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Topic: Would you date a man who has slept with hookers?
Posted By: Marcelo22
Subject: Would you date a man who has slept with hookers?
Date Posted: Jan 04 2014 at 11:07pm
Women seem to be okay with their men going to strip clubs and paying for lap dances nowadays. There are even some women who think it's common for men to have sex with escorts. They will mention that escorts are probably cleaner than the average woman since they "always" use condoms and get tested regularly. It's no secret that many men are buying sex on sites such as backpage. You may be dating or married to a man who has slept with a prostitute. Are you okay with that?



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Posted By: Faithfully2002
Date Posted: Jan 04 2014 at 11:59pm
No.


Posted By: demilee27
Date Posted: Jan 05 2014 at 1:26am
no


Posted By: Printer_Ink
Date Posted: Jan 05 2014 at 5:15am
I really think you guys are trying to control something ... that cannot be controlled.

Men are about ... sex. Doesn't mean they don't love you unless you have a DOG on your hands ... but I am talking about a decent guy that has a committed relationship with you and does not cheat.

- So sure it's okay if once and a while (like for a Bachelor party etc) he gets together with his friends to go to the strip club and check out the strippers. (If he wants to go all the time .. then yes, that would be a problem in the relationship.)

If he is your man .. he will have fun and leave. If he is a DOG he will take it further. A women forbidding her guy from going to a Strip club is not going to stop him .. if he wants to go. If you don't like it tell him and out of consideration for you, he might not go. But then when YOU want to go somewhere that he rather you not go ... he's gonna try to guilt you out of it too!

So then you will have a problem on your hands if one person is trying to CONTROL the movements of the other person in the relationship.

This would not work for me at all - I would feel boxed in. I don't require my man's approval (shrugs), I come and go as I please. And my guy can go anywhere he wants to go too but of course, if he messed up ... the TRUST will be broken which risks my ending the relationship. It's his choice though not mine because ... I know I am not a cheater.

- As for the him sleeping with a Hooker - umm I hate to state the obvious but A LOT of guys have seen Hookers. (Obviously, if he is sleeping with a Hooker now while in a relationship ... big problem. :O )

But if he has slept with Hookers IN THE PAST ... he cannot undo history when he meets you. What't done is done.

Hookers are in business .. for a reason, so yes, A LOT of guys have visited Hookers. A lot. Typically, they are not going to admit to it to you but a lot of guys have paid for sex. DUH!

Again, I think women are spinning their wheels if they think they are able to control such things.

If you can't trust your man ... he is not YOUR man, so yes, any stripper/hooker or whatever can walk off with him because even if he gets turned on .. he has enough sense to know it will be a big problem if he gets caught.

If he values the relationship .. he has the ability to walk away .. if he does not give a darn ... he will go for it.

But no amount of forbidding his activities is going to control ... a DOG. :(


Posted By: Majesty02
Date Posted: Jan 05 2014 at 12:09pm
I wouldn't. I'd be disgusted. Like damn is it really that bad you have to pay for it? To me that’s lame. I knew a guy that openly admitted to paying for pum pum when he would travel to Venezuela, and Curaçao. However, I can totally understand why he would have to pay. He was socially awkward, and not the most attractive guy, so “technically” he had no other choice.


Posted By: Majesty02
Date Posted: Jan 05 2014 at 12:39pm
But most IMPORTANTLY let’s not forget prostitutes and escorts f*ck for financial reasons. IMO this increases their chances of catching STDs, VD's, and HIV etc. Smashing a prostitute is like playing Russian roulette. And the same thing goes for the men who knowingly have sex with them. If I was dating a guy that admitted to having sex with a prostitute whether past or present that would seriously turn me off
immediately.

It’s obvious you can't control what someone does when you’re not around, nor will you know the secrets their keeping unless their willing to admit them to you. From what I’ve heard hiring prostitutes and escorts is very common amongst military men, and traveling business men. I know several people in the Navy both men & women, and they tell me how when the ships come into port in places like Central, South America, and Asia there's tons of prostitutes waiting by the port for the ships to dock. Because they know a lot of those men are looking sex with no strings attached. Think about it, their horny and they’ve been on a ship for several months at a time with a bunch of men.

Years ago one of my closet friend’s fiancé was on deployment for 6 months, then came back and gave her 2 STDs. She claimed they both got tested before he left, and she wasn’t having sex with anyone else while he was gone. It’s sad but this happens all the time with not just military men, but men in general.



Posted By: Printer_Ink
Date Posted: Jan 05 2014 at 1:32pm
Umm there are Hookers EVERYWHERE .. and they aren't just catering to miltary men. DUH!

