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Topic: A Live-In Love Triangle Ends in a Beating Death
Posted By: bindy
Subject: A Live-In Love Triangle Ends in a Beating Death
Date Posted: Dec 20 2013 at 1:48pm

A Live-In Love Triangle Ends in a Beating Death

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Published: December 11, 2013
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There were family outings at the beach, homemade pizza nights, a wintry day spent making a dreadlocked snowman — evidence of a secret life in Queens that seemed happy, if unconventional.

But there were troubling signs, glimpsed by her friends in Harlem where she still kept her old apartment, that Sheryl Outerbridge’s other life was quietly destroying her. She would return to Manhattan with burn marks and broken bones, her body tortured — her soul, too.

So much of her life did not add up. Neither did her death.

She was brought to Jamaica Hospital Medical Center last week by a couple who said they had found her near death, lying on Sutphin Boulevard nearby. According to the police, they said she had been shot in the head.

Little by little their story unraveled. The husband and wife who bundled her battered body into a 2001 Chrysler Town and Country were no serendipitous passers-by; they had been living with Ms. Outerbridge in a polyamorous — and, friends said, brutal and controlling — relationship that, law enforcement officials contend, ended when the couple beat Ms. Outerbridge to death.

Ms. Outerbridge, a 38-year-old mother of three, was buried on Wednesday in New Jersey, hours after her funeral service in Harlem. One of the suspects in her death, Devonnee Wilkerson, was arrested and charged with kidnapping and assault; her husband, Malik Wilkerson, was in custody in Pittsburgh and awaiting extradition to New York, the police said.

In a statement to the police, Ms. Wilkerson explained what precipitated the violent act. Ms. Outerbridge, she said, violated a cardinal rule of their relationship by getting a tattoo for her birthday: it said “Bish Baby,” Ms. Wilkerson’s pet name for her husband.

“There are boundaries not to cross,” Ms. Wilkerson told the police.

Ms. Outerbridge grew up a voracious reader, but struggled in school, her home life disrupted by the vicious men her mother brought home, her sister Crystal Outerbridge said. The men, she said, pulled their mother into drinking and drugs, beatings and her eventual death from complications of AIDS.

Sheryl Outerbridge persevered, getting a general equivalency diploma and a job as a bank teller. She dressed sharply in Uggs and a sleek clip-on ponytail.

But even as she climbed upward, she seemed destined to repeat her mother’s mistakes. Jobs came and went, as did the men — some so unsavory that her two preteen daughters went to live with their grandmother and their father, another relative said, and her teenage son with his father. Three years ago, neighbors in the Central Harlem apartment building awoke to a hallway filled with smoke, one resident said: A man had set Ms. Outerbridge’s door on fire.

Malik Wilkerson seemed the answer to her problems. A close friend, Nicole Irving, recalled that Ms. Outerbridge had met him at a party over three years ago, and confided that she had an abusive boyfriend whom she was afraid to leave. Mr. Wilkerson confronted the boyfriend and scared him off, Ms. Irving said. Shortly after, Mr. Wilkerson, who was known as Bishop, moved into Ms. Outerbridge’s small Harlem apartment.

So did his wife.

Known as Phoenix, Ms. Wilkerson had long dreadlocks and gaunt features behind wire-rimmed spectacles; they were a sharp contrast to Ms. Outerbridge’s round face, full lips and glossy hair. The two women appeared close: Ms. Outerbridge’s Facebook page is packed with photos of their exploits. There were visits to meet the celebrity chef Bobby Flay at Bobby’s Burger Palace in Garden City, N.Y., where Ms. Wilkerson worked; and trips to Rockaway Beach. There they snapped a self-portrait, Mr. Wilkerson between them.

Ms. Outerbridge was plain about her new lifestyle, once bringing the man she called the Don to a family cookout. When the Wilkersons moved back to the two-family vinyl-sided house owned by their relatives in South Jamaica, Queens, their new girlfriend came with them. She had her own room in the untidy two-bedroom apartment. On a recent visit, Ms. Irving, 40, of Queens, chatted on the couch with her friend and Mr. Wilkerson, while his wife applied a fresh coat of ecru paint on the living room walls with a rolling brush.


Last month, Ms. Outerbridge told another friend, Tasheka Neal, 31, that Mr. Wilkerson had broken her jaw. She suggested that the love triangle was lopsided — she indicated to her friends that her true relationship was with the man, and that his wife simply capitulated to his will.

