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Topic: Guys I need help, I think I have an enemy
Posted By: growlonghair
Subject: Guys I need help, I think I have an enemy
Date Posted: Feb 13 2014 at 7:34am
Hi Guys
 
First of all I'm not one to talk about my private life in forums but I need to vent.
 
Today I went to pick up my kid at school. Parked my car as usual and went to get the kid. When I came out, there was a cop car parked a few metres in front of my car. I was foolish enough to PRETEND to  buckle my kid's seat belt & not to actually do so. They drove off in front of me and I thought I had gotten away with it.
 
Fast forward I just get bad vibes & decide to stop on a curb & fasten my kid's seatbelt. As I step off the car they make a U turn & before I could blink or fasten the seat belt they were in front of me.
 
Now I'm an American currently overseas right now so I make it clear I rather be questioned in English. Lucky enough the woman cop spoke English
 
Conversation goes something like
Cop : Hi
Me: Hi
Cop : Your child should be in a seat belt. Then a very big lecture of how dangerous this is.
Me: I apologize
Cop: So you are renting a house. Who owns the house you rent?
Me: This is information I had not told her and she had not asked for my papers yet. So I try to stay calm & say who the house belongs to. Shocked
Cop: What are you doing here? What does your husband do?
Me I say what we do for a living
Cop : Can I see your papers
Me: Hands cop drivers licence, car papers etc
Cop hands me everything back and goes on a rant about how in this country they care about kids and this is dangerous
Me: Apologize again
Cop: Tomorrow I will come here again when you pick up your kid and see if you have his belt on or not. If not I''ll deal with you.
Now inside I'm agitated and I'm starting to find this whole thing petty and humiliating. But I try to handle it wellAngry
Me: I'm an adult, we had this conversation today. This will not happen again, if you see my car and my child inside after this incident I have learned & trust my child will be buckled up.
Cop: This time I won't ticket you but next time I will.
 
Then just before she leaves, I realize they had come all the way specifically for me. I ask her, what made you stop me
 
Her answer: Someone told us you never buckle your kid up so we came here for that.
 
Now right before she leaves I realize this is not a random stop they had actually come all the way for me. I actually ask her how they came to stop me and she said someone reported me to the cops and said my kid is never buckled up.
 
Looking back I should have asked her who did that?
 
First of all I own up to the fact that I should have buckled my kid up but at the time I thought the school is a 2 minute drive from the house, its a small town, very little traffic. And its zoned at 30km. I was not on the highway at peak traffic is my point.
 
Now in as much as I was wrong, I feel that who ever called the cops on me was being malicious. Maybe its me but when people get into their cars, I''m not checking out their seat belts. Plus a 4 year old's seatbelt  at the back of the caris such a minor detail. I would be hard pressed to notice if it was not buckled up . And if I saw one not being buckled I would not call the cops. I'm not sure who this person is and how they came to find out I dont always buckle my child. If it was out of concern, they would have addressed it with me but to call the cops? Angry 
 
There are two black families in this town. But the other black girl, her mother is white and is from here so she speaks the language and I dont know how black they consider her here.
 
Anyways again I was wrong but whoever this person is that called the cops, it makes me uneasy that some one is going out of their way to stalk me. I feel like I have an enemy lurking in the dark as I believe their intentions are bad. My husband and I are thinking to go over to the police station & ask who this person is. Am I being unreasonable? Or do you guys get what I'm saying?
 
When I think about it, it can only be a parent of one of the kids and whoever did this, I would not feel comfortable with them around my kids lunch and I dont want them around my kid which is inevitable if they are also a parent.
 
Now if the cop is lying about this whole story, thats also not good. And it bothers me that she said tomorrow I will come back to see. Angry I''m from NY and I''m not used to cops acting like that. Should they not be busy checking real criminals. I can understand her bumping into me and checking me out but for her to go out of her way and hunt me for a seatbelt seems off to me. Angry Granted I will buckle kid up next time.
 
Please give me advice as to how to handle this?
 
Sorry I typed in a hurry and with a lot of anger so I hope y'll can understand what I was trying to say



Replies:
Posted By: danieb23
Date Posted: Feb 13 2014 at 7:38am
I'd call the police on you as well. Single car accidents CAN occur and many children have died from them.

I'd rather you be humiliated and feel some kind of way than for your child to not be restrained and an accident occur.


Nothing personal, so I don't believe you have an enemy per se. I just think someone sees your irresponsibility and fears for your child's well being.

::Kanye shrug::

Buckle your kid up.


Posted By: danieb23
Date Posted: Feb 13 2014 at 7:41am
And yes I think you're being unreasonable. They didn't plant drugs on you and call the Feds, they called the police to handle a matter they were probably unsure of how to deal with. You may seem unapproachable.

It's done, you didn't get a ticket, move on.

Buckle your kid up.


Posted By: Spokenword
Date Posted: Feb 13 2014 at 7:48am
just buckle your child's seatbelt. your problems will be solved.




Posted By: tatee
Date Posted: Feb 13 2014 at 7:48am
Quote I thought the school is a 2 minute drive from the house, its a small town, very little traffic. And its zoned at 30km. I was not on the highway at peak traffic is my point.