These women are all over and like I said, typically a guy is NOT gonna tell you he visited them because he can already anticipate your reaction. If an STD was a deterient ... they would be out of business by now but that profession is stronger than ever.

I think we should stop playing the young, outraged ingenue that doesn't believe men - ALL MEN have the capacity to see a Hooker .... at least once. I say, ... pull up our big girl panties and face the fact that Prostitution is the oldest profession ... for a reason.

Supply and demand. The demand always has and always will be there - STDs or not.


Posted By: jonesable
Date Posted: Jan 05 2014 at 6:53pm
sleeping with hookers is disgusting. Have all of that Printer


Posted By: Majesty02
Date Posted: Jan 05 2014 at 7:52pm
Originally posted by Printer_Ink Printer_Ink wrote:

Umm there are Hookers EVERYWHERE .. and they aren't just catering to miltary men. DUH!

These women are all over and like I said, typically a guy is NOT gonna tell you he visited them because he can already anticipate your reaction. If an STD was a deterient ... they would be out of business by now but that profession is stronger than ever.

I think we should stop playing the young, outraged ingenue that doesn't believe men - ALL MEN have the capacity to see a Hooker .... at least once. I say, ... pull up our big girl panties and face the fact that Prostitution is the oldest profession ... for a reason.

Supply and demand. The demand always has and always will be there - STDs or not.


Printer_ Ink relax… You always seem to over analyze things, and misinterpret the message. I recommend that you improve your comprehension skills, because they are not up to par. Yes, its obvious most guys will not admit to getting with a prostitute. But the OP’s question was “if you happen to know, are you okay with it? “And yes, well all know that regardless of the STD and HIV rate prostitution will still coexist. That’s a fact. None of the posters in this thread denied that. So why are you trying to preach? Yes I can admit you do have a little knowledge in regards to some of your post, but sometimes you take the OP's topics and go completely left. Just out of curiosity, what is your occupation?


Posted By: BeanieBabiesMommy
Date Posted: Jan 05 2014 at 8:27pm
Originally posted by Marcelo22 Marcelo22 wrote:

Women seem to be okay with their men going to strip clubs and paying for lap dances nowadays. There are even some women who think it's common for men to have sex with escorts. They will mention that escorts are probably cleaner than the average woman since they "always" use condoms and get tested regularly. It's no secret that many men are buying sex on sites such as backpage. You may be dating or married to a man who has slept with a prostitute. Are you okay with that?
unfortunately I feel as though all men will induldge for paying for sex at some point in their life.
 
it is even possible your husband or man is doing it right now.
 
I'll never forget how my s/o reached out to some PICS star he was obsessed with.
 
it was disturbing but once again we live in a world where its okay for men to cheat but not women so I dont know what to say about men sleeping with prostitutes.
 
i dont feel id be able to stop it and i probably wouldnt want to know if my man was doing it.
 
how does a woman even react to that?
 
divorce or break up with him just to end up with another man who probably already done it before or will do it in the future.
 
i dont know :-( but i do know I dont like it.


Posted By: BeanieBabiesMommy
Date Posted: Jan 05 2014 at 8:30pm
Originally posted by Majesty02 Majesty02 wrote:

Originally posted by Printer_Ink Printer_Ink wrote:

Umm there are Hookers EVERYWHERE .. and they aren't just catering to miltary men. DUH!

These women are all over and like I said, typically a guy is NOT gonna tell you he visited them because he can already anticipate your reaction. If an STD was a deterient ... they would be out of business by now but that profession is stronger than ever.

I think we should stop playing the young, outraged ingenue that doesn't believe men - ALL MEN have the capacity to see a Hooker .... at least once. I say, ... pull up our big girl panties and face the fact that Prostitution is the oldest profession ... for a reason.

Supply and demand. The demand always has and always will be there - STDs or not.


Printer_ Ink relax… You always seem to over analyze things, and misinterpret the message. I recommend that you improve your comprehension skills, because they are not up to par. Yes, its obvious most guys will not admit to getting with a prostitute. But the OP’s question was “if you happen to know, are you okay with it? “And yes, well all know that regardless of the STD and HIV rate prostitution will still coexist. That’s a fact. None of the posters in this thread denied that. So why are you trying to preach? Yes I can admit you do have a little knowledge in regards to some of your post, but sometimes you take the OP's topics and go completely left. Just out of curiosity, what is your occupation?
probably a lawyer lol


Posted By: BeanieBabiesMommy
Date Posted: Jan 05 2014 at 8:36pm
Originally posted by Majesty02 Majesty02 wrote:

But most IMPORTANTLY let’s not forget prostitutes and escorts f*ck for financial reasons. IMO this increases their chances of catching STDs, VD's, and HIV etc. Smashing a prostitute is like playing Russian roulette. And the same thing goes for the men who knowingly have sex with them. If I was dating a guy that admitted to having sex with a prostitute whether past or present that would seriously turn me off
immediately.

