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Topic: who is your ideal mate?
Posted By: ModelessDiva
Subject: who is your ideal mate?
Date Posted: Jan 04 2014 at 6:56pm


What will your ideal guy do/have? What do you look for in a s/o ?

It could be from stable finances to physical appearances.

Is money a dealbreaker? Education?

or has to be Tall/Short Slim/Thick/Muscular whatever?


What factors make you "pass" a guy? and why?




Replies:
Posted By: Sang Froid
Date Posted: Jan 04 2014 at 7:09pm
I'd prefer someone in the technology field, 6'+, black as , atheist/agnostic, sane, and a provider. 
Dassit.


Posted By: ModelessDiva
Date Posted: Jan 04 2014 at 7:12pm

what about kids?

if a guy was everything you wanted but had a kid or two would you pass?

or would you see if it could work out.



i would pass 


Posted By: ModelessDiva
Date Posted: Jan 04 2014 at 7:13pm

whoever one starred this 

your bitter is showing



Posted By: GG
Date Posted: Jan 04 2014 at 7:16pm
I'm still at a shallow stage in life
Has enough money for the both of us
Muscular and nice peen
Cute and sane but will rough me up when it counts


Posted By: maysay1
Date Posted: Jan 04 2014 at 7:21pm
Ideally if like a guy who is heteroromantic and non or minimally sexual, speaks well, emotionally adjusted, likes to laugh, is independent, loves dogs, and enjoys a simple life of reading, movies/tv, chit chatting, and just being normal and stable. Height and strength are bonuses...but looks don't really matter.

Pass on kids, jail time, financial inability, immaturity, lack of direction, exes as best friends, females as "best friends", anyone who believes in haters, Internet or real life stunting, being negative and just generally being an ass.


Posted By: ModelessDiva
Date Posted: Jan 04 2014 at 7:25pm
Originally posted by GG GG wrote:

I'm still at a shallow stage in life
Has enough money for the both of us
Muscular and nice peen
Cute and sane but will rough me up when it counts

LOLLOL




Posted By: uppitynegroid
Date Posted: Jan 04 2014 at 7:27pm
What makes me pass:

No ambition
Non-Nigerian
Small penis
Kids
Degree in an overly saturated field


Posted By: jonesable
Date Posted: Jan 04 2014 at 7:29pm
My negro right yuh


Posted By: ms_wonderland
Date Posted: Jan 04 2014 at 7:35pm
5'9"-6'3"...quarterback or basketball build, thick ok but not muscular...medium to dark skinned or not black(ls black guys usually aren't my thing)...nothing in labor bc it causes physical problems down the line...any career with growth is ok but I prefer guys in education, it, or finance...if no college then an entrepreneur and not just on paper or in his mind...logical, level headed, even tempered, assertive, curious/adventurous, great sense of humor, doesn't drink much but likes weed, and not religious. No kids. 

Immaturity and perpetual brokeness makes me pass.


Posted By: ModelessDiva
Date Posted: Jan 04 2014 at 7:38pm
Originally posted by ms_wonderland ms_wonderland wrote:

5'9"-6'3"...quarterback or basketball build, thick ok but not muscular...medium to dark skinned or not black(ls black guys usually aren't my thing)...nothing in labor bc it causes physical problems down the line...any career with growth is ok but I prefer guys in education, it, or finance...if no college then an entrepreneur and not just on paper or in his mind...logical, level headed, even tempered, assertive, curious/adventurous, great sense of humor, doesn't drink much but likes weed, and not religious. No kids. 

Immaturity and perpetual brokeness makes me pass.

Dead


Posted By: HeyBeautiful18
Date Posted: Jan 04 2014 at 7:45pm
I'm selfish so I want a man with no kids. I don't wanna share your attention

6'2
Athletic build
Aspiring business owner or college educated
Has a car
Has a good job
own apartment
Funny but not immature
Adventurous soul. I don't want a guy that drinks all the time. Id want to be active


I don't think I'm asking for too much ...