Quote Maybe its me but when people get into their cars, I''m not checking out their seat belts. Plus a 4 year old's seatbelt  at the back of the car is such a minor detail. I would be hard pressed to notice if it was not buckled up .


no ones out to get you.  what youre doing is dangerous and rather than confront you someone alerted the police.  the kid needs to be in seatbelt or car seat.  people die within minutes of there home ever day.


Posted By: ShadyLady
Date Posted: Feb 13 2014 at 7:55am
I don't get it...

The time you took to PRETEND to buckle your child's seat belt, you could have actually done it.

You're looking at it like somebody out to get you, but maybe it was just someone being concerned about you obviously constantly exhibiting neglectful behavior.

My only advice is to actually buckle your child up then the snitches will have nothing to report and police will have nothing to ticket you for.


Posted By: danieb23
Date Posted: Feb 13 2014 at 7:57am
Originally posted by ShadyLady ShadyLady wrote:

I don't get it...

The time you took to PRETEND to buckle your child's seat belt, you could have actually done it.

You're looking at it like somebody out to get you, but maybe it was just someone being concerned about you obviously constantly exhibiting neglectful behavior.

My only advice is to actually buckle your child up then the snitches will have nothing to report and police will have nothing to ticket you for.


That's what I thought. Why even pretend and not just do it?


Posted By: iliveforbhm
Date Posted: Feb 13 2014 at 7:57am

RATCHET! HOODRAT problems!!!!!!!!



Posted By: zolloh
Date Posted: Feb 13 2014 at 8:02am
You keep saying you were wrong and in the next breath justify your actions? Aint nobody out to get you. You are lucky somebody else gives a fcuk that your child is never buckled.

oh and 60% of accidents happen within 40 miles from home


Posted By: HeyBeautiful18
Date Posted: Feb 13 2014 at 8:28am
Doesn't matter how close you are driving you should always buckle up your kid!

You faked doing it you might as well have done it anyway



Posted By: HeyBeautiful18
Date Posted: Feb 13 2014 at 8:31am
No ones out to get you they just care about your kids safety

You acting like someone reported you drunk driving or had a broken head light


Posted By: SoutherNtellect
Date Posted: Feb 13 2014 at 8:33am
CPS


Posted By: Ming
Date Posted: Feb 13 2014 at 8:39am
Lol@ someone told her. Why didn't someone just tell you? Why don't you automatically do it? It may have been and oversight but you make a point to say you pretended to do it. WTF cares who's house you're renting?


Posted By: growlonghair
Date Posted: Feb 13 2014 at 8:49am
Originally posted by Ming Ming wrote:

Lol@ someone told her. Why didn't someone just tell you? Why don't you automatically do it? It may have been and oversight but you make a point to say you pretended to do it. WTF cares who's house you're renting?
Obviously I'm renting as I'm not about to buy a house here. I have a place back home.
 
To me, fact that she already knew stuff like I''m renting a house etc makes me think who ever ratted on me told her that. Like there was this big conversation about me and my lifestyle? Dead
 
Just makes me question the motive of this person. I just wish this person had talked to me, our kids go to the same school. I guess if one day her kid does not look warm enough I should call CPS on her instead of just saying hey you forgot the little one's gloves? Dead
 
I feel like I was treated like an outsider. If this happened in the States I know one of y'll would have pulled me to the side and said ""Gurrl buckle up""LOL 
 
Going to the cops to report that someone who you know is doing a minutes drive does not have a belt on seems petty to me. Even noticing it is weird, and only a stalker would notice that. 
 
Don't people report big crimes anymore like rape? Murder?
 
Maybe being the only other black woman in a town of white people makes me feel they are out to get me? Confused
 
 


Posted By: AwesomeAries
Date Posted: Feb 13 2014 at 8:56am
I'm still on the part where you pretended to buckle the seat belt...


Posted By: tatee
Date Posted: Feb 13 2014 at 8:57am
Originally posted by AwesomeAries AwesomeAries wrote:

I'm still on the part where you pretended to buckle the seat belt...


lol right


Posted By: tatee
Date Posted: Feb 13 2014 at 9:01am
Originally posted by growlonghair growlonghair wrote:

Originally posted by Ming Ming wrote:

Lol@ someone told her. Why didn't someone just tell you? Why don't you automatically do it? It may have been and oversight but you make a point to say you pretended to do it. WTF cares who's house you're renting?
Obviously I'm renting as I'm not about to buy a house here. I have a place back home.
 
To me, fact that she already knew stuff like I''m renting a house etc makes me think who ever ratted on me told her that. Like there was this big conversation about me and my lifestyle? Dead
 
Just makes me question the motive of this person. I just wish this person had talked to me, our kids go to the same school. I guess if one day her kid does not look warm enough I should call CPS on her instead of just saying hey you forgot the little one's gloves?
 
I feel like I was treated like an outsider. If this happened in the States I know one of y'll would have pulled me to the side and said ""Gurrl buckle up""LOL
 
 


but you are an outsider.  maybe the person doesnt speak english.  maybe they thought you looked intimidating.  maybe they just felt more comfortable notifying the authorities.  dont dig to deep into this just buckle upLOL


Posted By: SoutherNtellect
Date Posted: Feb 13 2014 at 9:04am
I would say you have more important things to worry about, like a child

But obviously not


Posted By: lexis83
Date Posted: Feb 13 2014 at 9:15am
Originally posted by tatee tatee wrote:

Originally posted by AwesomeAries AwesomeAries wrote:

I'm still on the part where you pretended to buckle the seat belt...


lol right


Posted By: mizzsandra00
Date Posted: Feb 13 2014 at 9:19am
You tripping about the seat belt however bish follow me around everyday Id report her ass.....cause even though you should have buckles that baby up she crossed the line.