It’s obvious you can't control what someone does when you’re not around, nor will you know the secrets their keeping unless their willing to admit them to you. From what I’ve heard hiring prostitutes and escorts is very common amongst military men, and traveling business men. I know several people in the Navy both men & women, and they tell me how when the ships come into port in places like Central, South America, and Asia there's tons of prostitutes waiting by the port for the ships to dock. Because they know a lot of those men are looking sex with no strings attached. Think about it, their horny and they’ve been on a ship for several months at a time with a bunch of men.

Years ago one of my closet friend’s fiancé was on deployment for 6 months, then came back and gave her 2 STDs. She claimed they both got tested before he left, and she wasn’t having sex with anyone else while he was gone. It’s sad but this happens all the time with not just military men, but men in general.

prostitutes are actually less likely to give you an std than the average woman would.
 
lets keep it real.
 
the average woman is probably going to have sex with out condoms for what ever reason
while the prostitute has to use condoms and stay std free or else how else will she be able to sell sex if her product is spoiled.
 
so lets not bash prostitutes and make it seem like they spread stds every where because I use to be an assistant to a health counselor and it was always a woman in relationship that caught an std either from her own doings or from "her man", those were the women that were less likely to get the condoms from the big basket or even get on birth control mean while the local hookers are always coming in for condoms and to get tested for hiv and other stds as well as make sure their birth control is refilled.


Posted By: Printer_Ink
Date Posted: Jan 05 2014 at 9:35pm
Originally posted by Majesty02 Majesty02 wrote:

Originally posted by Printer_Ink Printer_Ink wrote:

Umm there are Hookers EVERYWHERE .. and they aren't just catering to miltary men. DUH!

These women are all over and like I said, typically a guy is NOT gonna tell you he visited them because he can already anticipate your reaction. If an STD was a deterient ... they would be out of business by now but that profession is stronger than ever.

I think we should stop playing the young, outraged ingenue that doesn't believe men - ALL MEN have the capacity to see a Hooker .... at least once. I say, ... pull up our big girl panties and face the fact that Prostitution is the oldest profession ... for a reason.

Supply and demand. The demand always has and always will be there - STDs or not.


Printer_ Ink relax… You always seem to over analyze things, and misinterpret the message. I recommend that you improve your comprehension skills, because they are not up to par. Yes, its obvious most guys will not admit to getting with a prostitute. But the OP’s question was “if you happen to know, are you okay with it? “And yes, well all know that regardless of the STD and HIV rate prostitution will still coexist. That’s a fact. None of the posters in this thread denied that. So why are you trying to preach? Yes I can admit you do have a little knowledge in regards to some of your post, but sometimes you take the OP's topics and go completely left. Just out of curiosity, what is your occupation?




I AM relaxed. This is me 'relaxed'. :) For work, I am a Computer Consultant so I've spent 25+ years performing a great deal of analysis on systems, projects .. you name it. :) Before that I was in Developmental Psychology .. more analysis. Can't help it as this is fairly methodical work so forgive me if my monthly expenses, income and investment are all charted in Money Management software package too. :)

In my experience is always best to really think things through ... before you step into them. :) Saves a lot of pain and heartache if you at least recognize all the possibilities and can put yourself in someone else's shoes.

I did answer the question of 'if you happen to know, are you okay with it'. The answer is (shrug) I am okay with it because I have NO CHOICE but to be okay with it. What am I gonna do if I am not okay with it? What can he do? He can't go back in time and change it - what's done is done. Actually. this wouldn't even be a topic of conversation with a man - I dont hold his sexual past against him (unless he has HIV etc because that would be very different).

Gosh, if I decided I would not see a guy because I found out he saw a Hooker in the past .. probably I would not be with any guy at all if the TRUTH came out about what he's been up to before he met me. (Now if he is seeing a Hooker at the moment - that would be another situation completely!)

btw - I now live in Amsterdam, The Netherlands (Holland) where Prostitution is legal. There is a section mapped off in every city/town in the country specifically for Hookers, where they have unions, pay taxes and have rights. (Yes, even legal, it's still a nasty business so nobody is bragging about their Hooker daughter that is building up her business and doing well for herself. :( )

It's not always about 'having to pay' for it as if he's some loser that can't get a girlfriend - but it's more than that. For example if your man would like you to do XYZ and you don't - well, you shouldn't do something against your will - okay, but if he still wants it after X years, chances are he's gonna pay for it. Maybe that 1 time is it, maybe he wants it more often, maybe he didn't even like it.

