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Topic: Do you call your parents by their first names ?
Posted By: india100
Subject: Do you call your parents by their first names ?
Date Posted: Nov 05 2013 at 12:54pm
I found it shocking how many children call parents by the first name at my daughter's school. I work part time in the nurses office . Many children ask me to call George or becky . I thought the kids where talking about older siblings . I never dream to call my parents by first names at any age . The children are 5 to 11 years old .



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Posted By: PurplePhase
Date Posted: Nov 05 2013 at 12:59pm
 no and I never wanted to. I like the word Mom.
  but hub and his sibs do (always have)

eta: and I really love the word Mama


Posted By: eanaj5
Date Posted: Nov 05 2013 at 1:03pm
yup


Posted By: Chyna_Li
Date Posted: Nov 05 2013 at 1:05pm
HELL TO THE NO.
i would be slapped. no thanks
plus i dont think its cute


Posted By: HaitianDiva64
Date Posted: Nov 05 2013 at 1:06pm

i used to my neice does



Posted By: AmiliaCabral
Date Posted: Nov 05 2013 at 1:06pm

hell nah. i called my mother Rita once to get her attention and she turned around with the "i'm bout to smack you shytless" face and that was just last year

 
she aint ever got to worry about me calling her by her first name ever again
 
as for my father, i dont call him anything
 
ETA: i don't like calling any older people by their first names really
 
my mom is a traditional southern old woman and i just wasn't raised like that
 
people have to beg me to stop calling them Ms. or Mr., especially now that im getting old too


Posted By: Sleek
Date Posted: Nov 05 2013 at 1:08pm
Umm no if I did my face would have a permanent handprint


Posted By: BrownQtee
Date Posted: Nov 05 2013 at 1:08pm
I don't call my mother by her first name, but she calls her mom (my grandmother) by her first name. I think it can depend on the type of relationship you have with the parent. My mother was raised by her dad..so she never really had that connection with my grandma.


Posted By: bunzaveli
Date Posted: Nov 05 2013 at 1:08pm
i used to when i was a kid, i started calling my dad, dad in middle or high school, i didnt know any better.


Posted By: HaitianDiva64
Date Posted: Nov 05 2013 at 1:09pm
i think its how the kids are taught when they are first learning to talk.  i call my fam members but what others around me called them.
 
some aunts and uncles get an aunt___ uncle___ in front of their names some don't


Posted By: india100
Date Posted: Nov 05 2013 at 1:10pm
Originally posted by HaitianDiva64 HaitianDiva64 wrote:

i used to my neice does

She calls your mom or her parent by the first name ?


Posted By: melikey
Date Posted: Nov 05 2013 at 1:11pm
no. i'm in my 30s and still wouldn't do it.


Posted By: honeydrop
Date Posted: Nov 05 2013 at 1:12pm
Originally posted by Chyna_Li Chyna_Li wrote:

HELL TO THE NO.
i would be slapped. no thanks
plus i dont think its cute


yup!


Posted By: HaitianDiva64
Date Posted: Nov 05 2013 at 1:12pm
Originally posted by india100 india100 wrote:

Originally posted by HaitianDiva64 HaitianDiva64 wrote:

i used to my neice does

She calls your mom or her parent by the first name ?
 
she calls my sis by her first name and calls my mom mom, but knows my sister is her mom


Posted By: india100
Date Posted: Nov 05 2013 at 1:20pm
Originally posted by SamoneLenior SamoneLenior wrote:


are they mostly white?

how old are the parents?
White for the most part , but i notice a few Arabic , black ,and Asian children . The parents range in age . 30 and up .


Posted By: india100
Date Posted: Nov 05 2013 at 1:25pm
Originally posted by AmiliaCabral AmiliaCabral wrote:

hell nah. i called my mother Rita once to get her attention and she turned around with the "i'm bout to smack you shytless" face and that was just last year

 
she aint ever got to worry about me calling her by her first name ever again
 
as for my father, i dont call him anything
 
ETA: i don't like calling any older people by their first names really
 
my mom is a traditional southern old woman and i just wasn't raised like that
 
people have to beg me to stop calling them Ms. or Mr., especially now that im getting old too
I taught my daughter at a early age to use Ms. or Mr.