Posted By: coconess
Date Posted: Feb 13 2014 at 9:25am
i agree that she she have just told you.. but regardless.. its done. 

if she was really a true enemy.. she could have made up all types of lies about you.. but she said something that could possibly save the life of your child. 

buckle them up from now on and KIM. give them nothing to say/talk about. 

why pretend though..? 
what country is this?
do you wear your own seat belt? 


Posted By: Findingmyme
Date Posted: Feb 13 2014 at 9:26am
I'm sure once you were reported the police did their homework. If the town is as small as you say I'm sure they know who owns what, and who renting to whom. Like other posters have stated, buckle you child up, and you have solved your problem.


Posted By: Findingmyme
Date Posted: Feb 13 2014 at 9:27am
As a young child my parents didn't start the car unless we were buckled, I thought this was common practice.


Posted By: HeyBeautiful18
Date Posted: Feb 13 2014 at 9:32am
Op, do you wear your seat belt?

Is this something you guys don't do in your country?


Posted By: growlonghair
Date Posted: Feb 13 2014 at 9:39am
Originally posted by lexis83 lexis83 wrote:

Originally posted by tatee tatee wrote:

Originally posted by AwesomeAries AwesomeAries wrote:

I'm still on the part where you pretended to buckle the seat belt...


lol right
Again this was foolish.  People here do it all the time. Its actually a habit I picked up from the same people who are now reporting me.Dead. I would have never thought to PRETEND to buckle up in the StatesLOL 
 
Now other thing thats bugging me is, who ever reported me did not have my child's care in their mind. If so they could of informed school teachers or me. Or do what they normally do, start gossiping about you till you hear about it.LOLLOL
 
I dont understand how this person actually came to even NOTICE THIS! Confused Noticing that some one else's child is not buckled up?Confused I'm afraid I have a stalker? A racist or a secret enemy?
 
Now to notice such a minor detail, and its so minor when you PRETEND to buckle up the straps are where they are supposed to, only the bottom part is not attached. My kid had so many layers of clothing and with the thick winter clothes buckling him up is not easy
 
It bothers me that someone would notice such minor details in another's car. Confused 
 
I dont like being around people who don't like me.
 
And yes next time I will buckleTongue
 
In other words, I feel like some one had it out for me. If not for the belt, it would have been something else.
 
Rant over I need to get offline and go cool off!


Posted By: jonesable
Date Posted: Feb 13 2014 at 9:43am
Yes Buckle that baby up OP!

The pretending part made me giggle a little.

But I kinda get what you're saying.
You think someone must really be focused and watching you intently to be paying attention to that


Posted By: ChubbyYeti
Date Posted: Feb 13 2014 at 9:46am
Since you're the only black person in a small town you're bound to be noticed. I can see how they would notice something like this. As someone else pointed out maybe they don't speak English. Also people call the cops all the time when they could've just handled it themselves. How many times you hear about people calling the cops because someone is playing their music loud instead is just going over to the persons house and asking them to turn it down. I don't think you have an enemy, its not that deep.


Posted By: AmiliaCabral
Date Posted: Feb 13 2014 at 10:02am
lookin ass niccas



but buckle the seatbelt for real


Posted By: Ming
Date Posted: Feb 13 2014 at 10:26am
Originally posted by mizzsandra00 mizzsandra00 wrote:

You tripping about the seat belt however bish follow me around everyday Id report her ass.....cause even though you should have buckles that baby up she crossed the line.


Right. Why you all in my window?

Can't even recklessly endanger your own kid in private anymore


Posted By: coconess
Date Posted: Feb 13 2014 at 10:34am
Originally posted by jonesable jonesable wrote:


But I kinda get what you're saying.
You think someone must really be focused and watching you intently to be paying attention to that

i dont… 

does it take a stalker to see that youre simply placing your 4 year old in the car….? 
i don't even have kids but id easily notice this day after day.. it takes some seconds to do it. she doest always pretend… it would be very easy to see that she's not grabbing the seat belt and reaching over to buckle.. especially amongst the swarm of ppl putting their kids in the car and driving off.. id notice the quickness of it day after day. 


Posted By: AwesomeAries
Date Posted: Feb 13 2014 at 11:07am
I agree with this op for your safety get their badge numbers
Originally posted by Ming Ming wrote:

Originally posted by mizzsandra00 mizzsandra00 wrote:

You tripping about the seat belt however bish follow me around everyday Id report her ass.....cause even though you should have buckles that baby up she crossed the line.


Right. Why you all in my window?

Can't even recklessly endanger your own kid in private anymore


Posted By: thewonderfulwa
Date Posted: Feb 13 2014 at 11:08am
Just Buckle the kid up and the town folk will not have anything to say about you being that you are a new neighbor your probably the focus of a lot of attention I doubt its anything personal.

Don't ever make excuses when it comes to the health and well being of your child you were wrong DO BETTER.


Posted By: sugabanana
Date Posted: Feb 13 2014 at 11:12am
Sorry OP but I came in here thinking there would be loads of sympathy post...I was wrong. The cop was wrong for following you but she had every right to since the baby wasn't buckled. Now that you know the reason they have no valid reason to follow you anymore. Someone was watching you put the baby in the car without buckling the belt and alerted the authorities. You stand out cos your black so don't make it worst by not buckling the baby.


