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Topic: ever experienced something like this?
Posted By: ThoughtCouture
Subject: ever experienced something like this?
Date Posted: May 24 2013 at 10:22am
ok...so how about i found out that one of my co-workers had a "breakdown" whilst working.
 
key points:
 
~ she has been acting strange for about a year now.  when i say strange...i mean things like...
requesting stuff, getting it then re-requesting it like she never got it.  over and over again.  or making odd ball azz statements (over im) like hey tc do you wanna go feed crocodiles with me.  it will be really fun.
 
~ she has lost quite a bit of weight.  like alot.  like 2 people's worth relative to her height.
 
~ she showed up (from another state) for a legal prep meeting dishoveled, sweating profusely, shaking and unable to participate.
 
~ preperations were made so that she could go back home and was escorted (by a co-worker) to the airport.  but she had an attack (foaming, shaking, ect ect ect) at the security check.  the ambulance was called and she was admitted to a hosp.  coworkers went to hosptial as well.  she was in hospital for 2 days.
 
~ hubby was contacted and said she has been missing medical appts.  don't think he ever came to hosptial tho, granted in another state.
 
~ she was asked to take some time off.  but she dialed into a call 2 days later...acting like nothing happened...calling, emailing, and im'ing away.
 
this has really been heavy on my mind. Cry
 
has anyone ever experienced something like this?  how did you handle?



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Posted By: bebe88
Date Posted: May 24 2013 at 10:26am
No, tell her she needs to take it easy. Maybe offer to go to those appts with her...if you are able.


Posted By: Rumbera
Date Posted: May 24 2013 at 10:28am
Maybe she stopped taking her medication.
 
If she is acting that strange then talking to her is not going to help. She needs family intervention.


Posted By: rickysrose
Date Posted: May 24 2013 at 10:54am
did they saw what her medical issue was?

could be a brain tumor, form of dementia or something similarly serious

they need a new doctor and completely new work up to identify what her issues are

she also needs someone to spearhead and manage her care, because it doesn't seem she is fully capable of making her own decisions


Posted By: Katrenia
Date Posted: May 24 2013 at 10:57am
Sounds like more than a breakddown.
Is she an older woman?? Maybe she's having alzheimer's symptoms or slight dementia.


Posted By: rickysrose
Date Posted: May 24 2013 at 10:59am
does she report to you?

I totally know how you feel, I would feel I would need to do more

it may be doing to much but you can have a candid conversation with her husband ... maybe he doesn't realize how bad it is and he's holding on to her "lucid" self

from a work pov ... a reduced schedule would be best for everyone


Posted By: PurplePhase
Date Posted: May 24 2013 at 11:01am
I've never experienced anything quite like that but I did work with a woman who had a breakdown. The worst of it wasn't at office but we saw the behavior leading to it.

at hub's old company, a staff member/man went out to his car at lunch time and shot himself in his car. His team members said they never saw it coming though.


Posted By: ThoughtCouture
Date Posted: May 24 2013 at 11:19am
Originally posted by rickysrose rickysrose wrote:

did they saw what her medical issue was?
 
no.  the hospital did not disclose what the issue was.  and neither did her hubby.


Posted By: ThoughtCouture
Date Posted: May 24 2013 at 11:19am
Originally posted by Katrenia Katrenia wrote:

Is she an older woman??
 
in her ealy 40's...


Posted By: JoliePoufiasse
Date Posted: May 24 2013 at 11:24am
I would have said it's probably a breakdown if it weren't for the foaming and shaking. Sounds like there's something medically wrong with her


Posted By: ThoughtCouture
Date Posted: May 24 2013 at 11:25am
Originally posted by rickysrose rickysrose wrote:

does she report to you?

no.  she is a contemporary.

Originally posted by rickysrose rickysrose wrote:

I totally know how you feel, I would feel I would need to do more

it may be doing to much but you can have a candid conversation with her husband ... maybe he doesn't realize how bad it is and he's holding on to her "lucid" self
 
i really don't think she does.  i don't know her hubby.  i believe he is a stay at home dad tho...
 

