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Topic: Homeschooling?
Posted By: GoodGirlGoneGr8
Subject: Homeschooling?
Date Posted: Feb 16 2014 at 2:49pm
Has anyone here been homeschooled? And/or are currently homeschooling their children? What are/were some of the pros/cons regarding being homeschooled?



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Posted By: herwoman
Date Posted: Feb 16 2014 at 2:59pm
I can only say, I wish I had. Good luck!


Posted By: PurplePhase
Date Posted: Feb 16 2014 at 3:05pm
No real personal experience, but 2 of my sisters . Also girlfriends.

I don't have any, but I always said that my imaginary kids would be home schooled. lol


Posted By: coconess
Date Posted: Feb 16 2014 at 3:42pm
i havent done it personally.. but sometimes i consider it with my child because it can be accelerated and there can be more time for other things.. like how fraiches daughter speaks multiple languages.. i want that. Or like how that girl thessalonika finished college at a very young age. 

i do worry about them getting the socialization that comes with normal school.. thats an experience that can't really be replicated imo.. children spend half of the awake part of the day in school for like 13 years.. and a few hours doing things for school as well.. its just an experience that brings a lot to a childs life.. 

maybe i will start them off in home schooling for like a year or two (age 4 and 5) then maybe they can test into a normal school at like 3rd grade (but be 5).. go there for a few years.. then back to home schooling for 2 years.. then test into like 8th grade (at age 9) is that possible..? 
then ill let them decide what they want.. by that time they'll already be ahead.. not as ahead as they could be but it'll put them in a good place. 


Posted By: ModelessDiva
Date Posted: Feb 16 2014 at 4:24pm

JMO

If you do it make sure your child is actually on board with this, and that you are not doing it just because you feel it will better your child. 

Schooling your kids at home so that it cuts out the possibility of a school shooting, or experiencing negative influences from peers or picking up bad habits and so that you can remain close to them.. sounds so ideal.

I watched one of those young girl beauty pageants one day on TV and saw the mothers all excited doing their daughter's makeup, hair, and buying cute little dresses.... saying how much experience and how many friends she would gain from participating in these pageants.... how many connections she would make, how many doors this would open...

all the while the child..doesn't like it. But she's too afraid of her mother to speak up and express how she really feels. So she just goes along with it and pretends that she is fine with it.

I notice parents sometimes are more concerned with forcing their children to do what they feel is best for them that they actually forget to stop and see how the child is responding emotionally

that can create huge problems, and can cause hidden resentment from the child towards the parent 

and im speaking directly from experience

im not knocking homeschooling at all, it could be a great alternative, im just simply saying to include your child when it comes to these kinds of decisions..




Posted By: jonesable
Date Posted: Feb 16 2014 at 4:28pm
but you're suppose to do what's best for your child.
 
I didn't respond positively to brushing my teeth when I was 6 but I was still made to do it.
The pros seem to outweigh the cons when it comes to homeschooling.
 
I'm not sure which my child will do but sometimes you have to drag kids kicking and screaming bc its best for them


Posted By: ModelessDiva
Date Posted: Feb 16 2014 at 4:35pm

i dont wish to argue my opinion...

there is a clear difference between brushing your teeth, or having them rot and fall out

and choosing which method of schooling to use



Posted By: coconess
Date Posted: Feb 16 2014 at 4:39pm
this would have been a good convo.. especially with someone speaking from experience.. 

i dont think it would have turned into an argument.. just a discussion. 

bhm tries to make every back and forth drama (not speaking about you modeless) but it doesnt have to be 


Posted By: ModelessDiva
Date Posted: Feb 16 2014 at 4:42pm
Originally posted by coconess coconess wrote:

i havent done it personally.. but sometimes i consider it with my child because it can be accelerated and there can be more time for other things.. like how fraiches daughter speaks multiple languages.. i want that. Or like how that girl thessalonika finished college at a very young age. 

i do worry about them getting the socialization that comes with normal school.. thats an experience that can't really be replicated imo.. children spend half of the awake part of the day in school for like 13 years.. and a few hours doing things for school as well.. its just an experience that brings a lot to a childs life.. 

maybe i will start them off in home schooling for like a year or two (age 4 and 5) then maybe they can test into a normal school at like 3rd grade (but be 5).. go there for a few years.. then back to home schooling for 2 years.. then test into like 8th grade (at age 9) is that possible..? 
then ill let them decide what they want.. by that time they'll already be ahead.. not as ahead as they could be but it'll put them in a good place. 