Posted By: GG
Date Posted: Jan 04 2014 at 7:45pm
He HAS to drive
I hate guys who judge you for having standards yet they'll dismiss you in a minute when you don't fit what they like


Posted By: HeyBeautiful18
Date Posted: Jan 04 2014 at 7:46pm
Ooh and a mix of black and Puerto rican


Posted By: BBpants
Date Posted: Jan 04 2014 at 7:47pm
Has to be funny. Watch videos on efukt with me. Drinks but rarely goes to club or bars. Enjoys sitting at home and relaxing. Spends lot of time with me. Texts me all day lol.


Posted By: HeyBeautiful18
Date Posted: Jan 04 2014 at 7:51pm
Can't forget consistancy!!!

I want a man that makes plans with me and follows through with them.


Posted By: ModelessDiva
Date Posted: Jan 04 2014 at 7:53pm
Originally posted by GG GG wrote:

He HAS to drive

i wholeheartely agree


Posted By: Sang Froid
Date Posted: Jan 04 2014 at 7:56pm
Originally posted by HeyBeautiful18 HeyBeautiful18 wrote:

Ooh and a mix of black and Puerto rican

Lmao.


Posted By: eanaj5
Date Posted: Jan 04 2014 at 7:58pm
Originally posted by HeyBeautiful18 HeyBeautiful18 wrote:

I'm selfish so I want a man with no kids. I don't wanna share your attention

6'2
Athletic build
Aspiring business owner or college educated
Has a car
Has a good job
own apartment
Funny but not immature
Adventurous soul. I don't want a guy that drinks all the time. Id want to be active


I don't think I'm asking for too much ...

I had all this, but his "best friend" was too friendly with him for my liking.
She aint in the picture no mo so if the universe is good to me we'll cross paths again and i might give it another go Embarrassed


Posted By: GG
Date Posted: Jan 04 2014 at 7:59pm
This may sound strange but no sisters or female best friends. Trying to get along with his mom is enough of a hurdle.


Posted By: browneyez4548
Date Posted: Jan 04 2014 at 7:59pm
No kids
-non religious
-6'+
-Athletic built...don't like skinny men and can't be too built..find that happy medium my nicca
-job..like Wonder, wouldn't want someone in labor...don't have a specific career path that he MUST have..but as long as you can provide..legally of course, then we're good.
- I like and admire entrepreneurs, but I wouldn't date someone who is in the beginning stages of their business...when it comes to things like that, I feel like your business should be your priority..you shouldn't have time for anything else.and if that's your priority..then I don't fit into the equation...
-no kids
-non religious
(yes I know I said the above twice Stern Smile)
-MUST have above a HS education..call it what you want, but I have tried talking to guys who have not gone beyond a HS diploma....I'm STILL trying to find my lost brain cells Disapprove
-Sense of humor
-Assertive


Posted By: HeyBeautiful18
Date Posted: Jan 04 2014 at 8:01pm
You better go get em Jenae


Posted By: browneyez4548
Date Posted: Jan 04 2014 at 8:01pm
And Black (duh)LOL


Posted By: ModelessDiva
Date Posted: Jan 04 2014 at 8:02pm


it isn't difficult to get along with a guy's sister(s) to me

unless they're birds...then i could understand...


Posted By: ms_wonderland
Date Posted: Jan 04 2014 at 8:03pm
Originally posted by GG GG wrote:

This may sound strange but no sisters or female best friends. Trying to get along with his mom is enough of a hurdle.


I know what u mean...my currents mother passed away and it's much different than my experience with my ex who had an overbearing mother and sister.