Her forays to Harlem and her pet cat there never lasted long. “When she would come home, they would come and show up and knock on her door,” said Ms. Irving, referring to the Wilkersons. They would order Ms. Outerbridge back to Queens.

On Monday, Dec. 2, Ms. Outerbridge fled the Wilkersons, and they wanted her back. Mr. Wilkerson began calling many of Ms. Outerbridge’s friends, his voice breaking with rage when they answered. He told them he suspected she was with other men.

According to a transcript of statements Ms. Wilkerson made to the police, the Wilkersons drove around Queens in the Town and Country, searching for Ms. Outerbridge in the dark of Tuesday morning. They found her at a train station in Jamaica, and forcefully took her to their home in Queens.

Her clothes came off. Visible, on her buttock, was the new tattoo she had gotten for her birthday in late October. “She should have never gotten that tattoo, because I am his wife and that kind of tattoo is reserved for me,” Ms. Wilkerson told the police.

The couple beat Ms. Outerbridge in turns, first pummeling her temples, then battering her legs with the paint roller, still lying in the house. Her pleas for help were accompanied by calls of “Daddy,” Ms. Wilkerson’s pet name for her husband, enraging his wife further.

“I snapped again,” she told detectives. “That was another boundary not to cross.”

Ms. Wilkerson told the police she threw a beer bottle at Ms. Outerbridge’s head, and jabbed a lit cigarette into her skin. Then they beat her some more, using fists and a hammer, and left her close to death on the floor.

The next morning, Ms. Wilkerson said, she and another man took Ms. Outerbridge to the hospital, where she was pronounced dead. The other man, who has not been identified, was said to be cooperating with the police.

At her memorial service at the Unity Funeral Chapels in Harlem, guests could not help questioning Ms. Outerbridge’s lifestyle, and a fraying society.

“Initially she thought she was in control and this is one big party,” Crystal Outerbridge said on Wednesday. “My sister loved the fantasy; she didn’t want to see the reality behind it, the reality that she was with a predator with a smiling face.”

Based on Mr. Wilkerson’s phone calls the night before the killing, some speculated that he might have been crazed by the prospect of her seeing other men.

But his wife’s fury had a different root.

Toward the end of her questioning by detectives, Ms. Wilkerson admitted something she had kept to herself to that point.

“I know,” she said, “Malik had fallen in love with Sheryl.”

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Posted By: nitabug
Date Posted: Dec 20 2013 at 1:58pm
 She dressed sharply in Uggs and a sleek clip-on ponytail...wtf


Posted By: Senior Detective
Date Posted: Dec 20 2013 at 1:59pm
none of this would  have happened if the WHITE MAN didn't enslave us!!!


Posted By: nitabug
Date Posted: Dec 20 2013 at 1:59pm
sad it came to that. hope they both die from torture


Posted By: Rumbera
Date Posted: Dec 20 2013 at 2:00pm
Poor woman


Posted By: nitabug
Date Posted: Dec 20 2013 at 2:00pm
Originally posted by Senior Detective Senior Detective wrote:


none of this would  have happened if the WHITE MAN didn't enslave us!!!
I thought you werent adescendent of slaves?


Posted By: Senior Detective
Date Posted: Dec 20 2013 at 2:00pm
Originally posted by nitabug nitabug wrote:

 She dressed sharply in Uggs and a sleek clip-on ponytail...wtf
its that hobo chic sloppy look that thread was talmbout. uoeno


Posted By: Senior Detective
Date Posted: Dec 20 2013 at 2:01pm
Originally posted by Jewelsnyc Jewelsnyc wrote:

Originally posted by Senior Detective Senior Detective wrote:

none of this would  have happened if the WHITE MAN didn't enslave us!!!
your genius is showing....
aint it thoEmbarrassed
 
 
 


Posted By: Senior Detective
Date Posted: Dec 20 2013 at 2:02pm
Originally posted by nitabug nitabug wrote:

Originally posted by Senior Detective Senior Detective wrote:


none of this would  have happened if the WHITE MAN didn't enslave us!!!
I thought you werent adescendent of slaves?
nope


Posted By: Jewelsnyc
Date Posted: Dec 20 2013 at 2:03pm
Originally posted by Senior Detective Senior Detective wrote:

none of this would  have happened if the WHITE MAN didn't enslave us!!!
your genius is showing....