this is basically how i feel.....didnt read until now...i should have just agreed with thisLOL




Posted By: ms_wonderland
Date Posted: Feb 16 2014 at 4:45pm
this really depends on the parent.  i know people who were/are homeschooled and they're further behind or at the same level as traditionally schooled kids because of the lack of guidance and interaction at home with the curriculum...if a parent can replicate what Fraiche has going on then it works...my bf's sister homeschools her 3 children and they're extremely smart and active in sports.  I still think that you can make a child that goes to traditional school just as worldly and educated if you supplement what they're being taught in school and sign them up for the appropriate extracurriculars.  So, unless the child has some issue preventing them from being in a school house, I have a preference for regular school.  i'm expanding my mind on it though, i go back and forth.


Posted By: jonesable
Date Posted: Feb 16 2014 at 4:47pm
it really didn't have to be.
I'm not asking you to argue I just disagreed with your point.Your rebuttal is a non factor.
 
just because its the most common type of schooling doesn't mean it has to be the default method.
 
I don't see it being that much different.
child,teenagers,young adults oten don't know what's best for them.


Posted By: melikey
Date Posted: Feb 16 2014 at 4:47pm
Originally posted by ModelessDiva ModelessDiva wrote:


i dont wish to argue my opinion...

there is a clear difference between brushing your teeth, or having them rot and fall out

and choosing which method of schooling to use


yeah i think it's different strokes for different folks.
whether one is better than the other is really going subjective based on a person's personal values.



Posted By: melikey
Date Posted: Feb 16 2014 at 4:49pm
Originally posted by ms_wonderland ms_wonderland wrote:

this really depends on the parent.  i know people who were/are homeschooled and they're further behind or at the same level as traditionally schooled kids because of the lack of guidance and interaction at home with the curriculum...

yes, i have seen the same in the public vs. private debate as well. 



Posted By: jonesable
Date Posted: Feb 16 2014 at 4:51pm
But aren't there studies on how homeschooled students fare vs traditional students .
Sure you have to go by what's going on at home but there can be a better method.
 
I think of homeschooling like breastfeeding


Posted By: Sang Froid
Date Posted: Feb 16 2014 at 4:53pm
My kids will be homeschooled in their younger years.



Posted By: ModelessDiva
Date Posted: Feb 16 2014 at 4:55pm

there are some kids that will enjoy homeschooling and some that wont...not all kids are the same...

schooling was a big part of my childhood, the good moments and not so good moments

i can't imagine not being in school with other children growing up as a child

recess, food fights, switching lunches, my first crush, field day, clowning the substitute teachers LOL

irreplaceable and priceless

But goodgirlgonebad, if your child agrees with homeschooling, i say go for it




Posted By: jonesable
Date Posted: Feb 16 2014 at 4:56pm
tbh I liked public school and the whole thing.
Plus I want to be a working mama.
I don't want to stay at home


Posted By: ms_wonderland
Date Posted: Feb 16 2014 at 4:57pm
Originally posted by jonesable jonesable wrote:

But aren't there studies on how homeschooled students fare vs traditional students .
Sure you have to go by what's going on at home but there can be a better method.
 
I think of homeschooling like breastfeeding


The research, which was conducted by http://www.stthomas.edu/ira/irastaff/default.html" rel="nofollow - Michael Cogan , the director of institutional research and analysis at the University of St. Thomas, focused on the experiences of homeschooled students at an unnamed medium-sized university in the upper Midwest.
(from a 2010 CBS story)

Here are some of Cogan's findings:
  1. http://findarticles.com/p/articles/mi_qa3955/is_200410/ai_n9443752/?tag=rbxcra.2.a.44" rel="nofollow - Homeschool students earned a higher ACT score (26.5) versus 25.0 for other incoming freshmen.
  2. Homeschool students earned more college credits (14.7) prior to their freshmen year than other students (6.0).
  3. Homeschooled freshmen were less likely to live on campus (72.4%) than the rest of the freshmen class (92.7%).
  4. Homeschoolers were more likely to identify themselves as Roman Catholic (68.4%).
  5. Homeschool freshmen earned a higher grade points average (3.37) their first semester in college compared with the other freshmen (3.08).
  6. Homeschool students finished their freshmen year with a better GPA (3.41) than the rest of their class (3.12).
  7. The GPA advantage was still present when homeschoolers were college seniors. Their average GPA was 3.46 versus 3.16 for other seniors.
  8. Homeschool students graduated from college at a higher rate (66.7%) than their peers (57.5%).