Posted By: coconess
Date Posted: Feb 13 2014 at 11:15am
also… i think if it was a straight enemy.. they would have put it on extra thick and made you seem like a monster to the cops… they wouldn't have let you go with a warning.. Confused

but again.. i do feel like they just could have told you.. but some people really are not direct and would rather do sneaky underhanded things rather than be straight up with you about things that are bothering them. 


Posted By: lexis83
Date Posted: Feb 13 2014 at 11:22am
Police in small towns have lots of time on their hands. If you're in a remote town in Europe, that's already 10 times free time and the town's people have even more free time, they'll notice, they'll report and u best believe the police will check up and follow up. To them, it's a regular day on the job. You've given them a reason to get out of the office. An unbuckled 4 yr old will most likely stand up in their seats or fidget a lot, it's not hard to notice. To avoid unnecessary scrutiny, u just have to abide by their laws, no shortcuts.


Posted By: ShadyLady
Date Posted: Feb 13 2014 at 11:34am
Lets sayI I'm there picking up my child, and as we're walking to our car and I glance in yours, I notice you didn't bother to buckle your child in.

I give you the benefit of the doubt, maybe you're in a rush. Out of curiosity, the next day I notice that you make a habit of this.

Is it still stalking?


Posted By: india100
Date Posted: Feb 13 2014 at 11:36am

NVM .



Posted By: tatee
Date Posted: Feb 13 2014 at 11:38am
Originally posted by ShadyLady ShadyLady wrote:

Lets sayI I'm there picking up my child, and as we're walking to our car and I glance in yours, I notice you didn't bother to buckle your child in.

I give you the benefit of the doubt, maybe you're in a rush. Out of curiosity, the next day I notice that you make a habit of this.

Is it still stalking?


that actually what i wouldve done.  the first time may have been an oversight so im going to watch again to see if youre just reckless.


Posted By: nitabug
Date Posted: Feb 13 2014 at 11:41am
It's weird, but they are right. You just have to buckle them up.

I do the pretend thing too and sometimes I let my niece sit in the front.

Sometimes I have a baby in the back with no car seat. I shouldn't do it and I can't get mad if someone snitches because it is not safe.


Posted By: Ladycoils
Date Posted: Feb 13 2014 at 11:58am
I don't understand why you wouldn't buckle them in a seat?!? Why is that so hard


Posted By: TXButterfly03
Date Posted: Feb 13 2014 at 12:08pm
Ugh, I've seen children standing up, etc. while someone else is driving and it makes me cringe!  I may have even called the cops on someone myself onceConfused.  What is so hard about buckling up your child?? That's the first thing I would do when we got in the car, even before I put on my own seatbelt.  And who pretends to buckle up their child??  Not sure what kind of responses you were expecting....


Posted By: thickblkbarbie
Date Posted: Feb 13 2014 at 12:16pm
Op it appears you are not thinking clearly... Make sure your bAbies are safe!!!


Posted By: PrincessSher
Date Posted: Feb 13 2014 at 12:21pm
The person(s) who reported you may have been intimidated by you and that's maybe why they didn't say anything to you directly. Just buckle up your child from now on....it is irresponsible not to no matter if you're going from your driveway to park in the street......better safe than sorry plus if you do it then when they get older it will hopefully be second nature for them to always buckle up. Good luck!!Hug


Posted By: newin2009
Date Posted: Feb 13 2014 at 12:22pm
I understand your annoyance at someone calling the cops; HOWEVER, buckle that baby up!!! I have a 4 year old daughter who has bulky stuff on in the winter too and I buckle her up. Yes, it takes longer to buckle her, but I'd rather have her alive and safe...
Someone obviously cares about your child's safety.


Posted By: mrshairdo
Date Posted: Feb 13 2014 at 1:00pm
Originally posted by growlonghair growlonghair wrote:

Originally posted by Ming Ming wrote:

Lol@ someone told her. Why didn't someone just tell you? Why don't you automatically do it? It may have been and oversight but you make a point to say you pretended to do it. WTF cares who's house you're renting?
Obviously I'm renting as I'm not about to buy a house here. I have a place back home.
 
To me, fact that she already knew stuff like I''m renting a house etc makes me think who ever ratted on me told her that. Like there was this big conversation about me and my lifestyle? Dead
 
Just makes me question the motive of this person. I just wish this person had talked to me, our kids go to the same school. I guess if one day her kid does not look warm enough I should call CPS on her instead of just saying hey you forgot the little one's gloves? Dead
 
I feel like I was treated like an outsider. If this happened in the States I know one of y'll would have pulled me to the side and said ""Gurrl buckle up""LOL 
 
Going to the cops to report that someone who you know is doing a minutes drive does not have a belt on seems petty to me. Even noticing it is weird, and only a stalker would notice that. 
 
Don't people report big crimes anymore like rape? Murder?
 
Maybe being the only other black woman in a town of white people makes me feel they are out to get me? Confused
 
 

you're an adult, no one should have to pull you to the side and tell you to buckle your child up and they obviously ratted on you cuz this is a regular occurrence on your end. You should be embarrassed. The last thing you should be is mad 


Posted By: sugabanana
Date Posted: Feb 13 2014 at 1:21pm
OP are you the member that's depolyed?? If so how's it going? How's your protective styling holding up overseas? Share your tips WOMANLOL.


