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Topic: Friends who are liars
Posted By: cocochanel1
Subject: Friends who are liars
Date Posted: Feb 02 2014 at 3:34pm
How do yo deal with them? The lies aren't really affecting my life, but still.  There was one thing she lied about that made me go hmmm.  She fronts like she's not cool with a "foe"  yet she's cooler with them than she lets off.  She also hides numerous basic things about her life that people don't hide, yet  and asks me very invasive none of anybody's business type questions.  I feel like wanting to know all about me yet hiding every detail about her life is a form of her trying to one up me.  I remember when I first became friends with her, she told me that she doesn't have "luck" with female friends and that there was a friend of hers that just stop speaking to her cold turkey.  Hmmm. I really can't with some of these so called female friends.  This chick is really starting to rub me the wrong way. Angry  Thoughts?  I'm contemplating cutting her off. 



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Posted By: AmiliaCabral
Date Posted: Feb 02 2014 at 3:42pm
I have a friend who lies about everything, I told her she lies a lot but she ain't gotta lie to me


Posted By: AmiliaCabral
Date Posted: Feb 02 2014 at 3:44pm
but yeah I'd tell her about herself before cutting her off


Posted By: ThoughtCouture
Date Posted: Feb 02 2014 at 3:45pm
coco you just made it up here from chicago huh?
 
anyway, drop her.


Posted By: creole booty
Date Posted: Feb 02 2014 at 3:46pm
I used to b like that. Maybe she just really isn't aware of how she looks in ur eyes. If ur really friends, tell her about herself, and say how you'd like her to change. Hopefully she hears u.

I'm an awkward person with trust issues. I like getting to know people, but I fear people getting to know me.

The lies, I can't help u with. Could b that she isn't her definition of cool with said person. Does that make sense? Like she's cool with u, but she only is kind of cool with the other person.

If ur her first female friend after her "bad luck" with other females, u may have to let her know y she's having "bad luck". I'm sure they saw what u saw, but no one has explained it plainly and constructively from a kind place before.



Posted By: Up&Out39
Date Posted: Feb 02 2014 at 3:47pm
Cut her off


Posted By: DiorShowGirl
Date Posted: Feb 02 2014 at 4:07pm
did things seriously change around here???? How come it took me months on top of months to be abled to post in the TALK,TALK, TALK section and now newbies can have 6 Pts  and be abled to post in this section???

one girl has 2280 pts and joined dec of 2013...wth???  y not just get rid of the newbie talk section and combine it all here?

or maybe i have the cow by the tail (as my mom would say)LOL


Posted By: FarraFace
Date Posted: Feb 02 2014 at 4:20pm
Originally posted by cocochanel1 cocochanel1 wrote:

How do yo deal with them? The lies aren't really affecting my life, but still.  There was one thing she lied about that made me go hmmm.  She fronts like she's not cool with a "foe"  yet she's cooler with them than she lets off.  She also hides numerous basic things about her life that people don't hide, yet  and asks me very invasive none of anybody's business type questions.  I feel like wanting to know all about me yet hiding every detail about her life is a form of her trying to one up me.  I remember when I first became friends with her, she told me that she doesn't have "luck" with female friends and that there was a friend of hers that just stop speaking to her cold turkey.  Hmmm. I really can't with some of these so called female friends.  This chick is really starting to rub me the wrong way. Angry  Thoughts?  I'm contemplating cutting her off. 

Does her name start with a B?


Posted By: mrshairdo
Date Posted: Feb 02 2014 at 4:22pm
lmaooo farra


Posted By: nekamarie83
Date Posted: Feb 02 2014 at 4:37pm
1- Farra ain't sh¡t
Originally posted by SamoneLenior SamoneLenior wrote:


stop being their friend

how can you trust them?
2- This. I wouldn't know how to deal with lying friends because my friends don't lie. They find it as banal and sad as I do. They woulda been cut from the crew by the 1st or 2nd time.