Posted By: GG
Date Posted: Jan 04 2014 at 8:04pm
I also had a nightmare with a female roommate
Always in my dudes face when I came over like she couldn't talk to him any other time -_-


Posted By: eanaj5
Date Posted: Jan 04 2014 at 8:04pm
6'+
brown to dark skin
athletic but not lanky
no small/needle peen
funny
honest
affectionate
thoughtful
laid back
understanding
patient
faithful
pursuing a degree/college educated
has goals and aspirations
good job
own car
no kids
no ex drama
own place
gentleman
$$$Stern Smile
older than 19 but younger than 27
not too many tattoos (a few are sexy) Embarrassed
No chest tats Pinch
intelligent
street smart (but non thuggish)
common sense





Posted By: ModelessDiva
Date Posted: Jan 04 2014 at 8:08pm
Originally posted by browneyez4548 browneyez4548 wrote:

And Black (duh)LOL

LOL


Posted By: Lite Brite
Date Posted: Jan 04 2014 at 8:12pm
Well, ideally

-Black
-Christian
-Tall
-White pretty teeth
-funny
-He doesn't have to fully understand me, but he has to accept me and my ways. I'm aloof a lot.  I enjoy this. I love being in my own world, but I'll share. Dont take it personal, and don't crowd me or I'll get overwhelmed

-Understands I will not be up under him 24/7 .. well sometimes, but I quite enjoy hanging with the girls or hanging with myself. I will be going on vacations without him. He will trust me or leave me..

-I have homeboys. 2 in particular. One is straight, I would never stop hanging with him because I get married, and I will not need to include my husband in me and his plans all the time either. Also, new friends will be allowed.. so..

Lol, I sound selfish, but oh well


Posted By: keepgrowing
Date Posted: Jan 04 2014 at 8:12pm
Nice, kind hearted man.
Funny with a good sense of humor.
Comes from a good family.
Likes to workout like me.
Religious.
Goal driven.

Pretty much my SO. Love me some him.


Posted By: PurplePhase
Date Posted: Jan 04 2014 at 8:14pm
lol

eta: see below

eta2: WAY below (SANG'S post.. what's up w/ the posting order continuously changing!??)


Posted By: keepgrowing
Date Posted: Jan 04 2014 at 8:14pm
Originally posted by ModelessDiva ModelessDiva wrote:



it isn't difficult to get along with a guy's sister(s) to me

unless they're birds...then i could understand...


Ya I never had issues with SO's sisters. They usually like me a lot.


Posted By: PurplePhase
Date Posted: Jan 04 2014 at 8:15pm
hopefully it's the one I'm with now
*crosses fingers/fingas*


Posted By: Sang Froid
Date Posted: Jan 04 2014 at 8:15pm
Oh I'd prefer a guy that has dead parents. 


Posted By: eanaj5
Date Posted: Jan 04 2014 at 8:15pm
bhm get ur post order together Wacko


Posted By: ModelessDiva
Date Posted: Jan 04 2014 at 8:16pm
Originally posted by keepgrowing keepgrowing wrote:

Nice, kind hearted man.
Funny with a good sense of humor.
Comes from a good family.
Likes to workout like me.
Religious.
Goal driven.

Pretty much my SO. Love me some him.

whoever that is in your avi is gorgeous




Posted By: juicifruit89
Date Posted: Jan 04 2014 at 8:17pm
-Intelligent
-Educated (minimum Bachelors, would prefer Masters or higher)
-A man of good character
-Ambitious
-Financially secure
-Someone who would make a great parent
-Physically attractive to me


Posted By: browneyez4548
Date Posted: Jan 04 2014 at 8:20pm
LawtOuch Lol @ Sang

As far as parent are concerned..I would prefer to a man who is close to his parents, BUT is also his own individual.

I steer clear of men with mommy and/or daddy issues...that's that sh*t you need to deal with BEFORE entering a relationship...man or woman :/

I tried dating a guy with mommy issues before....he had daddy issues too...but that mommy problem was skrong (she passed when he was 1)...I guess never having that motherly love growing up did a number on him..anyways...I nearly punched dude a couple of times -__-

"But baayyyeebbeeee you don't care about me? You don't like me anymore? Why are you doing this to me?" "I thought I was number 1" Cry.....Damn, nigca all I said was "I WILL CALL YOU BACK!" Ugh!!Pinch


Posted By: browneyez4548
Date Posted: Jan 04 2014 at 8:21pm
Originally posted by PurplePhase PurplePhase wrote:

hopefully it's the one I'm with now
*crosses fingers/fingas*


Aren't you like 20 years in? LOL


Posted By: PurplePhase
Date Posted: Jan 04 2014 at 8:22pm
Originally posted by browneyez4548 browneyez4548 wrote:

Originally posted by PurplePhase PurplePhase wrote:

hopefully it's the one I'm with now
*crosses fingers/fingas*


Aren't you like 20 years in? LOL


you saying I'm stuck now, like it/ideal or not? LOL


Posted By: ModelessDiva
Date Posted: Jan 04 2014 at 8:23pm
Originally posted by Sang Froid Sang Froid wrote:

Oh I'd prefer a guy that has dead parents. 

dang tho Confused ...


