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Topic: who gets to drive...?
Posted By: ms_wonderland
Subject: who gets to drive...?
Date Posted: Feb 19 2014 at 9:35pm
in your relationship, who is the primary driver?  you or your bf?  if you're married does/did that change things?  if you're single and you're going on a date(past date 3), who typically does the driving?...not the first date cuz i know how y'all are: i gotta drive so i have a quick get away, i don't know that brotha, etc etc...none of that right now.

i'm all about speed and getting to places in the shortest, fastest, most efficient way possible so i prefer to do most of the driving, unless i'm tired.





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Posted By: eanaj5
Date Posted: Feb 19 2014 at 9:39pm
that nicca will be my chauffeur...most of the time they prefer it that way fme



Posted By: Sang Froid
Date Posted: Feb 19 2014 at 9:41pm
I let my mens drive so I can grip the door handle and complain about their driving.


Posted By: AshBash89
Date Posted: Feb 19 2014 at 9:42pm
I hate driving so when I am in a relationship I prefer that he drives.


Posted By: zolloh
Date Posted: Feb 19 2014 at 9:44pm
he usually drives....so i can drink Approve


Posted By: carolina cutie
Date Posted: Feb 19 2014 at 9:46pm
He drives because he always volunteers to do so. It's kinda unspoken I guess. One of these days I'll put on Usher's Trading places and pick him up lol.

For dates with guys I am not familiar with and don't them want to know where I live, I drive to the date meet up spot.


Posted By: coconess
Date Posted: Feb 19 2014 at 9:46pm
i prefer to sit pretty in the passenger… 

i dont drive unless i have to. 

i dont wanna be bothered/worried. 


Posted By: GoodGirlGoneGr8
Date Posted: Feb 19 2014 at 9:47pm
I love highway/road trip driving, so if we're going on a long ride, I volunteer to drive a portion of the trip. Otherwise, he drives...


Posted By: ms_wonderland
Date Posted: Feb 19 2014 at 9:47pm
Originally posted by zolloh zolloh wrote:

he usually drives....so i can drink Approve


ok, i should've definitely said unless i'm tired OR drinking lol...

i guess i'm too much of a control freak.  i like to control where we go and how we go.


Posted By: mizzsandra00
Date Posted: Feb 19 2014 at 9:48pm
Im like a baby soon as the car starts rolling I'm sleep.....so mr00 is the driver most of the time....


Posted By: Marmonette
Date Posted: Feb 19 2014 at 10:08pm
i HATE driving sooo....


Posted By: Lady ICE
Date Posted: Feb 19 2014 at 10:10pm
he drives. i hate it.


Posted By: ms_wonderland
Date Posted: Feb 19 2014 at 10:10pm
aside from Sang's comment, I wonder if the rest of y'all are backseat drivers too.

i'm a backseat driver and that's why i'd rather drive.  whenever he's driving and we're pulling out i always poke my head out to check for oncoming traffic and he's like, are u serious?  are you the one driving?  can you move your head please damn.  i just can't help it.


Posted By: Princess Grace
Date Posted: Feb 19 2014 at 10:13pm
I don't like being in the car for long periods of time, so I drive because he will take the scenic route and wanna stop here and there. I like to get where the hell Im going and soon.


im a basketcase


Posted By: Ladycoils
Date Posted: Feb 19 2014 at 10:14pm
We take turns but on the weekend I make sure we use his car since its better than my car


Posted By: carolina cutie
Date Posted: Feb 19 2014 at 10:31pm
I just sit back and enjoy the ride.


If I have to be the backseat driver, I don't ride with him/her. That's reserved for my younger cousins who are new to driving.LOL


Posted By: AshBash89
Date Posted: Feb 19 2014 at 10:31pm
I'm a professional backseat driver.


Posted By: gabi03
Date Posted: Feb 19 2014 at 10:37pm
I love to drive so I end up driving about 99% of the time. 

I'm the worst backseat driver, my bff put some dramamine (it instantly puts me to sleep) in my coffee once on a road trip so i would shut up about his slow ass driving. 


Posted By: miana79
Date Posted: Feb 19 2014 at 10:39pm
We both do....wyen I drive he loves it. Says he finds it sexy..


Posted By: herwoman
Date Posted: Feb 19 2014 at 11:06pm
I don't drive because I have pulled over MANY times and got out because she was getting on my damn nerves.


Posted By: jonesable
Date Posted: Feb 19 2014 at 11:10pm
If I feel like driving I drive.
If I don't I won't.
Sometimes I prefer it but sometimes I want to listen to espn radio or talk to my sisters.
Plus he thinks I'm a terrible driver so he usually drives and I get to complain.