Originally posted by rickysrose rickysrose wrote:

from a work pov ... a reduced schedule would be best for everyone
 
i agree.  but i don't think this can be forced on her... 


Posted By: Harmonii
Date Posted: May 24 2013 at 11:34am
Yeah-I had a coworker go crazy on the job before.

We were both in our early 20's. she was going through stuff with her kids father I believe. She would fall asleep at her desk all the time. Just sit staring at the screen for hours. Her managers tried to work with her, but they just couldn't keep her working. Their productivity was going down. We worked at a bank, and her side did credit card stuff. They had to let her go. She ended up moving to savannah where her family was from, an I have seen or heard from her in years. Really sweet girl


Posted By: ThoughtCouture
Date Posted: May 24 2013 at 11:49am
Originally posted by JoliePoufiasse JoliePoufiasse wrote:

I would have said it's probably a breakdown if it weren't for the foaming and shaking. Sounds like there's something medically wrong with her
 
yeah.  initially i thought perhaps she had complications from the extreme weight loss.  i thought maybe she had a gastric bypass or lap band.  but i think something else is going on.


Posted By: Tbaby
Date Posted: May 24 2013 at 11:57am
Weight loss, foaming and seizure(?) really sounds like a legitimate medical issue.  Her Husband doesn't really need to share her medical condition with her co-workers either.  And the hospital wont' for legal reasons.   So...I'd fall back, send her flowers and an note and wish her well.

A co-worker who I thought was unstable mouthed off at the CEO during the last company town hall meeting and they showed him the door in about an hour afterwards.  I was afraid that he'd return w/ a gun and start shooting...seriously I was.  He had been there for years--maybe 10-15 or so.
 


Posted By: Afrocentchic
Date Posted: May 24 2013 at 12:01pm
A older co worker that sat on the otherside of my cubical began to act strangely after his meds were changed.  He went from being fully capable of doing his job to forgetting how to do everything we are required to do in a weekend. As in he couldn't remember how to log into his computer or phone.
 
He couldn't initiate the proper process to conduct audits...which would ultimately let the people we were trying to secretly audit know something was up. He would seem to be asleep at his desk but really he was in a complete daze. He did this for days until he just stopped coming. No call no show. And when he would show up again, he was no better.
 
I say all of that to day, perhaps they changed your co-workers medication and she is acting accordinly because it is now corrected....I know she may feel a lot of embarrasment and frustration.


Posted By: rickysrose
Date Posted: May 24 2013 at 12:05pm
yeah that's why I say reduced schedule and/or responsibilities

that way she can keep her income and her job while she gets right

and give her husband time to either set up disability, get a job and actually help over come whatever is going with her

so frightening, this could happen to anyone at anytime


Posted By: Blac1Chyna
Date Posted: May 24 2013 at 12:16pm
That's scary. idk what I'd do. probably send her some flowers and food to her house but not really talk about it because i dont wanna embarass her


Posted By: ThoughtCouture
Date Posted: May 24 2013 at 12:19pm
yeah tbaby.  i don't think anyone expected hubby or hosp to give any info either.  i just think they felt more involved because they had to escort her to the airport and then hospital.  but like you said at the end of the day, it's no ones business.
 
i just feel bad because i can clearly tell the difference.  i hope she gets the help she needs...


Posted By: ThoughtCouture
Date Posted: May 24 2013 at 12:20pm
Originally posted by rickysrose rickysrose wrote:

yeah that's why I say reduced schedule and/or responsibilities

that way she can keep her income and her job while she gets right

and give her husband time to either set up disability, get a job and actually help over come whatever is going with her

so frightening, this could happen to anyone at anytime
 
 
i believe they tried to reduce her schedule...but she is not cooperating...
 
and yes, it is scary as hell...Cry


Posted By: Rumbera
Date Posted: May 24 2013 at 12:45pm
It seems s if she is having difficulty (or in denial) accepting her condition.
 
 


Posted By: Nisha
Date Posted: May 24 2013 at 12:51pm
Yes.
 
Something like this hap'd to a friend of mine years ago.

She had a complete mental breakdown and never recovered.
 