Posted By: ms_wonderland
Date Posted: Jan 04 2014 at 8:23pm
I completely forgot about tatts until I read eanaj's post....I'm a sucker for sleeves but I hate chest tattoos...if he's ever had his tongue pierced he 's damaged goods.


Posted By: GG
Date Posted: Jan 04 2014 at 8:24pm
I hate guys with tongue piercings too!!!!


Posted By: browneyez4548
Date Posted: Jan 04 2014 at 8:25pm
Originally posted by PurplePhase PurplePhase wrote:

Originally posted by browneyez4548 browneyez4548 wrote:

Originally posted by PurplePhase PurplePhase wrote:

hopefully it's the one I'm with now
*crosses fingers/fingas*


Aren't you like 20 years in? LOL


you saying I'm stuck now, like it/ideal or not? LOL


Yes LOLLOL



Posted By: browneyez4548
Date Posted: Jan 04 2014 at 8:26pm
Any man with a pierce tongue is auto gay in my book...no exceptions


Posted By: PurplePhase
Date Posted: Jan 04 2014 at 8:26pm
Originally posted by browneyez4548 browneyez4548 wrote:

Originally posted by PurplePhase PurplePhase wrote:

Originally posted by browneyez4548 browneyez4548 wrote:

Originally posted by PurplePhase PurplePhase wrote:

hopefully it's the one I'm with now
*crosses fingers/fingas*


Aren't you like 20 years in? LOL


you saying I'm stuck now, like it/ideal or not? LOL


Yes LOLLOL



oh well. Next time I'm picking Don Cheadle.LOL


Posted By: ms_wonderland
Date Posted: Jan 04 2014 at 8:28pm
Originally posted by Sang Froid Sang Froid wrote:

Oh I'd prefer a guy that has dead parents. 

That sounds harsh but the plus side is that I never have to go to mom's house for dinner or deal with all of those stuffy ass family gatherings...since he only has siblings my age it's always fun.  Not that I'm glad that he lost his mother as a little boy bc I'd prefer if he hadn't but yeah... There will be no decisions made in this household based on anyone else's opinion.


Posted By: browneyez4548
Date Posted: Jan 04 2014 at 8:28pm
I like chest tats...don't care for the sleeves thoughLOL

But if you have as much as a dot of ink on your face/neck....umm..No. Lol


Posted By: HeyBeautiful18
Date Posted: Jan 04 2014 at 8:30pm
Tongue piercings or any body piercing is gay!! All I can tolerate is your ears and that's it

I love tattoos. Especially on big arms


Posted By: jonesable
Date Posted: Jan 04 2014 at 8:30pm
I couldn't be serious with someone with no strong family connections.
I love family and family gatherings too much to b with someone who does eff with their family.

Always always down for a family cookout


Posted By: GG
Date Posted: Jan 04 2014 at 8:30pm
Face tats are for people who've given up on life


Posted By: browneyez4548
Date Posted: Jan 04 2014 at 8:31pm
Originally posted by PurplePhase PurplePhase wrote:


oh well. Next time I'm picking Don Cheadle.LOL


You always kill me with the "next lifetime" LOL


Posted By: ms_wonderland
Date Posted: Jan 04 2014 at 8:31pm
Originally posted by browneyez4548 browneyez4548 wrote:

I like chest tats...don't care for the sleeves thoughLOL

But if you have as much as a dot of ink on your face/neck....umm..No. Lol

Omg it seems more and more common for guys in the south to have face tattoos...in California it's only gang members...here Ill see the sweetest looking nga with YSL tatted near his temple.