Posted By: BBpants
Date Posted: Feb 13 2014 at 1:29pm
I bet most people in this thread don't even wear seat belts....

Anyway take this L and buckle up not because they are watching you but for the safety of your kid. An accident can happen any time and you don't want to regret not keeping your kid safe.


Posted By: QueenBee
Date Posted: Feb 13 2014 at 3:37pm
OP,

Buckle your baby up. My car was totaled last Septemeber. I picked my son up from school (we are literally 2 minutes from the school) The person was speeding, ran the red light and BAM. We were going straight but the car hit us so hard on the right side (my son seats in backseat) that I slid/pushed into the car that making a left turn from his turning lane. Just think if I was like "Oh we only 2 minutes from home, the kids can go without a seatbelt" They would have been flying through the front window. You'd rather be safe than sorry.

The car looked fcked up and they took the kids and I to the ER to check them out. Scared me senseless. BUCKLE THAT KID UP!!


Posted By: coconess
Date Posted: Feb 13 2014 at 3:38pm
i definitely dont always wear a seat beat… 

but i put myself in danger all the time… id protect a child in my care and be careful with them.. always. 




Posted By: melikey
Date Posted: Feb 13 2014 at 3:41pm
i buckle my dog in a seatbelt, 
so um, yeah... 
smh


Posted By: tatee
Date Posted: Feb 13 2014 at 3:42pm
Originally posted by BBpants BBpants wrote:

I bet most people in this thread don't even wear seat belts....

Anyway take this L and buckle up not because they are watching you but for the safety of your kid. An accident can happen any time and you don't want to regret not keeping your kid safe.


the only people i see not wearing seat belts are the old and obese.


Posted By: ms_wonderland
Date Posted: Feb 13 2014 at 3:47pm
Originally posted by ShadyLady ShadyLady wrote:

I don't get it...

The time you took to PRETEND to buckle your child's seat belt, you could have actually done it.

You're looking at it like somebody out to get you, but maybe it was just someone being concerned about you obviously constantly exhibiting neglectful behavior.

My only advice is to actually buckle your child up then the snitches will have nothing to report and police will have nothing to ticket you for.

Sigh...this reminds me of my mom who I am constantly chastising for not wearing a seatbelt...if she sees cops she will hold the belt over her boobs without buckling...driving all awkward...why not just put the Damn seatbelt on???  Same question goes to OP...she was probably targeted since she's the only black.   They pay attn to everything she does, but for good reason in this one instance.


Posted By: ms_wonderland
Date Posted: Feb 13 2014 at 3:48pm
I wear my seatbelt even to drive to the mailbox, it's an automatic habit at this point.


Posted By: carolina cutie
Date Posted: Feb 13 2014 at 3:58pm
Originally posted by tatee tatee wrote:

Originally posted by BBpants BBpants wrote:

I bet most people in this thread don't even wear seat belts....

Anyway take this L and buckle up not because they are watching you but for the safety of your kid. An accident can happen any time and you don't want to regret not keeping your kid safe.


the only people i see not wearing seat belts are the old and obese.
I swear when it comes to seat belts a lot of them think 'fukk it I made it this far. I ain't wearin' sheit!'LOL

You ride in my car, we're not going anywhere until you buckle up. For safety and peace of mind.


Posted By: mrshairdo
Date Posted: Feb 13 2014 at 4:01pm
Originally posted by ms_wonderland ms_wonderland wrote:

I wear my seatbelt even to drive to the mailbox, it's an automatic habit at this point.

same


Posted By: liesnalibis
Date Posted: Feb 13 2014 at 4:05pm
LoL


Posted By: tatee
Date Posted: Feb 13 2014 at 4:05pm
Originally posted by ms_wonderland ms_wonderland wrote:

I wear my seatbelt even to drive to the mailbox, it's an automatic habit at this point.

yeah i dont quite understand why distance mattersLOL almost every accident i ever been in was within 2 miles of home


Posted By: ModelessDiva
Date Posted: Feb 13 2014 at 4:08pm
Originally posted by coconess coconess wrote:

i definitely dont always wear a seat beat… 

but i put myself in danger all the time… id protect a child in my care and be careful with them.. always. 



ikr i dont wear my seat belt all the time either...

but im gonna start



Posted By: Cream1970
Date Posted: Feb 13 2014 at 4:11pm
I don't know if it's been said, I didn't read all the pages, buuuuuut, the type of people who usually wouldn't use seat belts for their most prized "possessions"; their kids, are usually the type of people that I avoid contact with.
 
It's amazing, people lock their car doors, use banks or safes to secure their money, secure their house with alarms and locks, use a PIN to protect their bank info, use passwords to protect accounts of every type, but won't put the same effort into protecting their children. Angry


Posted By: coconess
Date Posted: Feb 13 2014 at 4:14pm
tbh id probably wear the seatbelt less if it didnt make annoying noises until i put it on... 

but i ignore it sometimes. 




Posted By: ms_wonderland
Date Posted: Feb 13 2014 at 4:18pm
Originally posted by tatee tatee wrote:

Originally posted by ms_wonderland ms_wonderland wrote:

I wear my seatbelt even to drive to the mailbox, it's an automatic habit at this point.

yeah i dont quite understand why distance mattersLOL almost every accident i ever been in was within 2 miles of home

I meant because I don't have to leave my apt community's parking lot to get to the mail...but people do act extra special behind the wheel in parking lots like they're unsure if the same road rules and etiquette apply.