Posted By: melikey
Date Posted: Feb 16 2014 at 4:59pm
 
i know i would never do it, not even the slightest bit interested. and if i did i'm too much of a business person, my school would have my kids plus others that i teach for profitLOL, i need to keep my income stream coming in at all times, these kids college tuition will not be taking from our retirement coins.

my cousin who is a SAHM, did the same thing, she was like shoot, folks are paying $200 a week per child for daycare? she immediately went and got her in home daycare license. hustle is in our blood. if i pass anything on, i hope it's thatLOL



Posted By: coconess
Date Posted: Feb 16 2014 at 5:02pm
id probably hire someone.. i dont think id do it myself 
idk though everything depends 


Posted By: ModelessDiva
Date Posted: Feb 16 2014 at 5:07pm


I used to think home-schooling was the best way to go.

But then i sat and thought of how i would feel if i didnt get to experience those precious moments that I did in school.





Posted By: ModelessDiva
Date Posted: Feb 16 2014 at 5:29pm

fraiche which year did you go into homeschooling?


Posted By: ModelessDiva
Date Posted: Feb 16 2014 at 5:41pm

i meant which highschool year...sorry lol

sophmore/junior/freshman year?


Posted By: purpulicious01
Date Posted: Feb 16 2014 at 5:48pm
Great topic. 


Originally posted by GoodGirlGoneGr8 GoodGirlGoneGr8 wrote:

Has anyone here been homeschooled? And/or are currently homeschooling their children? What are/were some of the pros/cons regarding being homeschooled?


I've been through all 3 schooling systems (home school, private school, and public school) . Each had their pros, but out of all 3, I enjoyed homeschooling the most. I think our education system is failing our kids and I plan to home school my children. 


PROS:

one on one learning pace, self-directed learning, more control over what your kids are learning, socialization. 

CONS:

I'm with the previous poster. The only negative part of homeschooling is the silly comments/questions received by others. 


Posted By: purpulicious01
Date Posted: Feb 16 2014 at 5:51pm
Having said all of that, homeschooling isn't for everyone.

I want to home school because I think our education system is failing our kids, but I don't think there is a one-size fits all solution. At  the end of the day, you have to decide what's best for your family and kids.




Posted By: ModelessDiva
Date Posted: Feb 16 2014 at 5:54pm
Originally posted by Fraiche2Death Fraiche2Death wrote:

Oh LOL sophomore. 

LOL




Posted By: purpulicious01
Date Posted: Feb 16 2014 at 5:55pm
Last post, if you are interested on the topic of homeschooling and socialization, I'd recommend reading:

The Well-Adjusted Child: The Social Benefits of Homeschooling by Rachel Gathercole.


Socialization may well be the single most important aspect of education today. With high and rising rates of divorce, drug abuse, youth violence, alcoholism, teen promiscuity, and so forth, we cannot afford to let this issue go unexamined. 

To cling to the idea that what we, as a culture, are doing now is the right and best way for all children, simply because it is what we are used to, is to shut our eyes and minds to other possibilities—possibilities that may well afford greater happiness, success, peace, and safety to our own children. 

At a time when people feel more disconnected than ever before, we cannot afford to overlook an option which offers our youth great benefits—including the rich, fulfilling, and healthy social life they may well need for the future. Homeschooling offers great social benefits to kids and parents. When we understand them, our children are the ones who will win.

Review from Amazon: 

"Gathercole, who has spent 10 years homeschooling her three children, says what most people wonder about is whether homeschooled children can work and play with others, in other words, their socialization skills. She begins by noting that "once upon a time, all children were homeschooled" before more formal schooling and the development of "school culture." She notes that conventional schools offer "socialization" through peer pressure, the stress of choosing between popularity and academic performance, and excessive attention to appearance. Drawing on her own experiences as a homeschooler, she details the networks of other homeschoolers who provide opportunities for their children—and themselves—to socialize. Gathercole also points to research showing that homeschooled children have stronger self-concepts than children attending conventional schools. Focusing on how homeschoolers address misperceptions, she explores concepts of socialization, the importance of friendships with other children, strong relationships with parents, and how homeschoolers eventually integrate into the "real world." Great encouragement for parents who are homeschooling and those who are considering it. Bush, Vanessa" 




Posted By: ModelessDiva
Date Posted: Feb 16 2014 at 5:55pm
Originally posted by purpulicious01 purpulicious01 wrote:

Having said all of that, homeschooling isn't for everyone.