Really, I expect a guy to 'sow his wild oats' before he settles down in a real relationship. He should get all that freaky stuff out his system. If it becomes a big part of him .. he needs to find a wife ... that's into the same things.

I know a woman that married her high school sweetheart and he never had sex with anyone else. Well, you can imagine what happened when he hit 45 and had a male mid-life crisis - he went nuts. Turns out he had been wondering what he was missing out on all those years. Marriage over .. and in such a disastrous and public way. :(

Now if it were the other way around .. meaning would a man be okay to discover if YOU used to be a Hooker.. Ohhh that would be a whole other story. 99% of men (whether they have paid for a Hooker or not) would not stay with a woman if she used to BE a Hooker. Nooooo. Relationship over. Men and women are different.

I think (in general) people should date a lot before they settle down so they learn about themselves ... otherwise you kind of get stuck with a guy/girl you love but the sex may not be all it should be.

Okay, I am off my soapbox .. for now. :)


Posted By: Beauty620
Date Posted: Jan 06 2014 at 11:57am
Nope


Posted By: EasterBell
Date Posted: Jan 06 2014 at 2:39pm
I don't think a man is really going to admit to a woman that his wants to court/date that he has slept with hookers...
 
However, if he did admit to that, he won't be dating me..


Posted By: iliveforbhm
Date Posted: Jan 08 2014 at 12:17pm
Most men aren't going to admit and sometimes they want a nut off so they pay a lil for expendiant services. But I guarentee that if you are dating or married to a man who was single and was stationed overseas 9 out of 10 he had a hooker.


Posted By: Blac1Chyna
Date Posted: Jan 08 2014 at 12:25pm
Not if I knew about it. I wouldn't be able to respect him or look at him the same.


Posted By: iliveforbhm
Date Posted: Jan 08 2014 at 12:46pm
And this is why men lie to women.


Posted By: Senior Detective
Date Posted: Jan 09 2014 at 6:12am
I don't think most males do it, I think very few partake in this nastiness. Mine will never. He doesn't cheat either


Posted By: iliveforbhm
Date Posted: Jan 09 2014 at 8:02am
Explain why hookers are so popular in Europe and other places, they are just banned here due to religious and taxation reasons. A lot of men don't because women are giving it up freely here so no need for hookers.


Posted By: TokyoRose
Date Posted: Jan 09 2014 at 8:10pm
I have quite a few male friends who have slept with hookers.  Their professions and reasons varied greatly.  When I was in college, a friend of mine f*cked his vacation away in Amsterdam because he said he was tired of being a virgin and wanted experience.  A lawyer friend of mine simply saw it as a good time.  I have yet another friend who had a girlfriend of 10 years and he would be all up in hostess clubs and taking the women to hotels for a t*tty f*ck.  I can see why they do it.

It seems crazy, but if I were dating a man who did not have a lot of girlfriends in his lifetime, yet he knew exactly what to do in the bedroom, I would already suspect that at some point in his life he used a hooker's services.  What is more important to me is that he doesn't sleep with hookers while I am dating him.


Posted By: Cream1970
Date Posted: Jan 09 2014 at 9:25pm
at some women thinking only ugly, fat, skinny, lame, socially awkward dudes pay for azz.

They couldn't be more wrong.

You'd be surprised at the number of attractive, successful, intelligent and educated men that are easily capable of getting busy with someone equally attractive, successful, intelligent, that get an urge to get to get their rocks off with someone who is only there to handle their business and get on about their business, without unnecessary convo or expectation of a future hook up.

I used to be so naïve..I know better now. I guess working in a male dominated field for so many years exposed me to things I wouldn't be aware of.

Whether it's an "exotic" massage,a woman getting $ for a light bill, an escort found on Craigslist, or picking up a heaux on the heaux stroll, chances are that man has engaged in SOME type of prostitution.

And the ones that need to do it the least, do it the most.


Posted By: iliveforbhm
Date Posted: Jan 09 2014 at 9:27pm
Exactly! Like Justin Beiber or many rappers or business mengo there and pay and do not want to take the time to get to know you and etc, but want to handle business. They can get any type of woman, but they are there for a nut not for a wife.


Posted By: Cream1970
Date Posted: Jan 09 2014 at 9:30pm
Originally posted by iliveforbhm iliveforbhm wrote:

Most men aren't going to admit and sometimes they want a nut off so they pay a lil for expendiant services. But I guarentee that if you are dating or married to a man who was single and was stationed overseas 9 out of 10 he had a hooker.