And how many accidents you been in?  They better not have ALL been your fault LOL





Posted By: mizzsandra00
Date Posted: Feb 13 2014 at 4:18pm
So aint none of the BHM momma's pretending to buckle up the babies?


Lies are being told.....


Posted By: Cream1970
Date Posted: Feb 13 2014 at 4:23pm
Once you make it habit, you do it without even thinking about it, it's 2nd nature.


Posted By: tatee
Date Posted: Feb 13 2014 at 4:47pm
Originally posted by ms_wonderland ms_wonderland wrote:

Originally posted by tatee tatee wrote:

Originally posted by ms_wonderland ms_wonderland wrote:

I wear my seatbelt even to drive to the mailbox, it's an automatic habit at this point.

yeah i dont quite understand why distance mattersLOL almost every accident i ever been in was within 2 miles of home

I meant because I don't have to leave my apt community's parking lot to get to the mail...but people do act extra special behind the wheel in parking lots like they're unsure if the same road rules and etiquette apply.

And how many accidents you been in?  They better not have ALL been your fault LOL





5 that i can recall.  the only one that i plead guilty to was the last one and i still dont believe it was my fault.  i got creamed by an ambulance. 


Posted By: noneyons
Date Posted: Feb 13 2014 at 5:00pm
great advice in this thread. i'm pretty sure OP has learned her lesson but i understand her paranoia. someone is watching her mighty hard. 


Posted By: ChubbyYeti
Date Posted: Feb 13 2014 at 5:05pm
Originally posted by mizzsandra00 mizzsandra00 wrote:

So aint none of the BHM momma's pretending to buckle up the babies?


Lies are being told.....


I don't understand this PRETEND mentality. Doesn't it take the same effort to pretend than to do? I would assume most people would bucket up their babies.


Posted By: noneyons
Date Posted: Feb 13 2014 at 5:09pm
yeah, this pretend business is quite bizarre. 


Posted By: noneyons
Date Posted: Feb 13 2014 at 5:10pm
now that i think about it, i wonder if someone has seen the child standing in the car while its moving. otherwise it seems impossible for someone to know whether the kid has on a lap belt (unless they're standing directly over your shoulder)


Posted By: Katrenia
Date Posted: Feb 13 2014 at 5:23pm
Originally posted by growlonghair /QUOTE growlonghair /QUOTE wrote:

Again this was foolish.  People here do it all the time. Its actually a habit I picked up from the same people who are now reporting me.DeadI would have never thought to PRETEND to buckle up in the StatesLOL 
 
Now other thing thats bugging me is, who ever reported me did not have my child's care in their mind. If so they could of informed school teachers or me. Or do what they normally do, start gossiping about you till you hear about it.LOLLOL
 
I dont understand how this person actually came to even NOTICE THIS! Confused Noticing that some one else's child is not buckled up?Confused I'm afraid I have a stalker? A racist or a secret enemy?
 
Now to notice such a minor detail, and its so minor when you PRETEND to buckle up the straps are where they are supposed to, only the bottom part is not attached. My kid had so many layers of clothing and with the thick winter clothes buckling him up is not easy
 
It bothers me that someone would notice such minor details in another's car. Confused 
 
I dont like being around people who don't like me.
 
And yes next time I will buckleTongue
 
In other words, I feel like some one had it out for me. If not for the belt, it would have been something else.
 
Rant over I need to get offline and go cool off!

Why is the safety of your child dictated by location??

You ever thought it could just be the cop looking for excuses to harass you and by not buckling your child in you provided that reason??

Calm down, it may not be as serious as you think it is.


Posted By: smaison
Date Posted: Feb 13 2014 at 5:29pm
I stopped reading after you said you pretended to buckle your kids seatbelt. You're stupid and I ain't got time to read your essay.


Posted By: mizzsandra00
Date Posted: Feb 13 2014 at 5:32pm
Originally posted by ChubbyYeti ChubbyYeti wrote:

Originally posted by mizzsandra00 mizzsandra00 wrote:

So aint none of the BHM momma's pretending to buckle up the babies?


Lies are being told.....


I don't understand this PRETEND mentality. Doesn't it take the same effort to pretend than to do? I would assume most people would bucket up their babies.


I agree but people in here lying.....


Posted By: liesnalibis
Date Posted: Feb 13 2014 at 5:33pm
Rude...


Posted By: elisa
Date Posted: Feb 13 2014 at 5:45pm
Last Summer, a teen 16 and another young man, age 22, died for not buckling up their seat belts. They were less than a minute leaving their home to grab a bite to eat, when a drunk driver slammed into them in an intersection. They both were ejected from the car. The other two passengers in the car were wearing their seat belts and were saved. All four were local residents of our community. The kid that died brother, was also in the car and he lived because of a seat belt. 

I don't care if your 2 minutes away, BUCKLE UP YOUR CHILD!


Posted By: Midna
Date Posted: Feb 13 2014 at 5:55pm
Originally posted by danieb23 danieb23 wrote:

I'd call the police on you as well. Single car accidents CAN occur and many children have died from them.