Posted By: .hott.pink.
Date Posted: Nov 05 2013 at 1:28pm
Originally posted by HaitianDiva64 HaitianDiva64 wrote:

i think its how the kids are taught when they are first learning to talk.  i call my fam members but what others around me called them.

This is what I was about to say. I thought you were talking about high schoolers at first but a lot of times with the younger kids, their parents teach them, "if you're ever in trouble and I'm not around, my name is ________." They're just regurgitating what they've been taught, I think.

Now, high schoolers doing that--nah bruh.

Although my cousins (in their 20s) do call their mother by her first name and I thought that was weird. 


Posted By: femmefatale85
Date Posted: Nov 05 2013 at 1:29pm
only when im joking


Posted By: india100
Date Posted: Nov 05 2013 at 1:30pm
One of my cousins feels black children should never use "Yes Ma'am" or "Yes Sir" when answering a older white person . I was taught to say that out of respect for elderly people no matter what race .


Posted By: .hott.pink.
Date Posted: Nov 05 2013 at 1:36pm
Originally posted by india100 india100 wrote:

One of my cousins feels black children should never use "Yes Mam" or "Yes Sir" when answering a older white person . I was taught to say that out of repsect for elderly people no matter what race .

My mother hates when people call her "ma'am" so I was never taught to say it. 

I will say when I call older white customers at work I kinda make it a point to call them by their first names lol. Me being petty


Posted By: jonesable
Date Posted: Nov 05 2013 at 1:37pm
No but in this instance the kids r doing the right thing.in emergencies use real names

But i say mama and daddy


Posted By: Lonisha87
Date Posted: Nov 05 2013 at 1:38pm
Just my mom when I'm trying to get her attention. It's funny but no out of respect I don't just call her by her name


Posted By: PurplePhase
Date Posted: Nov 05 2013 at 1:39pm
Originally posted by india100 india100 wrote:

One of my cousins feels black children should never use "Yes Mam" or "Yes Sir" when answering a older white person . I was taught to say that out of repsect for elderly people no matter what race .


my mom wouldn't allow us to use ma'am 


Posted By: HaitianDiva64
Date Posted: Nov 05 2013 at 1:40pm
i think my family was just laid back and as long as you know your position and show respect it's whatever. i called my mom by first name until 5 then I wanted to be like the kids on t.v. and started calling her ma lol


Posted By: patternsandtexture
Date Posted: Nov 05 2013 at 1:42pm

Not usually unless I need her undivided attention. My dad calls his mother by her nickname though.



Posted By: india100
Date Posted: Nov 05 2013 at 1:43pm
Originally posted by jonesable jonesable wrote:

No but in this instance the kids r doing the right thing.in emergencies use real names

But i say mama and daddy
We only use last names at the school . Many children parents have the same first name . I need the last name to find the medical files and contact info  , unless i know the parents . I agree children should know both names .


Posted By: india100
Date Posted: Nov 05 2013 at 1:44pm
Originally posted by PurplePhase PurplePhase wrote:

Originally posted by india100 india100 wrote:

One of my cousins feels black children should never use "Yes Mam" or "Yes Sir" when answering a older white person . I was taught to say that out of repsect for elderly people no matter what race .


my mom wouldn't allow us to use ma'am 
Why ?


Posted By: 305bgirl
Date Posted: Nov 05 2013 at 1:44pm
That is viewed as disrespectful in my family. I have seen friends and others do it but I would never lol


Posted By: yaya24
Date Posted: Nov 05 2013 at 1:45pm
never


Posted By: india100
Date Posted: Nov 05 2013 at 1:47pm
Originally posted by .hott.pink. .hott.pink. wrote:

Originally posted by india100 india100 wrote:

One of my cousins feels black children should never use "Yes Mam" or "Yes Sir" when answering a older white person . I was taught to say that out of repsect for elderly people no matter what race .

My mother hates when people call her "ma'am" so I was never taught to say it. 

I will say when I call older white customers at work I kinda make it a point to call them by their first names lol. Me being petty
Some women feel ma'am is like calling the person old lol .