This is a thing?

This question reads so 1950's...


Posted By: Bored w/Out Me?
Date Posted: Feb 19 2014 at 11:12pm
He's the driver but he says I'm the only person in the world with a voice activated navigation


Posted By: ms_wonderland
Date Posted: Feb 19 2014 at 11:18pm
it's more a question about whether you actually like driving.  Since this isn't the 50's, the man isn't the one who automatically takes the keys anymore.  In relationships it seems like habits form...like now my relationship is more balanced, it's like 60/40 me driving but we both actually enjoy driving ..in my last one it was 80/20 him bc it was just our routine, it was a fast car and just never was part of the conversation bc he took it as some type of automatic duty.




Posted By: creole booty
Date Posted: Feb 19 2014 at 11:55pm
I prefer that everyone else drive. Drive and roll up. I hate doing both equally.


Posted By: PurplePhase
Date Posted: Feb 20 2014 at 12:08am
I love to drive -- my car.


Posted By: afrokock
Date Posted: Feb 20 2014 at 12:18am
im the only one who drives all my babies

"double aunt andre"


Posted By: afrokock
Date Posted: Feb 20 2014 at 6:21am
Trill post


Posted By: tropical-punch
Date Posted: Feb 20 2014 at 7:56am
The bf. We both like it that way.


Posted By: ShadyLady
Date Posted: Feb 20 2014 at 9:25am
I'm a horrible driver.

I drive slow, I'm scared of other cars, and I prefer back roads.

Ride with me once and you'll grow to love driving.


Posted By: Allure.
Date Posted: Feb 20 2014 at 9:49am
I really dont like driving anymore, so anytime me and my hubby go somewhere together he is driving


Posted By: MsBMW
Date Posted: Feb 20 2014 at 9:55am
I get an attitude if he asks me to drive...


Posted By: coconess
Date Posted: Feb 20 2014 at 10:03am
i drive crazy 

im a good driver though i just dont foliow the rules 


Posted By: ms_wonderland
Date Posted: Feb 20 2014 at 10:21am
Originally posted by coconess coconess wrote:

i drive crazy 

im a good driver though i just dont foliow the rules 
Ughhhhhhhhhhhh don't tell me you're the person that doesn't use blinkers.


Posted By: ms_wonderland
Date Posted: Feb 20 2014 at 10:22am
Originally posted by ShadyLady ShadyLady wrote:

I'm a horrible driver.

I drive slow, I'm scared of other cars, and I prefer back roads.

Ride with me once and you'll grow to love driving.

Lmao I'm getting the clueless scene where deion accidentally gets on the freeway.  


Posted By: ShadyLady
Date Posted: Feb 20 2014 at 10:32am
Originally posted by ms_wonderland ms_wonderland wrote:

Originally posted by ShadyLady ShadyLady wrote:

I'm a horrible driver.

I drive slow, I'm scared of other cars, and I prefer back roads.

Ride with me once and you'll grow to love driving.


Lmao I'm getting the clueless scene where deion accidentally gets on the freeway.  


Girl, my ex LITERALLY yelled and made me stop in the middle of a busy street and switch seats. We couldn't even open the doors to switch seats cuz cars were flying by. He wouldn't even wait til we could pull over somewhere. He said I was trying to kill him.

You don't ever have to worry about me accidentally getting on the freeway. I barely purposely get on the freeway.

I'll have to get over that since I live in a big city again.

I'm thinking about doing driving school.


Posted By: coconess
Date Posted: Feb 20 2014 at 10:44am
okay by 'good' i meant that i feel like i might be able to bob and weave and get away from the police if necessary. 

im an aggressive driver.. I've gotten into altercations on the road where I've thrown things at cars and a few other things i won't mention. 

i use blinkers most of the time.. ppl who dont bother me. That will get you a pretty middle finger or yelled at real quick 


Posted By: Ds2nice
Date Posted: Feb 20 2014 at 10:59am
It depends on which car.  I only drive my car and he only drives his car.
 
Sometimes we play paper, rock, scissors to determine which car is going on the road.


Posted By: smaison
Date Posted: Feb 20 2014 at 11:04am
he drives majority of the time; i hate driving. 


Posted By: trudawg
Date Posted: Feb 20 2014 at 12:32pm
I'm always doing the driving. I think it's the man's job to do so


Posted By: Lonisha87
Date Posted: Feb 20 2014 at 12:33pm
He drives the majority of the time. I drive sometimes


Posted By: coconess
Date Posted: Feb 20 2014 at 12:41pm
well it depends on how I'm feeling.. 




