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Topic: If you could do it all over again...
Posted By: ragincajin
Subject: If you could do it all over again...
Date Posted: Jan 22 2014 at 4:59pm
I'm curious.
There's another thread asking about degrees, which made me think: If you knew 'then' what you know 'now,' would you do it all over again?

Career choice- No
Marriage- Yes
Family- Definite Yes
Friends- Some turned to the dark side. Hated to see them go, but dang sure wasn't going with them. Hasta la vista Baby!

My response from other thread.


Me- "yes and no."

Ridiculous debt loads in your twenties was not a good thing. A profession that's brutal on your personal life. A life spent protecting rich people's billions, intellectual property, real estate, car collections, art collections, etc.,
Not to mention the psychopaths in black robes and the alcoholics in $4000 suits.

If I could do it over, I would have chosen something that invested in the core of people instead of all the crap they accumulate over time.
Despite the money, I should have chosen teaching.

Fuuuuucccccckkkkk!



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Posted By: _ConcreteRose_
Date Posted: Jan 22 2014 at 5:15pm
good thread ragin.

It's way too early to tell for me however I do really REALLY enjoy my major, so that's good.

However, the 3 main jobs people w/my major get are finance, actuary, of the NSA which are all corrupt and morally deficient in their own right and I don't feel right contributing to that. But at the same time, I really hate the politics around teaching and the low pay. So it's tough. 


Posted By: india100
Date Posted: Jan 22 2014 at 5:17pm
[QUOTE=ragincajin]I'm curious.
There's another thread asking about degrees, which made me think: If you knew 'then' what you know 'now,' would you do it all over again?

Career choice- YES . I love my career as a Nurse . Ready to retire .
Marriage- Yes. I am so thankful i found the right man ,
Family- Definite Yes
Friends- I love my friends like family . 
Good topic . Embarrassed


Posted By: nitabug
Date Posted: Jan 22 2014 at 5:19pm
I don't want to do it all over. I just want to get this current sh*t straight and keep it moving.


Posted By: _ConcreteRose_
Date Posted: Jan 22 2014 at 5:20pm
Oh and the marriage and family I can't speak to.
I feel like all my friends, good or bad, taught me something so there's that. Even if they weren't the best friend I learned what kind of person I don't want to hang around in the future.


Posted By: Sang Froid
Date Posted: Jan 22 2014 at 5:21pm
Too soon, but I think I'm making the right choice.


Posted By: coconess
Date Posted: Jan 22 2014 at 5:25pm
i made that thread because idk if im making the right decisions in school.. ive already changed my mind before.. i dont wanna change again when im too far and think back on how i should have done it different.. so i wanted to see some other interesting sounding majors that could possibly fill a variety of jobs..  

but anyways to answer your questions as best as i can.. i wish i could go back to like Highschool.. id do it all differently up until this point.
stuff with guys ("relationships") - id do different too.. 
stuff with family and friends... id definitely do things different 




Posted By: eanaj5
Date Posted: Jan 22 2014 at 5:26pm
im too young fa disCool
I hope 10 years from now i can say that i regret nothing


Posted By: Princess_S
Date Posted: Jan 22 2014 at 5:28pm
Career choice- No.
Marriage- not married but I would have made different choice of past serious relationships
Family- hmmmm still not sold on having kids either
Friends-Haven't lost alot of friends. never had alot to begin with. so Im ok with how that aspect turn out. 


Posted By: eanaj5
Date Posted: Jan 22 2014 at 5:33pm
oh friends
hmmm, it depends on the relationship. som i do regret losing, some not


Posted By: coconess
Date Posted: Jan 22 2014 at 5:39pm
i try not to have any regrets (almost ironically got, 'no looking back, no regrets' tatted on my back...Geek)

but at the same time.. most ppl cant grow without realizing they've made mistakes.. 

ive made a lot... my rationale is backwards at times.. and.. yall probably didnt know this... but i tend to overreact 


Posted By: StylingArabella
Date Posted: Jan 22 2014 at 5:50pm
Career choice- No, being a salon owner is not as fun or glamorous as I thought it would be. Taxes are always brutal, stylists are not the easiest to manage, constantly changing trends I have to learn, lets not talk about how the state is ALWAYS pestering about some new law and fines. I would have rather done Law.

Marriage- Yes, nicca is a hard worker, says "excuse me" when he farts, and makes pretty babies Stern Smile .

Family- Yes, but I would have had her younger! 30 was too old and I worry about how much time we will have with her and I am "tired" already. Many don't agree, but I envy those who had their child young.

Friends- My core friends get an absolute YES!


Posted By: ragincajin
Date Posted: Jan 22 2014 at 5:50pm
Originally posted by _ConcreteRose_ _ConcreteRose_ wrote:

Oh and the marriage and family I can't speak to.
feel like all my friends, good or bad, taught me something so there's that. Even if they weren't the best friend I learned what kind of person I don't want to hang around in the future.


Man...this is so true. The older you get the more you see it.
Good for you. And good for you for going in with your eyes open. Nothing worse than getting 20+ years down the road and wondering "what if?"


