Mar 10 2014 at 4:57pm
I never let new dates pick me up, and I give them a google voice number so when If things don't workout I can just block them with that. Sometimes you try and do B and they won't let you be nice. 


Posted By: tatee
Date Posted: Mar 10 2014 at 5:04pm
wouldnt C be a text saying  i think youre a nice person but i dont really feel you and i are compatible and im sure you feel the same way.  i think it would be unfair of me to wast your time pursuing this any further...blah blah blah




Posted By: smaison
Date Posted: Mar 10 2014 at 5:08pm
Originally posted by noneyons noneyons wrote:

that would suffice too. would run half the niccas away just the sameLOL


LOL


Posted By: bindy
Date Posted: Mar 10 2014 at 5:28pm
Three words

I.Am.Gay


Posted By: PurplePhase
Date Posted: Mar 10 2014 at 5:33pm
so ... ?
(OP)


Posted By: smaison
Date Posted: Mar 10 2014 at 5:38pm
Originally posted by bindy bindy wrote:

Three words

I.Am.Gay

LOL...i tried that before...doesnt work.
they just want to join in. 


Posted By: smaison
Date Posted: Mar 10 2014 at 5:40pm
from now on i'm going to go with the i'm pregnant one. i like it. looking at the stats its going to work really well. 


Posted By: PurplePhase
Date Posted: Mar 10 2014 at 5:45pm
lol


Posted By: Lady ICE
Date Posted: Mar 10 2014 at 5:58pm
Originally posted by PurplePhase PurplePhase wrote:

b?


Posted By: ModelessDiva
Date Posted: Mar 10 2014 at 6:02pm
to answer OP i dont explain if i let someone go...

more than likely they wont understand (which is probably why we got to that point in the first place) and will get all defensive and offended.

but if you wanna be nice just send him a "im sorry it's not gonna work" text and then let it fade


Posted By: kfoxx1998
Date Posted: Mar 10 2014 at 7:42pm
Hmmm.  This is a great question.  Back when I was dating I had a fool-proof strategy called hidingLOL

I'm thankful everyday that there was no social media and no cell phones when I was actually single.  Y'all got problems I would have never been able to deal with. 

If for some crazy reason I had to go back on the market I would probably end up with a stalker like Miss E did.  I hate hurting ppls feelings but I would be very blunt. 


Posted By: Diane (35)
Date Posted: Mar 10 2014 at 8:04pm
Smaison you're single?


Posted By: Oladunni
Date Posted: Mar 10 2014 at 8:09pm
C -when they contact you let them know how you feel politely.. (don't hit em up)


Posted By: PurplePhase
Date Posted: Mar 10 2014 at 8:29pm
Originally posted by kfoxx1998 kfoxx1998 wrote:

Hmmm.  This is a great question.  Back when I was dating I had a fool-proof strategy called hidingLOL

I'm thankful everyday that there was no social media and no cell phones when I was actually single.  Y'all got problems I would have never been able to deal with. 

If for some crazy reason I had to go back on the market I would probably end up with a stalker like Miss E did.  I hate hurting ppls feelings but I would be very blunt. 


girl yes. It's too hard to play now. I'm taking notes though in these bhm threads jic.LOL


Posted By: HeyBeautiful18
Date Posted: Mar 10 2014 at 8:35pm
I would say B but i wouldn't want that happening to me let him down easy and just get it over with


Posted By: eanaj5
Date Posted: Mar 10 2014 at 8:59pm
i usually do B...but they keep hitting me up...going through mutual friends to get to me when they been blocked...all dat sheit.
When you find out lmks


Posted By: f8dagrate
Date Posted: Mar 12 2014 at 3:55am
Originally posted by Diane (35) Diane (35) wrote:

Smaison you're single?

Didn't she say she has a man?


Posted By: dijah.love
Date Posted: Mar 12 2014 at 3:59am
b


Posted By: smaison
Date Posted: Mar 12 2014 at 9:47pm
Originally posted by Diane (35) Diane (35) wrote:

Smaison you're single?


no. 


Posted By: Petty LaBelle
Date Posted: Mar 15 2014 at 9:50am
B


Posted By: Printer_Ink
Date Posted: Mar 15 2014 at 11:21am
Originally posted by smaison smaison wrote:

say you went on 3 dates with a person and you realize that you do not like them. do you:

a) call them up and tell them you don't want to see them anymore or 
b) do you just stop contacting them, answering phone calls, text, etc. 
is there a c? 


I've done this a lot and the one thing I've learned is that when you tell them you are not suited for each other blah, blah, blah in a noce way .. you can never get them to go away. They don't take you seriously - they think you are just teasing them - sometimes they get mad at you and whatnot ... then I think WHY did I saw anything at all.

But when you stop returning phone calls,texts etc... they get the message and go away. Geesh you don't owe these guys (that you don't even want) anything. They'll get over it.

So to me ... it depends on how serious you are about getting him to go away and not draaaag it all out with false hope for him.


Posted By: Majesty02
Date Posted: Mar 17 2014 at 10:37pm
It really depends on how serious you two are. I'm notorious for pulling disappearing acts. the times in the past when I've tried to let them know I wasn't quite interested in them it always turns into an argument no matter how nice I said it. This best thing to do is cease ALL contact and block them from all forms of interaction. I never date people I run in the same circle with and I live in a large city so its easy to avoid people.



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