Posted By: PurplePhase
Date Posted: Feb 20 2014 at 12:48pm
I like how you asked 'who GETS to drive' (since driving is fun), instead of 'who HAS to drive' lol.


Posted By: Rumbera
Date Posted: Feb 20 2014 at 12:56pm
He drives almost 99.999999% of the time.


Posted By: PurplePhase
Date Posted: Feb 20 2014 at 1:08pm
does the driver control the entertainment/tunes?


Posted By: ms_wonderland
Date Posted: Feb 20 2014 at 1:15pm
Originally posted by ShadyLady ShadyLady wrote:

Originally posted by ms_wonderland ms_wonderland wrote:

Originally posted by ShadyLady ShadyLady wrote:

I'm a horrible driver.

I drive slow, I'm scared of other cars, and I prefer back roads.

Ride with me once and you'll grow to love driving.


Lmao I'm getting the clueless scene where deion accidentally gets on the freeway.  


Girl, my ex LITERALLY yelled and made me stop in the middle of a busy street and switch seats. We couldn't even open the doors to switch seats cuz cars were flying by. He wouldn't even wait til we could pull over somewhere. He said I was trying to kill him.

You don't ever have to worry about me accidentally getting on the freeway. I barely purposely get on the freeway.

I'll have to get over that since I live in a big city again.

I'm thinking about doing driving school.



ive been wanting to use that gif lol

do you have anxiety?  


Posted By: ms_wonderland
Date Posted: Feb 20 2014 at 1:17pm
Originally posted by PurplePhase PurplePhase wrote:

does the driver control the entertainment/tunes?

YES!! 

trudawg...can you explain your perspective? since it doesn't come from a "women can't drive" place i'm curious about it being a duty.


Posted By: trudawg
Date Posted: Feb 20 2014 at 1:24pm
Originally posted by ms_wonderland ms_wonderland wrote:

Originally posted by PurplePhase PurplePhase wrote:

does the driver control the entertainment/tunes?

YES!! 

trudawg...can you explain your perspective? since it doesn't come from a "women can't drive" place i'm curious about it being a duty.


Can't really explain it, but it's just one of those things, like pumping gas, carrying in groceries, and killing bugs.  It's both expected an assumed. Plus, I always open the door for my lady to get in & out, can't really do that if she's driving.

*ETA - I think it's the passenger's responsibility to DJ though


Posted By: kfoxx1998
Date Posted: Feb 20 2014 at 1:29pm
We both hate it so naturally he has to do itLOL

It also nice that my kids don't think its right for me to have to drive so they always insist when we go out together.  They secretly hate my driving though.  I just know it. 


Posted By: kfoxx1998
Date Posted: Feb 20 2014 at 1:31pm
I used to be the primary long distance driver.  I had the most patience and I can't sleep in a car.  I'm starting to give up that spot though because I don't enjoy it anymore and nobody better not say sh*t to me when I'm driving.  If you don't like it get your ass out and come to the drivers side.  I will pull this mfckr over ret now!!!LOL   


Posted By: Miss SDY
Date Posted: Feb 20 2014 at 1:32pm
He drives most of the time. I sit pretty and complain about him driving too slow..

I like to drive though..


Posted By: jonesable
Date Posted: Feb 20 2014 at 1:45pm
I don't get out and pump gas when he's around or carry groceries or trash but driving is fun sometimes.
I don't see it as a chore.
but I talk on the phone on too much to drive much with him plus I'm admittedly a terrible driver


Posted By: PurplePhase
Date Posted: Feb 20 2014 at 1:58pm
Originally posted by trudawg trudawg wrote:



Can't really explain it, but it's just one of those things, like pumping gas, carrying in groceries, and killing bugs.  It's both expected an assumed. Plus, I always open the door for my lady to get in & out, can't really do that if she's driving.

*ETA - I think it's the passenger's responsibility to DJ though


the hell you can't lol.
I wait for my driver door to be opened. Hub gets mad if I don't.


Posted By: PurplePhase
Date Posted: Feb 20 2014 at 1:59pm
Originally posted by kfoxx1998 kfoxx1998 wrote:

I used to be the primary long distance driver.  I had the most patience and I can't sleep in a car.  I'm starting to give up that spot though because I don't enjoy it anymore and nobody better not say sh*t to me when I'm driving.  If you don't like it get your ass out and come to the drivers side.  I will pull this mfckr over ret now!!!LOL   


we are truly twins!LOL


Posted By: smaison
Date Posted: Feb 20 2014 at 2:00pm
Originally posted by PurplePhase PurplePhase wrote:

Originally posted by trudawg trudawg wrote:



Can't really explain it, but it's just one of those things, like pumping gas, carrying in groceries, and killing bugs.  It's both expected an assumed. Plus, I always open the door for my lady to get in & out, can't really do that if she's driving.