If you are dating a man that is handsome, educated and successful, 9 out of 10 times, he had a hooker.


Posted By: Cream1970
Date Posted: Jan 09 2014 at 9:38pm
Oh, yes I would and I have dated a man that got an "exotic" massage.
I'm HIV and STD free and so was he.

I love the fact that he felt comfortable enough to be honest with me when he hadn't been honest with his previous gf.

I'm NOT saying each and every man has been with or will be with a hooker of some type in his lifetime, but a lot of men will NEVER tell you.They'll lie on their own mama's grave/take that ish to their grave.

Any woman that says "my man would never.." gets a serious side eye from me. You ain't God, you can't control another adult. You can say "I don't think/believe my man would..", but realistically, YOU..CAN..NOT..CONTROL..HIM..Or ANYONE else..


Posted By: Printer_Ink
Date Posted: Jan 10 2014 at 5:48am
Originally posted by Cream1970 Cream1970 wrote:

at some women thinking only ugly, fat, skinny, lame, socially awkward dudes pay for azz.

They couldn't be more wrong.

You'd be surprised at the number of attractive, successful, intelligent and educated men that are easily capable of getting busy with someone equally attractive, successful, intelligent, that get an urge to get to get their rocks off with someone who is only there to handle their business and get on about their business, without unnecessary convo or expectation of a future hook up.

I used to be so naïve..I know better now. I guess working in a male dominated field for so many years exposed me to things I wouldn't be aware of.

Whether it's an "exotic" massage,a woman getting $ for a light bill, an escort found on Craigslist, or picking up a heaux on the heaux stroll, chances are that man has engaged in SOME type of prostitution.

And the ones that need to do it the least, do it the most.



Absolutely correct.

I work in a male dominated field as well and my company sent me on the road for 7 years straight. Yes, now and then I would work out of my home office for a week or so .. but mostly I was 'on the road' from NY to LA, from Canada to Mississippi to Trinidad. All over.

99.9% of my co-workers were married men and I can tell you .. I have a real problem with a guy that travels for work now. Why? Because I would see such suspect activities and situations for so long. Like if we had a week in X city ... I would see the same well-dressed female talking to guy A as I saw with guy B last week .. in the same hotel bar. And both of these guys worked with me on this project.

Sometimes I would see one of these females on the same flight we were on ... on the way to the next customer. I'm thinking .. now how can that be? Then I would see that same female chatting up a couple of other guys in my hotel (…. some of my male co-workers too) during the week. Ah huh.

I never said anything of course, but as a Black female I certainly stood out … so they certainly must have recognized me from town to town and realized that I was working with the same team of men they were going boom boom with every night. It was a trip.

Hey, I am no fool.

Sometimes the guys would ask me to join them after work for dinner. Sure, we can have dinner (gotta eat anyway and you get tired of eating alone every night) but afterward .. they would wanna go for drinks to some titty bar they heard was nice in this city. Ah huh.

Of course, I would laugh, tell them I am tired guys, say my goodbyes and get back to my hotel room ALONE.

The next day.. I would hear them talking to each other about .. thus and thus happening last night. Umm.

Now and then at a company dinner, I would meet their nice ‘stay at home’ wives and maybe they would feel uncomfortable that their man was working with a nice looking Black female. But I was thinking - honey, you don’t have to worry about ME fooling around with your man. Oh H*** No. Hee hee! Why would I choose some cheatin man to lay up with? Nooo. (I thought they were stupid to tell the truth because I'll bet there signs that they were fooling around on the road.

(shrugs) I saw a lot of that stuff over the years. In fact one of the reasons I learned not to sit at a hotel bar or restaurant was because sometimes some guy would slide up to me. Yes, he is on a business trip too ... but he figures (shrugs) we are both here for a week on business ... why now keep each other company? Right. :/

So yes, all sorts of guys buy Hookers or .. they just try to 'pickup' some random female they see in the Hotel. :)

To this day, when I have a business trip, I always insist that my room is as close to the front desk/reception area as possible (for security reasons) and I RARELY eat in the restaurant/bar unless I am with someone because .. typically, I am surrounded by a bunch of horny business men that have escaped their wives/gfs/children for the week, have a big expense account and they can't wait to 'pick up'. TRUTH.

I could tell a lot of stories like that but men that have the means to pay, well-dressed, intelligent, handsome, black, white you name it .. if no one is looking ... they will try to get a taste. Then they will straighten up and go back to their women like nothing happened. 

I really think women are quite naive to believe their men have never hired a Hooker.

It's quite common.