I'd rather you be humiliated and feel some kind of way than for your child to not be restrained and an accident occur.


Nothing personal, so I don't believe you have an enemy per se. I just think someone sees your irresponsibility and fears for your child's well being.

::Kanye shrug::

Buckle your kid up.



THIS.

You don't have an enemy, OP! You've got a person who doesn't want to see your kid get hurt from your irresponsibility!


Posted By: sugabanana
Date Posted: Feb 13 2014 at 5:57pm
Originally posted by mizzsandra00 mizzsandra00 wrote:

Originally posted by ChubbyYeti ChubbyYeti wrote:

Originally posted by mizzsandra00 mizzsandra00 wrote:

So aint none of the BHM momma's pretending to buckle up the babies?


Lies are being told.....


I don't understand this PRETEND mentality. Doesn't it take the same effort to pretend than to do? I would assume most people would bucket up their babies.


I agree but people in here lying.....
Does not having a booster seat count? If so I've been guilty. I got a ticket 1 time for not having the booster seat and I lied to the cop and said my son was 6. And GA law states your child must be 6 or be 40 pounds. I know i'm guilty but he was buckled up though and in the back seat. He was 3 at the time.Confused
 
OP we gotta just be more responsible. That $70 bucks hurt like a mug but its better than paying hospital or funeral bills.


Posted By: coconess
Date Posted: Feb 13 2014 at 6:02pm
Originally posted by liesnalibis liesnalibis wrote:

Rude...

just like your, 'annoying avi' comments yesterday and that 'fck you' after i laughed... 

stawp. 


Posted By: ms_wonderland
Date Posted: Feb 13 2014 at 6:03pm
yes, a 3 yr old most certainly needs a seat.  

This thread made me recall a memory with my mom.  I had to be 4/5 or under because we were headed to a nearby drive in theatre that didn't last long.  She got pulled over and lectured for having me in the front seat.  That was the first time I realized that my mom wasn't GOD and totally fallible.


Posted By: sugabanana
Date Posted: Feb 13 2014 at 6:04pm
Confused Coco what did I miss with you and lies?


Posted By: coconess
Date Posted: Feb 13 2014 at 6:06pm
nothing really suga. 

the avi comments werent directed at me. 

but bwom called her a miserable person and i said, 'well damn ' then she said fck you coco 




Posted By: liesnalibis
Date Posted: Feb 13 2014 at 6:09pm
Originally posted by coconess coconess wrote:

Originally posted by liesnalibis liesnalibis wrote:

Rude...

just like your, 'annoying avi' comments yesterday and that 'fck you' after i laughed... 

stawp. 


Saying someone's avi is annoying is rude? I was kidding with you as well. I don't take you seriously lol.


Posted By: liesnalibis
Date Posted: Feb 13 2014 at 6:10pm
Originally posted by sugabanana sugabanana wrote:

Confused Coco what did I miss with you and lies?


That girl is coocoo man...


Posted By: liesnalibis
Date Posted: Feb 13 2014 at 6:11pm
Originally posted by coconess coconess wrote:

nothing really suga. 

the avi comments werent directed at me. 

but bwom called her a miserable person and i said, 'well damn ' then she said fck you coco 




Why are you being messy? Me and Bwom sorted this out already and I was kidding with her as well. I'm not entertaining you coco. Sleepy


Posted By: coconess
Date Posted: Feb 13 2014 at 6:12pm
oh, i was supposed to just know you were joking (you didnt say that after i replied..)

i swear yall act like ppl can hear these letters/words on the screen  

whatevs though

eta, and i wasnt being messy... she asked me what she missed Confused
i dont think anyone thought u were joking cus your feelings were genuinely hurt.. but ok. 


Posted By: liesnalibis
Date Posted: Feb 13 2014 at 6:13pm
Okay.


Posted By: BBpants
Date Posted: Feb 13 2014 at 6:58pm
Some of yall probably do buckle up but the holier than thou attitudes be annoying the sh*t out of me


Posted By: Miss SDY
Date Posted: Feb 13 2014 at 7:19pm
Besides the fact that no one should be telling you to buckle your child up, wrecks tend to happen when you are close to home.

A few years ago,  I had just gotten off of work and I turned on the street to go home and decided that I wanted a bag of chips from the store. I was only 2 to 3 minutes from home. On the way home, there was a light that was red at the time. The light turned green so I am assuming that the person in front of me would be gone by the time I made it to the light. But he was still there at the light after it was green and by the time I realized he was still there when nothing was in front of him, I had to swerve to keep from hitting him, still hit him and the force from hitting him knocked me over the median into oncoming traffic and I had a sign come through my windshield on my side of my car. My windshield was one of those shatter in one piece windshields. 

The only reason why no one else was hurt or killed was bc there was another intersection at the other end and the light in that direction was still red. By the time I had gotten over the shock, traffic was backed up and I was being put on a stretcher.. and the neighbors that had seen it happen were over there asking if I was ok as I was being wheeled off to the ambulance. The person I had still managed to hit while trying to keep from hitting even came to the hospital to see if i was ok.

And I was wearing my seat belt btw. I always wear it. Everyone in my family always wore their seat belts. Point is that just because you are close to home is no excuse for not buckling that baby up properly. Just buckle the baby up properly. Pretending to do that is too much energy wasted when you could have just done it for real and been done with it. You're taking too much of a chance by not doing it. 