It's sad to watch, very difficult to watch. 
 
Despite MULTIPLE interventions and us telling her she needed help, she refused to see a doctor and get on medication.  I think it was b/c she was afraid of the stigma of being labeled 'crazy', but she really needed help and she did some very DISTURBING things. 
 
Sorry to hear about your coworker. Hug


Posted By: ShadyLady
Date Posted: May 24 2013 at 3:11pm
I had a co-worker who I strongly suspected was on heavy duty drugs.

She was always disappearing for hours, coming back sweaty, scratching, and fidgeting, she'd make the strangest comments all the time, and then after being hype and fidgety for hours she'd crash and fall asleep even right at her desk for all to see. She would nod and drool all the time.

I told the people closest to me that I thought she was on drugs, but they just thought she was eccentric.

One day she showed up to work dirty and stank as hell. She was laughing and talking outta her head. She went in the break area and started blatantly eating peoples' food in front of everybody. She put dirty ass feet up on the desk IN THE LOBBY and was laughing her head off.

Luckily, corporate was there and one of them recognized the signs just like me. They asked her to submit to a random drug test, she refused, and was fired immediately.

Months later, I saw her in the mugshot paper for burglary, and possession of narcotics and paraphernalia. When they saw it, they were like "how did you know? "

B!tch, I'm from Miami. I know junkies and crackheads when I see em.

Your co-worker sounds like she had issues tho. Hopefully she gets some meds and help.


Posted By: Qualified
Date Posted: May 24 2013 at 3:14pm
Yes I am currently dating a guy who's mother suffered from a break down nearly 35 years ago and after meeting her, she seems like she's in and out, as if she never fully recovered. My cousin suffered one as well, but I do believe hers was crack induced. She too, never recovered.


Posted By: ThoughtCouture
Date Posted: May 24 2013 at 3:20pm
shady.  another co-worker suspected it was drug use.  coke specifically.
 
but i was like do you know how many shopping carts full of coke she would have to snort to get to that level of foolishness?
 
but maybe she is using and has medical problems.
 
i just don't know....


Posted By: ThoughtCouture
Date Posted: May 24 2013 at 3:29pm
Originally posted by PurpleHaze PurpleHaze wrote:


at hub's old company, a staff member/man went out to his car at lunch time and shot himself in his car. His team members said they never saw it coming though.
 
i missed this.  omg.  that is horrible.
 
hmmmm....they also said she kept saying she had to go to the rest room and to her car.  one of our co-workers followed her (she didn't know it) when she went to the car.  he said he kind of freaked out when she went into her trunk.  but she didn't take anything out...from what he could tell.
 
some of the attorneys suggested she might be faking as to not cooperate....Ouch


Posted By: PurplePhase
Date Posted: May 25 2013 at 5:58pm
^^yeah it was pretty bad.
I have to admit, that I told hub that I was just glad he didn't shoot up the office first.


Posted By: bebe88
Date Posted: May 25 2013 at 11:10pm
I'm sorry but I'm nosey af. Don't b dropping tiny lil bits of juicy info. Wth did ur friend do??!!!
Originally posted by Nisha Nisha wrote:


Yes.
 
Something like this hap'd to a friend of mine years ago.

She had a complete mental breakdown and never recovered.
 
It's sad to watch, very difficult to watch. 
 
Despite MULTIPLE interventions and us telling her she needed help, she refused to see a doctor and get on medication.  I think it was b/c she was afraid of the stigma of being labeled 'crazy', but she really needed help and she did some very DISTURBING things. 
 
Sorry to hear about your coworker. Hug


Posted By: Lite Brite
Date Posted: May 25 2013 at 11:22pm
Yeah NISHA, what did she do?
 
 
CryTC
 
not shopping carts though LOL
 


Posted By: Claudie
Date Posted: May 26 2013 at 1:27am
TC, I am sorry about your co-worker.  My gut feeling is that there is a possibility, that she is not using illicit drugs.  There is physical ailments with some of the symptoms, that exhibit some behaviour that she is displaying.  IMO, she should see a doctor, to find out what is wrong with her. 



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