Posted By: ModelessDiva
Date Posted: Jan 04 2014 at 8:33pm
Originally posted by GG GG wrote:

I hate guys with tongue piercings too!!!!




Posted By: PurplePhase
Date Posted: Jan 04 2014 at 8:33pm
Originally posted by browneyez4548 browneyez4548 wrote:

Originally posted by PurplePhase PurplePhase wrote:


oh well. Next time I'm picking Don Cheadle.LOL


You always kill me with the "next lifetime" LOL


thanks for laughing; it's a joke. If I'm lucky I'll find hub next life too.


Posted By: GG
Date Posted: Jan 04 2014 at 8:33pm
Originally posted by ModelessDiva ModelessDiva wrote:

Originally posted by GG GG wrote:

I hate guys with tongue piercings too!!!!





I met a guy who had like 3 in his tongue
His selling point was he was good at giving head but then I thought about him telling every girl that and it creeped me out


Posted By: ModelessDiva
Date Posted: Jan 04 2014 at 8:34pm
Originally posted by GG GG wrote:

Face tats are for people who've given up on life

true


Posted By: Sang Froid
Date Posted: Jan 04 2014 at 8:34pm
I hate family gatherings.

Oh and I also can't deal with someone who'd want to have people always in the house.
My home is my sanctuary.



Posted By: eanaj5
Date Posted: Jan 04 2014 at 8:34pm
hmm, id prefer if my man wasnt stuck in his family's ass
I have this thing where i hate mixing different aspects of my life too closely, i like to keep my friends separate from my family separate from my man. Kind of like how folk hate mixing food on a plate.
Less chance of conflict/having to please a bunch of ppl at once.
Ima have to get all the way over this in the future though, i know it


Posted By: jonesable
Date Posted: Jan 04 2014 at 8:35pm
I like having ppl over and couple game nights.

Say our parents get sick.
It should be a no brainer that they would move in with us.
Or his if they aren't so stubborn.
My guy likes that kinda stuff too


Posted By: browneyez4548
Date Posted: Jan 04 2014 at 8:35pm
Originally posted by ms_wonderland ms_wonderland wrote:

Originally posted by browneyez4548 browneyez4548 wrote:

I like chest tats...don't care for the sleeves thoughLOL

But if you have as much as a dot of ink on your face/neck....umm..No. Lol

Omg it seems more and more common for guys in the south to have face tattoos...in California it's only gang members...here Ill see the sweetest looking nga with YSL tatted near his temple.


Yes, I hate that! Like damn...do you want to be working in the back all your life???? Everyone isn't gonna make it to Wayne/rapper status...you have to have a plan B Sleepy


Posted By: GG
Date Posted: Jan 04 2014 at 8:38pm
Parents can't spend too much time over if we live together (his or mine). I like to have loud sex and family stays hinder that.


Posted By: browneyez4548
Date Posted: Jan 04 2014 at 8:38pm
Originally posted by PurplePhase PurplePhase wrote:

Originally posted by browneyez4548 browneyez4548 wrote:

Originally posted by PurplePhase PurplePhase wrote:


oh well. Next time I'm picking Don Cheadle.LOL


You always kill me with the "next lifetime" LOL


thanks for laughing; it's a joke. If I'm lucky I'll find hub next life too.


I was actually gonna say that, but clicked on post too quickly LOL I'm pretty sure the two of you will...hell maybe he'll show up as Don win/win LOL


Posted By: ModelessDiva
Date Posted: Jan 04 2014 at 8:39pm
Originally posted by GG GG wrote:

Originally posted by ModelessDiva ModelessDiva wrote:

Originally posted by GG GG wrote:

I hate guys with tongue piercings too!!!!