Posted By: KottonKandy
Date Posted: Jan 22 2014 at 5:51pm
As far as career/family/life in general, NO. I wished I would have taken advantage of opportunities, instead of thinking I know everything, but that was 20s.


Posted By: ragincajin
Date Posted: Jan 22 2014 at 5:52pm
Originally posted by nitabug nitabug wrote:

I don't want to do it all over. I just want to get this current sh*t straight and keep it moving.




Posted By: ragincajin
Date Posted: Jan 22 2014 at 5:55pm
Originally posted by StylingArabella StylingArabella wrote:

Career choice- No, being a salon owner is not as fun or glamorous as I thought it would be. Taxes are always brutal, stylists are not the easiest to manage, constantly changing trends I have to learn, lets not talk about how the state is ALWAYS pestering about some new law and fines. I would have rather done Law.

Marriage- Yes, nicca is a hard worker, says "excuse me" when he farts, and makes pretty babies Stern Smile .

Family- Yes, but I would have had her younger! 30 was too old and I worry about how much time we will have with her and I am "tired" already. Many don't agree, but I envy those who had their child young.

Friends- My core friends get an absolute YES!


Lol! Gurl, then keep that nicca!
Mine thinks farts are funny.
I told him a pillow over his face some dark, stormy night is a funny idea too!!


Posted By: ragincajin
Date Posted: Jan 22 2014 at 5:58pm
Originally posted by india100 india100 wrote:

[QUOTE=ragincajin]I'm curious.
There's another thread asking about degrees, which made me think: If you knew 'then' what you know 'now,' would you do it all over again?

Career choice- YES . I love my career as a Nurse . Ready to retire .
Marriage- Yes. I am so thankful i found the right man ,
Family- Definite Yes
Friends- I love my friends like family . 
Good topic . Embarrassed


You got me beat. As a teenager I volunteered at a hospital and knew it wasn't for me. But thank the Lord for the people like you :)
Glad it worked out well for ya India.


Posted By: Ds2nice
Date Posted: Jan 22 2014 at 6:12pm
Career choice- No, I would change.   I would do something in the culinary arts. Something more creative than tax accting.
Marriage- Yes and No.  I guess it depends on the day.
Family- Still deciding.
Friends- Yes and no regrets.  Had to let some go and lost a couple of them along the way. 



Posted By: Jewelsnyc
Date Posted: Jan 22 2014 at 6:23pm
Career choice-No
Marriage-No
Family-No
Friends-No


Posted By: ragincajin
Date Posted: Jan 22 2014 at 6:32pm
Originally posted by Jewelsnyc Jewelsnyc wrote:

Career choice-No
Marriage-No
Family-No
Friends-No


What's that now?


Posted By: Jewelsnyc
Date Posted: Jan 22 2014 at 6:37pm
Originally posted by ragincajin ragincajin wrote:

Originally posted by Jewelsnyc Jewelsnyc wrote:

Career choice-No
Marriage-No
Family-No
Friends-No


What's that now?
LOL self explanatory...if I had to do it all over again...I wouldn't.


Posted By: BBpants
Date Posted: Jan 22 2014 at 6:46pm
The only thing I regret in life right now is not fighting a couple of people lol This whole acting like adult sh*t is overrated.


Posted By: purpulicious01
Date Posted: Jan 22 2014 at 6:49pm
Career - Yes. I majored and work in a field that I love.  It's fulfilling, allows me to have a good family and work/personal life balance ( good hours, I can work from home, and it gives me the opportunity, in the future, to take a break when I have children to be a stay at home mom)

Friends - Yes. Even though I've had friendships that turned sour, I wouldn't have change anything, because I grew and learned from it all.

Family & Marriage - NA - Not married, no kids, but would like to have children while I'm still young. Personally, I think early/mid twenties is the best age to start having kids - gives you the ability to grow with them and enjoy their childhood.




Posted By: nekamarie83
Date Posted: Jan 22 2014 at 6:54pm
Originally posted by nitabug nitabug wrote:

I don't want to do it all over. I just want to get this current sh*t straight and keep it moving.
maaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaan, this!!
Originally posted by ragincajin ragincajin wrote:

Career choice- Yes, just would've done testing (and everything following it) sooner.
Marriage- N/A
Family- N/A
Friends- Yes. I'm fine with the way things have panned out.


Posted By: DiorShowGirl
Date Posted: Jan 23 2014 at 2:39am
relationships....um...maybe


education....YES..

children.....still out on this one...

friends...yes do all over...  


Posted By: mangachan
Date Posted: Jan 23 2014 at 8:31am
Originally posted by nitabug nitabug wrote:

I don't want to do it all over. I just want to get this current sh*t straight and keep it moving.


I'm here for the most part but If I really had to do something different, I would have said screw what other people want and just went for my desired career right from the start.  Following other peoples' uninformed plans only had me postponed what I wanted to do.


Posted By: Wildfire
Date Posted: Jan 23 2014 at 2:46pm
Originally posted by nitabug nitabug wrote:

I don't want to do it all over. I just want to get this current sh*t straight and keep it moving.


honestly, yeah


Posted By: PurplePhase
Date Posted: Jan 23 2014 at 7:46pm
yes to all



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