Posted By: mizzsandra00
Date Posted: Dec 20 2013 at 2:04pm
Originally posted by nitabug nitabug wrote:

 She dressed sharply in Uggs and a sleek clip-on ponytail...wtf

She dressed sharply in Uggs and a sleek clip-on ponytail.

I was ready to copy and paste that tooLOL


Posted By: Az~Maverick
Date Posted: Dec 20 2013 at 2:08pm
ConfusedShockedOuchSleepyDead.......that's all I got.


Posted By: BrownQtee
Date Posted: Dec 20 2013 at 2:08pm
What a cluster fukk. As wayward as she may have been..it seemed as if she wanted out. May they both burn in hell.


Posted By: mizzsandra00
Date Posted: Dec 20 2013 at 2:16pm
She was too old for that foolishness.....where are your children.....everyone involved is to blame....


Posted By: Senior Detective
Date Posted: Dec 20 2013 at 2:22pm
Originally posted by mizzsandra00 mizzsandra00 wrote:

She was too old for that foolishness.....where are your children.....everyone involved is to blame....
her 3 kids had different daddies. the girls went to live with their dad & the son with his


Posted By: mizzsandra00
Date Posted: Dec 20 2013 at 2:24pm
Originally posted by Senior Detective Senior Detective wrote:

Originally posted by mizzsandra00 mizzsandra00 wrote:

She was too old for that foolishness.....where are your children.....everyone involved is to blame....
her 3 kids had different daddies. the girls went to live with their dad & the son with his

For some dick.....that came with a whole wife.....chile I just can't..


Posted By: ShadyLady
Date Posted: Dec 20 2013 at 2:32pm
Tattooing someone else's husband's name on me? No ma'am.

But no one deserves this. The wife's reasoning sounds so cold and calculated...she just went ahead and put the nail in their coffin.

Hopefully, the cycle ends with her and her daughters want better for themselves.

And no lie, that ponytail and Uggs comment made me do a double take like a mutha.


Posted By: mizzsandra00
Date Posted: Dec 20 2013 at 2:36pm
Originally posted by ShadyLady ShadyLady wrote:

Tattooing someone else's husband's name on me? No ma'am.

But no one deserves this. The wife's reasoning sounds so cold and calculated...she just went ahead and put the nail in their coffin.

Hopefully, the cycle ends with her and her daughters want better for themselves.

And no lie, that ponytail and Uggs comment made me do a double take like a mutha.

She kept talking about crossing lines....boo its to late for that.


Posted By: BrownQtee
Date Posted: Dec 20 2013 at 2:37pm
Dikk that was married at that..smh. So many unfortunate decisions made..


Posted By: liesnalibis
Date Posted: Dec 20 2013 at 2:40pm
I'm guessing she was slow.


Posted By: ShadyLady
Date Posted: Dec 20 2013 at 2:40pm
Originally posted by liesnalibis liesnalibis wrote:

I'm guessing she was slow.


And a bank teller? Naw, she probably just made poor decisions.


Posted By: Senior Detective
Date Posted: Dec 20 2013 at 2:42pm
Originally posted by ShadyLady ShadyLady wrote:

Originally posted by liesnalibis liesnalibis wrote:

I'm guessing she was slow.


And a bank teller? Naw, she probably just made poor decisions.
ur both wrong.  She is a victim of systematic slavery


Posted By: mizzsandra00
Date Posted: Dec 20 2013 at 2:43pm
I hate you. LOL


Posted By: 510QUEEN
Date Posted: Dec 20 2013 at 2:46pm
sad..........


Posted By: EasterBell
Date Posted: Dec 20 2013 at 3:08pm
i don't even know what to say..


Posted By: trudawg
Date Posted: Dec 20 2013 at 3:21pm
Sad story :=(


Posted By: Naturalchick30
Date Posted: Dec 20 2013 at 3:56pm
Originally posted by liesnalibis liesnalibis wrote:

I'm guessing she was slow.

Could be


Posted By: yaya24
Date Posted: Dec 20 2013 at 4:01pm

I saw this yesterday on FB.

RIP to her & her poor decisions.

 

She thought she was about that life.