I met a guy who had like 3 in his tongue
His selling point was he was good at giving head but then I thought about him telling every girl that and it creeped me out


Sick i would have ran the other direction as soon as he opened his mouth





Posted By: PurplePhase
Date Posted: Jan 04 2014 at 8:40pm
Originally posted by browneyez4548 browneyez4548 wrote:

Originally posted by PurplePhase PurplePhase wrote:

Originally posted by browneyez4548 browneyez4548 wrote:

Originally posted by PurplePhase PurplePhase wrote:


oh well. Next time I'm picking Don Cheadle.LOL


You always kill me with the "next lifetime" LOL


thanks for laughing; it's a joke. If I'm lucky I'll find hub next life too.


I was actually gonna say that, but clicked on post too quickly LOL I'm pretty sure the two of you will...hell maybe he'll show up as Don win/win LOL


girl, don't play with me like that LOLLOL


Posted By: browneyez4548
Date Posted: Jan 04 2014 at 8:42pm
Originally posted by PurplePhase PurplePhase wrote:



girl, don't play with me like that LOLLOL


Lmaoooo LOLLOL


Posted By: Sang Froid
Date Posted: Jan 04 2014 at 8:52pm
I wouldn't mind my mom staying with me or my sister.
Anybody else...and I'mma act like my phone don't work.
My dad can't though....that nigguh too damn annoying.


Posted By: _ConcreteRose_
Date Posted: Jan 04 2014 at 9:06pm
Okay Im describing a specific person I know here.
Lives in one of those richest black communities mentioned in the other thread
Is Christian
Gives back to the community<--important
Is kind hearted and patient<---important
Ha well paying (stem) major and is ambitious./div>
Lifts weights
Is Tall
Is Black preferably AA<---important
Family oriented
Has a big family(that likes me)



Posted By: PurplePhase
Date Posted: Jan 04 2014 at 9:14pm
Originally posted by jonesable jonesable wrote:

I like having ppl over and couple game nights.

Say our parents get sick.
It should be a no brainer that they would move in with us.
Or his if they aren't so stubborn.
My guy likes that kinda stuff too


do you mean watching games or playing? If playing, we love that.  It gets competitive tooLOL


Posted By: carolina cutie
Date Posted: Jan 04 2014 at 9:17pm
Originally posted by browneyez4548 browneyez4548 wrote:

No kids
-non religious
-6'+
-Athletic built...don't like skinny men and can't be too built..find that happy medium my nicca

-job..like Wonder, wouldn't want someone in labor...don't have a specific career path that he MUST have..but as long as you can provide..legally of course, then we're good.
- I like and admire entrepreneurs, but I wouldn't date someone who is in the beginning stages of their business...when it comes to things like that, I feel like your business should be your priority..you shouldn't have time for anything else.and if that's your priority..then I don't fit into the equation...

-no kids
-non religious
(yes I know I said the above twice Stern Smile)
-MUST have above a HS education..call it what you want, but I have tried talking to guys who have not gone beyond a HS diploma....I'm STILL trying to find my lost brain cells Disapprove
-Sense of humor
-Assertive
To add on to that list:
-No one shorter than me
-Not obese
-No prison record
-Any debt better be from school. And if you have school debt, it better be reasonable for your career choice
-Must like to drink from time to time...or be okay with me sippin on something.

And most importantly! He better like detangling my hair in a gentle loving manner. If he moisturizes, seals and twists my hair up I'll have his harem of kids and name them all after him.LOLHeart


Posted By: ModelessDiva
Date Posted: Jan 04 2014 at 9:20pm
Originally posted by _ConcreteRose_ _ConcreteRose_ wrote:

Lives in one of those richest black communities mentioned in the other thread


LOL


Posted By: coconess
Date Posted: Jan 04 2014 at 9:22pm
Originally posted by Lite Brite Lite Brite wrote:

Well, ideally

-Black (preferably dark) 
-Tall
-White pretty teeth
-strong, dominant, assertive 
-smart
-ambitious
-patient
-generous
-interesting
-cool but with some quirk/eccentricity 
-stylish, or open to me dressing him  
-funny
-honest
-He doesn't have to fully understand me, but he has to accept me and my ways. I'm aloof a lot.  I enjoy this. I love being in my own world, but I'll share. Dont take it personal, and don't crowd me or I'll get overwhelmed

-Understands I will not be up under him 24/7 .. well sometimes, but I quite enjoy hanging with the girls or hanging with myself. I will be going on vacations without him. He will trust me or leave me..


ill go with this.. tweaked it though. 
definitely@ accept me and my ways.. I'm difficult..