Since you are the only black person in the town, don't give the police or anyone else a reason to be watching you.


Posted By: ms_wonderland
Date Posted: Feb 13 2014 at 7:25pm
Originally posted by SamoneLenior SamoneLenior wrote:


wonder that has me thinking

do kids need to think their parents are infallible up to a certain age in order to follow their parent's lead

meaning if kids are shown or told very early on that their parents do and will make mistakes does that undermine their authority

I am sure for some it happens sooner than later for some and may make no difference, but still I wonder

Idk...i guess there are some variables like who are the ppl bringing out the mistakes?  The other parent, a cop, a teacher, family member who has it all together? I think it's best for parents to own their mistakes bc it teaches kids to take responsibility.  I know ill get caught up and ill just use it as a teaching moment.  I think a lot of teenage angst comes from seeing parents w the do as I say not as I do mentality.  Just keep it real.


Posted By: ragincajin
Date Posted: Feb 13 2014 at 7:36pm
Originally posted by danieb23 danieb23 wrote:

I'd call the police on you as well. Single car accidents CAN occur and many children have died from them.

I'd rather you be humiliated and feel some kind of way than for your child to not be restrained and an accident occur.


Thanked Danieb23!

OP, you do have an enemy and that enemy is you.

Safety first! Buckle up your child! If your negligence should cause injury to your little one, you'd never forgive yourself. An ocean's worth of tears couldn't undo the hurt.

Change perspectives. Someone did you, and your child, a favor.

Take care OP!


Posted By: Lite Brite
Date Posted: Feb 13 2014 at 8:08pm
Wait wait LOL let me get this straight... you're telling me you don't feel comfortable having this snitch around your kid at lunch or without you there...because she might harm your kid...after she called the POLICE on you for the potential harm you might do to your kid?

sh*t, if anything I'd want that bitch babysitting my kid.


Posted By: Lite Brite
Date Posted: Feb 13 2014 at 8:14pm
But anyway though, I'm not judging your mistake. You know that you knew better, so ok cool. Problem solved now.

but the logic, yeah I think your trippin homie. Having that said, since I'm nosy, HELL YEAH I'd want to know who it was, and I think it's natural to feel some type of way about the person who called the cops on us, regardless of how wrong we were.

But rationally should you think you have an enemy? Naw. (are you a cancer?)


Posted By: coconess
Date Posted: Feb 13 2014 at 8:17pm
Originally posted by Lite Brite Lite Brite wrote:

 
But rationally should you think you have an enemy? Naw. (are you a cancer?)

 
i have realized some things about them when it comes to situations that bother them, problems, and altercations.. 




Posted By: Bored w/Out Me?
Date Posted: Feb 13 2014 at 8:21pm
Originally posted by mizzsandra00 mizzsandra00 wrote:

So aint none of the BHM momma's pretending to buckle up the babies?


Lies are being told.....



I aint never pretended to put the seatbelt on, thru em in the backseat and told him to sit back and when I saw the cops told him to get down on the floor


Posted By: noneyons
Date Posted: Feb 13 2014 at 8:24pm
this actually reminds me of a time i was driving with the homies to grab some food and one of the homies had her baby in her lap in the backseat. i got pulled over for barely running the red light and my homegirl put a blanket over the baby so the cop wouldn't see her. 

totally random lol. 


Posted By: Lite Brite
Date Posted: Feb 13 2014 at 8:27pm
Originally posted by carolina cutie carolina cutie wrote:



You ride in my car, we're not going anywhere until you buckle up. For safety and peace of mind.


LOL f*ck safety, you're gonna buckle up because that beeping noise irritates me

I'll cuss my friend out for CALLING me when she's in her own car without the seat belt on. Bitch call me back when you buckle up.


Posted By: ms_wonderland
Date Posted: Feb 13 2014 at 8:28pm
Lmao the floor tho? This is why I don't know how ppl with two door cars do the parenting thing...it's time consuming enough to put your kid back and forth in a 4 door backseat. We would be at home. Shouldn't there already be an easy routine once the kid is a certain age and in the booster seat though? It's not like a car seat where u gotta deal with all those wiggly limbs.


Posted By: ModelessDiva
Date Posted: Feb 13 2014 at 8:30pm
Originally posted by Lite Brite Lite Brite wrote:


But rationally should you think you have an enemy? Naw. (are you a cancer?)

CryCryDead


Posted By: carolina cutie
Date Posted: Feb 13 2014 at 8:35pm
Originally posted by Lite Brite Lite Brite wrote:

Originally posted by carolina cutie carolina cutie wrote:



You ride in my car, we're not going anywhere until you buckle up. For safety and peace of mind.


LOL f*ck safety, you're gonna buckle up because that beeping noise irritates me

I'll cuss my friend out for CALLING me when she's in her own car without the seat belt on. Bitch call me back when you buckle up.
CryLOLLOLLOL

Another reason is if something happens and my passenger(s) gets seriously hurt, I don't want that mess to haunt me.LOL


Posted By: miana79
Date Posted: Feb 14 2014 at 12:22am
Sigh


Posted By: tropical-punch
Date Posted: Feb 14 2014 at 12:28am
So you just letting the kid bounce all over the car all willy-nilly?


Posted By: DiorShowGirl
Date Posted: Feb 14 2014 at 12:29am
Y do u address your child as THE KID???? Plus u don't buckle your KID up?  Confused



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