Posted By: Printer_Ink
Date Posted: Jan 10 2014 at 6:26am
Originally posted by iliveforbhm iliveforbhm wrote:

And this is why men lie to women.


And that would be ... CORRECT.

They have to lie if they know their woman could not handle it.



Posted By: Mixer
Date Posted: Jan 10 2014 at 3:21pm
Originally posted by iliveforbhm iliveforbhm wrote:

Most men aren't going to admit and sometimes they want a nut off so they pay a lil for expendiant services. But I guarentee that if you are dating or married to a man who was single and was stationed overseas 9 out of 10 he had a hooker.
Where are you guys getting this information from?Confused


Posted By: iliveforbhm
Date Posted: Jan 12 2014 at 11:24am
My experiences overseas and dealing with those who go out and do this. Someone is supplying them with American money.


Posted By: Wik3ddd_Fr3shh
Date Posted: Feb 16 2014 at 1:03pm
I have no problem with a guy going to the strip club. As far as sex with prostitutes go, I might be able to look past it if he always used protection for intercourse and oral. I honestly don't know


Posted By: QueenBee
Date Posted: Feb 16 2014 at 10:56pm
What is the difference in your man sleeping with a hooker than with random women (non-committed relationship)?


Posted By: Marcelo22
Date Posted: Feb 16 2014 at 11:25pm
Originally posted by QueenBee QueenBee wrote:

What is the difference in your man sleeping with a hooker than with random women (non-committed relationship)?

1. Hookers usually have sex with multiple men in any given day. Your average 9-5 woman doesn't have the time nor energy to bed multiple men everyday especially for free.

2. Hookers have sex with money being their primary motivation. They trying to get u in and out and move on to the next client. 
Square women will try to keep emotions out of it but there are always some type of feelings going on in there. Just look on this site with women talking about their cut buddies, they think differently than hookers who just see it as a job.

3. I don't care what anyone says, I don't believe your average hooker is cleaner than your average non-hooker. I don't know why some women would push this idea to somehow prove sleeping with an escort is better than a woman who works as a teacher or social worker.

4. Any man can sleep with a hooker: he just needs to have some money Dead. But only a man with game can sleep with multiple women who find him physically and mentally attractive. Most men aren't players, I say only 20% of men are getting 80% of the sex. It's really a small percentage of men actually sleeping with multiple women at any given time. 


Posted By: Printer_Ink
Date Posted: Feb 17 2014 at 2:48am
Geesh how old are you to be believing this?.

Indeed most men are players ... married or not. Duh! I really think most of the people on this thread are very young,niave and idealistic about men and their sexual habits.

This is this the surest way to end up with at least your feelings hurt but at most ... an STD.


Posted By: Marcelo22
Date Posted: Feb 17 2014 at 3:20am
Originally posted by Printer_Ink Printer_Ink wrote:

Geesh how old are you to be believing this?.

Indeed most men are players ... married or not. Duh! I really think most of the people on this thread are very young,niave and idealistic about men and their sexual habits.

This is this the surest way to end up with at least your feelings hurt but at most ... an STD.

what is a player? most men do not have the money, looks, time , or knowledge to juggle multiple women at the same time...u are living in your own world...probably cause u are only attracted to players, which is why u can "do without men" lol


Posted By: 305bgirl
Date Posted: Feb 17 2014 at 5:19am
A lot of escorts will offer something called the "Girlfriend Experience" (GFE)for the right price, so don't ever believe that they tend to be more clean than your average woman. The women that allow their men to go to strip clubs alone and get dances should rethink that. A lot of strippers offer "extras". Certain clubs and cities are known for having more brothel like clubs. Of course you can't know everything they do at every moment but a lot of women have been allowing their men to frequent strip clubs bexause it's trendy nowadays without really knowing what goes on there.

ETA: Most escort agencies don't test their girls and not every escort is a high class escort. People tend to have this idea that escorts are all high class.


Posted By: iliveforbhm
Date Posted: Feb 17 2014 at 6:32am
Originally posted by Wik3ddd_Fr3shh Wik3ddd_Fr3shh wrote:

I have no problem with a guy going to the strip club. As far as sex with prostitutes go, I might be able to look past it if he always used protection for intercourse and oral. I honestly don't know
 
Most hookers demand that you use a condom and many supplied there, well at least in Japan at least it was.


Posted By: lanae
Date Posted: Feb 17 2014 at 12:25pm
I wouldnt bc imo an attractive man only sleeps with a whore for the deviance.  He should stay single bc cleary a "normal" relationship does not satisfy/excite him like being a John.