Posted By: dOLLish.
Date Posted: Jan 04 2014 at 9:26pm
Originally posted by eanaj5 eanaj5 wrote:

6'+
brown to dark skin
athletic but not lanky
no small/needle peen
funny
honest
affectionate
thoughtful
laid back
understanding
patient
faithful
pursuing a degree/college educated
has goals and aspirations
good job
own car
no kids
no ex drama
own place
gentleman
$$$Stern Smile
older than 19 but younger than 27
not too many tattoos (a few are sexy) Embarrassed
No chest tats Pinch
intelligent
street smart (but non thuggish)
common sense




This pretty much sums it up.

+ Sleeves 


Posted By: Ming
Date Posted: Jan 04 2014 at 9:43pm
non smoker
thoughtful
kind
6'3+
black
patient
funny
own/working car
non smoker
lives alone
good job
generous
happy
honest
non smoker
pursing dreams/goals/ aspirations(aint enough to just have them)
all around intelligent
athletic- medium build - no thick men
nice teeth
kinda romantic - no saps
independent
attractive
friendly
no kids
dresses well/ appropriately


Posted By: EPITOME
Date Posted: Jan 04 2014 at 10:23pm
it'd be interesting to see people say how well their mate stacks up to this list--like years later


Posted By: AshBash89
Date Posted: Jan 04 2014 at 10:34pm
This thread reminds me of What Chilli Wants...

My list
Faithful
Honest
God-Fearing/Spiritual
Insightful
Cultured
Established
Athletic


Posted By: Faithfully2002
Date Posted: Jan 04 2014 at 10:38pm
Someone who gives me my space.

Easygoing

Not judgemental

Giving

Just a all around nice wholesome guy.


Posted By: GG
Date Posted: Jan 04 2014 at 10:43pm
Where do you go to meet guys anyway?


Posted By: coconess
Date Posted: Jan 04 2014 at 10:45pm
oh honest.. thats a huuuuge one.. can't believe i forgot it. 


Posted By: hauteshellbi
Date Posted: Jan 04 2014 at 10:59pm
Spin-off what do you bring to the table...who's gonna make the thread


Posted By: ModelessDiva
Date Posted: Jan 04 2014 at 11:09pm
Originally posted by AshBash89 AshBash89 wrote:

This thread reminds me of What Chilli Wants...

My list
Faithful
Honest
God-Fearing/Spiritual
Insightful
Cultured
Established
Athletic

now this is a sexy list

basically what i want in a nutshellClap


Posted By: ModelessDiva
Date Posted: Jan 04 2014 at 11:12pm
Originally posted by hauteshellbi hauteshellbi wrote:

Spin-off what do you bring to the table...who's gonna make the thread

i thought i made this thread already last year

maybe im dreaming lol, but i wanted to at least


Posted By: femmemuscleisback
Date Posted: Jan 04 2014 at 11:14pm
anyone but Ludacris and D Wade...



Posted By: Sang Froid
Date Posted: Jan 04 2014 at 11:19pm
So would I. 
lol.



Posted By: coconess
Date Posted: Jan 04 2014 at 11:19pm
sheeeeit.. 
ill take luda or d.wade 
idk about d.wade.. it depends on my position in his lineup 


Posted By: GG
Date Posted: Jan 04 2014 at 11:25pm
No one wants Dwight Howard?


Posted By: coconess
Date Posted: Jan 04 2014 at 11:26pm
i gotta be top 3.. 

#'s 4 and 5 probably don't get much money.. 
unless i blackmailed him…. 


Posted By: hauteshellbi
Date Posted: Jan 04 2014 at 11:34pm
Originally posted by GG GG wrote:

No one wants Dwight Howard?


he's mine


Posted By: GG
Date Posted: Jan 04 2014 at 11:40pm
Dwight Howard has a lot of kids right?