Posted By: BrownQtee
Date Posted: Nov 05 2013 at 1:50pm
I would never call a yt person sir or mam. Nooope nope nope.


Posted By: india100
Date Posted: Nov 05 2013 at 1:51pm
Originally posted by BrownQtee BrownQtee wrote:

I would never call a yt person sir or mam. Nooope nope nope.
LOL


Posted By: Chyna_Li
Date Posted: Nov 05 2013 at 1:54pm
another question would be 

DO YOU USE PROFANITY AROUND YOUR PARENTS.

some of my friends curse around their parents and im just horrified.  off with my head as far as my family is concerned. 


Posted By: yaya24
Date Posted: Nov 05 2013 at 1:56pm
Originally posted by Chyna_Li Chyna_Li wrote:

another question would be 

DO YOU USE PROFANITY AROUND YOUR PARENTS.

some of my friends curse around their parents and im just horrified.  off with my head as far as my family is concerned. 
 
No "F" bombs or B&tch.
But $hit /damn slips every now and then.. usually its on accident.


Posted By: BBpants
Date Posted: Nov 05 2013 at 2:02pm
I still call my parents mommy and daddy LOL


Posted By: india100
Date Posted: Nov 05 2013 at 2:10pm
Originally posted by Chyna_Li Chyna_Li wrote:

another question would be 

DO YOU USE PROFANITY AROUND YOUR PARENTS.

some of my friends curse around their parents and im just horrified.  off with my head as far as my family is concerned. 
I agree . We found out one of my aunts thought it was cute to teach our baby the word sh*tz . India finally said it clearly at 8 months . I cursed her out and will never allow her alone with my child again . Some people think it's cute for babies to curse . SMH


Posted By: india100
Date Posted: Nov 05 2013 at 2:10pm
Originally posted by BBpants BBpants wrote:

I still call my parents mommy and daddy LOL
Heart


Posted By: Chyna_Li
Date Posted: Nov 05 2013 at 2:12pm
I CANNOT drink, curse or call my parents by there names...not in their presence anyway. lol


Posted By: niecy
Date Posted: Nov 05 2013 at 2:15pm
I've only ever called her by her first name when I'm trying to get her attention or if I'm messin' with her playin'. I usually call her ma though.


Posted By: india100
Date Posted: Nov 05 2013 at 2:37pm
Originally posted by niecy niecy wrote:

I've only ever called her by her first name when I'm trying to get her attention or if I'm messin' with her playin'. I usually call her ma though.
Wait until your baby calls you mom . I will never understand why most say daddy first . OuchLOLCry


Posted By: GoodGirlGoneGr8
Date Posted: Nov 05 2013 at 2:42pm
I call my mother Sherlock, she calls me Bambi and I call my father Daddy...


Posted By: Princess_S
Date Posted: Nov 05 2013 at 2:47pm
I call her mom or Ms.Lastname,  thats only when she calls me Ms.Lastname
my dad i call him DAddy! Stern Smile and I call my grandparents Mama (RIP) and Daddy (Maternal) and grandma and grandpa (paternal)



Posted By: rickysrose
Date Posted: Nov 05 2013 at 2:48pm
never would I ever.

maybe some are step parents and that's what they've decided as a family ... there must be something else they could use but to each their own I guess




Posted By: patternsandtexture
Date Posted: Nov 05 2013 at 2:52pm
Originally posted by india100 india100 wrote:

Originally posted by niecy niecy wrote:

I've only ever called her by her first name when I'm trying to get her attention or if I'm messin' with her playin'. I usually call her ma though.
Wait until your baby calls you mom . I will never understand why most say daddy first . OuchLOLCry
 
I heard the D is actually easier to pronounce than the M word for babies.


Posted By: .hott.pink.
Date Posted: Nov 05 2013 at 2:57pm
Originally posted by india100 india100 wrote:

Originally posted by .hott.pink. .hott.pink. wrote:

Originally posted by india100 india100 wrote:

One of my cousins feels black children should never use "Yes Mam" or "Yes Sir" when answering a older white person . I was taught to say that out of repsect for elderly people no matter what race .

My mother hates when people call her "ma'am" so I was never taught to say it. 

I will say when I call older white customers at work I kinda make it a point to call them by their first names lol. Me being petty
Some women feel ma'am is like calling the person old lol .