*ETA - I think it's the passenger's responsibility to DJ though


the hell you can't lol.
I wait for my driver door to be opened. Hub gets mad if I don't.


werd. 


Posted By: PurplePhase
Date Posted: Feb 20 2014 at 2:00pm
Originally posted by kfoxx1998 kfoxx1998 wrote:

We both hate it so naturally he has to do itLOL

It also nice that my kids don't think its right for me to have to drive so they always insist when we go out together.  They secretly hate my driving though.  I just know it. 


LOL


Posted By: PurplePhase
Date Posted: Feb 20 2014 at 2:05pm
Originally posted by PurplePhase PurplePhase wrote:


*ETA - I think it's the passenger's responsibility to DJ though


 with instruction right? LOL
Like you tell her what song to find and  play next.
 


Posted By: afrokock
Date Posted: Feb 20 2014 at 2:35pm
Originally posted by PurplePhase PurplePhase wrote:

does the driver control the entertainment/tunes?
is the partition up or down?


Posted By: trudawg
Date Posted: Feb 20 2014 at 2:48pm
Originally posted by PurplePhase PurplePhase wrote:

Originally posted by PurplePhase PurplePhase wrote:


*ETA - I think it's the passenger's responsibility to DJ though


 with instruction right? LOL
Like you tell her what song to find and  play next.
 


LoL, right, I hate it when she skips past my jam, I end up overriding her decision with the steering wheel controls.


Posted By: petiteone29
Date Posted: Feb 20 2014 at 2:49pm
When I'm not big and knocked up, tired, or a little tipsy I do most of the driving because I don't like the way my husband drives. He drives too close to the person in front of him and he never notices the speeding cameras. I use my cat eye when I drive so I can spot those cameras and the police a mile away.LOL

I actually enjoy driving though. Its relaxing for me. All I need is a good playlist and I'm good.


Posted By: NJHairLuv
Date Posted: Feb 20 2014 at 3:40pm
Originally posted by petiteone29 petiteone29 wrote:

I use my cat eye when I drive so I can spot those cameras and the police a mile away.LOL

hmm...is that the modern day version of a radar detector? i need to look this upSmile


Posted By: PurplePhase
Date Posted: Feb 20 2014 at 3:41pm
Originally posted by trudawg trudawg wrote:

Originally posted by PurplePhase PurplePhase wrote:

Originally posted by PurplePhase PurplePhase wrote:


*ETA - I think it's the passenger's responsibility to DJ though


 with instruction right? LOL
Like you tell her what song to find and  play next.
 


LoL, right, I hate it when she skips past my jam, I end up overriding her decision with the steering wheel controls.


love those


Posted By: petiteone29
Date Posted: Feb 20 2014 at 4:08pm
Originally posted by NJHairLuv NJHairLuv wrote:

Originally posted by petiteone29 petiteone29 wrote:

I use my cat eye when I drive so I can spot those cameras and the police a mile away.LOL

hmm...is that the modern day version of a radar detector? i need to look this upSmile


LOL No its not a detector. I just have really good eyes. I can even tell when the police are in unmarked vehicles trying to be slick. 


Posted By: PurplePhase
Date Posted: Feb 20 2014 at 10:01pm
Originally posted by afrokock afrokock wrote:

Originally posted by PurplePhase PurplePhase wrote:

does the driver control the entertainment/tunes?
is the partition up or down?


LOL

go on Afro, set the scene..LOL





Posted By: Random Thoughts
Date Posted: Feb 20 2014 at 10:04pm
I used to do most of the driving but since I got my new car, she drives it while I pick what to play on my ipod.


Posted By: Cream1970
Date Posted: Feb 20 2014 at 11:22pm
I dislike how my SO drives, he speeds, tailgates and doesn't check his blind spot.
He did drive us from San Antonio to Philly and back for our summer vacation.
And ran a Red light and got a ticket when I was sleeping. And got a warning ticket for speeding within an hr of our trip. (I was sleeping).
My blood pressure and his driving aren't compatible.


Posted By: afrokock
Date Posted: Feb 21 2014 at 3:14am
Originally posted by PurplePhase PurplePhase wrote:

Originally posted by afrokock afrokock wrote:

Originally posted by PurplePhase PurplePhase wrote:

does the driver control the entertainment/tunes?
is the partition up or down?


LOL

go on Afro, set the scene..LOL





Posted By: nitabug
Date Posted: Feb 21 2014 at 5:26am
I always drove



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