Posted By: ModelessDiva
Date Posted: Jan 04 2014 at 11:40pm

Attractive
Active/Athletic
Adventurous/Spontaneous
Very Spiritual/God-Fearing
Humble
Passionate/Driven
Loyal
Cultured/Experienced
Honest
Intelligent
Secure
Confident
Vigilant
Well Spoken

No kids



Posted By: eanaj5
Date Posted: Jan 04 2014 at 11:44pm
Originally posted by ModelessDiva ModelessDiva wrote:


Attractive
Active/Athletic
Adventurous/Spontaneous
Very Spiritual/God-Fearing
Humble
Passionate/Driven
Loyal
Cultured/Experienced
Honest
Intelligent
Secure
Confident
Vigilant
Well Spoken

No kids


this this THIS. there is nothing worse than a man that cant articulate himself...There was this guy that I was talking to that I was feeling but I couldnt deal with his inability to articulate himself...it's painful to listen to him talk. Thats what I get for just texting him for months Sleepy


Posted By: GG
Date Posted: Jan 04 2014 at 11:47pm
Even if the guy is everything on your list and then some but had kids you wouldn't want him?


Posted By: ModelessDiva
Date Posted: Jan 04 2014 at 11:49pm
Originally posted by GG GG wrote:

Even if the guy is everything on your list and then some but had kids you wouldn't want him?

definite pass





Posted By: ModelessDiva
Date Posted: Jan 04 2014 at 11:52pm
Originally posted by eanaj5 eanaj5 wrote:

Originally posted by ModelessDiva ModelessDiva wrote:


Attractive
Active/Athletic
Adventurous/Spontaneous
Very Spiritual/God-Fearing
Humble
Passionate/Driven
Loyal
Cultured/Experienced
Honest
Intelligent
Secure
Confident
Vigilant
Well Spoken

No kids


this this THIS. there is nothing worse than a man that cant articulate himself...There was this guy that I was talking to that I was feeling but I couldnt deal with his inability to articulate himself...it's painful to listen to him talk. Thats what I get for just texting him for months Sleepy


LOL being well spoken will take you many places

even if you are the most brillant person in the world... people will not want to listen if you cant get your point out clearly




Posted By: ModelessDiva
Date Posted: Jan 05 2014 at 12:05am
Originally posted by ModelessDiva ModelessDiva wrote:

Originally posted by GG GG wrote:

Even if the guy is everything on your list and then some but had kids you wouldn't want him?

definite pass




i just can't deal with the major sacrifices that come with raising a child

dating a man with a child means there will be rescheduled events, postponed dates, and emergency canceling, not to mention the drama, and noise.

no.


Posted By: 305bgirl
Date Posted: Jan 05 2014 at 12:23am
I am currently with him.

*Intelligent
*Articulate
*Caring
*Loyal
*Supportive
*Career that pays well and that he loves
*Happy/positive (Love to have people with great energy around me and my man def has to have this)
*Respectful
*Non-abusive (verbally/physically)
*Family-oriented
*No children (I don't have any of that sort of ba ge and I don't want to put up with baby mamas or my future children not being put first. I also want for us to experience a first child together)
*Share similar views/lifestyle choices for the future
*Good morals
*Great in bed
*Not afraid to try new things
*Likes to travel
*Average to good looking lol Personality is huge for me
*Funny
*Over 6'
*Healthy (Not just a good physique but he must have good eating habits)


Posted By: lanae
Date Posted: Jan 05 2014 at 1:03am
Tall
Sexually attractive to ME. Doesnt nec mean universally attractive
No kids
STEM career (Service men are cool but not ideal)
Loyal
Generous in all aspects
Marriage/family oriented
Mentally challenging but not a douche
Supportive


Posted By: Derri
Date Posted: Jan 05 2014 at 1:20am
Found my soulmate already.


Posted By: AmyAmyAmy
Date Posted: Jan 05 2014 at 4:58am
Ive sworn off men


Posted By: ModelessDiva
Date Posted: Jan 05 2014 at 5:05am
Originally posted by AmyAmyAmy AmyAmyAmy wrote:

Ive sworn off men


why?



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