I don't think there is a one-size fits all solution and at the end of the day, you have to decide what's best for your family and kids.



agreed.


Posted By: TokyoRose
Date Posted: Feb 16 2014 at 6:02pm
Well, it also costs money to homeschool a child.  Also, if math is part of the curriculum and you are crap at math, you would need to hire a tutor.

I don't think I would be homeschooling my kids.  I *would* supplement their education at home, though.


Posted By: purpulicious01
Date Posted: Feb 16 2014 at 6:04pm
Originally posted by jonesable jonesable wrote:

But aren't there studies on how homeschooled students fare vs traditional students .
Sure you have to go by what's going on at home but there can be a better method.
 
I think of homeschooling like breastfeeding

Yes, plenty of studies that indicate home schooled students outperform their counterparts. 



Homeschooled: How American Homeschoolers Measure Up


Posted By: blaquefoxx
Date Posted: Feb 16 2014 at 6:32pm
I plan on home schooling my future Lilfoxxes. 


Posted By: f8dagrate
Date Posted: Feb 16 2014 at 9:04pm
Wasn't "KING B" home-schooled?


Posted By: f8dagrate
Date Posted: Feb 16 2014 at 9:06pm
I'm very interested in home schooling. But what if I want to do the nasty all over the houseGeek


Posted By: carolina cutie
Date Posted: Feb 16 2014 at 9:14pm
I see both sides of the coin.

For me, I don't think I'd have the time nor patience for homeschooling. Working full time with my career I'd have no time. Plus I'd like some time 'me' time away from the kids. I'm selfish like that.LOL


Posted By: sexyandfamous
Date Posted: Feb 16 2014 at 9:18pm
Originally posted by jonesable jonesable wrote:

But aren't there studies on how homeschooled students fare vs traditional students .
Sure you have to go by what's going on at home but there can be a better method.
 
I think of homeschooling like breastfeeding


Yes, I think it depends of the home.
I met a lady who had a son she was homeschooling. He was six and he still spoke grammatically incorrect, little things that most kids can say correctly. He was also socially awkward, and always wanted to learn something, but then stopped when it became boring or difficult.
That made me think that homeschooling was wrong.

Then I met last year this Russian woman who home schooled her daughter in the US and at the age of 16 she was a sophomore at a community college. I asked her what was her focus when teaching her daughter at home, and she said it was Math.

Homeschooling doesn't appeal me; I'd rather have my future kids study in another country, a country where you learn world history. I dislike how the history subject is handled in this country.....


Posted By: f8dagrate
Date Posted: Feb 16 2014 at 9:18pm
Originally posted by carolina cutie carolina cutie wrote:

I see both sides of the coin.

For me, I don't think I'd have the time nor patience for homeschooling. Working full time with my career I'd have no time. Plus I'd like some time 'me' time away from the kids. I'm selfish like that.LOL


I actually believe that is what can help someone to be better at what they do. They might displace a lot of anger if they simply don't do it.

So now your selfish,single and bitterLOL


Posted By: carolina cutie
Date Posted: Feb 16 2014 at 9:26pm
I will wear that badge with pride! Staring at my kids practically 24/7? Ain't nobody got time for alladat!LOL





Posted By: Sang Froid
Date Posted: Feb 16 2014 at 9:29pm
That's what extracurriculars are for.
Drop them nigguhs off somewhere everyday for a couple hours and get a massage.


Posted By: carolina cutie
Date Posted: Feb 16 2014 at 9:32pm
^Pass ma'am. I need more than few hours a day away from them crumbsnatchers. Plus I'd have to deal with multiple Extracurricular sites with parents and their manufactured drama/BS.Dead




Posted By: mangachan
Date Posted: Feb 16 2014 at 10:06pm
idk on one hand I like how you can tailor what's taught and adjust to your kids learning style...on the other hand I want to have my own things going on.  Kids are important but I don't want to be one of those people who's like literally becomes the kids.  I don't know, I think I would go 1820s style and hire a governess to homeschool my kids for me.


Posted By: GoodGirlGoneGr8
Date Posted: Feb 18 2014 at 8:15am
Thanks everybody!

I'm not fearful of school shootings and the world, but the blatant mistreatment of children due to race is becoming entirely too prevalent and I don't want my (or any other black) child to be the test...

I don't have children yet...but if/when I do, I will more than likely homeschool them. My mom mentioned the idea of a homeschool co-op with other black families which I thought was an awesome idea.



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