Posted By: Sleek
Date Posted: Dec 20 2013 at 4:42pm
Wow just wow and Damn


Posted By: ModelessDiva
Date Posted: Dec 20 2013 at 5:28pm


I have a hard time believing there are women who behave and live like this in the world

this whole story is stupid

and now her poor kids are without a mother... R.I.P.



Posted By: creole booty
Date Posted: Dec 20 2013 at 5:30pm
Originally posted by mizzsandra00 mizzsandra00 wrote:

Originally posted by nitabug nitabug wrote:

 She dressed sharply in Uggs and a sleek clip-on ponytail...wtf


<span style="font-family: georgia, 'times new roman', times, serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 22px; : rgb251, 251, 253;">She dressed sharply in Uggs and a sleek clip-on ponytail.</span>
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<span style="font-family: georgia, 'times new roman', times, serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 22px; : rgb251, 251, 253;">I was ready to copy and paste that tooLOL</span>


I smiled and thought, "mizzsandra is rubbing off on me because I can't even read the rest now."


Posted By: Senior Detective
Date Posted: Dec 20 2013 at 5:38pm
Originally posted by ModelessDiva ModelessDiva wrote:



I have a hard time believing there are women who behave and live like this in the world

this whole story is stupid

and now her poor kids are without a mother... R.I.P.

they were without a mother b4 she died.   She wasn't taking care of them & she wasn't stable.  She bounced around from home to home & job to job


Posted By: ModelessDiva
Date Posted: Dec 20 2013 at 5:46pm
Originally posted by Senior Detective Senior Detective wrote:

Originally posted by ModelessDiva ModelessDiva wrote:



I have a hard time believing there are women who behave and live like this in the world

this whole story is stupid

and now her poor kids are without a mother... R.I.P.


they were without a mother b4 she died.   She wasn't taking care of them & she wasn't stable.  She bounced around from home to home & job to job



I understand, but there is a world of a difference between a dead mother and a deadbeat one.





Posted By: Senior Detective
Date Posted: Dec 20 2013 at 5:55pm
not really.  why do u think so many ppl with dead beat dads have kids that say it doesn't matter if he's dead or alive they dgaf anyway? or the ones that say "When he died I never cried, we weren't close"
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
maybe its the slavery oppression


Posted By: bindy
Date Posted: Dec 20 2013 at 6:09pm
^^your statement started off smart then ended stupid....


Posted By: ModelessDiva
Date Posted: Dec 20 2013 at 6:10pm
Originally posted by Senior Detective Senior Detective wrote:

 not really.  why do u think so many ppl with dead beat dads have kids that say it doesn't matter if he's dead or alive they dgaf anyway? or the ones that say "When he died I never cried, we weren't close"
 
Confused
If given a choice i would rather have the person alive. People do turn their lives around all the time you know....but if you're dead you dont have that option anymore. 
 
And how do you know what the mother's role in these children's lives are?

Just because they were sent to go live with their fathers doesn't mean she doesn't visit them and/or spend time with them.
 


Posted By: Senior Detective
Date Posted: Dec 20 2013 at 6:20pm
so naïve.  the story is very telling & speaks volumes about her character. She wasn't turning anything around


Posted By: ModelessDiva
Date Posted: Dec 20 2013 at 6:29pm
Originally posted by Senior Detective Senior Detective wrote:

so naïve.  the story is very telling & speaks volumes about her character. She wasn't turning anything around


ummkay pookie


Posted By: mizzsandra00
Date Posted: Dec 20 2013 at 6:59pm
Originally posted by creole booty creole booty wrote:

Originally posted by mizzsandra00 mizzsandra00 wrote:

Originally posted by nitabug nitabug wrote:

 She dressed sharply in Uggs and a sleek clip-on ponytail...wtf


I was ready to copy and paste that tooLOL


I smiled and thought, "mizzsandra is rubbing off on me because I can't even read the rest now."


LOLEvil Smile Goood.


Posted By: oh_so_moody
Date Posted: Dec 20 2013 at 7:26pm
Sheryl Outerbridge persevered, getting a general equivalency diploma and a job as a bank teller. She dressed sharply in Uggs and a sleek clip-on ponytail


Posted By: oh_so_moody
Date Posted: Dec 20 2013 at 7:28pm
^^^^ goes back to read the rest of story and thread....



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