That's her exact reasoning. 


Posted By: Lady ICE
Date Posted: Nov 05 2013 at 3:13pm
yes i do..every since i could speak.


Posted By: india100
Date Posted: Nov 05 2013 at 3:14pm
Originally posted by patternsandtexture patternsandtexture wrote:

Originally posted by india100 india100 wrote:

Originally posted by niecy niecy wrote:

I've only ever called her by her first name when I'm trying to get her attention or if I'm messin' with her playin'. I usually call her ma though.
Wait until your baby calls you mom . I will never understand why most say daddy first . OuchLOLCry
 
I heard the D is actually easier to pronounce than the M word for babies.
I think men whisper daddy to the baby when we are not looking .LOLCry


Posted By: Lady ICE
Date Posted: Nov 05 2013 at 3:16pm
Originally posted by india100 india100 wrote:

Wait until your baby calls you mom . I will never understand why most say daddy first . OuchLOLCry
yes my daughter used to call us all daddy. i hated it.


Posted By: tatee
Date Posted: Nov 05 2013 at 3:17pm
no but i think people like to think that its indicative of bad parenting when its not.


Posted By: india100
Date Posted: Nov 05 2013 at 3:28pm
Originally posted by Lady ICE Lady ICE wrote:

Originally posted by india100 india100 wrote:

Wait until your baby calls you mom . I will never understand why most say daddy first . OuchLOLCry
yes my daughter used to call us all daddy. i hated it.
I know the feeling . Cry


Posted By: ms_wonderland
Date Posted: Nov 05 2013 at 3:30pm
my mom and aunts/uncles all called my grandparents by their first name.  i thought that was weird and they royally effed up a couple of them.  i call mine mama.


Posted By: india100
Date Posted: Nov 05 2013 at 3:31pm
Originally posted by tatee tatee wrote:

no but i think people like to think that its indicative of bad parenting when its not.
I think it can be depending on the parents . Some people try to be friends with the kids instead of a parent first .


Posted By: tatee
Date Posted: Nov 05 2013 at 3:35pm
Originally posted by india100 india100 wrote:

Originally posted by tatee tatee wrote:

no but i think people like to think that its indicative of bad parenting when its not.
I think it can be depending on the parents . Some people try to be friends with the kids instead of a parent first .


that just bad parenting. 


Posted By: Dapheny
Date Posted: Nov 05 2013 at 5:45pm
I used to but it was frowned upon lol
now I just say mom


Posted By: Bored w/Out Me?
Date Posted: Nov 05 2013 at 5:47pm
Heck No...
I try sometimes and My Mom be like, "What You Call Me?" in her don't play wit me voice...


Posted By: Rumbera
Date Posted: Nov 05 2013 at 5:50pm
Never..


Posted By: slykitten
Date Posted: Nov 05 2013 at 5:52pm
Umm... I have Jamaica parents.  That would NEVER fly.


Posted By: femmefatale85
Date Posted: Nov 05 2013 at 6:03pm
I've met people that call their mothers by their first names and their grandmothers mom. Partly because their mothers were young and their grandmothers raised them and never corrected them.


Posted By: HeyBeautiful18
Date Posted: Nov 05 2013 at 6:12pm
Maybe its a phase

Iono. That's really weird. And rude. We were always taught not to call an adult by their first name


Posted By: Meme0887
Date Posted: Nov 05 2013 at 6:57pm
My mom calls my grandma by her first name. She had her at 15 and that's all she heard growing up. 
 
I call everybody by their first name when I'm talking to someone about them. I usually just start talking when I'm talking to them tho lol. I think they know by now I don't call them Auntie or Grandma by now. 
 
It just doesn't sound right lol.


Posted By: JamCaygirl
Date Posted: Nov 05 2013 at 7:11pm
I still have all my teeth, so no!


Posted By: KittenWhip
Date Posted: Nov 05 2013 at 7:28pm
I never called my dad anything but "Daddy" until the day he passed away.  I called my mom by her first name only twice and both times were because we had been separated in a store.  But, to be honest, her name for me was always "Mommy".  