Posted By: sunshine321511
Date Posted: Feb 02 2014 at 6:50pm
Sorry sweetie but she is NOT YOUR FRIEND.  As an old lady I can say...when I was young I used to "THINK" all these people were my friends and lived to be proven wrong.  This person is not a friend, she is an acquaintance at best.  Friends don't lie about everything to each other.
 
If she can't even tell you the truth about BASIC things...please don't expect her to have your back in your time of needs. 


Posted By: Midna
Date Posted: Feb 02 2014 at 7:02pm
You can't even trust the chick.

There's only one tried and true unfailing solution to dealing with untrustworthy people!


Kick them out of your life and keep them out.


Posted By: femmemuscleisback
Date Posted: Feb 02 2014 at 8:12pm
i find it strange that i take the same stance - drop her.  That is not a friend.Ouch

But living in a predominantly white town?   apparently, lying is totally acceptableConfused

These caucasians are cowardly, certainly don't have your back, yet it is constantly said, "You never know if they might be helpful sometime in the future".. they get upset or find it actually "down right rude" when you "cut people off" for dishonest behavior.  For them, lying is "not that big of a deal"...Ouch

I just don't buy that.. The culture in general comes across as superficial, back stabbing, envious, and habitual liars.  My SO asked why i don't even bother socializing in this area?  My response is "it is no longer worth my time".. i tried, but we can't even relate.  They find it "intriguing" and are actually "drawn" to those who have integrity/strength? but in the end just don't have the intestinal fortitude to pull it off.  They are more afraid of not being popular or "losing a friend" if they do.. thus, they stay in constant drama at home and at work.

We used to say in the streets: "A liar will get you killed".. i've seen it, and always believed that.

Anyone regardless of their race, in my opinion who has no honor/integrity is about as worthless as a tampon in a man's prison, anyway.






Posted By: femmemuscleisback
Date Posted: Feb 02 2014 at 8:25pm
and the strange part?  They don't really like each other, don't trust each other, but you would never know it if you saw them over at each others houses having dinner, restaurants or hanging out at the bars.

(But these very same people are armed to the teeth when it comes to their guns/rifles.)

Ouch


Posted By: Blac1Chyna
Date Posted: Feb 02 2014 at 10:04pm
I wouldn't with her. She is not trustworthy. People like that are the type to set you up and then act like they dont know what happened. We could be mild associates at best but not someone I'd tell my private sh*t to and have close to me


Posted By: sbrownie84
Date Posted: Feb 02 2014 at 10:26pm
Liars are the worst. Period.


Posted By: carolina cutie
Date Posted: Feb 02 2014 at 10:57pm
Originally posted by FarraFace FarraFace wrote:

Originally posted by cocochanel1 cocochanel1 wrote:

How do yo deal with them? The lies aren't really affecting my life, but still.  There was one thing she lied about that made me go hmmm.  She fronts like she's not cool with a "foe"  yet she's cooler with them than she lets off.  She also hides numerous basic things about her life that people don't hide, yet  and asks me very invasive none of anybody's business type questions.  I feel like wanting to know all about me yet hiding every detail about her life is a form of her trying to one up me.  I remember when I first became friends with her, she told me that she doesn't have "luck" with female friends and that there was a friend of hers that just stop speaking to her cold turkey.  Hmmm. I really can't with some of these so called female friends.  This chick is really starting to rub me the wrong way. Angry  Thoughts?  I'm contemplating cutting her off. 

Does her name start with a B?
Cry


Posted By: mangachan
Date Posted: Feb 03 2014 at 12:31pm
This person will become more irritating as time goes on.  I had a friend soooooort of like this when I was younger...totally unaware that she was annoying, hurtful and irrational. I haven't talking to this person in 5 years.  They will spend everything like it's the other persons fault which sounds like this person.  She got cut off for a reason...she may need a repeat with you OP.


Posted By: purpulicious01
Date Posted: Feb 04 2014 at 6:39pm
That's an oxymoron

Someone who constantly lies to me, wouldn't be considered a 'friend.'




Posted By: naturesgift
Date Posted: Feb 04 2014 at 6:56pm
give her another chance maybe she need you to confornt her she maybe insecure and need someone real in her life...



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