Posted By: Printer_Ink
Date Posted: Feb 17 2014 at 12:27pm
Originally posted by Marcelo22 Marcelo22 wrote:

Originally posted by Printer_Ink Printer_Ink wrote:

Geesh how old are you to be believing this?.

Indeed most men are players ... married or not. Duh! I really think most of the people on this thread are very young,niave and idealistic about men and their sexual habits.

This is this the surest way to end up with at least your feelings hurt but at most ... an STD.


what is a player? most men do not have the money, looks, time , or knowledge to juggle multiple women at the same time...u are living in your own world...probably cause u are only attracted to players, which is why u can "do without men" lol


Ummm I never said I could do without a man. Where did that come from?

I said I don't NEED a man. Read ... I am not some needy female that's GOTTA have a man to feel validated so she end's up with some loser. That is not the same thing as 'I can do without a man'. Duh!

Wow .. you don't have to agree with my opinions - but for you to go personal like and make that jump tells me ... I must have hit a nerve.



Posted By: Over_all
Date Posted: Feb 17 2014 at 3:36pm
well technically every woman has slept with before he was actually in a serious relationship he's paid for Confused


Posted By: Over_all
Date Posted: Feb 17 2014 at 3:37pm
As an a veteran there really was no need to pay for a hooker with all the free and willing running around..


Posted By: Midna
Date Posted: Feb 17 2014 at 11:09pm
No.


Posted By: Twisted_Angel
Date Posted: Mar 13 2014 at 7:01pm
Originally posted by Mixer Mixer wrote:

Originally posted by iliveforbhm iliveforbhm wrote:

Most men aren't going to admit and sometimes they want a nut off so they pay a lil for expendiant services. But I guarentee that if you are dating or married to a man who was single and was stationed overseas 9 out of 10 he had a hooker.
Where are you guys getting this information from?Confused


Posted By: Mixer
Date Posted: Mar 13 2014 at 9:43pm
Dammit, you had to quote that.


Posted By: iliveforbhm
Date Posted: Mar 14 2014 at 9:35am
I was stationed overseas duh lol


Posted By: ms_wonderland
Date Posted: Mar 14 2014 at 11:06am
^^^  how much did she charge and which services did she perform?  how was her hygiene?  was her vag tight?




Posted By: Twisted_Angel
Date Posted: Mar 15 2014 at 7:29am


Posted By: Twisted_Angel
Date Posted: Mar 15 2014 at 11:23am
Well If it was in there past oh well can't control that..past is the past..hell can't control it if its happening in the present..but wouldn't be with him for damn sure.


Posted By: Wildfire
Date Posted: Mar 25 2014 at 6:38pm
my neighbour used to bring home strippers all the time....
then he got a steady GF....
i know she had no idea he had all and sundry stage coochie rolling around in that same bed every night of the week
poor girl


Posted By: Marcelo22
Date Posted: Mar 26 2014 at 7:25am
Originally posted by Wildfire Wildfire wrote:

my neighbour used to bring home strippers all the time....
then he got a steady GF....
i know she had no idea he had all and sundry stage coochie rolling around in that same bed every night of the week
poor girl

Dead




Posted By: NSA_agent
Date Posted: Apr 11 2014 at 7:57pm
most men pay for sex directly or indirectly.  To be disgusted about men going to a prostitute is to be ignorant of human nature.  

It is really interesting how the anger and disgust seems to be directed just to the men and not the prostitute.  


Posted By: Printer_Ink
Date Posted: Apr 12 2014 at 11:49am
True, this is human nature.

These women are naive and/or in denial. They will see ... as they mature though.


Posted By: ScorpioLuv
Date Posted: Apr 15 2014 at 10:12am
Slept or sleeping with? How would you even know if he ever hired a hooker/call girl/ whatever name you choose? Who's going to come out willingly and say that? As long as it's done and over with the entire I'm with him and he's STD free it doesnt matter


Posted By: Printer_Ink
Date Posted: Apr 16 2014 at 1:10am
Originally posted by ScorpioLuv ScorpioLuv wrote:

Slept or sleeping with? How would you even know if he ever hired a hooker/call girl/ whatever name you choose? Who's going to come out willingly and say that? As long as it's done and over with the entire I'm with him and he's STD free it doesnt matter


Hee hee! My point exactly!

Who is interviewing every guy they date to find out if he ever slept with a hooker? And ... WHAT MAN in his right mind is going to admit to this if he is trying to date you?

That's why I said these 'ingenues' are naive about how alll these hookers stay in business and what men do when they just wanna ... get off. Duh! (When I was young, even I had enough sense to know Prostitution is the oldest profession in the world for a reason.)