Gosh, I miss them...Cry


Posted By: Chantal34
Date Posted: Nov 05 2013 at 7:50pm
My 3 year old is starting to call me Mama Hedger (Heather). I am nipping this in the bud with the quickness!!!!


Posted By: india100
Date Posted: Nov 05 2013 at 8:38pm
Originally posted by KittenWhip KittenWhip wrote:

I never called my dad anything but "Daddy" until the day he passed away.  I called my mom by her first name only twice and both times were because we had been separated in a store.  But, to be honest, her name for me was always "Mommy".  

Gosh, I miss them...Cry
I know the feeling . Hug


Posted By: india100
Date Posted: Nov 05 2013 at 8:39pm
Originally posted by Chantal34 Chantal34 wrote:

My 3 year old is starting to call me Mama Hedger (Heather). I am nipping this in the bud with the quickness!!!!
LOLThumbs Up


Posted By: herwoman
Date Posted: Nov 06 2013 at 12:34am
I call my mom Mother, Motheren, MA!!! and Mayum

Dad=Father or Deddy

My son calls me Ma muh


Posted By: Az~Maverick
Date Posted: Nov 06 2013 at 1:02am
I wouldn't be sitting here alive typing this......so HELL NO.


Posted By: eanaj5
Date Posted: Nov 06 2013 at 1:11am
I tried my luck in high school and they didnt slap me into the next century so I kept at it Thumbs Up
I was also the last of 7 kids tho, perhaps they were a little burnt out by then LOL

My future kids would NEVER tho Stern Smile


Posted By: Sang Froid
Date Posted: Nov 06 2013 at 1:16am
If I wanna get popped in my mouth.


Posted By: Claudie
Date Posted: Nov 06 2013 at 1:43am
Never!  My Jamaican parents would have knocked me into the next century.


Posted By: TokyoRose
Date Posted: Nov 06 2013 at 1:54am
My mom wasn't thrilled at the suggestion.  The conversation went like this:

Me: Can I just call you Judy from now on?
Mom:  What?  No!  Are you crazy?
Me: Why not?  I feel I've known you long enough to be on a first name basis.
Mom: Stern Smile




Posted By: CLCNY20
Date Posted: Nov 06 2013 at 2:38am
I'm still alive, so--no


Posted By: afrokock
Date Posted: Nov 06 2013 at 6:25am
Man I wish I would!!


Posted By: Naturalchick30
Date Posted: Nov 06 2013 at 6:25am

I didn't when I was a child but I do now.  Mom has no problem with it.



Posted By: petiteone29
Date Posted: Nov 06 2013 at 7:15am
I never called my parents by their first names. I ould get the spit slapped out of my mouth. I don't even call my parents in law by their first name. I call them Mr and Mrs.



My kids know better.


Posted By: mizzsandra00
Date Posted: Nov 06 2013 at 7:33am
If she was ignoring me usually when Star Trek was on.......yes......I hate being ignored.....


Posted By: Jess
Date Posted: Nov 06 2013 at 7:47am
LOL. Never.  If I do, it's in a joking manner.


Posted By: KeraNykole
Date Posted: Nov 06 2013 at 7:54am
I called my parent's mom and dad. My daughter will do the same.
I had a friend growing up that only referred to her parent's as ma'am and sir. It was weird.


Posted By: Brjasuga51
Date Posted: Nov 06 2013 at 7:59am
nopessssssssssssss...that's why I am still alive and able to eat anything


Posted By: Brjasuga51
Date Posted: Nov 06 2013 at 8:00am
And I address people as Ms and Mr....especially my elders


Posted By: india100
Date Posted: Nov 06 2013 at 8:19am
Originally posted by Brjasuga51 Brjasuga51 wrote:

nopessssssssssssss...that's why I am still alive and able to eat anything
LOL


Posted By: india100
Date Posted: Nov 06 2013 at 8:21am
Originally posted by TokyoRose TokyoRose wrote:

My mom wasn't thrilled at the suggestion.  The conversation went like this:

Me: Can I just call you Judy from now on?
Mom:  What?  No!  Are you crazy?
Me: Why not?  I feel I've known you long enough to be on a first name basis.
Mom: Stern Smile


I agree with your mom .LOLClap



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