Geesh, what the guy did with a woman sexually BEFORE he gets involved with me is his business - everybody has a past. (As long as he's not carrying a disease etc ...)


Posted By: Beauty620
Date Posted: Apr 16 2014 at 8:58am
HECK NO!!! 

I honestly wouldn't even date a man who has been in multiple relationships....for example this guy wanted to be with me for the longest....but I kept on turning him down because every time i turned around he was in a relationship which wouldn't last but for so long. I looked at him totally different but couldn't tell him why. 

That ain't koo


Posted By: Journey94
Date Posted: Apr 16 2014 at 9:42am
No. It's disgusting, and if he was paying for hookers regularly for sex he probably has dormant STDs.


Posted By: Printer_Ink
Date Posted: Apr 16 2014 at 10:20am
Yes, but hee hee! You_don't_have_any control over what your man has done in the past. DUH! And he is never gonna tell you about it.

In fact the only person's sex life you have control over .. is your own. But that would be it.

This is my point.

If you think you can be sure your man has never paid for sex ... he is fooling you and you are fooling yourself.

You have to live in the real world ... not in a fantasy world that does not offend your delicate sensibilities. :O That would truly be a lost cause.

Camel - head - sand.


Posted By: Journey94
Date Posted: Apr 16 2014 at 10:52am
Originally posted by Printer_Ink Printer_Ink wrote:

Yes, but hee hee! You_don't_have_any control over what your man has done in the past. DUH! And he is never gonna tell you about it.

In fact the only person's sex life you have control over .. is your own. But that would be it.

This is my point.

If you think you can be sure your man has never paid for sex ... he is fooling you and you are fooling yourself.

You have to live in the real world ... not in a fantasy world that does not offend your delicate sensibilities. :O That would truly be a lost cause.

Camel - head - sand.


I'm not desperate so I don't care. I don't have control over who he has sex with but I have control over who I date. It's a hypothetical question someone asked on a hair forum and I simply answered with my opinion. It's not that deep.


Posted By: Beauty620
Date Posted: Apr 16 2014 at 1:15pm
As I take out my pop corn at work 

CONTINUE SHALL  WE

LOLLOL

Getn good!!!!  Love it


Posted By: Printer_Ink
Date Posted: Apr 16 2014 at 1:16pm
No hee hee! It is not that deep ... you make my point.

I agree that you have contreol over who you date ... my point it that you do not have control over who he slept with in the past nor do you have control over whether or not he will actually ADMIT to having sex with hookers.

99% of guys that have slept with a hooker would never admit it to a woman they are seeing. But that business is booming.

The only way you can be SURE ... is if you dón't sleep with any men ar all. :( That is the only way if it just upsets your sensibilities so much

I don't know why you girls are trying to pretend otherwise. Delusional.

(I wasn't even replying to you specifically anyway. Geesh!)


Posted By: PerfectDiva
Date Posted: May 06 2014 at 9:01pm
I read somewhere that 20-25% of men have paid for sex, chances are that's an underestimate because of the stigma attached to seeing prostitutes.

Honestly I am more concerned about a man's status STI wise. What difference does it make if he paid for sex or got it for free? 

Prostitutes are more likely to being using protection and getting screened for STI's than the average woman. 


Posted By: Marcelo22
Date Posted: May 07 2014 at 8:55pm
Originally posted by PerfectDiva PerfectDiva wrote:

I read somewhere that 20-25% of men have paid for sex, chances are that's an underestimate because of the stigma attached to seeing prostitutes.

Honestly I am more concerned about a man's status STI wise. What difference does it make if he paid for sex or got it for free? 

Prostitutes are more likely to being using protection and getting screened for STI's than the average woman. 

Theres a big difference. Would u pay for sex? Prostitutes have sex with a lot more guys than your average woman. Who knows how many people they have sex with before their next check up.


Posted By: Printer_Ink
Date Posted: May 08 2014 at 3:08am
Again .. YOU WILL NEVER KNOW if your man ever slept with Hookers.

He will NEVER tell you so this issue is MOOT. Duh!

Grow up ... GEESH and stop worrying about something you will NEVER have control over.

Never.


Posted By: Printer_Ink
Date Posted: May 08 2014 at 3:10am
Originally posted by PerfectDiva PerfectDiva wrote:

I read somewhere that 20-25% of men have paid for sex, chances are that's an underestimate because of the stigma attached to seeing prostitutes.

Honestly I am more concerned about a man's status STI wise. What difference does it make if he paid for sex or got it for free? 

Prostitutes are more likely to being using protection and getting screened for STI's than the average woman. 


20-25% is a very low estimate indeed.



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